Money Talks is an xoNecole series where we talk candidly to real women about how they spend money, their relationship with money, and how they spend it.
Name another 24-year-old who is the owner of multiple businesses, sells products including a 24k gold silverware set, and is preparing to release a new book and apparel line? Don't worry, I'll wait. Though she originally got her start in entrepreneurship during her time at Georgia State University, the Georgia peach wasted zero time getting acquainted with the idea of being her own boss by hosting her own eyelash seminars shortly after graduation in 2016.
With the success of her first course racking up $50,000 in a single day, BiggJazz took her class on the road around the country, garnering tons of fans in the process––currently amassing nearly 400K Instagram followers in the process.
Jazmine Ameerah Cheaves, more popularly known as "Lookin Ameerah" or "BiggJazz" by her social followers, is a viral social media influencer, serial entrepreneur, and young visionary millennial who has successfully generated millions in just a few short years. Her businesses include her cosmetics products, touring lash classes, cookware, and The Glam Trap, her full-service beauty studio located in Atlanta, Georgia. Her book, Entrepreneurship Talk With A Real Ass Boss by BiggJazz gives readers the inside scoop into her hustle mentality and inability to patiently wait for opportunities to come her way.
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Though her studio took a bit of a hit in the spring due to COVID-19, she successfully bounced back by launching her own line of cookware called Lookin Ameerah Cookware, which consists of colorful and uniquely styled cooking products and accessories. As someone who loves to cook, BiggJazz also took it upon herself to write a book titled Lookin A Cookbook with some of her favorite recipes and is releasing her own line of seasonings and sauces. "Investing is extremely important to me. Financially, mentally, spiritually, and physically. Right now, I am exploring investment opportunities that can help me to build wealth," Cheaves shared.
In this installment of "Money Talks", xoNecole spoke with the Atlanta-based millennial beauty mogul and business owner about taking questionable financial risks in college, her love for cooking and benefits of saving and flipping money to sustain revenue.
On her definitions of wealth and success:
"For me, I define wealth as being able to live comfortably, knowing that I don't have to worry about where my next meal is coming from or if I can pay my bills. It is about freedom to do what I want to do and to have others around me happy. In my eyes, I won't be fully wealthy until I am a multi-millionaire. Success equals knowing that nobody can take credit for, or destroy what I've built. Success is being happy, free, financially secure, and healthy in mind, body, and spirit."
On the lowest she’s ever felt when it came to her finances and how she overcame it:
"The lowest I've ever felt financially was during my time in college. I couldn't pay my rent and I didn't know where I was getting my next meal from. I decided I never wanted to live like that again. I got off my ass and hustled. I knew nothing would come to me––I had to go out and get it for myself. I've always been creative, so I put that creativity and vision to use."
"I got off my ass and hustled. I knew nothing would come to me––I had to go out and get it for myself. I've always been creative, so I put that creativity and vision to use."
On whether she’s a spender or a saver:
"I consider myself a saver, even though I do spend a good amount of money. I experienced having to go without, so when I started making money it felt good to watch that bank account fill up. I learned to save money by doing my research about how successful people save."
On her savings goals and what retirement looks like to her:
"My goal is to be a multi-millionaire. Most millionaires have seven revenue streams and I am already halfway there. When I retire, I want to be making money in my sleep so I can just enjoy life and do what I want."
On her budgeting must-haves:
"I like to eat, so we definitely have to put dining out on the budget, and buy quality food because I like to cook... I like to invest in my wardrobe, going to the spa to relax and unwind, and I love to travel. Anything that has to do with beauty and self-care is my priority. I don't cut corners there."
On her intentions behind multiple streams of revenue:
"My streams of revenue are my businesses–The Glam Trap, Lookin' (by Lookin Ameerah), Lookin Ameerah Cookware, and of course my books. My intention behind multiple ways to make money is that I never want to go without ever again. I've grown accustomed to a luxury lifestyle and it takes work to maintain it. In the beginning, I used all of my money from lash seminars, flipped it, and invested in other product lines to create more revenue."
"My intention behind multiple ways to make money is that I never want to go without ever again. I've grown accustomed to a luxury lifestyle and it takes work to maintain it. In the beginning, I used all of my money from lash seminars, flipped it, and invested in other product lines to create more revenue."
On unhealthy money habits and mindsets:
"I make fast money, so the mindset: 'I'll make it back tomorrow,' set me back for some years. I was young and immature about money. Now, I have learned to be more responsible and plan for the future. The change I saw was that my money started to add up and everything made more sense. Before, I would make $10,000 and have only shoes and clothes to show for it. I started to invest more in my business and my brand so that I could get a return on my investment."
On her money mantra:
"My mantra is 'make it make sense,' and, 'no one is going to give you anything, you have to get up and get it yourself.'"
On the craziest thing she’s ever done for money:
"The craziest thing I did was sell my Adderall prescription in college instead of taking them."
On the worst money-related decision she’s ever made:
"The worst decisions were carrying cash and not keeping money in the bank. Also, trusting others with my money. I learned that you have to be involved in every aspect of your business to know what is going on."
On her budget breakdown:
How much do you spend on rent?
"I stay in a luxury condo in Atlanta, so it costs a couple thousand. $2,850."
Eating out/ordering in?
"I like to cook a lot, so if I am not making a meal myself, I eat out and it has to be great food. I spend at least $60."
Gas/car note?
"I drive a 2020 Mercedes AMG and my car note is $860. It uses premium gas, so it costs me about $50 to fill up, so I spend between $100-$150 a week on gas depending on what I have to do and where I need to go during the week."
Personal expenses?
"My personal expenses include daily self-care, such as makeup, hair, shopping and going to the spa. I definitely invest a great deal in myself. That is where most of the money is spent so it can run me at least $2,500."
