How To Manifest The Life Of Your Dreams In 5 Steps
Manifestation can be as simple as just seeing what you want and believing that it will happen, but becoming a master manifestor involves more effort.
Repeating certain mantras and affirmations are great ways to manifest happenings in your world. These things engage the law of attraction. When you think about something enough, you end up actually attracting said things into your life.
What you constantly dwell on will be what you create in your reality.
Manifestation is the process of closing the gap between your desires and your reality. The fabric of our manifestations are being weaved together, even if it's outside of our realm of perception. The key is to set your intentions and remove any fear or impatience surrounding your goal. This read will show you how to manifest the things you need or desire in your life in five steps!
In order to become a Master Manifestor you must:
*Two important things you must remember is, that the day you plant the seed is not the same day you eat the fruit. And secondly, you must be able to realize when a manifestation has taken form. What you expect might not end up looking like what you thought. You have to be able to realize that what you have received is what you asked for.
Step 1: Proclaim or Ask
What are you setting your intentions on? Is it more money, a better job, a specific job title, or career change, a new relationship, or just more confidence? Do you have short-term goals and long-term goals? Whatever you are looking to manifest, you either have to ask the universe for it directly, or you must announce to the universe what it is you need it to provide. Say it out loud.
Words carry vibrations, and instructions.
If you speak your proclamations out loud, you send your direct intentions out into the universe like an order. Some orders are manifested instantly, and others take longer to be delivered. Depending on the perplexity of the intention, you must allow the universe to work its magic.
If you require a particular sum of money to open a business, proclaim:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I require [X amount of money] to start up my company."
Perhaps you are in need of a new living arrangement, proclaim:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, it is time for me to find a better living arrangement that serves my highest good at this present time."
If you would like to manifest something that is more arbitrary or inexact, and you don't know exactly what to ask for, then proclaim something like this, for example:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I proclaim that I will manifest more self-confidence, and I ask that you show me the way to achieve this." or "I wish to increase my visibility online, please provide a way."
Maybe you need to manifest spiritual growth, say:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I want to be more attuned and aligned so that I may be able to transmute negatives into positives more quickly, and with more ease."
Step 2: Visualize
This is a very important step because it is here where you engage your third eye and energetically cause your emotional, mental, and ethereal body to enter a vibration of what it is you want to manifest.
Think intensely on what you want to manifest. Get into a comfortable position, either sitting or lying down. Close your eyes and enter a meditative state. Go through some breathing exercises. Once you have become completely comfortable and aware of the heaviness of your entire body, shift your focus inward onto your third eye.
In this state of consciousness, paint a picture in your mind's eye of receiving that $X amount for your company. Maybe you receive a grant, a loan, or win the lottery. Imagine seeing that amount of money in your bank account. See yourself purchasing everything you need for your business. See the numbers on your brand account rising and rising to your goal. See yourself looking and feeling your best. Envision yourself on that very much-needed vacation.
If you are seeking to manifest a new relationship. See in your mind's eye meeting them for the first time. How familiar does this person's soul look when you stare in their eyes? Allow your higher self to guide you to any scenario. Imagine being a goofball with your partner, or dancing for your partner as they longingly gaze at you. Hear what their laugh sounds like. Feel how good it is to embrace them. Get very specific.
Once you are done, come out of that space and just buzz in the vibration you have created. In this daydream-like state, you may very well tap into future timelines of your manifestation.
Step 3: Affirm
In this step, you repeat affirming mantras about what it is you want to manifest. As mentioned above, words carry vibrations and instructions. Affirming your intentions are like sending them out into the universe with reinforcements. I like to categorize my affirmations into: Self, Love/Friendships, and Abundance.
Sit in the vibration of the first two steps, and try some of the following affirmations:
- Today, I choose me.
- I love my body and all it does for me.
- My inner world creates my outer world.
- I alone am whole.
- I have everything I need within myself.
- I have the power to change my world.
- I have much to celebrate about myself and my life.
- I choose to stop apologizing for being me.
- I let go of negative self-talk.
- I believe in me.
- I attract relationships to me that are for the highest good of all.
- I love sharing amazing conversations with my friends, family, and lover.
- I enjoy and thrive in the company of great friends.
- I love laughing and having fun in my relationships.
- I love that my relationships are in harmony with my highest good.
- I accept that I am loved and treasured for who I really AM.
- I give and receive love freely and fully in all my relationships.
- I love being supported by my friends, family, and relationships.
- I enjoy sharing the real me in relationships.
- I know with every fiber of my being that the Universe is bringing me only the most supportive, loving, and awesome relationships!
