Want Clearer Skin? Have More Orgasms, Y'all.
My relationship with acne has been pretty…"interestingly annoying" for pretty much all of my life. While I've never had the kind that was so problematic that I needed to see a dermatologist (you know, the kind that comes with a ton of pimples, cystic acne, etc.) or anything, I am definitely someone who's had to deal with hormonal acne and since I'm also a picker, sometimes I would make those period bumps worse by constantly messing with them. Plus, I can sometimes get a few zits on my back and shoulders and again, since I don't know how to leave well enough alone, that can leave marks which makes the whole pimple thing even more frustrating. What's really ridiculous is the fact that now, even in my 40s, these things continue to be an issue. Chile. CHILE.
That's why, when I got hip to the fact that one of the best ways to clear these kinds of issues up is to have sex — including climaxing — you know I had to share what I learned. Because in spite of all of the hacks, at-home remedies and other things that I've come across over the years, if a way to keep breakouts at bay is to have orgasms, how can I not scream that from the rooftop so that some of y'all can end up with clearer skin? Chile. CHILE.
What Are Some Leading Causes of Problematic Skin?
OK, so before I get all deep into how sex can help to make problematic skin less of an issue, let's first touch on what some of the leading causes of breakouts are — I mean, besides the usual suspects like genetics, not exfoliating enough (because, at the end of the day, pimples are what happen when hair follicles get clogged with sebum, product buildup, and dead skin cells and then are triggered by bacteria) and hormonal imbalances in your system. Because the more you're able to get to the "foundational issues" of your pimples, the easier it can be to treat them.
So, what are some other leading causes of zits? Good question.
- Styling products that can get trapped into your pores (especially along your hairline where oil and sweat may also be a challenge).
- High-carbs and dairy foods. The reason why is because they both can affect your blood sugar levels and that oftentimes can contribute to breakout experiences.
- Not consistently cleaning your cellphone. I once read that it has somewhere around 25,127 bacteria per square inch. Eww.
- Super dry skin can cause pimples because it can lead to little fissures where bacteria can sneak in and cause zits. (This is why moisturizing and staying hydrated are so important.)
- Doing a lot of traveling which can result in your skin experiencing climate changes can sometimes trigger pimples too.
OK, so now that you know five of the other leading causes of breakouts, hopefully, that has given you a few other ah-ha moments when it comes to why you and your skin may be going through what you all are going through.
And while things, like washing your face twice a day, changing your bedding on a regular basis, keeping your hands off of your face (because they carry quite a bit of bacteria on them as well), moisturizing and wearing sunscreen (sunscreen helps to protect your skin from outside elements that may try and irritate your skin) and also giving your face make-up, breaks from time to time (check out "8 Solid Reasons To Go Make-Up Free At Least Once A Week") is also super beneficial, something else that can definitely work in your favor is to have sex more often.
And just why is that? That is also a really good question.
What Is It About Having Orgasms That Can Make Skin Better?
OK, so earlier this year, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, "10 Irrefutable Reasons To Have An Orgasm A Day" (married folks, I encourage y'all to check out "Having Sex Every Day. For A Month. Straight. Can Transform Your Marriage." as well). While all of the reasons are quite solid, something that I didn't really get into is what having orgasms can do to keep your skin looking flawless and amazing.
The reason why this is the case is that, whenever you have sex (and especially when you orgasm), that causes your blood circulation to increase which results in more oxygen getting into your cells and pores. As a direct result, that can reduce tissue damage (including acne scarring). Not only that but since sex decreases stress levels and since stress is linked to an overproduction of sebum, you can see how having less stress in your system is always a good thing for your skin.
Even outside of pimples, sex and orgasms are great because when you participate in sexual activity, it automatically increases your estrogen levels. When that happens, the elastic fibers in your skin become stronger which helps to keep fine lines and wrinkles at bay. Not to mention the fact that a good sex session can cause you to sweat and sweat is one of the ways that your system releases toxins; fewer toxins fewer breakouts.
