There is nothing like cold pizza. I cannot tell you how many times in my early adult years I woke up and grabbed a slice of cold cheese pizza out the fridge. Once I turned 30, life changed drastically for me, beginning with the loss of my father. Weeks later, after doing my yearly physical, I was notified my cholesterol was slightly elevated and I instantly knew it was time for a change. My wife and I vowed to start eating healthy and were in search of a healthier lifestyle mentally, spiritually, and physically. We wanted to be living examples for our daughter.
It is so easy to get caught up in your busy lives and hunger strikes that somehow put your health on the back-burner. I have spent thousands on lunch. Looking back, I used to spend nearly $100 weekly on fast food. It is so easy to make the decision to stop at fast food restaurants during lunch or on our way home from work. It's almost inevitable to resist a Chick-fil-A fish sandwich, a big Mac or even a box of Popeyes chicken.
But we must ask ourselves, are these the healthiest options we are choosing to consume?
Courtesy of Chef Anthony Thomas
I spent a whole year dedicating myself to a healthier lifestyle. Step one began in the kitchen. Instead of stopping at my favorite fast food restaurant on my way home from work, I started stopping by my favorite grocery store. It was a joy to pick up fresh vegetables, wild caught fish and organic meats. The next step was mastering meal prep.
As a chef, so many customers have told me they spend countless hours in the kitchen meal prepping their food, ultimately to give up. I know it may seem like it is time consuming setting aside time to prepare meals ahead of time but meal prepping can alleviate any poor decision-making for your food choices in the future.
Here's a quick list of lean proteins healthy vegetables and great carbs to choose from when going to the grocery store:
- Boneless Skinless Chicken Breast
- Boneless Skinless Chicken Thighs
- Fresh Wild Caught Salmon Filets
- Fresh Wild Caught Cod
- Wild Shrimp
- Brown Rice
- Whole Grain Protein Pasta
- Sweet Potatoes
- Fresh Green Beans
- Asparagus Tips
- Fresh Kale
- Spinach
- Romaine Salad
- Broccoli
- Cauliflower
- Brussel Sprouts
- Zucchini
The food that we consume not only is a part of our daily routine, but it also influences our daily actions and emotions. In addition, a clean diet will help aid in the process of weight loss. I know for most ladies, weight is a subject of conversation daily so counting calories really helps.
Something else that can help on your health journey is a book I created to help with meal prep, "Meal Prep is the New Leftovers: Making Healthy Eating Fun Again". This book is a step-by-step guide on how to help one meal prep from beginning to end and help alleviate some of the mistakes we have with meal prepping. It also includes a 22-day meal plan that tells you what to eat for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and two snacks.
To give you a taste, a few of my favorite meals from my book's meal plan can be found below:
Lemon Garlic Roasted Brussel Sprouts
Courtesy of Chef Anthony Thomas
Egg White & Spinach Cupcakes
Courtesy of Chef Anthony Thomas
Buffalo Cauliflower
Courtesy of Chef Anthony Thomas
Chef Anthony's book "Meal Prep is the New Leftovers: Making Healthy Eating Fun Again" can be found on Amazon (here) and also comes with a 22-Day Meal Plan guide to keep one on track. You can follow @chefanthonydc for more fun, friendly and healthy recipes.
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Some women have their whole wedding planned out, from the bridal gown and venue to the bridal party and playlist. However, KJ was not one of those people. “I didn’t foresee a wedding in my future,” she reveals. “I was just gonna be the boss chick, rich auntie. I didn’t force love in my life until recently. I never had an idea of what a dream wedding would look like, it was easier for me to elope.”
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
And to many people’s surprise, that was their original plan – until Skyh brought up a valid concern. He was raised by his grandmother and thought she should be at the wedding, and naturally, that led to KJ wanting her grandmother to be there as well – then her mom – and later her sister – and, you’ve gotta invite the besties too, right? From there, the guest list continued to blossom. Much like the updo and pop of color bold red lip, she wore on her special day, which was initially on her Pinterest board as a soft glam look with her hair hanging on her shoulders, KJ is okay with changing her plan if it brings her and her loved ones happiness.
So let’s get into the wedding, which took place in Malibu, CA. The first thing you should know about the celebrity couple is that they’re non-traditional. They know, and they don’t care. So, in true unconventional fashion, they shared the morning of the wedding together.
“I woke up with Skyh, we walked our dog, had black coffee, and said good morning to the people who stayed at the venue with us,” she says.
