Aley Arion is a writer and digital storyteller from the South, currently living in sunny Los Angeles. Her site, yagirlaley.com, serves as a digital diary to document personal essays, cultural commentary, and her insights into the Black Millennial experience. Follow her at @yagirlaley on all platforms!
When it comes to planning and choosing our international travels, there’s one question that is bound to come up: “Is it safe for Black women?”
At times, our travel plans can be halted by whether or not our desired destination is safe not only for solo travel but for overall protection as women of color. We want to have fun, go on excursions, taste the food, and let our hair down, so the last thing we need on our minds is navigating microaggressions and worrying about our safety.
According to a report by The Mandala Research Firm, 17% of Black Americans take one or more international trips and travel locally more than six times per year. Even more exciting, 42% of Black Americans said they would spend more in 2020 on travel than in 2019 (pre-Covid), and 50% of Black adults (16% more than the general population) are more likely to travel to locations associated with their ethnic or cultural heritage. All of this goes to show that we’re not afraid to pack our bags and book flights to our heart's desire.
Our passion for travel and exploration highlights a growing desire to connect with a wide range of cultures while discovering new fresh locales. By choosing destinations with positive reputations for safety and belonging, you can enjoy your next adventure with peace of mind. And to help, we’ve provided a list of the best vacation spots to add to our travel bucket list.
1.Havana, Cuba
Known for its vibrant culture and welcoming locals, Havana offers a unique travel experience for you and your girlfriends. Stroll through the historic streets of Old Havana and immerse yourself in the lively music and dance scenes that make this city unforgettable.
2.Rio de Janeiro, Brazil
Famous for its Carnival, stunning beaches, and warm hospitality, Rio de Janeiro is a lively and safe city to explore all year long. Don't miss a visit to the iconic Christ the Redeemer statue and the bustling Copacabana Beach for a true taste of Rio's energetic spirit.
3.Belize
With its beautiful beaches, diverse wildlife, and laid-back Caribbean vibe, Belize is a safe and adventurous destination for travelers. Discover the underwater wonders of the Belize Barrier Reef and explore ancient Lamanai Maya Ruins.
4.Paris, France
Who doesn’t have Paris, the city of lights, on their travel list? Renowned for its art, fashion, and iconic landmarks like the Eiffel Tower, Paris offers a blend of romance and safety for travelers. Wander through the charming neighborhoods of Montmartre and Le Marais, explore the Louvre, and indulge in the city's exquisite culinary delights.
5.Lisbon, Portugal
Portugal's capital city, Lisbon, charms visitors with its historic architecture, delicious cuisine, and welcoming atmosphere. Enjoy breathtaking views from São Jorge Castle and savor traditional pastries at the famous Pastéis de Belém bakery.
6.Bali, Indonesia
We’ve all seen the viral photos off the Bali coast and Gates of Heaven, so why not make it a reality? Famous for its lush landscapes, vibrant culture, and serene temples, Bali offers a safe and enriching travel experience in Southeast Asia.
7.Tokyo, Japan
Recently, the value of the Japanese Yen has seen a significant drop, making it the lowest it has been against the dollar since 1986, which also means that there’s no better time than now to make your travel plans to the renowned cultural hub.
8.Accra, Ghana
There’s no FOMO like the kind felt from seeing all the beautiful faces enjoying their holiday at Ghana’s Afrochella Festival, so let this be your sign to start planning the trip now. Often referred to as a welcoming home for the African diaspora, Ghana offers rich cultural experiences and a sense of belonging. Explore the vibrant markets of Accra and visit the historic Cape Coast Castle to connect with the nation's poignant past.
9.Seoul, South Korea
You may be surprised to find this city on the list, but for Black travelers, Seoul is said to be one of the safest and most exciting cities to travel to. There will be plenty to eat, buy, and experience from this city’s rich history and culture.
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As the summer heats up, so does the desire to participate in outdoor activities that keep you moving and connected to others. Among these extracurriculars, running checks all the boxes.
If you look anywhere on TikTok, you might think that just about everyone is running these days. It only takes a few scrolls before you stumble across someone taking their viewers along for 10-mile runs or trading dating apps for run clubs.
Running is beginner-friendly, requires little investment, and offers a number of mental and physical health benefits, so it’s clear why the sport has become the hottest new hobby to participate in. And if you’re one of the countless individuals inspired to lace up your shoes and hit the pavement, you might be looking for a few practical tips to start your own running journey.
