Every morning is the start of something great and has us ready to do our hair toss and check our nails *cue Lizzo*. But by the time we brush our teeth and unwrap our hair, the day tends to fall into the rut and pattern of the ones before.
Before we know it, days, weeks, months and even years have gone by before we realize that we haven't been making our days great. Instead, our days have been making us tired and exhausted. It doesn't have to be this way though.
By making small steps like these on a daily, we can make the most out of our time and flourish with a meaningful life.
1.Wake Up Earlier
Have you ever wondered how some people are SO much more productive? We all have the same 24 hours in a day (blah, blah, blah), but sometimes, it seems like other people get blessed with a couple of extra hours at the top. Well, that's actually true. While some of us are rolling over and hitting the snooze button, others are tapping into their discipline and rising and shining hours ahead of time.
Getting out of the habit of waking up just in time for work and being intentional about waking up earlier to knock out your to-do list before you even leave the house can create some pretty meaningful changes. You'll feel more energetic and make the most out of your day.
2.Do Something That Makes You Nervous
Sometimes, it's so easy to get into a funk because we're doing the same thing day in and day out. Where's the motivation in that? No wonder we feel depleted, uncreative and uninspired. Meanwhile, we're watching others live their best lives feeling like we're not worthy of doing the same. If this is you, try something new… literally.
Do something every day (or at least every week) that makes your palms sweaty. Take a risk and get out of your comfort zone. You'll not only find that your life can truly be meaningful but also realize that you're getting closer to your goals that you might have been too afraid to go for in the past.
3.Have Conversations That Inspire You
It's no secret that conversations we have with others can make or break our day. So why not let it make your day count? Whether it's a conversation with a friend or a coworker, talk about something that excites you. You never know what kind of inspiration you might get out of it, or even what type of encouragement you could offer. All it takes is a conversation about your dreams, goals, and things that put a smile on your face.
Sometimes we can be so afraid to share things with others out of fear that they'll "hate" on it, or just not be supportive. But having conversations about things you love with people you trust can help you become more fulfilled and purposed by the end of the day.
4.Journal It!
Journaling is the gift that keeps on giving. Whether they were good or bad, it's so amazing to look back on dreams, thoughts, goals, feelings, and ideas that we once had. It shows the growth and progress that we might not have even realized we made. Sometimes having a more meaningful life is just capturing the one that you already live.
We might feel like we're too busy in the hustle and bustle to take time to sit down and reflect (and even remember) how far we've come. But writing journal entries for just a few minutes a day can push us toward the life we think we don't have time to live.
5.Thank God!
No matter what happens each day, finding something to be thankful for can create such a refreshing mental state. I once received the advice to write down 10 things I'm thankful for before I go to bed, and it's been life-changing! On those days we go to bed convinced that something won't work out, or that our lives are just blah, we can be thankful for things that did work in our favor that day, even if it's something as (seemingly) small as making it to work on time, getting around safely and our health. Keeping an "attitude of gratitude" is what keeps our lives full and meaningful.
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In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
Gabrielle Union
Photo by Brian Thomas
"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
Gabrielle Union and Kaavia Union-Wade
Photo by Monica Schipper/Getty Images
“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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