Explore your sign’s 2024 horoscope predictions to learn what is in store for you this year in love, career, and more. Check out the love compatibility of each sign to learn more about zodiac pairings and all things compatibility.
2024 is an insightful year. When it comes to what the year 2024 has in store for your zodiac sign, the year is putting things into perspective and changing the scope of things in the process. This is the year to dedicate yourself to something that holds true value for you and to spend a little more time dreaming and honoring your inspirations in life.
The Year 2024 and Numerology
2024 is an 8 universal year in Numerology, meaning this is also a powerful year for financial abundance. Real change is likely regarding financial matters, and this is the year to tap into your personal abundance, manifest, go for the income you deserve, and claim your successes.
8 in Numerology brings the energy of spiritual and material wealth, finding your power through the different cycles of life, and being creative, and this is what 2024 is all about.
Your 2024 General Predictions and Year Ahead Astrology
Profound transformations are occurring this year, and they begin once Pluto moves back into Aquarius on Jan. 20, shaking things up again for the collective, and bringing the power back to the people. But it’s not just about transforming and breaking down what’s outdated; it’s about putting things into perspective on what new can become of it and where there needs to be a rebuild. Saturn moves through its last full year in Pisces this year, and there is a spiritual awakening that is still playing out in the world now. Saturn in Pisces wants to create structure out of chaos, but it in its best light, does so in a way that is compassionate for all those involved.
Jupiter remains in Taurus until May 25, when it enters Gemini, and this shift is creating a change in where blessings are being directed. Mutable signs will be experiencing an expansion and recognition this year, after feeling a little on the back burner last year. Fixed signs are taking in their blessings and wins from the past year, and are looking to ground and stabilize this energy in their life now. Cardinal signs are still moving through the Eclipse energy that they have been through since last year, and this year is a middle ground to this where they will be able to build rather than see another downfall.
Overall, perspectives are shifting, and what’s different is what makes you shine. Don’t limit yourself before you get started; harness your power of insight and honor every part of you. This is the year to call in your power and manifest your dreams by living in your truth.
2024 Horoscopes: What The Year Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Aries 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Slay Astrology GIF by Grande DameGiphy2024 is about being your most authentic self, Aries. This year is a time of reclaiming your power, and about doing so with ease. Your power of attraction is strong, and you have the Midas touch right now. You are following your bliss and focusing on the wonder and magic in life, and are sitting in gratitude for all that you have grown. With a New Moon Solar Eclipse in your sign this year in April, you can expect a life-changing, breakthrough year for you. The change that you are experiencing now, comes from truly finding your happiness and what you align with.
There is little room for confusion when you are completely and wholly happy being yourself and doing your thing, and that’s what this year is about for you, Aries.
Taurus 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Astrology Zodiac GIF by Grande DameGiphyThis is a year of healing, finding your peace, and protecting that which you have created in your life, Taurus. You are in your own world, growing from the inside out and focused on where life is flourishing, and what seeds you still want to plant. This year is about finding your center, honoring your spirituality, and taking the path of least resistance. With Uranus in your sign for the past few years and still in your sign in 2024, there have been many ups and downs in life, and this year is about getting off that roller coaster.
By defining your boundaries and what you will or will not allow into your life, you create a safe space around you for you to feel more at peace, stable, and aligned with your heart.
Gemini 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Pop Art Astrology GIF by Grande DameGiphyYour energy is valuable, and so is who you are, Gemini. This year is a journey, and you are moving through different stages of clarity and self-acceptance now. Your vibe for the year is all about living in your truth, protecting your energy, and letting love grow. It’s about not concerning yourself with the trials of the past, and about looking at where you can bloom and strengthen your energy today. Jupiter enters your sign this year for the next year, and you enter the luckiest time in your life in over a decade. Whatever sign Jupiter is in is where the blessings are flowing, and your world is expanding to greater heights this year.
Don’t let anyone take your power away from you, and know you deserve the personal successes and happiness that 2024 is bringing.