"The most important thing you can do for yourself as a runner or someone who's interested in starting to run is being consistent," Ashlee Green, co-founder of RUNGRL, a digital-first community for Black women distance runners, tells xoNecole.
When Green first began her running journey, she recalls never quite seeing herself as a runner “and certainly not an athlete.” It wasn’t until she moved to Chicago and worked for the city’s Nike store that her views on the sport began to expand. “I had a friend who ran, I had access to shoes, I had access to the Lakefront,” which eventually became her personal track.
A move to Washington, D.C., led to her joining a local running club, District Running Collective, which not only solidified running as a core part of her wellness practice but a cornerstone to building community.
“Community is absolutely what helped me to feel like I was an athlete and an actual runner,” she says. “It was through the opportunity to both show up as a community member and, over time, as a community leader, that deepened my commitment to the sport for myself and the impact that it would have on other people.”
Through RUNGRL, Green has since created a supportive environment along with her co-founder that encourages beginners to start where they are, grow in their journey alongside like-minded women, and “ultimately inspire more Black women to get and stay moving.”
To help get your running journey off on the right foot, Green spoke with xoNecole to provide the best tips for building stamina, finding a run club that fits your needs, and becoming the runner you desire to be.
Consistency Is Key.
“I feel like there's this sort of general, societal understanding that running must be easy, but it's not,” she says. “What does help it become easier is when you're consistent and committed to showing up for yourself and the miles on a consistent basis.”
“That doesn't mean you need to be running six or seven days a week. But what it does mean is that you’re committed to twice a week, three times a week, or whatever works for you and your schedule,” she adds. “Move your body and find ways to build up the stamina and the endurance you’re seeking because everybody's journey is different.”
Find an Accountability Partner.
“Having your ‘gworls’ with you makes it a lot easier,” Green says. “Somebody who can go through the experience with you, talk about how you're feeling, and tell you that your hair still looks great even though you're out there sweating. Having friends along the way, I have found, has made the journey better. Everything is better with your girls.”
Set a Personal Goal.
Green tells us, “Signing up for a race or just having an end goal and something to work towards makes it easier to build a plan or establish consistency because you’re working towards something specific.”
“Whether you want to run a mile by a certain day or sign up for this 5k, setting those types of goals helps you to have something to look forward to and work towards.”
Comparison Is the Thief of Joy.
“A lot of the times on the internet, we see success stories and people crossing the finish line, but running hardly ever looks like that all the time,” she says. “Most of the time, it sucks. I don't always physically enjoy the act of running, but what I do enjoy and appreciate, is what it brings and will continue to bring to my life: movement, wellness, community, accountability, and representation.”
“You don't have to compare yourself to the next person — you don't know what they're going through off of Instagram. One foot in front of the other is all that you can control, and that's all that you should feel beholden to in your process.”
Choosing the Best Run Club for You.
Green advises, “Seek out the groups, the clubs, and the crews that are into running for community, accountability, and creating safe spaces for people like us. This particular boom is really interesting, and it's trending around dating and things like that, which, in my opinion, takes away the feelings of safety and showing up because I want to be well and better myself.”
“So seek out groups that are in it for the right reasons as you are in search of your best self,” she adds.
Adopt a Healthy Mindset.
“One of the things that I often tell myself is, ‘You can do hard things.” Another one that RunGurl says all the time, “If you run a mile, you can do anything,” Green says. “One thing that I find myself saying when I’m actively running is, “No matter where you are on the run, you can do anything for 10 minutes. You can do anything for five minutes. You can do anything for however much longer you have to go. It's only a set amount of time left, but I can do it, I can show up for myself, and I will get through it.”
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In the vibrant world of travel influencers, Black women are making waves and offering fresh perspectives on globetrotting adventures. And when we say, “Book that trip,” we can’t help but recognize the women who fill our feeds with the inspiration to do so.
These trailblazing travel influencers capture breathtaking destinations and weave powerful narratives of enjoyment, leisure, and joy. From serene beaches to bustling cityscapes, these creators provide a unique lens through which we can experience the beauty and complexity of the world. It’s not just the photos that entice us. It’s the glimpses into local cultures, hidden gems, and the personal growth that comes from the second-hand exploration of new destinations.
Whether you're seeking travel inspiration, practical tips, or a vibrant community to connect with, following these Black women travel influencers will enrich your Instagram feed and ignite your wanderlust.
Jordan Aminah (@thebeautifuljordan)
Jordan is a dynamic travel influencer who stopped our scroll with her solo travel adventures to Juneau, Alaska — ever tried a reindeer hot dog? We love to see Black women try new things and explore the world through a fresh and lively perspective.
