Let me just start this particular article off by saying that approximately 98 percent of women have cellulite somewhere on their body (men? Only around 10 percent of them do). While that might make some of you want to give me the cynical "gee, thanks" (or quite possibly, even the finger), I actually said that so you could let yourself off the hook a bit. Because, while I don't know too many women who are thrilled at the thought of having cellulite on their body, since it is so common, it's definitely nothing to feel ashamed of or insecure about. After all, cellulite are simply fat deposits (that sometimes look like lumps or dimples) that are underneath the top layers of our skin. And while some are more genetically prone to have more of it than others, factors including body fat percentage and even age play a role in it too.
And just where does cellulite tend to show up the most? Thighs, buttocks and abdomen area are pretty typical. So are underneath and behind our arms. And is there nothing that you can do? Well, that's where today's topic comes in. While in extreme and excessive cases, there are things like laser therapy and other relatively safe procedures that doctors will sometimes recommend, there are also all-natural at-home remedies that can significantly soften the appearance of cellulite too. I've got 10 of 'em right here.
1. Dry Brushing
A very popular way to reduce the appearance of cellulite is a process known as dry brushing. It's a fan favorite because it is a fairly simple way to stimulate blood circulation (which helps to keep fat from accumulating) as it exfoliates dead skin cells too. If you add 3-5 drops of an essential oil like fennel, lavender or rosemary to a carrier oil like coconut, jojoba or sweet almond and then rub the combo into the areas where you'd like to see less cellulite before brushing your skin, the oils will help to soften the appearance of those stubborn fatty areas over time. Byrdie has a list of some of the best dry brushes that are currently on the market; you can check those out here. I also found a video that features some dry brushing hacks that you can watch by going here.
2. Coffee Scrubs
Body scrubs are pretty dope, period, because they are such a great way to exfoliate your skin in order to give it a natural glow.
The reason why coffee scrubs are a good idea when it comes to reducing cellulite is 1) the caffeine in coffee can actually help to tighten up your skin and 2) massaging the scrub into certain areas of your body will increase blood flow which releases toxins which can decrease the amount of cellulite that you have in certain areas of your body.
If you combine a cup of fresh coffee grounds with one-third cup of brown sugar (it's a gentle exfoliant) and ½ cup of grapefruit oil (it helps to detoxify your skin) and apply it while you're in the shower, making sure to focus on the parts of your body where cellulite is, it will help to reduce fat cells and increase the production of collagen. Do this 1-2 times a week for the absolute best results.
3. Body Massages
If you want to go the pampering route in order to get rid of some cellulite, you absolutely can't go wrong with setting up a massage appointment. In fact, if you add dry cupping to your request, that can help to aggressively pull toxins out of your system. While it's not a "cure" for cellulite (unfortunately, nothing can full-on cure it), it is a surefire way to significantly reduce the appearance of it; at the very least, temporarily so.
4. More Potassium and Protein
Potassium is a very necessary mineral; one that, as far as cellulite goes, helps to flush out unnecessary bodily fluids and waste that cells can sometimes accumulate. As far as protein goes, did you know that it helps to keep your metabolism running just as it should? Not only that, collagen and elastin (skin tighteners) are proteins, so, of course, a diet that consists of protein made this list. I put these two things together because a meal that is rich in both potassium and protein can be a delicious way to get rid of stubborn cellulite. Potassium-rich foods include spinach, broccoli, sweet potatoes, mushrooms, cucumbers, peas and potatoes. Foods that are rich in protein include beef, poultry, fish, eggs, quinoa, lentils and Brussels sprouts.
5. Less Sugar and Salt
When it comes to overdoing it on the sugar and salt, it's underneath my arms where I will see some signs that I need to hold myself more accountable. Makes sense too since sugar triggers inflammation as it stores up more body fat and salt causes water retention (bloating). Y'all, it doesn't make sense to eat all of the right foods if you're going to continue to eat a lot of what isn't good for you too. If you're noticing more cellulite than usual, stop to consider if you're spending too much time in fast food drive-thru lines. If so, pulling back from those could cause you to see a noticeable difference.
6. Omega 3s
Some fats are actually really good for you. One of those would be omega-3s. They are a kind of fatty acid that can reduce the risk of heart disease, fight bodily inflammation, decrease the amount of fat that is in your liver, improve bone and joint discomfort and yes, help to dissolve some of the "bad fat" that could be leading to the appearance of cellulite. Foods that are loaded with omega-3s include salmon, trout, sardines, chia seeds, kidney beans, walnuts and flaxseeds.