- I always have whatever I need. The Universe takes good care of me.
- Money flows in my life with abundance.
- All my actions lead to abundance and prosperity.
- The whole Universe and entire mankind is conspiring to make me prosperous and abundant.
- My job/business is an all consuming love affair and I attract whatever I need through it.
- I am thankful for the abundance and prosperity in my life.
- I allow all good things to come into my life and I enjoy them.
- Abundance and prosperity is my birthright and I have it.
- I was prosperous, I am prosperous, and I will always be prosperous.
- The Universe is my endless supply.
Step 4: Write it Down
Octavia Butler is one of the world's most successful Black women authors who wrote down all of her goals and aspirations by hand. She was VERY specific about every detail of everything she wanted to accomplish. She wrote down how she would be a bestselling author and listed multiple best sellers' lists. She wrote that her work would reach millions of people.
She wrote about her future goals to help young, disenfranchised Black youth. She unapologetically and sternly wrote down all of her convictions in a positive and all-knowing manner. She repeatedly wrote the powerful words: "I will find the way to do this. So be it! See to it!" It's important that you do the same when trying to manifest your best life so make sure to start your sentences with "I Am" and "I Will" and get as specific as you possibly can with your desires.
Btw, Octavia Butler fulfilled everything on her list!
Step 5: Act
Now that you have proclaimed or asked for, visualized, affirmed, and wrote your intentions down, it is time for you to act. The Bible says, "Faith without works is dead." Your actions should not be in a manner of force, fear, lack, or limit. They should be made in flow. You should not carry any resistance in your actions. If your business needs a business plan, just write it! The energy you put into creating this document will draw the right opportunities to you. Send that email or create that new blog.
If you are seeking unconditional love in a new relationship, treat yourself how you will your future partner. Do something nice for yourself. Take yourself on a date. Constantly pour love into yourself. Go with the flow of life. If you feel an urge to move to a new place, go to an event, or meet up with a new friend, just go.
Let your light shine. You'll never know that fulfillment of your manifestation is just on the other side of action.
Don't push or force anything, because you'll only invite the opposite of what you wish to manifest. Though the universe does send things your way, you must be willing to go out there and retrieve it. The universe gives you the waves of intuition and knowingness, but it's up to you to ride them.
If you do these things frequently, you will be manifesting in no time.
So what are you waiting for? Get to manifesting your best life!
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Exclusive: Gabrielle Union On Radical Transparency, Being Diagnosed With Perimenopause And Embracing What’s Next
Whenever Gabrielle Union graces the movie screen, she immediately commands attention. From her unforgettable scenes in films like Bring It On and Two Can Play That Game to her most recent film, in which she stars and produces Netflix’s The Perfect Find, there’s no denying that she is that girl.
Off-screen, she uses that power for good by sharing her trials and tribulations with other women in hopes of helping those who may be going through the same things or preventing them from experiencing them altogether. Recently, the Flawless by Gabrielle Union founder partnered with Clearblue to speak at the launch of their Menopause Stage Indicator, where she also shared her experience with being perimenopausal.
In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
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"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
Gabrielle Union and Kaavia Union-Wade
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“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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Victoria Monét has had an incredible year. Thanks to the success of the widely popular “On My Mama” that went viral, the singer/ songwriter’s Jaguar II album debuted in the top 10 of Billboard’s Top R&B Albums chart. She also went on to headline her own sold-out tour. So, when the MTV VMAs happened in September, everyone was surprised to learn that Victoria’s team was told that it was “too early” for the “Smoke” artist to perform at the award show. However, a couple of months later, the mom of one received seven Grammy nominations, including “Best R&B Album” and “Record Of The Year.”
Victoria is currently in London and stopped by The Dotty Show on Apple Music and shared how she feels “validated” after being dismissed by the VMAs.
“It really does feel nice and validating because, in my head, the reason why I wanted to be a performer at the VMAs or award ceremonies like that is because I felt like I am at the place where I should. I would work really hard to put on the best show that I could, and I was excited to do so,” she said.
“And I guess the best way to describe it for me is like when you're like on a sports team, and the coach is like, ‘No, you gotta sit this one out.’ When they finally put you in, and then you score all these points, and it feels like that feeling. You're like, yes, I knew it wasn't tripping, but I knew I worked hard for this, and so it's been super validating to just have these accolades come after a moment like that, and I know the fans feel vindicated for me.
While her fans called the VMAs out on their decision, the “Moment” singer kept it cute and is still open to performing at the iconic award show. “I feel no ill towards them because it's just maybe that's just truly how they felt at the time, but I hope their mind has changed,” she admitted.
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