For Keri Hilson, True Alignment Is The Key To Happiness
Depression is a sneaky bastard who sneaks up you when you least expect it and has the potential to send your life into a seemingly endless spiral of doom. I am a strong black woman who dreams a few sizes too big so that I can grow into them, but that doesn't change the fact that sometimes my feelings of sadness are more than a case of the blues. I've battled the dastardly devil that is depression for most of my life, and I would be lying if I said the struggle didn't come with some war wounds. At this point in my life, I can't say that I've beaten the illness, but I've managed to develop some coping mechanisms that give me a better chance at victory.
Some of these techniques are also used by celebrity, Keri Hilson, who revealed her 7-year bout with depression in March. She posted on Instagram to share with her audience that her path to happiness was not overnight, and came only through the alignment of her mind, body, and spirit. Depression sometimes translates into physical pain, and that physical pain can drain you emotionally. Keri doesn't believe that's a coincidence. She said:
"Ever had emotional pain or worry-some, stressful thoughts that led to headaches or physical pain? Ever been in such physical pain that it affected your spirit? I have...and pretty much any other combination you can think of. I've learned it's because they're all connected. When one is off, the others are affected. (bars)"
Depression does not discriminate and has no definitive cure. Although depression is more prevalent among African-Americans than their non-ethic counterparts, they are least likely to seek treatment. Because we are afraid that we will be scrutinized for what others consider weakness, we suffer in silence without the coping mechanisms we need to rehabilitate and continue living our best lives.
The unanswered epidemic has been deadly among black women, who are more likely to experience depression than white women or black men. This prompted hip-hop philanthropist, Shanti Das to create Silence The Shame, an organization that seeks to eliminate the stigma around mental illness in the black community by enlisting high profile industry professionals to share their own stories. Keri Hilson is one of Shanti's supporters, and revealed in March that depression had caused her to take a 7-year-hiatus from music. She said:
"It all just kind of spiraled for me, and became something I had never been through. I had never recognized myself as a person who can't pick themselves back up. I mean, I was literally on stage crying."
The young singer seemingly had everything she had ever wanted when depression, like the dastardly villain that it is, stole it all away from her. On the heels of her first worldwide tour, she ended an 11-year-relationship which she says all came in terrible timing.
"Literally, 7 years of my life have been a battle with depression."
Keri Hilson said that it took therapy for her to truly start healing, and that for her to begin her real recovery, she first had to experience growth. And as we all know: growth can be painful.
After dedicating years of her life to self-care and doing some serious unlearning in attempt to redefine her perception of self-love, Keri says she's finally found balance. Keri recently reminded us that even when we reach our destination, we should never forget the work we put in to get there. She posted on Instagram:
"And then it dawned on me: Loving myself meant HONORING the growth I've experienced. The worthiness I've found. The strength I've developed. The faith I've grown. The peace I've attained. The happiness I now know…Loving me meant removing anyone & anything that conflicted with any of these, no matter how hard. I've come too far...Honor the work you've done. Honor the growth & healing you worked so hard for... When you are choosing what you'll accept, NEVER dishonor YOU."
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Sheila Rashid's Androgynous Approach To Unisex Clothing Is A Lesson In Embracing Individuality
The ItGirl 100 List is a celebration of 100 Black women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table.
For Sheila Rashid, it all started with some free-hand drawings and a few strokes of paint.
The Chicago-based clothing designer and creative director of Sheila Rashid Brand recalls using her spare time in high school to hand paint designs on t-shirts and distressed hoodies, distributing them to classmates as walking billboards for her art.
Rashid sought to pursue fashion design at Columbia College in Chicago but eventually took the self-taught route to build upon her knack for crafting one-of-a-kind, androgynous pieces.
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Thanks to the mentorship of local designers taking her under their wings, Rashid was able to gain valuable experience in putting together collections and creating patterns; equipping her with them with the necessary skills to pursue her own collections.
After two years of living in New York, Rashid returned home to the Chi and uncovered the unique flair she could offer the city. “I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world,” she tells xoNecole. “That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
For the Midwest native, inspiration comes from her time around creative peers and the city’s notorious winters — known to be a main character in many Chicagoans stories. “It's a different perspective and mindset when I'm making stuff because of the weather here,” she explains. “When we get summer, it’s ‘Summertime Chi’ — it's amazing. It's beautiful. Still, I find myself always making clothes that cater to the winter.”
"I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world. That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
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Many designers have a signature aesthetic or theme in their creations. In Rashid’s design story, dancing between the lines of femininity and masculinity is how she’s been able to distinguish herself within the industry. Her androgynous clothing has garnered the eye of celebrities like Zendaya, Chance the Rapper, WNBA star Sydney Colson, and more — showing her range and approach to designs with inclusivity in mind.
“I think I do reflect my own style,” she says. “When I do make pieces, I'm very tomboyish, androgynous. My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes.” From denim to overalls, and color-drenched outerwear, Rashid has mastered the structure of statement pieces that tell a story.
“Each collection, I never know what's going to be the thing I'm going to focus on. I try to reflect my own style and have fun with the storytelling,” she shares. “I look at it more like it's my art in this small way of expressing myself, so it's not that calculated.”
"My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes."
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Still, if you were able to add up all the moments within Rashid’s 20-year career in design, one theme that has multiplied her into becoming an “ItGirl” is her confidence to take up space within the fashion industry as a queer, Black woman. “Being an ItGirl is about being yourself, loving what you do, finding your niche, and mastering that,” she says.
No matter where you are on your ItGirl journey, Rashid says to always remain persistent and never hesitate to share your art with the world. “Don’t give up. Even if it's something small, finish it and don't be afraid to put it out,” she says, “It's about tackling your own fear of feeling like you have to please everybody, but just please yourself, and that's good enough.”
To learn more about the ItGirl 100 List, view the full list here.
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