7. Fiber
I'm thinking that you can probably guess why adding more fiber to your diet is an awesome way to decrease the amount of cellulite that is in your body. Fiber helps to keep us regular and the less toxins that are in your system, the easier it is for stubborn fat deposits to be eliminated. Not only that but fiber can also boost your metabolism levels too. So, if you know you're not consuming as much fiber as you should, be sure to pick up some dark leafy greens, berries, avocados, carrots, oats, chickpeas and almonds the next time you're at the grocery store.
8. Chemical-Free Moisturizers
Oftentimes, when we discuss toxins and how they work against our system, the things that we eat are typically what gets brought up.
Yet it needs to go on record that what we put on our skin can play a direct role too. This is why a lot of holistic experts live by the motto that if you can't eat it, you shouldn't put it on your skin; after all, we've all got around five million pores on our body and many studies support the fact that 60 percent of what we put onto our pores goes directly into our bloodstream (another reason to rethink chemical relaxers; that's another message for another time, tho). For this reason, it really is best to go with chemical-free moisturizers. They're toxin-free and, if you add an essential oil like chamomile, lemongrass, rose, geranium or patchouli to a carrier oil such as argan or avocado, the combo will help to boost collagen while tightening your skin in the process.
Plus, your skin will feel really soft and smooth after applying which is always a bonus.
9. Water
Between 60-65 percent of our body is made up of water. That alone should be more than enough reason to drink as much of it as you can throughout the day. On the cellulite tip, though, it's beneficial because water flushes toxins, increases blood circulation and helps to keep your lymphatic system (it consists of your lymph, lymph nodes and vessels) working properly. On the outside, allowing cold water to hit the areas where any cellulite is for a few minutes every day can trigger blood circulation as well. So, if you don't do anything else on this list, get that water going. It's something that cellulite loathes. And that's a good thing.
10. Exercise
C'mon. Don't act like you didn't see this one coming. All throughout this article, I've talked about how increasing blood circulation and removing toxins can help to get rid of cellulite; well, exercise certainly does both of these things. It also helps to tighten your skin which is always a bonus. Cardio, squats and lunges are super effective ways to make cellulite less of an issue. This is why you should commit to exercising 30-45 minutes a day, 2-3 times a week. Your thighs, buttocks and tummy area will be so grateful. You will be too.
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Some women have their whole wedding planned out, from the bridal gown and venue to the bridal party and playlist. However, KJ was not one of those people. “I didn’t foresee a wedding in my future,” she reveals. “I was just gonna be the boss chick, rich auntie. I didn’t force love in my life until recently. I never had an idea of what a dream wedding would look like, it was easier for me to elope.”
KJ Smith
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And to many people’s surprise, that was their original plan – until Skyh brought up a valid concern. He was raised by his grandmother and thought she should be at the wedding, and naturally, that led to KJ wanting her grandmother to be there as well – then her mom – and later her sister – and, you’ve gotta invite the besties too, right? From there, the guest list continued to blossom. Much like the updo and pop of color bold red lip, she wore on her special day, which was initially on her Pinterest board as a soft glam look with her hair hanging on her shoulders, KJ is okay with changing her plan if it brings her and her loved ones happiness.
So let’s get into the wedding, which took place in Malibu, CA. The first thing you should know about the celebrity couple is that they’re non-traditional. They know, and they don’t care. So, in true unconventional fashion, they shared the morning of the wedding together.
“I woke up with Skyh, we walked our dog, had black coffee, and said good morning to the people who stayed at the venue with us,” she says.
Now, it was time for hair and makeup. While she was getting glammed up, she had Black-owned McBride Sisters wine and champagne (which ties into The Black Experience theme) on deck with her mom and friends, had her besties help rework her vows, retried on every outfit (sis is very Type-A), took photos, and ended the early-celebration with prayer and meditation. It seems very non-Bridezilla, I said.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company,” she explains. “The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
Things moved quickly, and before she knew it, it was time to line up to walk down the aisle.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company. The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
KJ Smith and her bridal party
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Since everything started with their grandmothers, the couple wanted to ensure they honored them and planned to keep an element of their wedding traditional. Although we’ve all seen the reception videos and photos online, you may have noticed visuals from the wedding itself are harder to find.
