Many of us have been conditioned to be "lack-minded" or "broke-minded" without even realizing it. This propensity toward being overpowered by the thought of not having, is a hard habit to break.
To be broke-minded, or to have a broke mindset, means to live your life with the constant fear and acknowledgement that you don't have enough or that you will run out of something. This usually correlates to how you make and spend your money, but even deeper than that lies a fundamental fear of loss and being without.
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Constantly being worried about money or being afraid to spend it energetically tells the universe that you are afraid to make it, and can result in a lack of abundance. Here, we will break down what it means to be lack-minded, and ways in which you can reverse this thinking in order to invite abundance into your life.
Below are a few tips to help reverse your broke-minded consciousness.
Money Is Source Energy Manifested
Monetary transactions are not only physical, everything we do is attached to an energetic exchange. When you dread paying your bills, you are sending into the universe fear, resentment, and anger, which are all negative and low vibrational feelings. Once you tune in and focus on this energy, every time you spend money, you will associate your energy with these vibrations, which will in turn attract more bills and unsavory experiences to you.
Every time you sit on the bill, because you don't want to pay it, it piles up. In some instances, you even incur more debt with fees and interest built up. Your negative energy around paying something that you have in fact used, creates more debt for you to be even more irritated about.
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If you view money, as you view energy, wouldn't you want to vibe positively? Money is what you make it. According to Dr. Anadi Sahoo, "Money itself has no energy. It is a piece of paper or a piece of metal, but it is the energy behind money that creates so much happiness and so much sorrow...this means that your physical world is inevitably affected by your mental reality. Money is energy!"
The Law of Attraction has everything to do with this truth. The more negative energy you harbor around spending money, the more negativity and lack you will experience. You must change your money energy consciousness into a positive one.
Remove Fear From Manifesting Money
"It takes money to make money."This age-old mantra is very true. When starting a new business, or endeavor, in order for someone to get it off the ground, they must have some kind of seed or capital. In the capitalistic world we live in, this is just how it works.
Money draws money. My mother used to always say, "Follow the money." Investing your money in something is always wise if you know there is a high probability of making a return. In fact, that is the only reason that you start a for-profit business to begin with! Money is source energy manifested, and should always be put to good uses, and kept in circulation. Basically, you must spend your money in order to make more money.
If you remove the fear of spending your money, you effectively increase the possibility of gaining it. Fear and lack go hand-in-hand. Again, being afraid to spend money is telling the universe that you are afraid to make it, which again leaves you broke.
If you are interested in starting a new business, you must relinquish the fear around starting it by raising your vibration. You must feel worthy of someone investing in you, in order to gain the money you need to start. Energy reacts off of energy. You must wholeheartedly stand behind what it is you have to offer. If there is any type of education or startup costs needed to start your journey, taking that leap of faith lets the universe know that you are not afraid of doing the work, and ultimately making that moola.
Abundance Comes From Gratitude
"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." – Oprah Winfrey
Being grateful for what you already have is a magnet for gaining more. Take it from one of the richest people in the world. Expressing gratitude is like having a golden ticket. It energetically opens you to achieving more than you ever asked for. Since everything we do is energetic, by showing appreciation for what you do have, you attract more of what you want.
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In our materialistic society, we are conditioned to want more and more. If you are constantly in the attitude and vibration of gratitude, feeling thankful not only for what you have, but also having faith and trust that whatever you need will be constantly and endlessly provided, you will begin to magnetically attract abundance. I know that this sounds like a fairytale, but you must surrender to gratitude everyday that you are alive. Be thankful for running water. Be thankful for the roof over your head. Be thankful for clothes on your back, and shoes on your feet. Be thankful for having loving people in your life. Be thankful for even being able to read this article. If you are thankful for all the basic needs of survival, you will be blessed with an excess.
The more you remain in a vibration of gratitude, your bag will draw more and more abundance.
Visualize Yourself As A Money Machine
Meditation and positive affirmations are a great way to reverse broke mindedness. The words that we utter act as a boomerang, and come right back to us. No word returns to you void. If you want to manifest more money, you have to ask for it.
