"It was my first big O."
The two star opposite each other in the forthcoming feature The Unbearable Weight of Massive Talent. Initially hesitant, the comedienne ultimately decided to tell Cage of her euphoria.
"It was a debate. Should I tell Nicolas Cage this? This is inappropriate. I don't want him to hit me with a sexual-harassment [claim], but I gotta tell him.'
Well now, thanks to Haddish's unfiltered honesty, it turns out that she feels orgasms are just as much of a spiritual guide, as it is sexual.
On a recent appearance on Garcelle Beauvais' podcast, Going to Bed With Garcelle, Haddish revealed we should in fact be using them to manifest what we envision for our lives. While speaking with Garcelle and other guest Sheree Zampino (Will Smith's ex-wife), she explained how the practice works:
"When you are intimate, when you re being intimate, when you're having sex, you be like, 'Oh God, Oh God, Oh God.' And God be like, 'what's up?! You called me? What's going on?! Whatchu need? Hello? You just called me to watch this, like what's up?' And that's when you're supposed to make a wish. That's how I'm am where I'm at right now in life."
This spiritual practice, is one that sex healers and doulas have been preaching for centuries.
make love sexo GIF by Refinery 29 GIFsGiphyPhysically, an orgasm causes a man to release seminal fluid and a woman's uterus and vagina to contract. In both genders, breathing ramps up, the pulse quickens as well as blood pressure. Our brains shut down and we are in a state of total surrender. At the point of climax, you are aligned with your higher consciousness, which is why no one can really describe the feeling. Sex and climax has been used for centuries as method by which one can experience enlightenment--or what we more commonly know as tantra.
This means, that during an orgasm, you can channel the released accumulated energy towards your goals for manifestation. Come through!
Haddish is a strong believer in the art of manifesting, as in the past she has said she is not one bit surprised by her success.
"People always say, 'Are you surprised?' No, I'm not surprised. I manifested this. This is part of my list of goals. I'm grateful I've accomplished this much so far, but there's so much more I want to do."
She has also shared on social media various outlets and resources for getting in tune with your higher self.
For now, Haddish is in full press mode as she is busy promoting upcoming projects. But it certainly is refreshing to see her openly speak about the power of energy. Listen to Tiffany and the Going to Bed With Garcelle podcast discuss everything from knowing your hot spots, to butt massages, here.
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You may know her as the funny girl, but during the pandemic, our good sis Tiffany Haddish has shed an impressive 40 pounds (which we didn't even know that she could lose), making her go from our resident comedian, to the fitness inspo that we didn't know we needed!
In a recent Instagram video, Haddish revealed that last year on her birthday, she topped 182 pounds. But throughout the past several months, the comedian has worked hard, and that work has paid off in an inspiring way. Haddish, who recently turned 41 (Dec. 3), said she was inspired to lose the weight by a unlikely heroine, the late Olympian Florence Griffith Joyner. She said:
"I had this thought in my mind that I want the body of Flo-Jo!"
And from there, she made her mind up and went in full throttle. Recently, she disclosed what steps she took to drop the pounds.
Here's everything Tiffany Haddish did to lose 40 pounds to drop the weight and live a healthier lifestyle:
She quit smoking. #hallelu
GiphyHaddish decided to quit smoking in July 2018, which was a journey within itself. This caused her to actually gain a few pounds, as the nicotine typically tends to speed up your metabolism. She told Ellen:
"I've been eating like it ain't nobody's business. To counteract that, I started working out on the fourth of July."
And she hasn't looked back. And she actually credits YouTube and hypnosis to helping her quit smoking.
"YouTube videos is how I stopped smoking. I watched YouTube videos like Easy Ways to Stop Smoking and We Can Hypnotize You In Eight Hours To Stop Smoking."
Haddish says that she played the videos while she slept, and after five days she "didn't want to smoke no more."
She followed a personalized fitness program.
Haddish posted on her Instagram, a mirror pic saying that she started Luther Freeman's 30 Day Transformation program, as a means to get personalized fitness and nutrition plans for long term, practical changes. This program reviews your body mass index (BMI) and current lifestyle, assess the results, and then makes a custom plan featuring nutrition tips and workouts including lots of cardio, and strength training.
"Started my @30daytransformationteam program three days ago and look I think I see ABS and my bra getting lose."
She modified her diet and now overhauls on protein and veggies.
Eating a healthy, and attainable, diet was key to Haddish's 40-pound weight loss. She tells People:
"I've been eating differently, eating way more vegetables, definitely eating directly out of my garden and just really putting in the work, making sure I sweat every single day and staying up on nutrition. Nutrition is everything."
