How To Manifest The Life Of Your Dreams In 5 Steps
Manifestation can be as simple as just seeing what you want and believing that it will happen, but becoming a master manifestor involves more effort.
Repeating certain mantras and affirmations are great ways to manifest happenings in your world. These things engage the law of attraction. When you think about something enough, you end up actually attracting said things into your life.
What you constantly dwell on will be what you create in your reality.
Manifestation is the process of closing the gap between your desires and your reality. The fabric of our manifestations are being weaved together, even if it's outside of our realm of perception. The key is to set your intentions and remove any fear or impatience surrounding your goal. This read will show you how to manifest the things you need or desire in your life in five steps!
In order to become a Master Manifestor you must:
*Two important things you must remember is, that the day you plant the seed is not the same day you eat the fruit. And secondly, you must be able to realize when a manifestation has taken form. What you expect might not end up looking like what you thought. You have to be able to realize that what you have received is what you asked for.
Step 1: Proclaim or Ask
What are you setting your intentions on? Is it more money, a better job, a specific job title, or career change, a new relationship, or just more confidence? Do you have short-term goals and long-term goals? Whatever you are looking to manifest, you either have to ask the universe for it directly, or you must announce to the universe what it is you need it to provide. Say it out loud.
Words carry vibrations, and instructions.
If you speak your proclamations out loud, you send your direct intentions out into the universe like an order. Some orders are manifested instantly, and others take longer to be delivered. Depending on the perplexity of the intention, you must allow the universe to work its magic.
If you require a particular sum of money to open a business, proclaim:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I require [X amount of money] to start up my company."
Perhaps you are in need of a new living arrangement, proclaim:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, it is time for me to find a better living arrangement that serves my highest good at this present time."
If you would like to manifest something that is more arbitrary or inexact, and you don't know exactly what to ask for, then proclaim something like this, for example:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I proclaim that I will manifest more self-confidence, and I ask that you show me the way to achieve this." or "I wish to increase my visibility online, please provide a way."
Maybe you need to manifest spiritual growth, say:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I want to be more attuned and aligned so that I may be able to transmute negatives into positives more quickly, and with more ease."
Step 2: Visualize
This is a very important step because it is here where you engage your third eye and energetically cause your emotional, mental, and ethereal body to enter a vibration of what it is you want to manifest.
Think intensely on what you want to manifest. Get into a comfortable position, either sitting or lying down. Close your eyes and enter a meditative state. Go through some breathing exercises. Once you have become completely comfortable and aware of the heaviness of your entire body, shift your focus inward onto your third eye.
In this state of consciousness, paint a picture in your mind's eye of receiving that $X amount for your company. Maybe you receive a grant, a loan, or win the lottery. Imagine seeing that amount of money in your bank account. See yourself purchasing everything you need for your business. See the numbers on your brand account rising and rising to your goal. See yourself looking and feeling your best. Envision yourself on that very much-needed vacation.
If you are seeking to manifest a new relationship. See in your mind's eye meeting them for the first time. How familiar does this person's soul look when you stare in their eyes? Allow your higher self to guide you to any scenario. Imagine being a goofball with your partner, or dancing for your partner as they longingly gaze at you. Hear what their laugh sounds like. Feel how good it is to embrace them. Get very specific.
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Once you are done, come out of that space and just buzz in the vibration you have created. In this daydream-like state, you may very well tap into future timelines of your manifestation.
Step 3: Affirm
In this step, you repeat affirming mantras about what it is you want to manifest. As mentioned above, words carry vibrations and instructions. Affirming your intentions are like sending them out into the universe with reinforcements. I like to categorize my affirmations into: Self, Love/Friendships, and Abundance.
Sit in the vibration of the first two steps, and try some of the following affirmations:
Self-Love
- Today, I choose me.
- I love my body and all it does for me.
- My inner world creates my outer world.
- I alone am whole.
- I have everything I need within myself.
- I have the power to change my world.
- I have much to celebrate about myself and my life.
- I choose to stop apologizing for being me.
- I let go of negative self-talk.
- I believe in me.
Love/Friendships
- I attract relationships to me that are for the highest good of all.
- I love sharing amazing conversations with my friends, family, and lover.
- I enjoy and thrive in the company of great friends.
- I love laughing and having fun in my relationships.
- I love that my relationships are in harmony with my highest good.
- I accept that I am loved and treasured for who I really AM.
- I give and receive love freely and fully in all my relationships.
- I love being supported by my friends, family, and relationships.
- I enjoy sharing the real me in relationships.
- I know with every fiber of my being that the Universe is bringing me only the most supportive, loving, and awesome relationships!
Abundance
- I always have whatever I need. The Universe takes good care of me.
- Money flows in my life with abundance.
- All my actions lead to abundance and prosperity.
- The whole Universe and entire mankind is conspiring to make me prosperous and abundant.
- My job/business is an all consuming love affair and I attract whatever I need through it.
- I am thankful for the abundance and prosperity in my life.
- I allow all good things to come into my life and I enjoy them.
- Abundance and prosperity is my birthright and I have it.
- I was prosperous, I am prosperous, and I will always be prosperous.
- The Universe is my endless supply.
Step 4: Write it Down
Octavia Butler is one of the world's most successful Black women authors who wrote down all of her goals and aspirations by hand. She was VERY specific about every detail of everything she wanted to accomplish. She wrote down how she would be a bestselling author and listed multiple best sellers' lists. She wrote that her work would reach millions of people.