If you constantly say, "I am broke," broke you shall be. Practice reversing the rhetoric you spew around money. I personally use the affirmation, "I am a walking money machine. Whatever I spend, comes right back threefold."
Repeating some of the positive affirmations below from Prolificliving.com, will send the universe a message that will materialize into tangible cash money:
- I am a magnet for money.
- Prosperity is drawn to me.
- Money comes to me in expected and unexpected ways.
- I move from poverty thinking to abundance thinking.
- I am worthy of making more money.
- I am open and receptive to all the wealth life offers me.
- I welcome an unlimited source of income and wealth in my life.
- I release all negative energy over money.
- Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.
- Wealth constantly flows into my life.
- My actions create constant prosperity.
- I am aligned with the energy of abundance.
- I constantly attract opportunities that create more money.
- My finances improve beyond my dreams.
- Money is the root of joy and comfort.
- Money and love can be friends.
- I am the master of my wealth.
- I can handle massive success with grace.
- Money expands my life's opportunities and experiences.
- Money creates positive impact in my life.
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From the day they met, food has always played a role in their relationship, and working together in the food industry is what we call a full circle moment. Learn more about Bryant and Daniella’s story of finding love with one another.
How they met.
Bryant: We met at a mutual clients’ house. She was doing the lady hair, and I was cooking for the lady. The client sent her downstairs to record me while I was cooking to, I guess, see what I was cooking, and I caught her recording, but we didn't talk. I caught her recording, we laughed it off, and she went about her day.
So I guess that was the first thing that made us interact with each other. A few months down the line, I think she posted something [on social media]. I hopped in her DM and responded to it, and then we decided to just meet up and hang out. I looked at her as an entrepreneur. I'm an entrepreneur. She don’t need nothing. I don’t need nothing. It's good to hang with people who don't need nothing from you.
When we linked up, our chemistry was just so soft and just so nice. She is a great person, but after meeting up with her [for the] first time, she went back to Miami. She came back [to Atlanta], and we just kicked it off that next weekend, and ever since then, we've been locked in.
Daniella: That same client had flew me back in so I knew I had to come up here for work. But I told him that we'll meet up and [go] on a date and see each other again. When that happened, everything else was history. It just happened organically. It wasn’t forced or anything.
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First impressions.
Bryant: I knew for a fact for her to come downstairs and try to record me, I knew that she was brave, and that said a lot about her, because I barely even talk when I'm cooking for my clients. So you have to talk to somebody for them to feel comfortable to play with you, or do certain things. I feel like the client sent her downstairs because she knew that she's an outspoken, bubbly type of person who don't mind laughing it off if she gets caught doing it.
When she came back to Atlanta, she booked me to cook for her family. So while I was cooking for her in the kitchen, the whole time she was in there talking to me. It was like a date in the kitchen, and I cooked her food. Once the food was laid out, I just left. We had a great conversation when I was cooking for her, and also when she came downstairs and tried to record me.
Daniella: I was impressed how he was multitasking because I was asking him deep, interesting questions, and he was cooking the food, and he was still answering my questions. But I was in a relationship at that time, so I wasn't really in tune. It was no emotions. But when I came back and flew in to work, we met with each other.
He came and picked me up from the hotel and we drove around Atlanta, sightseeing. We went to the African club. So when he came downstairs, I was like okay, you not gonna hug me, you not gonna say nothing? He was shocked and we stayed together for like eight or nine hours, and he took me back to the hotel. I think he picked me up around nine at night. He took me back to the hotel around seven in the morning. Then he walked me to my hotel door. He gave me a hug and he gave me a kiss and said, 'I love you.' And I was like, what?
We stayed together for like eight or nine hours, and he took me back to the hotel. I think he picked me up around nine at night. He took me back to the hotel around seven in the morning. Then he walked me to my hotel door. He gave me a hug and he gave me a kiss and said, 'I love you.' And I was like, what?
The one.
