<p><em><a href="http://www.xonecole.com/How-We-Met/" target="_self">How We Met</a> is a series where xoNecole talks love and relationships with real-life couples. We learn how they met, how like turned into love, and how they make their love work.</em></p><p>After meeting by way of mutual friends at an HBCU homecoming almost ten years ago, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/tenesiaandterence/" target="_blank">Tenesia and Terence</a> exchanged numbers only to go their separate ways and move on with their lives. It wasn't until randomly meeting again at a club years later when the two would realize that their encounter wasn't a coincidence, it was fate.</p><p>After months pursuing a <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/long-distance-relationships-work/" target="_blank">long-distance relationship</a>, the couple now share a home with a few fur babies in Raleigh, NC and according to Tenesia and Terence, their love story is just getting started. In a recent interview with xoNecole, the couple opened up about their first encounter, taking the first steps in their relationship and learning to cope when you and your partner speak different love languages.</p><div id="120db" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f400d5efd2c2344c78ae24d5675bf3fa"><blockquote class="instagram-media"
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</div></blockquote></div><p>While it's true that opposites attract, this fact can also cause a lot of friction in your relationship. Tenesia told xoNecole, "Terence and I are complete opposites in a lot of areas. And although that works to our advantage in so many ways, it can also cause challenges. I think the most challenging thing for me is acknowledging those differences and learning how to navigate around them, especially in communication."<br/></p><p>The couple explained that although there have been times when their relationship has been challenging, there hasn't been a moment that it wasn't worth it. <br/></p><h4>To read more about how Tenesia and Terence's chance encounter slowly but surely evolved into a modern-day love story, scroll below!</h4>
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How They Met
<p><strong>Terence:</strong> I first met Tenesia at North Carolina A&T University's Homecoming almost a decade ago. I was leaving a concert with my line brothers and one of my line brothers wanted to meet up with some friends he knew as we walked back to our car. He began introducing me to everyone and all I wanted to know is who's the cutie in the backseat. He got to Tenesia and we exchanged some words, I showed my charm (laughs) which led to us exchanging numbers and guess what? We never texted each other after that day—talk about dropping the ball. </p><p>Years went by without us ever talking until one random night at the club where we met for the first time all over again, or at least that's what Tenesia thought at first. I always knew who she was. I mean how could I forget her? Anyways, we went to exchange numbers again and noticed we already had each other's contacts in our phone. After feeling stupid and laughing it over, we took a white gummy bear shot together—I'll never forget—and the rest was history. </p><p><strong>Tenesia:</strong> Our "how we met" story will always be one of my favorite stories to tell because it happened twice. It was fate (laughs).</p><div class="ad-tag">
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First Impressions
<p><strong>Terence: </strong>My first impression of Tenesia was that she was a true free spirit that loved to have fun. She gave off an amazing vibe that made me feel like no one ever did. Plus, she was drop-dead gorgeous and to this day she is saved in my phone as "Gorg".</p><p><strong>Tenesia: </strong>My first impression was, "Well, he's gorgeous!" But after talking that night, it just felt so natural and easy. I could tell he was super respectful and I immediately felt comfortable around him.</p><img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzQyODYzNC9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYwOTE4NTc2OX0.LVygJnIqi4yzT_Q20oG48xR4ATNWUjzl71935KykD34/img.jpg?width=980" id="de6b1" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="7f41802a229eafcbff6ba9d5318be4b7" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />
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First Date
<p><strong>Terence:</strong> Tenesia will probably say our first date was at the state fair which was probably the first "planned" date but I always thought it was this night at the beach when we first started talking. I was in her town for the weekend and we, of course, met up. We spent all night just talking and vibing on someone's dock at the beach. It was so good that we didn't realize we were out there until like 5am. It was a romantic's dream.</p><p><strong>Tenesia: </strong>Our first date was the North Carolina State Fair. I have always loved the fair so I was so excited! We took a picture at the cheesy little display they have when you walk in and rode pretty much every ride! Terence even convinced me to get on the Ferris wheel (which I am terrified of). I remember he played the game where you have to stand the glass bottle up straight using a ring connected to a string on a pole and he was so determined to win me the biggest prize. Now that we've been together for years, it makes perfect sense because Terence will keep working at something until he gets it right! He did end up winning me a huge bear and then he carried it around the rest of the night.</p>Making It Official
<p><strong></strong><strong>Terence:</strong> Tenesia's answer is probably funnier because she always believed she coerced me into being in a relationship with her after a couple's weekend mountain retreat. We were surrounding a bonfire and she basically said, "We're now together." And I was like, "Yeah, I guess so…" I didn't know that was going to be the weekend we made it official but she definitely did (laughs). We later confirmed we both wanted this relationship to be official during the car ride home but the night before was iffy.</p><p><strong>Tenesia:</strong> I knew it was time to make it official when I went on a trip to the mountains with him and his friends. We had been dating a couple of months and I was just like, "I'm not letting this get away." I knew what I wanted and told him! It worked.</p><div class="ad-tag">
