Your Next Fall Accessory, According To Your Zodiac Sign
Digging deep into your horoscope can reveal more than a glance at your day. Reading my birth chart uncovered how my sun sign, Cancer, and moon sign, Capricorn, affect every single part of my being on this planet. While it was eye-opening, astrology helped me uncover my patterns, values and decision-making.
Who would have guessed that the alignment of the stars even contribute to how you build your wardrobe? All signs – air, water, fire and earth – influence your choices, like why you choose a pinstripe suit over a bright-colored suit, for example. It's time to use your zodiac as a fashion resource. Keep reading to find your sign and the matching fall accessory we believe will inspire creativity.
An Aries & A Bold Jacket
Aries are fearless creatures so it makes sense that their fall accessory is a bold jacket. Angela's lime green snakeskin trench is exactly what the doctor prescribed this season. The pop of pink on the shoes keeps it funky and fresh.
The Taurus & The Lace-up Boots
One thing about a Taurus, they gon' overdress. So this season, overdress some lace-up booties high enough to have a conversation with Jesus. You can shop all types of styles, colors and fabrics to match whatever vibe you're giving.
The Gemini & The Sunglasses
Just because the weather is temperamental, that doesn't mean the sun won't be shining. And you, my Gemini friend, will need some stunner shades to block the sun rays. Let loose and buy a few pair to match all of your many aesthetics.
The Cancer & The Layered Necklaces
A Cancer's motto: Why rock one necklace when you can rock all of them? This sign lives for polished looks so add some sass to your outfit with a necklace combo. The key is mastering the lengths of each necklace; you want to allow each chain to have its own moment.
The Leo & The Leather Handbag
It's giving style goddess. And judging by the Fall 2020 runways, leather is the texture we should all be rocking. Your options are endless – woven, multi-colored, big or small. Take a note from Adee and make it the contrasting piece of your look.
The Virgo & The Jumpsuit
If you know a Virgo, you know they are loyal, down-to-earth humans who make everything look effortless. What's more effortless than a jumpsuit? They are one-hitter-quitters offering an utilitarian aesthetic ideal for cooler days. Pull the cool kids card by wearing the arms around your waist with a retro graphic tee.
The Libra & The Moto Jacket
Libras love to look good and that's exactly what you'll do when you cop this moto jacket. It isn't irony that Libra season falls on cuffing season every year because Libras are all about romance. So when you are flaunting your moto jacket, pair it with a flirty staple like a midi dress.
The Scorpio & The Micro Bag
It's time for Scorpios to apply their badass energy to every aspect of life. Most importantly, the style aspect. You can easily do that with a micro bag because it takes a real risk-taker to slay one of the boldest fashion trends ever.
The Sagittarius & The Headband
They should probably add the Sagittarius sign next to the definition of "born extra". Because you have no problem trying new things, you are going to look amazing in all the new embellished headbands. Protective style, wig or au naturale, this might be the answer to the unnerving question, "What do I do with my hair?"
The Capricorns & The Snakeskin
For Capricorns, it's about structure. We are challenging you to step outside your comfort zone and combine your structure with snakeskin in all of its forms. That looks like a monochromatic suit and snakeskin booties like our sis is modeling for us.
The Aquarius & The Clear Tote
Words to describe Aquariuses include whimsy, eccentric and witty. It's time to add one more progressive accessory to the arsenal. Clear handbags are perfectly playful by showing what's in the bag.
The Pisces & The Scarf
Pisces are known to view their fashion choices as art. That's why a mixed pattern scarf is going to be clutch for the water sign this season. You can opt to rock it around your neck or take it back to your roots by donning a daring turban. Gold tribal earrings will absolutely complete the look no matter your choice.
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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