The first time I say "no" it's like I never said "yes" - Beyoncé
When it comes to being in a relationship today, there's an insane amount of pressure on women to do everything perfectly while looking perfect. Ideally, a woman is expected to have a slim waist with a big behind that she takes to the kitchen to slave away preparing home-cooked meals for her man better than his mama. She's also expected to take care of the kids, keep the house tidy, run his bathwater, be a boss and sexually please him every which way.
Exhausting, right?
So when it's time for some loving and a woman is too tired to perform in the bedroom, does that mean her boo is well within his rights to go get it elsewhere? Sevyn Streeter may think so.
The 28-year-old singer really believes in not killing the fun, as we learned from her Breakfast Club interview recently. Sharing her logic with the trio, Sevyn said a woman should never tell her man "no" when he's ready for some fun because she took him off the market, thereby cutting him off from other women willing to give up the goodies.
She explained:
I think when you're with somebody you love or trust or whatever, I think that it's important you don't kill the fun.Me and my friends have this conversation all the time. I think that when you commit to somebody and take them off the market, I think that it is your job, as a woman or a man, to--I don't think you should ever say, 'no.' Anal sex I'm not into, but I mean if you're tired--'Oh I'm tired, I don't feel like it.' No, because at the end of the day, you took that person off the market. They can't go and be with somebody else because they're with you. So, don't you ever say no.
We know for sure she's keeping her man and his eggplant happy.
Sevyn, who's currently dating B.o.B, also talked about her relationship with the rapper while throwing shade at her insecure ex-boyfriend who wanted her to "dim her light."
On B.o.BI take my life a day at a time. I think that's all that you can do. With me and B.o.B, we started out as friends. We were friends for a very long time. And I say this all the time and I mean it from the bottom of my heart -- if it ended tomorrow, he's still my friend. I never had anything start out that way before. In the past, I've had relationships with BANs [B*tch A** N*ggas]. My ex-boyfriend in my last situation, I feel like I had to dim my light. I feel like he didn't want me to shine. So it feels really good to be dating somebody who has his own light. He is comfortable in his own skin and supports me like, 'Alright, boo. Go shine.' And I think that's dope and important to me.
Catch the interview below!
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"We just tend to tear our own people up for whatever reason. When I started Basketball Wives, it was really a matter of survival for me. I was in desperation mode. I needed the show to be successful because I had to figure out how I was going to live and provide a life for my children," she said. "Basketball Wives is a platform and it is a space for women to have the freedom to be and say and do what represents them. And what that is, is their decision, right? I just provided the platform for it to happen.
She also explained that she wanted to help other women financially by having a platform that will give them access to opportunities.
"I knew that I had lost my voice before, and I wanted to provide a space to ensure that other women didn’t lose theirs. Again, what they decided to do with the camera time and who they decided to show up as is on them, but here's the platform, and I think for many women, it has been just that. It’s boosted them into a space in their life where they're able to make money and branch out into other opportunities that they may not have had otherwise."
"I knew that I had lost my voice before, and I wanted to provide a space to ensure that other women didn’t lose theirs. Again, what they decided to do with the camera time and who they decided to show up as is on them, but here's the platform, and I think for many women, it has been just that. It’s boosted them into a space in their life where they're able to make money and branch out into other opportunities that they may not have had otherwise."
Basketball Wives: LA Cast. L-R: Jac'Eil Duckworth, Brooke Bailey, Jackie Christie, Shaunie Henderson, Evelyn Lozada, Jennifer Williams, and Brandi Maxiell
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One of Basketball Wives' most infamous moments was the fight that occurred between Evelyn Lozada and Tami Roman in the second season. While it was a very explosive scene, Shaunie revealed that behind the scenes, the following day, everything was copacetic. She recalled that moment and said it was one of her most cherished memories from the show.
"It was probably the day after the infamous fight between Tami Roman and Evelyn Lozada. Evelyn had coined the “non-mf factor” phrase, and production had broken up their fight the night before. Me and her were on the beach, and Tami called to see what I was up to. I told her I was with Evelyn, and she said she was coming to meet us," she said.
"I'm thinking I'm about to be in part two. There's no security, we were off for the day and I was sure it was about to be horrible. Tami gets there. She’s already got her cigarette lit, her bob is bouncing as she walks up to us, and I just remember her saying, ‘What y’all heffas doing?’ It was just like nothing had happened at all. It was like they fought, they got it out, and she was off to the next thing."
She added, "Those type of moments I wish people could experience and see that although things happen that seem outrageous, it’s all love. It doesn't always end up perfect. But for the most part, we have had a really, really good time."
Read more from the interview here.
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