“We planned for it to be traditional, but we’re not like that, so we tried to create those moments. We jumped the broom and had a salt ceremony (where the bride and groom individually pour salt into a glass container, symbolizing their lives becoming one.) But honestly, still, nothing was traditional about it.”
She goes on to explain that her mom caught the holy ghost coming down the aisle, her glam team was on deck, and she became so nervous with excitement that she had an anxiety attack – something she struggled with for years, she explains tearfully. Her friends had to literally cheer her down the aisle because of how overwhelmed she felt until she eventually calmed down.
“Skyh was standing there with his hand on his heart; we have our own little language, and I could feel the support,” she shares.
It was surprising to hear all these emotional moments happened before the party we saw online. That is until she once again got into the backstory.
“As a Black woman actress, for so long, it was popular to be mysterious and secretive, but that’s not who I am or what I like. Plus, we both wanted to create an experience for everyone there. We are the people who always host family and friends,” she says. “Like for me, the first order of business was getting sandals for the women so they can dance all night long. We had oxtail, D'ussé, and a coffee and sativa lounge – which is part of Skyh and I’s lifestyle and routine. We wanted to bring them into our world.”
Skyh Black (L) and KJ Smith (R)
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She went on to discuss the dance routine she did for her husband at the reception, which has taken over the internet. Apparently, that’s another thing that didn’t go according to plan. According to KJ, she had promised a performance at their joint bachelor/ bachelorette party, but her outfit got stolen from her car. So, Skyh ended up performing for her – complete with a strip tease. Still, she never forgot her promise to dance for him.
So, she hired her friend as a choreographer, learned the routine, made friends and family watch it endless times, and attended Beyoncé’s Renaissance show a few days before for a confidence boost. It ended up being a show to remember. But that wasn’t all the night offered. Lil Mo performed, and the guests received special goody bags featuring their favorite Black-owned products like journals, hair care, and more.
“We made sure everyone was taken care of all night. That kind of stuff makes us happy. I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives,” she says.
But naturally, the internet is going to internet, and while there were countless people praising the event and applauding the newlyweds, some thought it was too over the top. I was curious to know her thoughts on some of the criticism.
“It’s cool. We did what we wanted to do. I’ve decided to share my world with people. Just how I went on social media platforms and found inspiration, I want people to do the same,” she explains. “I don’t think it's fair to my supporters not to give that out. There’s so much I wanna share with brides, specifically Black brides. I love that people are adding it to their Pinterest boards."
"I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives."
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
“I’m happy with it because we did what we wanted to do. They can do what they wanna do. Don’t be cruel, though, because you will get blocked,” she said, laughing.
The more I spoke with her, the more her sense of freedom shined through. People are always going to have their opinions, but at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live your life, and it seems like the couple realizes that and embraces that power. She also stressed the importance of not living for others and the lessons life has taught her.
“I’ve been to countless weddings, and I’ve been in countless weddings. I’m a generally older bride. So when women in my demographic get married, and you and your husband are busy working people like us, you deserve to have the one you want to have,” she shares.
“This is what we wanted to do. Our loved ones love and support us. We did so much to honor them, but we also wanted to start our own tradition, legacy, and creation. I'm not going to be pulled back into ideas of the past when I’m trying to create a future with my partner. “
If you’d like to see more of the couple, you probably won’t have to wait long. Although no content is planned yet, she admits to being an oversharer. “Me being open and transparent about my experiences lets people know it’s okay to have flaws; it makes you human, and for many years, I didn’t believe that was okay. I had pressure to be perfect, and I’d crumble every time,” she explains to xoNecole.
Now, she owns her flaws and uses them as a superpower to connect with her community and feel and express her love.
“Some people give us [Skyh and KJ] a hard time because they say we just seem too perfect. I’m like, why is that a bad thing? I love the people I love. From my man to my mama, to my friends - unabashedly. We move through time and space how we want to move. If we did it another way, we’d let ourselves and our union down.”
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While her time at the Ivy League came with its set of learning curves, Hairston was sure that her love for coding as a computer science major would outweigh those barriers to entry.
During her freshman year, she landed an internship at Facebook that would shape her outlook on tech forever. “I got my first offer letter, and seeing that, I was like, ‘This is how you create economic opportunities,” she recalls. “Seeing how much I was making as just a 19-year-old in tech made me realize I wanted to devote the rest of my career to helping more people have access to this in-demand field in tech.”
And that, she did.
