There is a little-known truth about come ups, and the truth is that they are usually ushered into our lives after we fall down.
When we fall, we don't realize how necessary it is to hit rock bottom, to feel like we've reached the darkness of a tunnel, to feel like we've failed. In those moments, it's important to understand that we've been broken down to get there. And that there, we are given the restorative power of building ourselves back together again.
Our life resets, our journey begins anew, and we are able to create the lives we were destined to live and walk into the women we were intended to be.
No one knows that better than Keri Hilson.
Recently, Keri made an appearance on the Steve Harvey Show and sat down to speak with the psychic medium Reginald Lewis who acted as a vessel between her and her deceased grandmother. The theme of the emotional reading was change and releasement, and we learned that it was an end of seasons for Keri who recently had to let go of some people, thoughts and ideas that were holding her back from walking in her purpose.
During the reading, she revealed that she was ready to return back to her true self and her passions, but that meant removing pieces in her life that no longer served her. For example, last year Keri had entered a new relationship, however that relationship ended very abruptly this past December.
Keri let it be known that she made peace with that particular ending, telling Lewis:
"That's one of the things that I'm walking away from."
Lewis responded that her grandmother felt she was doing the right thing. "People were taking advantage of you. It's time to let go. And it's okay. You are doing the right thing. Be at peace with where you are. You are making the right decision. There is definitely someone that will be coming in for you next year."
He also revealed that her hard work with releasement and rebuilding would be rewarded. For Keri, the new year will mean new love, new beginnings, and a comeback that will allow her to share her gifts with the world again.
From the outside looking in, she seemed to be living the dream. The singer was well on her way to the top when she released her chart-topping album In A Perfect World…, which was shortly followed by No Boys Allowed. However, the "Pretty Girl Rock" artist has been noticeably MIA in the music scene since the 2010 release. Fans have long since wondered when new music from Keri would happen, and a brief hiatus from the music scene turned into nearly a decade.
"I hit rock bottom a few times and I'm crawling back to walking in my purpose…in my power, and using my gifts. I think I had to give up music for a while. I stepped away. I thought it would just be a year. It's been six, maybe. I realize now that I'm grateful for all of those years. I have built myself back up."
That is how you find your purpose. That is how you find your power.
2018 is sure to be the year of the Keri Hilson comeback. And we are so here for it!
Watch the video of her psychic reading below.
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To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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