@thebeautifuljordan Welcome to Juneau, Capital of Alaska!🇦🇽❄️🦀🏔️ I picked this trip up to try something new and it turned out to be one of my favorite trips ive done so far! Alaska is beyond underrated! A while ago I heard about Tracys King Crab Shack and her world famous deadliest catch crabs. So when I found out we had super long layovers there I decided, imma get some 🦀! I also went whale watching🐳🐋Juneau is one of the best places to whale watch and I had the experience of a lifetime. I will detail this whole layover in another video. Please visit Alaska and add this to your list! #juneaualaska #juneau #tracyskingcrabshack #alaska #flightattendant #layoverdiaries #blacktravel #blacktraveler
Destiny Owusu (@ohwawa_)
Known as “Miss Enjoyment,” Destiny has been gracing our feed with a creative approach to travel and storytelling from London, Mexico, back to NYC.
Gezelle Renee (@gezellerenee)
With an eye for detail and a heart for adventure, Gezelle Renee captivates her followers with stunning photography and insightful travel tips. Her Instagram feed is a vibrant tapestry of global experiences, from Turkey to Thailand, with plenty of moments to add to your Pinterest board.
Skylar Marshai (@skylarmarshai)
If you follow Skylar Marshai, you know that her travel journey and storytelling are nothing short of mesmerizing. From her style to her creative documentation of her adventures, we love to see a Black woman expressing her passion for travel from coast to coast, land to sea, and beyond.
Oyin Edogi (@sweetlikeoyin)
Oyin not only catches flights, but she also puts on the best fits and the flyest makeup routines. Her content is filled with colorful destinations that will inspire you to pack your best looks and see that world.
Chelsea Davis (@chelseadoestravel)
Creator Chelsea Davis has traveled to over 100 countries by the age of 30 and did so through solo travel and making travel a priority. If you need the inspiration to stamp up your passport, she’s your girl.
Dr. N’Dea Bmekween (@bmekween)
TikTok creator Dr. N'Dea Bmekween is a dynamic content creator celebrated for her engaging and relatable videos. Her content captures the wonder of travel while providing helpful tips for aspiring travel influencers and content creators to make a living out of their passion.
@bmekween It’s totally possible to travel for free, you just have to plan and capitalize on these opportunities. If you want to learn my strategy for applying and winning travel scholarships, I teach you the details in my ebook “how to get paid to travel” #freetravel #travelrewards #travelcreditcards #biltrewards #hiltonhonors #scholarships #travelscholarship #paidtravel
Ciara Johnson (@hey_ciara)
Ciara quit her job “to travel the world solo,” and now she’s sharing her worldwide exploration through inspiring content for aspiring nomads.
Asiyami Gold (@asiyami_gold)
Asiyami’s seamless blend of travel, fashion, and lifestyle creates a sophisticated and inspiring feed. Add her to your summer travel mood board.
Lee Litumbe (@spiritedpursuit)
Lee Litumbe, the face behind Spirited Pursuit, is dedicated to exploring travel, adventure, and cultural experiences. A must-follow for a digital travel guide!
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If you have acne-prone skin, you know the struggle of unpredictable breakouts. During the summer, when you want to wear less makeup and show off your natural, glowy skin, nothing makes you want to let out a deep sigh more than seeing a pimple pop up uninvited. With breakouts being caused by a combination of factors like excess oil production, clogged pores, bacteria, and inflammation, you need a skincare product that’s going to keep your blemishes at bay.
Luckily for us, there's an antibacterial skincare product that’s doing just that: hypochlorous acid spray.
What is Hypochlorous Acid?
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Hypochlorous acid (HOCl) is a naturally occurring substance produced by our white blood cells as part of the body's immune response. It plays a crucial role in fighting off infections by killing bacteria, viruses, and fungi. Surprisingly, this compound is also used in various household disinfectants due to its potent germicidal properties, but gentle enough to be used on the skin. For skincare purposes, hypochlorous acid is harnessed in a much milder form to deliver its benefits without causing harm or irritation.
This antibacterial, antimicrobial skin-saving solution not only fights off acne-causing bacteria but also soothes the skin and treats wounds. HOCl spray is typically produced through a process called electrolysis, where a saltwater solution (sodium chloride and water) is subjected to an electrical current. This process splits the molecules into hypochlorous acid (HOCl) and sodium hydroxide (NaOH). The resulting solution is then stabilized and diluted to a concentration that is safe and effective for topical use.