Cancer 2024 Yearly Horoscope
The Moon Peace GIF by Grande DameGiphyIn 2024, you are shedding the old, and seeking renewal this year, Cancer. There is a deep letting go and transformation you are moving through in 2024, and you are experiencing a rebirth of positive energy in your life. This is the year to not be afraid to take risks and do things differently than you have in the past. You aren’t who you were before, and there is new life to nourish and be courageous with now. With Jupiter moving into your 12th house of closure, endings, dreams, and intuition, this year, there is a dreamy and healing vibe with you. Your guidance for the year is to create the world you are most inspired to live in and let go of what doesn’t heal your soul.
Embrace the new this year and let things be what they shall become to be, Cancer. You are evolving.
Leo 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Peace Leo GIF by Grande DameGiphyBe prepared for a wild ride this year, Leo. 2024 is an adventure, and it’s one that you initiated and planned for in 2023. You are taking off on a new calling, and are feeling the connection and prosperity of your dreams. Perspectives shift and new doors open for you in the process. Your connection to all that is is strong this year, and you are seeing your strengths and gifts right now. There is a sense of urgency you may be feeling this year as well, as Mars goes retrograde in your sign at the end of 2024, and this is a significant transit as Mars only retrogrades every two years or so.
Get everything you want to get done this year, and at the end of the year, use this time to find your ground in it all.
Virgo 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Diva Slay GIF by Grande DameGiphy2024 is a year of patience, self-discovery, and growth for you, Virgo. You are moving through an awakening in your life that is putting things into perspective, but also shattering what you thought once was. This is a time of going through certain experiences to see what you have been missing in your life. There are endings and new beginnings that you are walking through now, and you can trust that you will heal through what you have been through. With Mercury going retrograde in your sign again this year, you are finding your voice through any misconceived notions or miscommunications.
This year is about owning your power even in the unknown, giving yourself the patience that comes with growth, and shining no matter what is going on around you, Virgo.
Libra 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Diva Feels GIF by Grande DameGiphyThis year is a time of self-expression, communication, and living in your integrity, Libra. You are honoring your energy and your wisdom and communicating what you know. You are discovering some new truths this year that change the way you see things, including yourself, and are finding a new empowerment and love when looking in the mirror. Know that your truth is enough, and do what feels right for you and the path you are leading. There are two Eclipses in your sign this year, one in March and one in October, and this signifies the many different lives you are living this year.
On one note, you are living freely in your new truths and beginnings; on the other hand, you are still processing your emotions from what has been.
Scorpio 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Astrology Zodiac GIF by Grande DameGiphy2024 is an inspiring and fulfilling year for you, Scorpio. You are honoring your creative genius and will be creating and manifesting some projects, ideas, and perspectives. You are seeing the magic in your world, and the love is in the details for you this year as things come full circle for you. Your mind is your strength right now, and this is the time to use your gifts here and to create different expressions of yourself in the world through the work you do, the people you meet, and the beauty you create. With Jupiter, the planet of blessings, in your 7th house of romance for the first half of the year, emotions are high, and love is meeting you there.
Know that the good energy you put out into the world this year is coming back to you tenfold, Scorpio.
Sagittarius 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Zodiac Astrology GIF by Grande DameGiphyThis is a powerful, emotional, and intuitive year for you, Sagittarius. What’s been hidden is coming to light, and a lot of that is the true gifts and power within you that’s felt diminished. You are ready to choose yourself, to honor the duality in your life, and to see yourself as the unique and divine being that you are. You are moving through a time of seeing what makes you different and loving that part of you rather than hiding it away. With Pallas entering your sign this year, your curiosity and natural wonder for life are being received well, and you are inspiring those you come into contact with.
All of you deserve to be loved and heard, and you are learning about that type of unconditional love for yourself this year.
Capricorn 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Astrology Zodiac GIF by Grande DameGiphyThis year is about being fearless, Capricorn. You are overcoming previous challenges you have been through, and are correcting past mistakes that have been weighing heavy on you. This year is about finding ways to let go more and to trust that what’s awakening for you now is more than what meets the eye. The more you can appreciate and find gratitude in the present moment, the more beauty that can open up to you this year. With two Full Moons in your sign in 2024, you are truly going through a culmination in your life now, and you are laying to rest the ghosts of the past. The clarity you are gaining this year is profound, and there is so much to discover this year, Capricorn.