More impressively, Haddish has her own garden and grows strawberries, kale, Swiss chard, celery, and more. For breakfast, she tells Harper Bazaar, that she often juices in the mornings, using all foods from her garden. She also adds turmeric and ginger tea to her regimen while traveling, or she'll "load up on eggs with avocado for a more filling breakfast."
For snacks, she usually reaches for fruits, nuts, or pickles (sis loves her pickles). For lunch and dinner, Haddish prefers "to get tons of protein with chicken breast and fish, veggie-rich soups, and nutrient-rich salads."
She hits the gym and makes it fun!
Haddish now exercises every single day.
"I exercise anywhere from 15 minutes to sometimes two hours [a day]. And I try to dance every day for like five to ten minutes. I think that's really important, too. Make it fun!"
We agree! She continued:
"I prefer to do stairs, like if I'm in a tall building I like to go up and down the stairs."
For extra motivation, she invested in a home gym with equipment, like kettlebells and a Peloton bike, to ensure she can maintain her fitness routine, which she revealed on Instagram.
So, to lose 40 pounds, all Tiffany did was *checks notes* stopped smoking, changed her diet, and hit the gym? Let's do this, ladies!
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Tiffany's hardship followed her throughout her high school career, where she was virtually illiterate and had to plagiarize and copy the work of her classmates to earn her degree. Fast forward years later and the same woman who couldn't read words longer than two or three letters is now the first black woman to gross more than one billion dollars in the box office.
Tiffany Haddish is a reminder that we can accomplish every one of our dreams in spite of where we come from. This week's episode of The Red Table Talk featured a candid conversation between Tiffany and Jada Pinkett Smith, who have similar backgrounds. Both actresses were at risk of being trapped by their surroundings and becoming products of their environment, but were faced with very different outcomes.
"I thought I was gonna be a baby mama. I thought I was gonna be a baby mama with, like, five kids, four baby daddies, like, collect a county check."
Tiffany told Jada that after her mom had been thrown through the front window of her car in a traumatic vehicular accident, she or her mother were never quite the same, and her journey would only get harder with time.
"I remember being at the hospital and the doctor saying 'Your mom she'll never be the same you're gonna have to help her a lot more now.' So, she wasn't able to do a lot of things. So basically everything she had taught me up to that point, I was teaching her. But she became very abusive and violent, and never came back to being my mom. She's somebody else."
Although she had to develop tough skin to deal with life after she was put into foster care, you need more than that to become one of the most highly publicized entertainers in the game. That takes heart, and that's something that Tiffany has a whole lot of.
Thanks to the positive reinforcement of adults in Tiffany's life, she was able to overcome the deep-seated insecurity that had been embedded in her since childhood.
"My step-dad he used to tell me 'you stupid', then my grandma would be saying I was stupid and then my aunties would tell me i'm stupid, and then my mama would say I'm stupid. At that point in time in my life, anytime somebody said something to me, I would take it literal that I was stupid. So I didn't really put forth a lot of effort to try to learn how to read. It was difficult already, and if I'm stupid then what's the point? I'ma be a baby mama anyway. I already take care of kids, what I need to know how to read for? I know what hot dogs look like, I know what rice look like and I know how to cook that. I know how to use a measure cup, I know numbers so, it was like to me, not necessary."
It wasn't until a misunderstanding with a co-worker in her late teens that she realized her gift and chose to pursue her passion with rigor despite her troubled personal life. Tiffany told her Girls Trip co-star that her road to fame had not been easy, but every tear was worth it.
"Everything I've been through has prepared me for this journey."
When we look at celebrities, it's easy to imagine their silver spoons, but Tiffany reminds us that she's not any different from any other black woman in this world who has experienced trauma and disappointment. Her bank account doesn't care that she came from a less than perfect background because she has the hustle to back it up.
The easiest thing you can do is let your situation determine the height of your success. Although Tiffany suffered through unimaginable horrors, she survived to tell the tale and made a couple of bank rolls in the process.
In an emotional moment, Tiffany shared that her mother was recently released from her mental institution and is now being taken care of by the best doctors. The actress said that one of the best moments in her life was when her mother told her how proud she was. Tiffany knew that she wouldn't have been able to experience that moment if she had given up prematurely.
In the episode, Jada and Tiffany both mentioned that in their childhood, they were afraid of becoming statistics. Luckily, with the increased number of sisters with degrees and boss business chicks of color, the status quo has changed. Soon, we'll be able to model our statistics around women like these two actresses, who came from hardship and succeeded in spite of it.
Tiffany is a reminder that no matter what your history may be, you are given a new opportunity each day to create a future that's beyond your imagination.
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