Benefits of Hypochlorous Acid Spray
Antimicrobial Properties:
HOCl spray is effective against a wide range of microorganisms, including bacteria, viruses, and fungi. This makes it a powerful tool for disinfecting surfaces, wounds, and even the skin. It works quickly to neutralize pathogens, reducing the risk of infection and promoting faster healing.
Acne Treatment:
HOCl spray can help reduce inflammation and bacterial load on the skin, making it an effective adjunct treatment for acne-prone skin. Its gentle nature makes it suitable for people with sensitive skin or conditions like eczema and rosacea. It also helps soothe irritated skin and provides hydration without causing irritation or dryness.
Wound Care:
HOCl is used in wound care to clean and disinfect wounds, promoting faster healing and reducing the risk of infection. Unlike traditional antiseptics, HOCl does not cause tissue damage, making it ideal for delicate or chronic wounds.
How to Use HOCl Spray
HOCl spray is simple to use and can be applied directly to the skin or affected area. For skincare, it can be sprayed onto the face or a cotton pad and gently patted onto the skin. For wound care, it can be sprayed directly onto the wound or a sterile dressing.
If you're tired of battling breakouts and ready to try something new, hypochlorous acid sprays might be your next skincare savior. Here are some top picks to consider:
Tower 28 Beauty SOS Daily Rescue Facial Spray - $28
Prequel Universal Skin Solution Dermal Spray - $17
Magic Molecule Spray - $22.50
Briotech Topical Skin Spray - $14.99
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Thinking About Joining The "Boy Sober" Movement? Here’s A Few Things To Consider.
Remember when dating was fun? Meeting strangers out on the subway, getting set up by your friends, matching with someone on a dating app, and going somewhere further than answering the incessant “WYD” text.
I do.
There was a time when I didn’t lament my dating life because it was just that: alive. It had a heartbeat, a rhythm. I knew that if I caught a vibe with a guy outside, he would at least lock my phone number in and set up a meet-cute in the days to follow. Now? Many singles like myself can attest to the dating landscape being close to a dumpster fire. From the ghosting to the mixed intentions, emotionless hookups, and tainted POVs caused by unfiltered social media discourse, it’s easy to understand our frustrations.
Blame it on the pandemic or the digital age we live in, but something is definitely in the water, and single women are begging the question of whether it’s better to opt out of the chaos entirely.
Enter the boy-sober movement.
The Boy-Sober Movement, Defined.
Coined by TikToker and comedian, Hope Woodard, the concept of being "boy sober" is a refreshing shift that isn't about swearing off men forever but rather taking a deliberate break from romantic entanglements to focus on oneself. As Woodard shared in her video explaining the concept, the rules are simple: “no dating apps,” “no dates, no exes,” “no situationships,” and “no hugs and kisses – etcetera.” As she puts it, “You’re not single if someone is taking up your brain space.”
If that description alone piqued your interest, you’re not alone.
A study conducted by Tinder showed that 72% of millennials are “making a conscious decision to be single for a period of time” as they “value their freedom and independence.” Additionally, 81% of those respondents reported that being single offers benefits extending beyond their romantic lives, such as forming new friendships, increasing dedication to their work, and having more time for personal wellness. This makes it clear why the boy-sober movement is resonating with so many fatigued daters.
@justhopinalong The official boysober rules lmk if you had questions or feedback
But taking a vow of dating sobriety didn’t just come out of the blue. I’ve found from conversations with close friends and social discourse that many women are trying to put in the effort to find “the one.” But due to a lack of suitable options, general frustration, less tolerance for nonsense, the reprioritization of valuable friendships over romantic partnerships, or overall fatigue from navigating dating apps, it’s safe to say the girls are tired.
“Women are fatigued by dating and are willing to give it a break because it hasn't been easy,” Monique Head, founder of the Feminine Influence Finishing School, tells xoNecole. “With all the early conversations, the meet-ups, the talking that leads nowhere or comes to nothing, getting her hopes up only to feel disappointed... it's exhausting. It's no wonder the boy-sober movement exists.”
Dating in and of itself is an act of vulnerability that can draw out insecurities and trigger fears of rejection and abandonment. Hinge’s 2024 D.A.T.E. (Data, Advice, Trends and Expertise) report states that Gen-Z daters cite fear of rejection as their top concern. While fear is a normal feeling brought on when forming connections with others, Head says that if it’s the top motivator for opting out of dating, consider, “Coming from a place of empowerment” when choosing to take an extended break from dating.