Take time to reflect, process, and heal, and know that what is breaking is being transformed for the better.
Aquarius 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Astrology Zodiac GIF by Grande DameGiphyThis year is about discovering the magic within you, Aquarius. You are forging your path, and living in your independence and freedom. You are moving through a time of not underestimating yourself, your power, or your purpose anymore, and new beginnings are opening up to you because of it. You are no longer defining your worth by the recognition of others, and are instead seeing yourself as the victor that you are. With Saturn in your 2nd house of finances, income matters may feel more pressing for you now as well, and this isn’t an area of your life in which you want to take too many risks this year.
Know that your development and journey are yours to move through, and there is no need to rush this. You are living in your magic in 2024, Aquarius.
Pisces 2024 Yearly Horoscope
Astrology Zodiac GIF by Grande DameGiphy2024 is an impactful, defining year for you, Pisces. You are surrounded by all the things that make you happy and bring you closer to yourself, and you have worked hard to be in the place that you are this year. You are calling back your energy and your power, and are focused on using your time wisely so that you don’t feel depleted in what you do. Nourishing your world is what this year is all about for you, and with Saturn in your sign again this year, you need all the support you can get right now. Saturn officially leaves your sign in 2025, so this is the year to grow from the lessons you have been through so you don’t have to repeat them or fall back on them again.
Your self-love is the priority, and what is blooming for you is highlighting all areas of your life with magic in the process.
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A big part of the clarity that is coming through this month is due to Neptune going direct in Pisces on December 10, after being retrograde here since July. With Neptune now direct, we are able to see our inspiration and creativity a little more clearly, providing the perfect energy for dreams and manifestation to be built upon. The smoke is clearing, and it’s up to you to decide what you want to do with this newfound clarity that this transit is bringing. Mercury also moves back into Sagittarius on December 11, which is great for communication and clarity, and the adventures you were trying to see through at the beginning of November come around for you again with greater purpose and support.
On December 15, Mars enters Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and this is the extra push we need to make important changes and to be on the path towards greater abundance, stability, and prosperity. Mars in Capricorn takes care of business, and we have extra energy at our disposal during this time to do so. This transit is an ideal time to focus on your career or financial goals for next year and to start putting some of these plans into motion now. A few days later, we have the New Moon of the month, which will be in Sagittarius on December 19, and this is the perfect New Moon to manifest.
The energy is high, magic is in the air, and it’s all about moving forward with the new beginnings that are inspiring you and bringing you joy to think about right now.
Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21, and this earth sign energy is how we heal, gain closure, and build new foundations in our world. With Venus also moving into a Capricorn a few days later, there is something about peace, prosperity, and security that we are gaining in life and in love as we close out the year, and this is what we need right now. This month is about reflecting on what was, letting go of old hurt, and renewing. December is an ending and a new beginning in one, and there is magic in this space to be created.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what December 2025 has in store for you.
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleARIES
December is a full-circle moment for you, Aries. You are seeing the gifts in your world and have a lot of gratitude for the way things have come about for you as of late. There are culminations in your world that are providing you with more abundance, stability, and community, and you are exactly where you are meant to be this month. With the Sun in a fellow fire sign and in your 9th house of travel for most of the month, December is a good time to get out of your comfort zone, explore the world around you, and get your body moving.
Mars, your ruling planet, also makes a change and moves into Capricorn on December 15, which will fuel your inspiration and power in your career space. You are making a lot of professional progress as we close out the year; however, make sure to be more mindful of your competitive drive right now. The New Moon on December 19 is the perfect opportunity for you to create some new plans and goals when it comes to traveling, education, and where you want to gain some new inspiration in your world. Overall, this is a month of things coming together for you serendipitously.