Daniella: When we first linked up, he took me around Atlanta. He was soft and gentle. He was a gentleman. He opened the door for me and I never had nobody open the door. He opened the door every single time I was going in and getting out the car, and when we went to that restaurant. I was like, [there’s] something about him, and he was just nice, calm and patient. So I knew he was a little different from what I'm used to.
Bryant: [I knew she was the one by] how she cared so much. She didn't really know me like that. She knew of me, but she cared so much about me. When we first met, she would lay on me and just relax. For someone who just wants to relax on you, that says a lot about them towards you. It wasn't like I had to prove myself and she didn’t have to prove herself with me either. It wasn't nothing like that. We were willing to take whatever came with it. But it just was really a break. It was like the best me meeting a woman because I didn't try.
Any other woman, I might be trying to dress up, take her to this place, I did not try at all. I picked her up and I actually thought that she wasn't gonna go on the date with me because of her status and my status. I'm such a laid back homey dude and she's from Miami. I thought she would be on the City Girls, you gotta do this, do that. But she wasn't. She was the total opposite. She was a homebody, chill, like me.
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Marriage advice for couples.
Bryant: Work together. Communication, put your mind together.
Daniella: And keep your family out your business.
Bryant: Keep it private please. Y'all work it out first. When y'all make sure it's solidified, then you tell them, or let them find out on their own. Privacy is the most valuable thing.
Daniella: And date each other because people get married and they stop doing the things that they did to get you, or stop doing the things that they did while they were in a relationship with you, before y'all got married. No, do the same thing. For me, I get bored easy, and I think he knows that. So just keep it spicy. Keep it interesting.
Bryant: We like spontaneous stuff like last-minute trips, trying different foods, going out the country just off a spur of a moment. You gotta make it fun. Don't just make it all business. And I think one person out of the relationship needs to take the initiative to make sure their partner is relaxing and at peace. A lot of people carry functional depression to where they’re functional, like we're doing this right now, but they can be going through something.
I don't think it's male or female. I think whichever one, the other partner should notice it and work with their partner to get through whatever they get through, like, for postpartum depression and stuff. That's something that most men don't even really know exist, but that's something when she had our daughter, I had an anti-postpartum depression plan put in place for her. She didn't know about it, but I knew I was gonna be extra sweet to her.
She won't have to think about doing nothing with the little baby. My little girl was watching the football game with me, when she was a few weeks old, because I was giving her that peace, so she can just relax, because her body has been through so much. So you got to be considerate of your mate's mental state and their mental well-being, because when it's gone, it's gone and it takes a lot to get it back, so I think that's important.
When she had our daughter, I had an anti-postpartum depression plan put in place for her. She didn't know about it, but I knew I was gonna be extra sweet to her. She won't have to think about doing nothing with the little baby. My little girl was watching the football game with me, when she was a few weeks old, because I was giving her that peace, so she can just relax, because her body has been through so much.
If you see something not right with your spouse, help them get help. It's okay for them to talk to a therapist by themselves, or it's okay for them to talk to somebody, but don't just sit there and let them go into this decline and self-destruction. I think that's the most important, because sometimes she be overwhelmed, and I have to be that person to hold her up. And then sometimes I'm overwhelmed. To her, baby, I don't want to do this no more. She's like, you gonna do this. We gonna do this. And she reminds me who I am. I remind her who she is, and we come back feeling more motivated.
Daniella: I think business owners should date business owners because they understand your hustle, your hunger. They understand when you can have a day where you make $0 and you have a day when you make $1,000. But I feel like if you dating someone who is in corporate America, and you a business owner, there's going to be a lot of friction, a lot of tension, and I just feel like I want to date someone that has the same drive as me.
Because I don't want to feel like I'm trying to build a bear, build a man, and I have to pull you and drag you, or just being with somebody who got they self together. For instance, my last relationship. I won't say I was the breadwinner, but I was kind of established, and I felt like I was sleeping with the enemy. I was growing fast and I wasn't stagnant. I was trying to get to the next level. He started to be jealous of me and I feel like a lot of women deal with men trying to be jealous of them. Men also have ego issues where they don't really want their woman making a certain amount of money or making more money than them.
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