
Black In Mexico: Here's The City You Can't Skip On Your 2025 Travel Bucket List

Black women have been in a decades-long love affair with Mexico, becoming repeat travelers and residents throughout the years. From actress Tessa Thompson's Mexican roots (a la her mom) to Lupita Nyon'go's birthplace and upbringing, to Tracee Ellis Ross' favorite solo travel hot spot, the country and culture have long been linked with women of African descent.
As of late, it's even been listed as one of the "best countries for Black women to live," and is often mentioned by avid travelers, retirees, digital nomads, and Black women expat influencers as a great place to not only enjoy a few unforgettable adventures but to find solace, connection, and community. From the city chic vibes of Mexico City to the rich culture and history of popular tourist spots like Guadalajara and Tulum, to the off-the-beaten-path regions like Oaxaca, Mexico has experiences for almost every travel taste.
I've recently joined the "Amo México" club, venturing to Cabo and another new favorite of mine, Puerto Vallarta, which I've visited twice since 2023. What keeps drawing me back, you ask? Here are three good reasons this beach resort city on the Pacific Ocean's Bahía de Banderas in Jalisco is a guaranteed yes, whether solo or not, and should be a repeat offender on your 2025 travel bucket list:
1. Along with the abundance of amazing cultural experiences involving great food, they take honoring the ancestors to a whole other level.
In my "La Catrina" makeup on the Malecon during the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations
Janell Hazelwood
On my second trip to Puerto Vallarta this year, I created a new travel tradition that is now a requirement for all my future Mexico itineraries: A taco tour. We walked through the cobblestone streets adjacent to our resort with a guide from Vallarta Eats, supporting women-owned (or women-led) spots and eating the most delish Mexican taco staples that put any Tex-Mex dishes you've ever had in the States to shame.
From flavorful birria at Birria Chanfay, made the traditional way (not dousing the taco in the juices but putting focus on the succulence of the marinaded beef inside them) to homemade corn tortillas pressed and grilled right in front of us at Marisma's, you just can't beat the experience.
And if you're lucky enough to grab a flight deal to travel in early November 2025, Puerto Vallarta is the perfect place to experience all of the mystique, reverence, and revelry of Dia de Los Muertos or "Day of the Dead," when families get together to pay homage to their loved ones who have passed on.
While the celebrations are held all over Mexico, with Mexico City being the popular host of thousands of locals and visitors, Puerto Vallarta lets you in on the celebration of life in a way that's not as overwhelming and packed but is just as enjoyable.
Pausing for a food tour break with Vallarta Eats
Janell Hazelwood
Get your La Catrina on, catch a mariachi band, bar hop in Puerto Vallarta's town center, and catch a parade along the Malecon for views of the ofrendas (altars) elaborately decorated in bright pinks, oranges, and yellows in remembrance of the beloved departed. It will make you rethink how you celebrate those you've lost and maybe even create a few new practices of honoring the generations who came before you.
2. You can get the most bang for your buck at a range of resorts and spas that actually make you second-guess even leaving the property.
Mountain views from the suite
Courtesy of Marriott Puerto Vallarta Resort & Spa
For this particular trip, I stayed at the Marriott Puerto Vallarta Resort & Spa, located on a sandy strip along the Sierra Madre Mountains and Banderas Bay. It was a property where you could enjoy a tasting with a tequila sommelier, play all day in the massive pool with your kids, or enjoy a romantic sunset walk along the beach just steps from your hotel room. The mountain views from my suite were top-tier, and I was high enough to get moments of peace while still being able to eavesdrop on all the pool-bar excitement beneath me.
Standout parts of my stay included a massage to the Ohtli Spa, which perfectly mixed a contemporary setting with authentic ancient wellness practices, dinner at Las Casitas, one of six restaurants on the property, and lounge sessions near the massive pool where I could find a spot that was close enough to the beach shore for a cool breeze, mezcal margarita and plate of fish tacos, but far enough from the splashy amusement at the pool.
Ohtli Spa
Courtesy of Marriott Puerto Vallarta Resort & Spa
La Casitas
Courtesy of Marriott Puerto Vallarta Resort & Spa
As someone who's a self-proclaimed anti-resort girlie, this property stands as one of the exceptions since I felt like I could customize my experience to my liking, pick and choose when I wanted to turn up or zone out—all while enjoying Mexican dishes and cocktails that actually tasted authentic and were worth ordering over and over again. Oh, and add to that the vicinity to downtown Puerto Vallarta (a quick Uber ride) and you've got yet another reason Puerto Vallarta remains on the must-visit list year after year.