Now, it was time for hair and makeup. While she was getting glammed up, she had Black-owned McBride Sisters wine and champagne (which ties into The Black Experience theme) on deck with her mom and friends, had her besties help rework her vows, retried on every outfit (sis is very Type-A), took photos, and ended the early-celebration with prayer and meditation. It seems very non-Bridezilla, I said.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company,” she explains. “The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
Things moved quickly, and before she knew it, it was time to line up to walk down the aisle.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company. The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
KJ Smith and her bridal party
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
Since everything started with their grandmothers, the couple wanted to ensure they honored them and planned to keep an element of their wedding traditional. Although we’ve all seen the reception videos and photos online, you may have noticed visuals from the wedding itself are harder to find.
“We planned for it to be traditional, but we’re not like that, so we tried to create those moments. We jumped the broom and had a salt ceremony (where the bride and groom individually pour salt into a glass container, symbolizing their lives becoming one.) But honestly, still, nothing was traditional about it.”
She goes on to explain that her mom caught the holy ghost coming down the aisle, her glam team was on deck, and she became so nervous with excitement that she had an anxiety attack – something she struggled with for years, she explains tearfully. Her friends had to literally cheer her down the aisle because of how overwhelmed she felt until she eventually calmed down.
“Skyh was standing there with his hand on his heart; we have our own little language, and I could feel the support,” she shares.
It was surprising to hear all these emotional moments happened before the party we saw online. That is until she once again got into the backstory.
“As a Black woman actress, for so long, it was popular to be mysterious and secretive, but that’s not who I am or what I like. Plus, we both wanted to create an experience for everyone there. We are the people who always host family and friends,” she says. “Like for me, the first order of business was getting sandals for the women so they can dance all night long. We had oxtail, D'ussé, and a coffee and sativa lounge – which is part of Skyh and I’s lifestyle and routine. We wanted to bring them into our world.”
Skyh Black (L) and KJ Smith (R)
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
She went on to discuss the dance routine she did for her husband at the reception, which has taken over the internet. Apparently, that’s another thing that didn’t go according to plan. According to KJ, she had promised a performance at their joint bachelor/ bachelorette party, but her outfit got stolen from her car. So, Skyh ended up performing for her – complete with a strip tease. Still, she never forgot her promise to dance for him.
So, she hired her friend as a choreographer, learned the routine, made friends and family watch it endless times, and attended Beyoncé’s Renaissance show a few days before for a confidence boost. It ended up being a show to remember. But that wasn’t all the night offered. Lil Mo performed, and the guests received special goody bags featuring their favorite Black-owned products like journals, hair care, and more.
“We made sure everyone was taken care of all night. That kind of stuff makes us happy. I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives,” she says.
But naturally, the internet is going to internet, and while there were countless people praising the event and applauding the newlyweds, some thought it was too over the top. I was curious to know her thoughts on some of the criticism.
“It’s cool. We did what we wanted to do. I’ve decided to share my world with people. Just how I went on social media platforms and found inspiration, I want people to do the same,” she explains. “I don’t think it's fair to my supporters not to give that out. There’s so much I wanna share with brides, specifically Black brides. I love that people are adding it to their Pinterest boards."
"I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives."
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
“I’m happy with it because we did what we wanted to do. They can do what they wanna do. Don’t be cruel, though, because you will get blocked,” she said, laughing.
The more I spoke with her, the more her sense of freedom shined through. People are always going to have their opinions, but at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live your life, and it seems like the couple realizes that and embraces that power. She also stressed the importance of not living for others and the lessons life has taught her.
“I’ve been to countless weddings, and I’ve been in countless weddings. I’m a generally older bride. So when women in my demographic get married, and you and your husband are busy working people like us, you deserve to have the one you want to have,” she shares.
“This is what we wanted to do. Our loved ones love and support us. We did so much to honor them, but we also wanted to start our own tradition, legacy, and creation. I'm not going to be pulled back into ideas of the past when I’m trying to create a future with my partner. “
If you’d like to see more of the couple, you probably won’t have to wait long. Although no content is planned yet, she admits to being an oversharer. “Me being open and transparent about my experiences lets people know it’s okay to have flaws; it makes you human, and for many years, I didn’t believe that was okay. I had pressure to be perfect, and I’d crumble every time,” she explains to xoNecole.
Now, she owns her flaws and uses them as a superpower to connect with her community and feel and express her love.
“Some people give us [Skyh and KJ] a hard time because they say we just seem too perfect. I’m like, why is that a bad thing? I love the people I love. From my man to my mama, to my friends - unabashedly. We move through time and space how we want to move. If we did it another way, we’d let ourselves and our union down.”
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Feature image by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