Today, Hairston is the CEO and co-founder of EdLyft, a tutoring platform that equips students in computer science courses to land in-demand tech careers at the largest tech companies and is one of the youngest Black women to raise more than $1 million in venture capital through her startup. “We're a platform that helps companies train and engage their entire future workforce,” she says. “Everyone and all students are using our platform, however, we make it an intention to prioritize partnerships and programs where diversity is a top priority or a top goal.”
Erika and her co-founder believe in replicating the support that kept them in computer science to help more underrepresented talent thrive in the growing world of tech. After leaving their corporate jobs to pursue this mission and launching Edlyft in February 2020, they have since supported over 3000 students to reach their goals in the tech field.
“Computer science dramatically changed our lives, and when we looked at the market, we saw how in-demand software engineering was and realized that if we could replicate what kept us in computer science to help more people gain access to these in-demand careers, that would be really powerful.”
We caught up with Erika Hairston to talk about all things coding, overcoming imposter syndrome, and the importance of demystifying the fundraising process for Black women entrepreneurs/founders.
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xoNecole: Learning to code can seem like an intimidating skill to acquire. Can you speak to how one can overcome those initial barriers of entry?
Erika Hairston: Coding is like learning a new language where practice makes perfect. The intimidation, it's not just women of color who experienced that, it’s everyone when they try coding for the first time because it has a very steep learning curve. The first piece of advice is acknowledging that you're not alone in that initial hurdle of the steep learning curve.
The second piece of advice is that the media doesn't help. When you think of your typical hacker or getting into computer science, you see a white guy with a hoodie and glasses on, with a laptop in the corner, and sometimes people don't see themselves represented in that. And so I think there's been a lot of push to change that in really seeing yourself as an engineer, and that’s a part of what we are trying to change.
On a tactical level, there are so many organizations and resources that I encourage women, especially Black women, to tap into in order to overcome those barriers. One amazing organization that we're partnering with is Reboot Representation, whose mission is to increase the number of Black, Latinx, and Native women in tech.
xoN: Many female entrepreneurs struggle with imposter syndrome. How have you dealt with self-doubt while remaining confident in your abilities?
EH: More recently, I will say I have chosen to dismiss impostor syndrome as something that I feel because I realized that no one knows what they are doing. I wasn't ready to become a founder — I actually was working on a side project when I thought, ‘Oh, I can't be a founder. I don't look like a founder.’ What does that look like? And when I got into Apple’s Entrepreneur Camp, I was surrounded by women founders who were stages ahead of me, and they became my friends, and I got to see what it looked like to be in their shoes.
It was the first time that I saw that this is what it would look like for me to do this. I am capable, I can do that. Changing what it looks like to be what you want to be is a really important part of my journey. Surround yourself with investors or peers who have that shared vision of the world with you, empower you, and help you see what you can become.
"Changing what it looks like to be what you want to be is a really important part of my journey. Surround yourself with investors or peers who have that shared vision of the world with you, empower you, and help you see what you can become."
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xoN: What challenges did you face when raising venture capital funding or navigating the tech world?
EH: Demystifying the fundraising process is one of those inside secrets that you don't know until you know. So democratizing access to this information is critical so that there's no longer those "The Only Black Woman To Raise This Much" headlines — those have to be abolished.
We went through an accelerator program called Y Combinator. It's three months of access to investors who help you gear up for its ‘Demo Day’ where you pitch in front of a lot of investors. That was how we got that inside, ‘secret juice’ which is the way the fundraising process works. Doing those exercises and research to learn the tactics and skills that will increase our chances of being funded by investors that are mission-aligned was a really critical part of the process.
What that looked like for us was sending a lot of emails; I was even in people's DMs on Twitter. Being prepared to answer any questions and asking more founders for more introductions, that is truly how fundraising happens because sometimes we can't do what works for the 99%.
xoN: As a successful female entrepreneur, what advice do you have for women who aspire to start their own businesses, particularly in male-dominated industries like tech?
EH: One, do your ‘startup math’ or do your founder math. Calculate how much you need to have saved before you start your business. For me, that was six months of living expenses to feel confident and comfortable leaving my full-time job to focus on my company full-time. Do that math, save it up. That way, it's not always ‘Oh, I'll do it later,’ there's a concrete number that you're saving up towards.
Second, fall in love with a problem, not the solution. When you're building a business, the solution will look different, and it'll have to change as you learn from the people that you are building for. But if you care a lot about the problem, you'll find all of the different ways to best solve that and stay motivated as you work on your business.
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