So, even if you were someone who was initially leaning on the cynical side when you first read the title of this piece, I'm thinking now that you can see that there is some bona fide evidence to support the fact that if your skin isn't quite where you want it to be, sex — and again, especially orgasms — is something that could get it closer to the flawless lane. Personally, I can't think of any other method for treating acne, scarring, and signs of aging that is more enjoyable than copulation but hell, if y'all do, let me know. I'd really like to hear it. #wink
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Different puzzle pieces are creating bigger pictures these days. 2024 will mark a milestone on a few different levels, including the release of my third book next June (yay!).
I am also a Professional Certified Coach. My main mission for attaining that particular goal is to use my formal credentials to help people navigate through the sometimes tumultuous waters, both on and offline, when it comes to information about marriage, sex and relationships that is oftentimes misinformation (because "coach" is a word that gets thrown around a lot, oftentimes quite poorly).
I am also still super devoted to helping to bring life into this world as a doula, marriage life coaching will always be my first love (next to writing, of course), a platform that advocates for good Black men is currently in the works and my keystrokes continue to be devoted to HEALTHY over HAPPY in the areas of holistic intimacy, spiritual evolution, purpose manifestation and self-love...because maturity teaches that it's impossible to be happy all of the time when it comes to reaching goals yet healthy is a choice that can be made on a daily basis (amen?).
If you have any PERSONAL QUESTIONS (please do not contact me with any story pitches; that is an *editorial* need), feel free to reach out at missnosipho@gmail.com. A sistah will certainly do what she can. ;)
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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You've Never Seen Luke James In A Role Quite Like This
Over the years, we've watched Luke James play countless characters we'd deem sex symbols, movie stars, and even his complicated character in Lena Waithe's The Chi. For the first time in his career, the New Orleans-born actor has taken on a role where his signature good looks take a backseat as he transforms into Edmund in Them: The Scare—a mentally deranged character in the second installment of the horror anthology series that you won't be able to take your eyes off.
Trust us, Edmund will literally make you do a double take.
xoNecole sat down with Luke James to talk about his latest series and all the complexity surrounding it—from the challenges taking on this out-of-the-box role to the show's depiction of the perplexing history of the relationship between Black Americans and police. When describing the opportunity to bring Edmund's character to life, Luke was overjoyed to show the audience yet another level of his masterful acting talents.
"It was like bathing in the sun," he said. "I was like, thank you! Another opportunity for me to be great—for me to expand my territory. I'm just elated to be a part of it and to see myself in a different light, something I didn't think I could do." He continued, "There are parts of you that says, 'Go for it because this is what you do.' But then also that's why it's a challenge because you're like, 'um, I don't know if I'm as free as I need to be to be able to do this.' Little Marvin just created such a safe space for me to be able to do this, and I'm grateful for everything I've been able to do to lead to this."
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Them: The Scare, like the first season, shines a light on the plight of Black Americans in the United States. This time, the story is taking place in the 1990s, at the height of the Rodney King riots in Los Angeles. While the series presents many underlying themes, one that stands out is Black people and the complicated relationship with the police. "For the audience, I think it sets the tone for the era that we're in and the amount of chaos that's in the air in Los Angeles and around the country from this heinous incident. And I say it just sets the tone of the anxiety and anxiousness that everybody is feeling in their own households."
James has been a longtime advocate against police brutality himself. He has even featured Elijah McClain, the 23-year-old Colorado man who died after being forcibly detained by officers, as his Instagram avatar for the past five years. So, as you can imagine, this script was close to his heart. "Elijah was a soft-loving oddball. Different than anyone but loving and a musical genius. He was just open and wanted to be loved and seen."
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Luke continued, "His life was taken from him. I resonate with his spirit and his words...through all the struggle and the pain he still found it in him to say, 'I love you and I forgive you.' And that's who we are as people—to our own detriment sometimes. He's someone I don't want people to forget. I have yet to remove his face from my world because I have yet to let go of his voice, let go of that being [because] there's so many people we have lost in our history that so often get forgotten."
He concluded, "I think that's the importance of such artwork that moves us to think and talk about it. Yes, it's entertaining. We get to come together and be spooked together. But then we come together and we think, 'Damn, Edmund needed someone to talk to. Edmund needed help... a lot [of] things could have been different. Edmund could have been saved.'
Check out the full interview below.
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