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The “L” Word
<p><strong></strong><strong>Terence: </strong>Honestly, I cannot remember the first time I said I love you but I was definitely the first to say it for sure. Must be the Cancer in me...</p><p><strong>Tenesia: </strong>This sounds so bad but I honestly can't remember the first time we said I love you! I know that I was feeling myself falling for him for so long before I ever said it though. And I'm 90% sure he said it first! </p><div id="2bee1" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="c522124cfe1077b3e77b14c08299bcf2"><blockquote class="instagram-media"
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The One
<p><strong>Terence:</strong> I always believed that someone becomes the one versus just finding "the one". You can have an amazing spark with someone but you may not be <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/whats-the-difference-between-chemistry-and-compatibility/" data-linked-post="2640012409" target="_blank">compatible</a> long-term. You have to teach each other and show them how you need to be loved. Over time, I think I just knew Tenesia was the one. She became the only person I wanted to be around. She challenged me, encouraged me, and made me a better man. She loves me despite my flaws and I naturally wanted to create a future with her. We never second-guessed anything together, no matter how crazy it sounded.</p><p><strong>Tenesia:</strong> I knew Terence was the one before we were ever officially together. It was when we first started talking/dating... he came down to visit me and we went out with my friends. The night was super fun and after the bar closed we went for a walk on the beach. We ended up talking for hours and it just felt right. Like everything that I thought had gone wrong before, went wrong for a reason to eventually lead me to meeting him (again) and to that night. I even texted my friend after that night and told her that I knew Terence was it!</p>Trading Spaces
<p><strong>Terence: </strong>Tenesia decided to be a <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/5-women-on-what-you-should-know-before-becoming-a-travel-nurse/" data-linked-post="2640091519" target="_blank">travel nurse</a> within our first year of dating. I had the idea of her taking a contract in the city where I lived and just staying with me. It just made sense, we were always traveling to see each other plus why not save money by staying together.</p><p><strong>Tenesia: </strong>We made ourselves official in November and moved in together that next May. I'm pretty sure I brought it up because I wanted us to be able to spend more time together. Plus, I was tired of driving back and forth!<span></span></p><div class="ad-tag">
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Building Together
<p><strong></strong><strong>Terence:</strong> Well, first comes marriage and then (laughs)... is there some bling-bling in Tenesia's future? Stay tuned. We really want to build our Tenesia And Terence empire and become <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/jamila-souffrant-financial-independence-tips/" target="_blank">financially free</a>. We also want to move to our dream location and settle down.</p><p><strong>Tenesia: </strong>We just bought our first house together in June 2019 and are already talking about moving again in the near future! But running Instagram and our blog together and trying to <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/black-women-personal-brands/" target="_blank">build our brand</a> is one of our main focuses as far as building together. We are always brainstorming new ideas to build our empire! </p><img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzQyODYyMS9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyNzgwMDcwMH0.n-_PAJ7DCRDRokO9t2GzCc1AGErLoWC1pMDL_f4rzKw/img.jpg?width=980" id="95bff" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="b0eb688b3a8e169e3a059c544038d56b" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />
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<h5>"We've learned that communication is key. We have different ways of communicating but we've both come to the understanding that we have to talk things out in order to get past them."</h5><div class="ad-tag">
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Overcoming Challenges
<p><strong></strong><strong>Terence:</strong> We rarely have a true confrontation with each other but when we do we just talk it out or realize it's not a big deal. The good thing about us is we can't stay mad at each other and always work it out.</p> <p><strong>Tenesia: </strong>We've learned that <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/10-communication-mistakes-many-married-couples-make/" target="_blank">communication is key.</a> We have different ways of communicating but we've both come to the understanding that we have to talk things out in order to get past them. We honestly don't argue often, but even in the little disagreements, we try to take a step back and understand where the other person is coming from.</p>Favorite Things
<p><strong>Terence: </strong>My favorite thing about Tenesia is the way she is never satisfied with being average and being complacent in life. She is always dreaming of life without limits and believing that both of us can achieve anything. She has a very unorthodox way of thinking.</p><p><strong>Tenesia: </strong>My favorite thing about Terence is how thoughtful he is. From tiny things he says or does that lets me know he was listening when I thought he wasn't. Making sure I chug water after I've been drinking so I don't have a headache the next day. Or never coming home without calling me first to see if I need anything. He really is just the sweetest guy!<span></span></p><h4>For more Tenesia & Terence, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/tenesiaandterence/" target="_blank">follow them on Instagram!</a></h4><div class="ad-tag">
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