The Four Essential Ways To Wear Sheer This Season
Sheer is THAT girl this year.
Since the debut of spring/summer collections last year, sheer clothing, or the ’barely there’ aesthetic as it’s being called, has been on the radar of fashion insiders for months. But after it was catapulted into the spotlight following buzz sparked around Ciara’s Vanity Fair Oscar Party look, it’s clear that the sheer aesthetic will be one of 2023’s hottest trends.
Ciara attends the 2023 Vanity Fair Oscar Party wearing a sheer dress from Dundas.
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Perfect for warmer temperatures, the minimalist trend packs a maximum punch no matter which way one decides to wear it. On the red carpet, on the beach, or at your local cafe, the limit is nonexistent, which is why this trend will dominate in 2023.
And while it’s not a new trend (hello, Lil Kim and Naomi Campbell in the 90s), it’s definitely been modernized this season.
Lori Harvey wears sheer top, skirt, bag, blue heels outside Tory Burch during New York Fashion Week.
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Does the rise of “free the nipple” have anything to do with the rise of sheer, barely there dressing? It could be argued one influenced the other, but that’s not the chicken-egg battle we’re discussing today. Designers are pulling out all the stops to capitalize on this trend; from all-sheer dressing to a more demure nipple slip, it’s an accessible and scalable trend.
It’s all about showcasing as much or *as little* as you want. This is an updated way to incorporate last year’s reigning trend: cut-outs.
If you’re interested in trying out this trend, keep reading for effortless ways to incorporate sheer dressing into your wardrobe.
Bare It All
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This aesthetic lends favorably to the risk-taker in us all. This style of dress is effortlessly transcending beachwear for everyday wear, even emerging into the echelons of cocktail and formalwear. If you’re comfortable baring it all, you can easily do that with a sheer dress and nothing else. But fear not, this trend is easily complimented by a structured long blazer or a belt to provide some wanted coverage.
Peek-A-Boo
Myha'la Herrold wears green sheer blouse, gray shorts during the Paris Fashion Week.
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Maybe full sheer isn’t your thing, and that’s what makes this trend so exciting. This is what I call the peek-a-boo method. Opt for a brightly colored sheer top to pair under a more neutral blazer or jacket for a very IT-girl moment. If you want to take even more of a risk, opt for a sheer shirt to pair with shorts and a trench, a la our girl Myha'la Herrold. The juxtaposition of textures and lengths is the perfect element for an understated but sexy moment.
A Touch Of Bling
Ari Lennox attends 2023 Roc Nation The Brunch.
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When in doubt, go embellished! This is an easy (and sparkly) way to create coverage without sacrificing the barely there element of sheer clothing. Whether you adorn yourself with a jewel-encrusted sheer dress or merely layer jeweled accessories on top of a black dress to elevate the look, it’s the perfect combination for any GNO.
A Feminine Dream
Amina Ladymya wears a sheer embroidered dress during Milan Fashion Week.
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What is spring without a bit of pomp and circumstance? The lace detailing is a stylish way to elevate any piece of sheer clothing, especially for the spring and summer seasons. If you really want to lean into the renaissance aesthetic circling the runways, add ruffles and floral appliques to elevate this look.
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Courtney is a contributing writer, based in Puerto Rico by way of Tennessee. Interested in the intersection of fashion and culture, she has an affinity for fashion, empowerment, and really good tacos. Keep up with her on Instagram (@hautecourtxo).
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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