Still, many single women can attest to how being single and dating takes an emotional toll on one’s self-esteem. For some, this begs the question of whether the pursuit to find love and connection is truly worth the trouble. When these feelings come up, it could be a sign to take a step away from dating to reconnect with your needs and reevaluate your approach to your dating life.
With the right planning and support, taking a boy-sober stance can be a beneficial act to reset your dating life, free from outward and inner pressures. It’s not that you have to cut yourself off completely from the male species, it just means you move through your life without your single status and the thought of men at the forefront.
Ask yourself: How does it feel to be removed from stressful situationships? How do your mental space and heart feel when you detach from the constant longing and languishing for love? Dating is tough as it is, so setting clear intentions and defining why you're choosing this path can help you to jump back on the scene with ease once your leave of sobriety is over.
Prioritize activities that nurture your mind, body, and soul, like journaling and picking up on volunteer opportunities that allow you to explore new interests. Dive into hobbies or activities you've always wanted to try. This is your time to explore and expand your horizons, so consider surrounding yourself with supportive friends, a mentor, or a life coach who can provide a safe and supportive space for you along the journey.
Sobriety of any kind leads to more clarity. And if taking a few months or even a year away from dating can give you the space to get clear about your needs, build up your confidence, and step into the dating game with a renewed sense of optimism, take that time. But don’t stop flirting; continue making healthy connections, and allow yourself to put the fun back into your dating life.
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Dry brushing has gained recent popularity as a simple yet effective technique for enhancing skin health and overall well-being. The ancient Ayurvedic medicine method has become the latest way to revitalize your skin’s health by brushing the skin with a dry, natural bristle brush, typically before showering. While the process may seem straightforward, you might be surprised by the benefits of dry brushing, which extend far beyond merely exfoliating the skin.
If you want to improve your skin’s appearance, give it a new glow, and boost your circulation, consider the following benefits of dry brushing.
Exfoliation and Skin Health
One of the primary benefits of dry brushing is its ability to exfoliate the skin. By gently removing dead skin cells, dry brushing helps to unclog pores and reveal a smoother, more radiant complexion. This process not only enhances the appearance of the skin but also promotes better absorption of moisturizers and other skincare products. Regular exfoliation through dry brushing can prevent the buildup of dead skin cells, reducing the likelihood of breakouts and ingrown hairs.
Improves Circulation
Dry brushing stimulates blood flow to the skin’s surface, which can improve overall circulation. The brushing motion helps to invigorate the skin, encouraging the delivery of oxygen and nutrients to the cells. Improved circulation can lead to a healthier, more vibrant appearance and may even contribute to the reduction of the appearance of cellulite by enhancing the removal of toxins and excess fluid from the tissues.
Supports Lymphatic System
The lymphatic system plays a crucial role in the body’s detoxification process, helping to remove waste and toxins from the tissues. Dry brushing is believed to support lymphatic drainage by stimulating the lymph vessels, which can enhance the body’s natural detoxification process. By promoting lymph flow, dry brushing may help to reduce swelling and improve immune function.
Promotes Detoxification
In addition to supporting the lymphatic system, dry brushing may also aid in the overall detoxification of the body. The stimulation of the skin and increased blood flow flush out toxins, contributing to improved organ function and overall health. Many proponents of dry brushing believe that this practice can help to purify the body from within, leading to clearer skin and a greater sense of well-being.
Stress Relief and Relaxation
The act of dry brushing can be a calming and meditative experience, providing a moment of self-care and relaxation. The repetitive, rhythmic motions can help reduce stress and promote a sense of calm. Additionally, the practice can leave the skin feeling invigorated and refreshed, contributing to an overall sense of vitality and well-being.
How to Dry Brush
To make the most of dry brushing and achieve glowing, radiant skin, follow these easy, step-by-step tips:
Choose the Right Brush: Select a brush with natural bristles and a comfortable handle.
Skin Gym Bamboo Dry Round Brush - $22
EcoTools Dry Body Brush - $6.99
Primally Pure Body Dry Brush - $16
Keys Soulcare Energizing Dry Body Brush - $22
Start at the Feet: Begin brushing at your feet and work your way up the body, using long, sweeping motions toward the heart.
Use Gentle Pressure: Apply gentle pressure, especially on sensitive areas, and avoid brushing over broken or irritated skin.
Brush Before Showering: Dry brushing is best done before showering to wash away the exfoliated skin cells.
Moisturize Afterwards: Follow up with a nourishing moisturizer or oil to keep the skin hydrated and smooth.
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