3. There's a nice ratio of men to women which makes for a refreshing change of scene and vibes no matter what season you visit.
According to 2020 (most recent) government numbers, the population is 50% men and 49% women. (In the U.S., women have outnumbered men since the 1950 Census. Do with that what you will.) If you're single (or mingling regardless of your relationship status) this is one titillating draw for visiting Puerto Vallarta. And even if not single, it's refreshing to get a different experience when out and about, especially if you like to venture outside of the resort to make a few new contacts (or a new bae who might be happy to foot the bill for your next trip out there.)
And when it comes to enjoying the company of another visitor or a local, you've got options. If the evening activities at the resort like a gourmet dining experience, a sunset turtle release, or a couples dip in the infinity pool, head further into town to a club for dancing or try a few daytime activities like whale watching (mid-December to late March), shopping on the boardwalk, or a visit to the Our Lady of Guadalupe Cathedral.
Puerto Vallarta has also hosted celebrations includingthe Pilgrimage of Our Lady Guadalupe, which includes parades and fireworks in early December, the Festival Gourmet International, a culinary event showcasing the best chefs and restaurants usually held in November, New Years Eve festivities all along the Bay and other local beaches, Fiestas De Mayo with live music (typically held in May through early June), and Fiestas Patrias in Puerto Vallarta which includes the celebration of Mexico’s independence in September.
Puerto Vallarta always offers a new spin on an old adventure if it's somewhere you've been before (like me), but if it's not, you need to go and see for yourself why it's one of the top places to visit in Mexico. It's a must-go next year for your spring or fall break with bae or the family or simply for that long-lost solo vacation you've been itching to finally take the leap on.
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Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
Watch the full episode below:
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
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Calling All Lovers: October London, Tamar Braxton & Ro James Deliver A Soulful Serenade
If there was ever a night to pull out your best leather jacket, call up an old flame, and lean into your soft, sultry era, The October Nights: Calling All Lovers tour was it.
Presented by Black Promoters Collective, the show brought an evening of lush vocals, smooth grooves, and unapologetic grown-folks business to Atlanta—with Ro James, Tamar Braxton, and the man of the hour, October London, leading the charge. The energy? Sensual. The vibe? Intoxicating (literally and figuratively—more on that in a minute).
Ro James kicked off the night with his signature raspy vocals and a cool confidence that immediately set the tone. While “Permission” was the undeniable crowd favorite (with couples slow-dancing in their seats and people swaying with their phones in the air), he also dug deeper into his catalog, delivering seductive mid-tempos and moody ballads that reminded us he’s not a one-hit wonder—he’s a whole vibe.
Next up, Tamar Braxton took the stage with diva energy and vocal acrobatics that had the crowd on their feet. Her set was a perfect mix of emotion and edge—songs like “My Man,” “All the Way Home,” and “Love & War” hit every heartstring, but she didn’t stop there.
Tamar tapped into her earlier work, showing her full vocal range and reminding everyone that she’s one of the most powerful voices of her generation. Between tracks, she got personal with the audience, sharing laughs and stories like we were all cousins at the family reunion.
Oh—and in case you missed it: “Braxtons are coming back.” 👀 Consider that a soft launch if we’ve ever heard one.
Then came the velvet king himself: October London.
From the moment he stepped on stage, it felt like time slowed down. Backed by a silky live band and powerhouse background vocalists The Shindellas — Kaso, Stacy, and Tam, October’s set was pure R&B indulgence.
He opened with songs like “She Keeps Calling” and “Make Me Wanna,” blending retro soul with modern sensuality. Every note was intentional, every lyric soaked in emotion.
“Touch On Me” and “3rd Shift” had the crowd in a trance, while “Lovers Interlude” and “You Look Better” brought things to a tender, candlelit close.
And because this is October London we’re talking about—of course, he came with the charm. “If I come down there and sing with you,” he teased one woman in the front row, “you gon’ get pregnant.” The entire room screamed.
He also took a moment to introduce his newest venture—a signature whiskey that he’s currently promoting on tour. Smooth music, smooth vocals, smooth whiskey? A trifecta for the grown and sexy.
To top off the night, there was even a surprise pop-up from Tyrese, sending the crowd into full nostalgic overload.
By the end of the night, it was clear: this wasn’t just a concert—it was a love letter to R&B. The October Nights: Calling All Lovers tour captured the essence of grown-up intimacy, storytelling, and soul. No gimmicks. Just real voices, real feelings, and really good music.
If October London is the future of modern soul, we’re all in.
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