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleTAURUS
December is about trusting your intuition, Taurus. You have a lot on your mind this month, and it’s best to delegate, communicate, and allow yourself some relief by opening up to someone and not feeling like you have to hold everything in. As we begin the month, we have a Supermoon in Gemini happening in your house of income, and the plans and projects you have been building here come to fruition for you now. This is the time to gain clarity on your financial world and to take a look at what spending habits you want to let go of here as well.
With Venus in your 8th house of shared resources for most of the month, you are doing a cleanse on your commitments, partnerships, and business ventures. You are taking a look at what you want to dedicate yourself to in the future, and what commitments you may need to let go of now in order to be in the space you truly want to be, both financially and within some of your relationship dynamics. Before we end the month, we have a New Moon in this same area of your chart, and it’s time to look at the opportunities that are presenting themselves and to trust your internal guidance system to lead you forward.
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleGEMINI
You are moving forward fearlessly this month, Gemini. December is your month of love, passion, and dignity, and you are owning the light that you shine. We begin the month with the last Supermoon of the year, happening in your sign, and you are stepping up to the plate. You are showing up, owning how much you have grown this year, and allowing yourself to heal while also acknowledging that you have done your best and you deserve to have fun in the midst of the changes you are creating.
Mercury, your ruling planet, is officially out of retrograde, and you can use this energy to the fullest potential now. With Mercury in your 7th house of love, it’s time to speak from the heart and to talk about the things that matter and that are inspiring you right now to your loved ones. You never know what kind of epiphanies you may have when you open up the conversation to others. Before the month ends, you have a New Moon in this same love area of your chart, and this New Moon is all about manifesting romance, commitment, and abundance in your world.
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleCANCER
December is an opening for more love, more joy, and more freedom in your life, Cancer. You have come to a place where you hold so much gratitude in your heart for where you are today and where your heart is shining, and things come together for you with more ease right now. With the Sun in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines for most of the month, you are getting your ducks in a row while also putting more energy and effort into taking care of yourself, your priorities, and your well-being. This month surprises you in many ways, and it’s because you are showing up.
Mars and Venus both move into your house of love, relationships, marriage, and abundance this month, and you are making strides in your love life. You have both of these opposing forces on your side and are being recognized for the love you are while also receiving the love you want. This month, overall, is about focusing more on the positives in your world and letting your heart have its joy. Before December comes to an end, there is a New Moon in Sagittarius, and this is the perfect opportunity to create the plans you want to see through next year, especially when it comes to your work life, colleagues, business ventures, and health.
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleLEO
The scales of karma are balancing, and they are balancing in your favor this month, Leo. December is your month of truth, and of seeing it clearly in your world. The Sun is in your house of romance, pleasure, and happiness for most of the month, and it’s time to relax, be in the present moment, and allow what is meant to be, to be. With a Supermoon in your 11th house of manifestation as December begins, this is a powerful month for seeing your dreams come to fruition, and for feeling like the intentions you have set this year are finally here for you now.
Mars also moves into your 6th house mid-month, and this is the perfect energy to have to move into the new year. You have extra energy at your disposal right now and are feeling fearless with what is possible for you and your daily routine. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in a fellow fire sign, Sagittarius, and this is a breakthrough moment for you and your heart. December, overall, wants to show you how loved and supported you are and will be doing so in magical, unexpected, and concrete ways.
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleVIRGO
December is a month of victory, Virgo. You are showing up and experiencing some new successes in your world that move you forward on your path in life. With a Supermoon in your 10th house of career as we begin the month, the effort and intentions you have made this year come into full bloom, and you are being recognized for who you are and the good work you have done. This month is all about showing up and allowing yourself to be seen and loved, knowing that you deserve the support and opportunities you are receiving.
Mars moves into Capricorn on December 15, which brings the passion and excitement into your love life, hobbies, and little pleasures in life that light you up. You want to have fun this month and are going to be walking into the new year with this fearless, happy, and spontaneous energy within you. Before the month ends, Venus also enters Capricorn, and in this same area of your chart, you have a lot to look forward to and believe in right now. Overall, December wants you to be happy and will be doing everything possible to make that happen for you. This is your month to shine, Virgo.