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Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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If, while on your continual journey to get the best out of your own tresses, you’d like to learn how to get them healthier than it’s ever been, I’ve got seven acids that are typically known for skin use that can be just as beneficial to your hair as well.
1. Salicylic Acid
When it comes to your skin, salicylic acid is beta-hydroxy acid that is great for your skin if you’re looking for something that will exfoliate it, clear out your pores and dissolve dead skin cells. In fact, this is why it’s an acid that is quite popular when it comes to treating acne.
Your hair will enjoy salicylic acid because, if you’re looking to remove product build-up, you want to soothe an itchy or irritated scalp or you’ve got some dandruff flakes that are totally driving you up the wall, salicylic acid has the ability to treat all of this. Either purchasing a shampoo that contains this ingredient or adding it to your favorite scalp scrub is probably the most effective way to get the most out of it.
Just make sure that if your scalp is sensitive or dry that you approach with caution. In these instances, it could end up irritating your scalp more than helping it out, so use a very little bit in the beginning to make sure that it vibes with you.
2. Lactic Acid
Lactic acid is an alpha hydroxy acid that can help to even out your skin tone as well as slow down the signs of aging. The properties in it help to do this by reducing hyperpigmentation and boosting collagen production in your skin as well as keeping it hydrated.
Why is it great for your locks? For one thing, lactic acid is considered to be a humectant. This means that it pulls water from the air so that your hair is able to remain moisturized.
Another thing that makes it a winner is the fact that lactic acid breaks down dead skin cells on your scalp (so that your hair follicles are able to flourish), it can help to soften and detangle your hair (making it a helpful addition on your wash days) and it also helps to protect your tresses from heat styling tools and UV damage. Applying a hair rinse that’s made up of part lactic acid and part water can work wonderfully (so long as you apply it once a month, tops; more than that might be too “intense” for your hair strands).
3. Glycolic Acid
Glycolic acid is a water-soluble alpha hydroxy acid that is actually made from sugar. Your skin will adore it because it smooths the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, improves the texture of your skin, gently exfoliates, clears your pores and brightens up your complexion overall.
The reasons why you should consider this acid for your hair is because it helps to keep your scalp youthful (and yes, there is such a thing; check out “Your Scalp Ages Six Times Faster Than Your Face. Why It Matters.”), removes excess sebum (that could be clogging up your hair follicles) and it helps to keep your hair moisturized. Your best bet here is to make it a part of your pre-shampooing ritual.
4. Succinic Acid
Succinic acid is an acid that is made from sugar cane and contains antimicrobial and anti-inflammatory properties. Although it doesn’t exactly exfoliate (like many of these other acids do), it can still be beneficial to your skin when it comes to reducing the kind of irritation that is associated with eczema, decreasing the bacteria that leads to breakouts and keeping your skin pretty hydrated.
As far as your hair goes, this is an acid that is worth trying out because it helps to balance the sebum that is on your scalp, remove dead skin and product build-up that can irritate your scalp and clog your hair follicles and, succinic acid is also beneficial when it comes to reducing dandruff and helping to prevent hair loss. Most people tend to apply this as a serum.
5. Hyaluronic Acid
I’ve officially sung the praises of hyaluronic acid on this platform before. One example is via the article, “Why Your Skin, Hair, And Nails Need Hyaluronic Acid Like...Yesterday.” On the skin tip, hyaluronic acid is great because it deeply hydrates your skin, contains anti-aging properties and can even bring relief to vaginal (including vulvar) dryness.
Your hair will adore this particular acid because it aids moisture to it (including your hair follicles), will help to improve your hair’s texture and it also soothes scalp dryness, nurtures the cuticles of your tresses and decreases frizz. Using a serum rich in this acid as a pre-poo or as a leave-in conditioner is recommended.
6. Azelaic Acid
If you’ve never heard of azelaic acid before, this is your lucky day. It’s a dicarboxylic acid that, when it comes to skincare (and hair care) products, is usually synthetic. Anyway, if you are looking for a way to reduce inflammation, even skin tone after a breakout or if you want to use an exfoliant that will improve the texture of your skin overtime, you might want to give this acid a shot.
This one makes the list as far as your hair is concerned because, if achieving more inches is your current focus, azelaic acid might come in handy. That’s because it is able to strengthen your hair, thicken your strands and also stimulate hair growth from within your hair follicles.
7. Glutamic Acid
Glutamic acid is actually a type of amino acid. Skin-wise, it’s great for deeply hydrating your skin as well as protecting it from pollutants and damaging UV rays. Also, if you’re looking for an acid that treats skin dryness or “tightness,” this could be the answer to your prayers.
Since glutamic acid is also considered to be a humectant, it’s another acid that can moisturize your hair. As a result, it can decrease breakage while helping your hair to feel smooth and look shiny.
BONUS: Amino Acids
Speaking of amino acids and hair, please try to keep some amino acids in your diet at all times. The reason why is because, since your hair is made up of mostly protein (keratin, to be exact), amino acids are pretty darn effective when it comes to helping you to maintain the overall health and well-being of your hair.
Ones to prioritize include proline (it boosts collagen so that your hair strands can maintain flexibility); arginine (it increases blood flow to your hair follicles so that they can receive the nutrients that they need); cysteine (it helps to keep your hair follicles healthy); alanine (it helps your system to produce more collagen), and isoleucine (it strengthens the tissues that help to make up your hair strands). All of these are available in supplement form or you can use Google to see which foods contain them.
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Although it might initially seem odd to apply acid to your hair, as you can see, certain ones will work miracles for it. So, test them out to see which one tickles your fancy.
Hell, since they work for your skin as well — it’s a two-for-one deal that is worth every penny!
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