7 Ways To Attract More Wealth & Abundance In Your Life
In 2020, it is no secret that we all want to secure the bag. In fact, when it came to tackling debt, saving money was one of the top resolutions that millennials made this year. But the truth is, only 8% of people that commit to a money resolution will keep it.
Why is it so hard to get our money together?
Achieving wealth is a mindset shift and the truth is that a lot of us are not willing to develop our mindset around money and success. We look at material things like finally affording the dream car or house, but through my own resolution to get out of debt, I've found that wealth is so much more than money.
This is why nearly one-third of lottery winners eventually declare bankruptcy. Even with more cash than they could every dream, studies have shown that having money doesn't necessarily make you happier or healthier. Being successful and taking care of your debt and money is much more than the currency. It's about being completely secure in your lifestyle and character.
If you are ready to attract wealth that will not only transform your bank account, but your life, here are seven suggestions on where to start:
1.Quit The Procrastination
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Don't believe the lie that "someday" you will try to start your goal of taking care of debt and money issues. Procrastination is often our little way of avoiding change or difficulty. In fact, studies show that people procrastinate because of the fear of failure and addiction to complacency. When you feel yourself sinking into procrastination, take a moment to get to the root of your delay. People of wealth are also people who have mastered the art of taking action.
2.Master The Management
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There is a quote by basketball coach John Wooden: "Big things are accomplished when we master the little things." It's time to stop stressing out over the massive mountains and start in small, digestible steps. When it comes to money, large amounts of debt can be overwhelming. But as you continue to develop discipline and stay committed to your money goals, it is inevitable that you will begin to attract even bigger opportunities.
3.Commit To Education
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A lot of times people stay in debt because they simply don't know where to begin. To level up wealth in your life, commit every day to learning. When you observe wealthy people, they are always seeking knowledge to expand their minds or spark ideas. For my own debt-free journey, I researched tons of articles, podcasts, books and YouTube videos on debt. The more I read (our article "10 Personal Finance Books Every Woman Needs In Her Life" is a great place to start), the more my confidence started to grow in understanding difficult subjects like retirement, credit cards, and investing. Seek knowledge always and you will begin to see a shift in the way you handle money and even the unexpected happenings of life.
4.Create Your Vision
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What could you do or become if you didn't have debt in your life? The Bible says, "Where there is no vision, the people perish." When you have no amazing reason to get out of debt and seek knowledge, it's extremely hard to stay focused and inspired. Whether it's creating a vision board or putting your dreams on your mirror, continuously remind yourself that your goal is always for something bigger than the struggle right now. You are not only trying to build wealth for yourself but generations to come. Remain committed to the big picture and read it daily to remember.
5.Evaluate Your Circles
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Have you ever noticed that a lot of our favorite celebs or influencers all seem to know each other? I believe that you are who you hang with and sometimes we allow people into our life that will shoot down our goals or distract us from our true callings and purpose. A part of wealth building is being influenced by people who share the same values and goals with you. These are your ride or dies, the ones who you can trust with your vision.
If you surround yourself with friends who always want to spend money, gossip, shop or indulge excessively, or other bad habits, you will soon pick up the same patterns. Take some time to see who is really bringing you value into your life and slowly disengage with ones who aren't.
6.Defeat Your Indecision
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From large life-changing goals to picking the right ice cream flavor, I am not fond of making a decision. I am often paralyzed by the fear of pursuing the wrong thing and that leaves me stuck, stagnant, and not growing. To walk in the victory of wealth, you must make a decision that paycheck to paycheck will no longer be your life. You will start to commit to things that align with your goals and leave everything and everyone behind that only distracts you from achieving them.
7.Choose Gratitude, Always
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Tackling large amounts of debt can be overwhelming. When I started my own journey to eliminating debt and gaining wealth, I struggled with the frustration of not seeing the numbers move quickly enough. This showed up in other areas of my life like being annoyed at work or developing envy when I saw other people being successful.
To truly attract wealth in your life, you must be humbly grateful for your small beginnings.
Take some time to practice awareness of all the blessings you have in your life right now. This could be through journaling or volunteering with others in need. Operating out of a spirit of gratitude will invite more amazing experiences, wins, and people that will help you build a life you love.
Walking in wealth and abundance comes well before you receive the cash. It is a constant awareness of your actions and choices and is worth way more than material things. Commit to growing and learning and the level up will come knocking at your doorstep.
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Alaina is a Las Vegas freelance writer and founder of the website GlowSZN, a post-grad survival blog for the lit and educated. Embracing the raggedy moments of adulthood, she is always looking to push the narrative of growth in God, becoming financially free and owning your truth in your 20's. You can follow her on Instagram or Twitter at @hotlaina_.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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