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLIBRA
December is a month of opportunity for you, Libra. New doors open, and you are financially making breakthroughs this month because of it. December begins with a Supermoon in your 9th house, and you are getting a clearer view of where you have been making strides in your life and how it has all brought you here to this present moment of freedom. This month is showing you what happens when you are fearless with your purpose and when you believe in yourself and what you are worthy of.
Moving further into December, Mars moves into your 4th house of home and family mid-month, and you are closing out the year in your safe spaces. You are spending more time with your loved ones and taking the time to quiet your mind and listen to what your heart has been telling you. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, happening in an area of your life that deals with communication. This is a great time for getting the answers you have been looking for and for feeling more clear-headed and confident about the decisions you are making as you move into the new year.
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleSCORPIO
Patience is a virtue this month, Scorpio. December is all about remaining patient and vigilant with what you are creating in your world, and knowing that the universe has your back. It’s time to be reminded of the power of hope, and this month is an opening to greater clarity in your life. There is a lot of energy in your financial zones right now, and this is providing you with new opportunities and new insight; however, the speed at which things come about for you may feel daunting. Keep your head up and eyes focused on what you want and know that you are more than worthy of receiving it.
With Mercury in your 2nd house of income this month, December is a good time to plant new seeds and to think about where you want to be financially a month from now or even a year. This month is asking you to think bigger and to think more long-term so that you can set the appropriate plans into motion now. We also have a New Moon in your house of income before the month ends, and this is when you will see more of your dreams come to fruition in this area of your life, and have more opportunities to build. Overall, December will be teaching you a lot, Scorpio.
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleSAGITTARIUS
Sagittarius Season is here, and there is a lot in store for you this month, Sag. December is all about what you are dedicating yourself to. It’s about setting your intentions and putting the work in to back up your dreams, and about getting things in order so that when the new beginnings come, you are ready for them. The Sun and Venus are in your sign for most of this month, and there are a lot of eyes on you right now. You have the potential to create a new beginning for yourself, and it’s time to invest in yourself, your love life, and your dreams.
Mercury moves into Sagittarius on December 11, and this is giving you another opportunity to see through some of the plans that you had initiated in November. Mercury was retrograde in your sign last month, and there may have been some disruptions to your vision and plans for the future, and now this energy is turning around for you. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in Sagittarius, and you are walking through new doors fearlessly. You are catching others by surprise by your growth this month, and you are thinking a lot about your purpose, future, and plans for the new year.
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleCAPRICORN
December is all about the vision, Capricorn. You are moving through a lot of changes and transformations this month, yet they are giving you a chance at a new beginning in the process. You are focused more on the future and what goals you want to manifest for yourself right now, and are ready to let go of what hasn’t been working for you. With the Sun in your 12th house of closure for most of December, this is your time for healing, but remember, healing doesn’t have to be isolating or boring; you can thrive while you renew, and you are this month.
Mid-month, the excitement picks up for you, and you are feeling more energized than you have in a while. Mars moves into Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and you are being proactive with your goals, intentions, and passions. You are a force to be reckoned with this month, and you are making things happen for yourself with confidence. Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21 this year, and this is definitely speeding up your healing process. You are breaking free from what was, and with Venus also moving into Capricorn before the month ends, you are leaving this year in high spirits and with love opening a new door for you.
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleAQUARIUS
December is all about community, creativity, and manifestation, Aquarius. This is the month to work together with others to help bring your dreams to life. You are in a space of inspiration, empowerment, and beauty, and are creating more of this energy around you and in your world. Look out for what support comes your way this month and know that you don’t have to do everything alone to succeed. With the Sun in your 11th house of manifestation and friendship, your intentions are coming to fruition, and it’s time to celebrate with the people you love and to own how far you have come this year.
On December 19, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, lighting up your life in all of the best ways possible. This is your New Moon of freedom, victory, and magic, and you are seeing new beginnings appear that you were once just hoping for. Before the month comes to an end, Venus moves into your 12th house of closure, and after an active and successful month, you are ready to relax, heal, and give your heart some of the attention it has been asking for. You are moving into the new year with the need to release and renew what hasn’t been working in your relationships, and you are finally ready to.
