How We Met
She Manifested The Man Of Her Dreams. For Ragin and Imran, It Was Divine Timing.
04 March
<p><a href="https://www.xonecole.com/How-We-Met/" target="_self"><em>How We Met</em></a><em> is a series where xoNecole talks love and relationships with real-life couples. We learn how they met, how like turned into love, and how they make their love work.</em></p><p>There is a quote by the beautiful Erykah Badu that states, "Write it down on real paper with a real pencil. And watch sh*t get real." This my friends is <a data-linked-post="2618441414" href="https://www.xonecole.com/the-truth-about-the-law-of-attraction-heres-the-real-reason-you-arent-manifesting/" target="_blank">manifestation</a> at its best. The power in manifestation is speaking what you want like you already have it. You speak in present tense and the Universe will respond at the right time. In 2019, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ron2_smoov/?hl=en" target="_blank">Ragin </a>took her pencil and wrote in her journal what she wanted in her love life. Some of what <a data-linked-post="2645443625" href="https://www.xonecole.com/pros-cons-ideal-man-list/" target="_blank">she wrote in her journal</a> was, "I am in love with an amazing man, who is everything I want and need. He is honest, transparent, and loving. It is easy for him to love me. I never have to convince him that I am special. He is my 'truth' song [by India Arie]." </p><p>Just months later, the Universe responded and presented Ragin to the man she needed in her life. And that man was/is Imran. But the thing is, Ragin and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ron2_smoov/?hl=en" target="_blank">Imran</a> actually crossed paths four years prior in the year 2015. I guess you can say it wasn't exactly their time back then.</p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-rebelmouse-proxy-image">
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</p><p>Ragin and Imran were both in college and were at a club one night. Ragin was leaving and Imran was just arriving. It was a quick moment, but they were able to exchange numbers after the night was over. They kept in touch over the years and it is safe to say that Ragin's journal entry confirmed that the, now couple, deserved a second chance at giving love a shot. Six years ago, Ragin and Imran met each other and went their separate ways. But when things are meant to be, they will find their way back to you one way or another. <br/></p><h4></h4><p><strong>In this installment of xoNecole's "<a href="https://www.xonecole.com/how-we-met/" target="_self">How We Met</a>" series, we learn about the power of <a data-linked-post="2645572216" href="https://www.xonecole.com/our-first-year-ashley-don/" target="_blank">divine timing</a>, supporting your partner through the ups and downs, and how this couple keeps love as their foundation.</strong></p>
How We Met
<p><strong>Ragin: </strong>We both met in 2015 at FAMU. I was actually at this famous club at the time called Coliseum. I was walking out and he was just walking in with his friends. When we <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/our-first-year-jeff-and-danae/" data-linked-post="2630690111" target="_blank">crossed paths</a>, he tugged on my arm a little bit. I thought to myself, 'Oooh he's tall' (laughs). We exchanged numbers and went on a date a week later. There were a couple of other guys trying to talk to me at the time too. So I was like, 'Some of yall have to go' and Imran didn't make the cut (laughs). But four years later is when we started dating each other.</p><p><strong>Imran: </strong>She was walking in the opposite direction of me. [It's] something I don't usually do, but I tugged on her arm to get her attention. I brought her to the side and introduced myself. After that, we caught up afterwards and the rest is history.</p>First Impressions
<p><strong>Imran: </strong>She just stood out in the crowd to me. She looked so beautiful and it was just a natural reaction when I reached out to grab her arm. I was immediately drawn to her.</p><p><strong>Ragin: </strong>He has very kind eyes. I think that's what most people notice about him when they first meet him. I also liked how he introduced himself. He wasn't like, "Hey ma, wassup?" He introduced himself like a man. I didn't give my number out to everyone, so when he did that, I really appreciated it.</p><h5>"He has very kind eyes. I think that's what most people notice about him when they first meet him. He introduced himself like a man. I didn't give my number out to everyone, so when he did that, I really appreciated it."</h5><div class="ad-tag">
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<p><br></p>Getting Serious
<p><strong>Imran: </strong>After the first date and time goes by, we kept in touch via social media. I would check in with her and make comments under her posts. She realized I wasn't following her at the time. So she called me out on it saying, "Are you going to be commenting on my stuff for the rest of my life? And you don't even follow me?" (Laughs) Of course, I was caught off-guard (laughs), but I owned up to it. From then on, we started talking more seriously.</p><p><strong>Ragin: </strong>When I messaged him that, he was working a 3 p.m. to 12 a.m. shift at the time. He asked if he could call me when he got off work. During this time, it was difficult because my mom was in the process of passing away. I was taking care of her full-time. So I stayed up late, allowing my sister to take the night shift, in order for me to talk to him. That night, he told me straight up that he was not going anywhere. I didn't believe him at first (laughs).</p><div class="ad-tag">
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The One
<p><strong>Ragin:</strong> I feel like I caught feelings first (laughs). I knew I loved him after a couple of months of us talking, after we reconnected. With taking care of my mom, throughout the day I would be wondering, 'Why isn't he hitting me up?' I tried to be understanding with his shift at work. But I was telling my sister at the time that I felt I wasn't getting enough attention. She would joke and say, "Oh, so you like this boy?' We are both great <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/couples-communication-mistakes/" data-linked-post="2640275822" target="_blank">communicators</a>, so I told him how I felt. He listened and things picked up from there.</p><p><strong>Imran:</strong> I knew what I wanted from our first date. My friends and I laugh about it now, but I was so sick about it not working out from the first time we went out. So when I had my <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/ashleigh-adrian-how-we-met/" data-linked-post="2649412823" target="_blank">second chance</a>, I knew I had to hold on to her. We had a connection spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. It was nothing like I ever experienced before. It's like when people say, "when you know you know."</p><h5>"I knew what I wanted from our first date. So when I had my second chance, I knew I had to hold on to her. We had a connection spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. It was nothing like I ever experienced before."</h5><img
