Climaxing 101: Tiffany Haddish Says It's Important To Manifest And To Talk To God During Orgasms
Tiffany Haddish has never been one to shy away from what she has, or wants, to say. She's an open book, with a long-term career of somehow managing to bring comedy and realism to the forefront. Lately for Haddish, orgasms have been the topic of her conversation, as just recently she revealed to actor Nicolas Cage that she actually had her first orgasm while watching him terrorize John Travolta in the 1997 action flick, Face/Off. She told NPR:
"It was my first big O."
The two star opposite each other in the forthcoming feature The Unbearable Weight of Massive Talent. Initially hesitant, the comedienne ultimately decided to tell Cage of her euphoria.
"It was a debate. Should I tell Nicolas Cage this? This is inappropriate. I don't want him to hit me with a sexual-harassment [claim], but I gotta tell him.'
Well now, thanks to Haddish's unfiltered honesty, it turns out that she feels orgasms are just as much of a spiritual guide, as it is sexual.
On a recent appearance on Garcelle Beauvais' podcast, Going to Bed With Garcelle, Haddish revealed we should in fact be using them to manifest what we envision for our lives. While speaking with Garcelle and other guest Sheree Zampino (Will Smith's ex-wife), she explained how the practice works:
"When you are intimate, when you re being intimate, when you're having sex, you be like, 'Oh God, Oh God, Oh God.' And God be like, 'what's up?! You called me? What's going on?! Whatchu need? Hello? You just called me to watch this, like what's up?' And that's when you're supposed to make a wish. That's how I'm am where I'm at right now in life."
This spiritual practice, is one that sex healers and doulas have been preaching for centuries.
Physically, an orgasm causes a man to release seminal fluid and a woman's uterus and vagina to contract. In both genders, breathing ramps up, the pulse quickens as well as blood pressure. Our brains shut down and we are in a state of total surrender. At the point of climax, you are aligned with your higher consciousness, which is why no one can really describe the feeling. Sex and climax has been used for centuries as method by which one can experience enlightenment--or what we more commonly know as tantra.
This means, that during an orgasm, you can channel the released accumulated energy towards your goals for manifestation. Come through!
Haddish is a strong believer in the art of manifesting, as in the past she has said she is not one bit surprised by her success.
"People always say, 'Are you surprised?' No, I'm not surprised. I manifested this. This is part of my list of goals. I'm grateful I've accomplished this much so far, but there's so much more I want to do."
She has also shared on social media various outlets and resources for getting in tune with your higher self.
This was so helpful to me. Hidden MIND POWERS and How to Use Them! (Law Of Attraction The Secret) M... https://youtu.be/9m6z9dnCVUk\u00a0 via @YouTube— Tiffany Haddish (@Tiffany Haddish) 1554480994
For now, Haddish is in full press mode as she is busy promoting upcoming projects. But it certainly is refreshing to see her openly speak about the power of energy. Listen to Tiffany and the Going to Bed With Garcelle podcast discuss everything from knowing your hot spots, to butt massages, here.
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Charmin Michelle is a southern native and creative spirit who works as a content marketer and events manager in Chicago. She enjoys traveling, #SummertimeChi, and the journey of mastering womanhood. Connect with her on Instagram @charminmichelle.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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How A Stay At Switzerland's Luxurious 7132 Hotel Reminded Me To Live The Life I Deserve
Sometimes, as women—especially as single Black women—we simply need to be reminded that we are deserving of living a life we dream of. Even if that means creating it for ourselves. I recently set out on a weeklong trip to Switzerland, a trip I’ve been wanting to take for years, and near the end of my visit, I had an epiphany.
“DeAnna, this is the life you deserve,” I thought to myself as I took in the gorgeous bathroom in my suite at the famous 7132 Hotel and Thermal Spa. It was one of the most luxurious hotels (and bathrooms) I had ever stayed in—and that’s saying a lot for someone who often travels for work.
To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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