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecolePISCES
December is a big month for you, Pisces. You are making some huge accomplishments this month, and are feeling like everything you have been through this year has been worth it for these moments that are coming to fruition for you now. The Sun is in your 10th house of career and reputation for most of the month, and this is where a lot of your focus is right now. You are claiming your successes and putting yourself out there in ways that not only serve you, but that inspire others as well.
Neptune officially goes direct on December 10, after being retrograde in your sign since July, and you are finally seeing things a little more clearly. You are feeling renewed inspiration and passion in your life, and your intuition is your strongest asset right now. Before December comes to an end, we also have a New Moon in your 10th house of career, and what happens now not only changes things for you in the present, but it also opens new doors and what is possible for you in the new year as well. Overall, you are on top of your game this month and are owning the joy and empowerment you feel.
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Oh, but there are plenty of people whose egos have them thinking that they can read someone else’s mind. Then there are others who have fantasies, which create unrealistic expectations that others in their lives actually should read their mind. And you know what — both of these things can cause unnecessary stress, drama, and trauma, if folks aren’t careful.
And that’s why I think it’s important that we unpack this a bit more. Because if you’re someone who thinks that if another person truly cares for you, they should be able to read your mind, it’s time to let that ridiculous yet semi-popular notion absolutely and completely go.
Here’s why.
It’s Scientifically Impossible for Someone to Read Your Mind
There are a couple of reasons why I am starting this off with R&B singer Avant. For one thing, I don’t think that he gets nearly enough flowers and secondly, clearly, this is a more-than-fitting song for today’s topic, wouldn’t you say? Because, lawd, there really is something that makes some of us feel all warm ‘n fuzzy about the mere thought of a man telling us that he is so in tuned with us that he can basically read our mind.
Hmph. Problem with that is, as I said in the intro, it is scientifically impossible (for us and for AI to do, praise the Lord!). And yet the fact that so many individuals think that they defy scientific data and research is oftentimes why there are so many breakdowns in communication — because if you run on assumption (that you can read someone’s mind) without clarification and confirmation, you can create issues that didn’t exist before you decided to fall for your own mind-reading theories.
Now to be fair, while science is still trying to figure out why we can’t read minds, what is sure is that we do have the capability to perceive the thoughts and actions of others if we’re willing to pay really close attention. However, do keep in mind that reading and perceiving are different. Reading? It’s about being able "to apprehend or interpret the meaning of" and "to anticipate, expect, or calculate by observation." Perceiving? It’s all about “to become aware of, know, or identify by means of the senses” and “to recognize, discern, envision, or understand.”
And already, do you see the differences? So much certainty comes with reading while perceiving is about humbling oneself (bookmark that) to not try to know everything but instead to try and understand what is transpiring. And since no one person (or their mind) is ever truly static, that is a huge part of the reason why believing that you can read someone’s mind — no matter how close you may be to them — is futile. You can change your mind on a dime. Others can do the same. Learning to perceive what is going on instead of assuming that you can “read” folks is far more beneficial.
Besides, you might be surprised by a particular demo who thinks that if you are truly who they need you to be, you will read their minds — and boy, once you know who they are, that may cure you of the whole “read your mind” ish…quick, fast and in a hurry.
The Expectation Is Oftentimes Rooted in Egomania
GiphyWhile doing a bit of research on this topic, I thought it was interesting that a particular type of person kept coming up. Can you guess which one? A NARCISSIST. What I kept noticing is a telling sign of a narcissistic individual is they expect others to read their mind.
I must admit that I was caught off guard by that at first because narcissists and their damn egos are so out of control (bookmark that) that it would seem like they would be more focused on acting like they know the thoughts of other people. Here’s the thing, though — the reason why narcissists want others to read their mind is because they want you to do things like guess what they want and need before they ask — and they want that to happen because they believe that they are so damn special that you should put in the extra blood, sweat and tears to figure it all out. Hmph. Now that tracks.