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Love Lessons
<p><strong>Imran: </strong>I learned that while you are in a relationship, it is important to <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/meghan-markle-secret/" data-linked-post="2571143161" target="_blank">be secure</a> in who you are. Knowing yourself, knowing what makes you happy, and communicating that with your partner with no pride or ego. I learned how to communicate better while being with her. Not having to shut down, but be open with her more.</p><p><strong>Ragin: </strong>I learned I have to give myself the same <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/master-timing/" data-linked-post="2630478359" target="_blank">patience</a> that he gives me. I try to see myself through his eyes when I am feeling down about myself. Life has been a whirlwind and it's important to share with him what my needs are, so we can work on things together.</p>Early Challenges
<p><strong>Ragin:</strong> I had a really great example of what love looked like growing up. My parents were together since 1981 and I think my mom really prepared me for what it is like to be <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/three-c-s-of-healthy-relationships/" data-linked-post="2646415441" target="_blank">in a relationship</a>. But I had to learn, after my mother passed, how to handle grief while in a relationship. There were days where I honestly didn't know who I was going to be when I woke up. I was just sad. I had to learn to be considerate towards another person when things felt like they were shutting down around me. I had to make sure I wasn't using him as a crutch to make me feel better. I will say though, I am blessed to have had him transition into my life while my mom transitioned into another form of being my guardian. It was <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/jesse-williams-and-taylour-paige/" data-linked-post="2650607509" target="_blank">divine timing</a>.</p><p><strong>Imran: </strong>Similar to what she said. Learning how to support someone who is <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/im-a-widow-grieving-on-my-own-terms/" data-linked-post="2646921267" target="_blank">grieving</a>. Learning how to be there for her in the right way and not overthink things. I would internalize a lot with how I felt and not really voice them. But I was able to get better with that in communicating more.</p><h5>"I had to learn, after my mother passed, how to handle grief while in a relationship. There were days where I honestly didn't know who I was going to be when I woke up. I was just sad. I am blessed to have had him transition into my life while my mom transitioned into another form of being my guardian. It was divine timing."</h5><div class="ad-tag">
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Baggage Claim
<p><strong>Ragin:</strong> I have never lived with a man before Imran. So we had to find that happy medium between the different roles we wanted to play. When we first <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/tenesia-terence-how-we-met/" data-linked-post="2646278577" target="_blank">moved in together</a>, I was working a full-time job. I decided to quit that job, so I could make more time to do things that were more fulfilling for me.</p><p><strong>Imran:</strong> That was definitely a situation we had to approach with a lot of grace and patience. We didn't want the other person to feel like one was doing more than the other. At the time when we both had different shifts, we would pour into each other or take care of things around the house when the other person couldn't. When she decided to quit her job, I had let her know that she didn't have to work that job if she didn't want to.</p><div class="ad-tag">
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Shared Values
<p><strong>Ragin: </strong>We are very family-oriented. I fangirl over his family. They embraced me ever since I met them. He is nice to my sister and very hospitable whenever she comes to visit us. We also have a mutual respect in each other's <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/mindsets-keeping-you-stunted-workplace/" data-linked-post="2638621532" target="_blank">mindsets</a>.</p><p><strong>Imran:</strong> I want her to be close with her family just like I am close with mine. To strengthen those relationships and just allowing ourselves to be our own individual person.</p>Relationship Advice
<p><strong>Imran:</strong> The biggest thing for the fellas out there is to communicate. We sometimes let pride or ego get in the way. But with communication, it is so important to be open and it helps having a woman that provides that <a href="https://www.xonecole.com/how-i-knew-my-wife-was-the-one/" data-linked-post="2650571496" target="_blank">safe space</a> for us to do that.</p><p><strong>Ragin: </strong>Let it be known exactly who you are in the very beginning. A lot of times we try to be cute and hold things back. In the beginning, I was upfront about who I was. Doing that gives the other person a chance to know what they are getting themselves into and the choice to decide if they want to rock with it or not.</p><h4>For more <a href="https://www.instagram.com/westindieray/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Ragin</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ron2_smoov/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Imran</a>, follow them on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/westindieray/?hl=en" target="_blank">@westindieray </a>and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ron2_smoov/?hl=en" target="_blank">@ron2_smoov</a>. You can also check out Ragin's YouTube channel <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCu0KSvSabGw7G0tuqyyIeGw" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>.</h4><div class="ad-tag">
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