Another reason why narcissists want you to be able to read their mind is so they can manipulate and deflect. Meaning, if you say and do things based on what you thought they wanted you to, should everything crash and burn, they can dodge accountability and blame you for it. Hmm, does reading someone’s mind seem romantic and beautiful now? SMDH.
And again, all of this is tied to ego because, at the end of the day, mind-reading is a form of control and narcissists are definitely very controlling people. And honestly, mind-reading is as well because why do you even want to know someone’s private thoughts before they share them and, at the same time, why would you want someone to have that kind of power in your life either? “Eww” is what immediately comes to my mind. “Yuck” is what follows.
So, why is it that so many people think that it’s a good thing to have someone read their mind — I mean, the ones who don’t show narcissistic tendencies, that is? Good question.
5 Reasons Why Some People Wish Someone Would/Could Read Their Mind
GiphyOkay, so ego and pridefulness aside, what would be some other reasons why people think that it’s such a wonderful thing if someone who they are in some sort of intimate relationship with can read their mind.
1. They are caught up in Disney and rom-coms. One day, I am going to do an article on all of the ways that Disney and rom-coms have destroyed the reality of relationships. For now, I’ll just say that the scripted tales of both have caused a lot of people to think that if someone loves them, they should be able to read their mind. Nooo…if someone loves you, they should care to know what is on your mind. And that brings me to the second point.
2. They aren’t as good at communicating as they think. Are you a good communicator? One way to know if you are is you’re able to clearly articulate your wants and needs — because really, if you are able to do that, why should anyone even need to read your mind? Feel me? Let’s move on.
3. They want someone else to work harder at their relationships than they do. I say it in my sessions often — it’s beyond crazy to think that someone should work harder at figuring out what your wants, needs and expectations are than you are willing to express them. Hmph. It makes me think of a friend of mine who says that “should” is a dangerous word. What she means by that is saying that someone should do or not do something simply because YOU THINK that’s how it “should” go is a surefire way to stay disappointed and even be disillusioned. No, your man shouldn’t just know what you want every year for your birthday. Did you state it? If not, why aren’t you playing fair? Who has time for all of the guessing games and then getting penalized if they guess wrong? Stop it.
4. They think it’s the sign of a healthy relationship (it isn’t). Anyone who knows me knows that I am always and forever going to be Team Healthy over Team Happy and my reason why never changes. Only children expect to live in a world where they are happy all of the time — and yes, there are a lot of childish people out here. People who want their mind read? They tend to live in happy land. Meanwhile, a healthy relationship knows that clear communication, mutual respect, keen listening, patience and understanding that humans make mistakes are foundational to its success.
5. They are lazy. And yes y’all, some people want others to read their mind because they are lazy and it really is just as simple as that. Thing is, while they are being passive aggressive, dropping hints or giving the silent treatment so that you can figure out whatever it is that they…want you to figure out, that tends to take more effort than simply speaking up. Ridiculous, chile.
How to Let the Myth Go
GiphyGee, after reading all of this, suddenly reading minds just seems like a lot of silliness with a sprinkle of drama and potential trauma, doesn’t it? And it’s all because some people choose to treat something that is a myth like it’s a bona fide fact. SMDH.
And what if you happen to be one of those individuals? How do you break free? COMMUNICATE. Openly, clearly and maturely share what’s on your mind and heart because, the true tell of a solid relationship isn’t that someone can read your mind; it’s that they can retain what you’ve already stated.
Less reading. More perceiving. That’s the secret sauce.
And when you accept this for what it is, you will realize that it’s far better for you, your partner and your relationship to stop expecting the impossible and to accept what is actual: that learning your partner, as they strive to do the same thing with you, is better than you both assuming that you know what…maybe you do, maybe you don’t.
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Author Frank Sonnenberg once said, “People can’t hear what you don’t say. Thinking isn’t communicating” — and I think this is a perfect place to bring all of this to a close.
Find the kind of relationship(s) where intention is so strong that mind-reading isn’t even desired.
At the end of the day, it really is as simple as that.
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