She wrote about her future goals to help young, disenfranchised Black youth. She unapologetically and sternly wrote down all of her convictions in a positive and all-knowing manner. She repeatedly wrote the powerful words: "I will find the way to do this. So be it! See to it!" It's important that you do the same when trying to manifest your best life so make sure to start your sentences with "I Am" and "I Will" and get as specific as you possibly can with your desires.
Related: How To Write A Letter To Your Future Husband & Attract Your Highest Partner
Btw, Octavia Butler fulfilled everything on her list!
Step 5: Act
Now that you have proclaimed or asked for, visualized, affirmed, and wrote your intentions down, it is time for you to act. The Bible says, "Faith without works is dead." Your actions should not be in a manner of force, fear, lack, or limit. They should be made in flow. You should not carry any resistance in your actions. If your business needs a business plan, just write it! The energy you put into creating this document will draw the right opportunities to you. Send that email or create that new blog.
If you are seeking unconditional love in a new relationship, treat yourself how you will your future partner. Do something nice for yourself. Take yourself on a date. Constantly pour love into yourself. Go with the flow of life. If you feel an urge to move to a new place, go to an event, or meet up with a new friend, just go.
Let your light shine. You'll never know that fulfillment of your manifestation is just on the other side of action.
Don't push or force anything, because you'll only invite the opposite of what you wish to manifest. Though the universe does send things your way, you must be willing to go out there and retrieve it. The universe gives you the waves of intuition and knowingness, but it's up to you to ride them.
If you do these things frequently, you will be manifesting in no time.
So what are you waiting for? Get to manifesting your best life!
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It’s been nearly twenty years since India.Arie’s crown anthem, “I am not my hair,” gave Black women an affirmation to live by. What followed was a natural hair revolution that birthed a new level of self-love and acceptance. Concerns around how to better care for our hair birthed an entire new generation of entrepreneurs who benefitted from the power of the Black dollar. Retailers made room for product lines made for us, by us, on their shelves, and we further affirmed that though our hair doesn’t define us, it is part of our unique self-expression.
Today, that movement has turned into a wig uprising where Black women are able to experiment with colors, styles, and more without causing irreparable damage to our hair. It could even be said that we’ve arrived at a new level of acceptance: one that does not equate love of oneself to one’s willingness or lack thereof to wear her hair the way others deem acceptable. Not even other people who look like us.
However, as with Blackness itself, the issue of Black women’s hair is layered.
On the surface, it’s nothing more than a matter of personal preference. However, in a deeper dive, issues of texture, curl pattern, and of course, proximity to social acceptance, as well as other runoff streams from the waters of racism and patriarchy, rear their heads. The natural hair movement, though a wide-reaching and liberating community builder, also gave way to colorism and often upheld mainstream beauty standards.
Sometimes, favoring lighter-skinned influencers/creators with very specific hair textures, the white gaze leaked into our safe space and forced us to reckon with it. Accurate representations of natural hair in various states of being—undefined curls, kinks, and unlaid edges—are still absent from brand marketing. Protective styles, though intended to provide breaks from styling for our sensitive hair, have become a mask to help our hair be more palatable. A figurative straddle of the fence in order to appease the comfort of others in the face of our hair’s power.
And then there’s the issue of length.
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As a woman who has spent much of the last decade voluntarily wearing her hair in many variations of short hairstyles, from a pixie cut to a curly fro and a sleek bob, what I’ve gleaned throughout the years is that there is a glaring difference between how I am treated when wearing my hair short than when I opt for weaves, extensions or even grow it out slightly longer than my chin.
The differential treatment comes from women and men alike and spans professional and personal settings, including friends, coworkers, and industry peers.
What has become abundantly clear is that long hair is often conflated with beauty, softness, and any number of other words we relate to femininity in a way that short hair is not. That perceived marker of the essence of womanhood shows up in how I am received, communicated with, and complimented.
Even more so than texture, length has a way of deciding who among us is deserving of our attention, affection, and adoration. Whether naturally grown or proudly bought, the commentary around someone’s look or image greatly shifts when “inches” are present.
When it comes to long hair, we really, really do care.
In an effort to understand whether I had simply been misinterpreting the energy around my hair, I decided to take my findings to social media. I began with two side-by-side photos of myself. In both pictures, my hair is straightened; however, in one, I am wearing my signature pixie cut, and in the other, I am wearing extensions.
I posited that treatment based on hair length is a real thing, and what followed was confirmation that I was not alone in my feelings. “Long hair, like light skin, button noses, and being thin are all forms of social capital,” one user commented. “Some Black women enforce the status quo too, why wouldn’t we?”
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This also brought to mind the many times celebrity women (like most recently Beyoncé's Cécred hair tutorial) have done big reveals of their own natural tresses in an attempt to silence any doubt that Black women are able to grow their hair beyond a certain length. Of course, we all know that to be true, so why do we still feel the need to prove it so?
The responses continued to pour in from women of all skin tones, who felt that hair length played a role in people’s treatment of them. “When I have short hair I always feel like people don’t treat me like a woman, they treat me like a kid,” another user commented. “When my hair is long I get a lot more respect for some reason.”
From revelations about feeling invisible to admitted shifts in their own perceived beauty, Black woman after Black woman poured out her experience as it relates to hair length. Though affirmed by their shared realities, knowing that reactions to something so trivial have become yet another hair battle for Black women to fight was disheartening. Though we continue to defy gravity and push the bounds of imagination and creativity by way of our strands, will it always be in response to the idea that we are, somehow, falling short?
Unlike more obvious instances of hair discrimination, the glorification of longer length is sneakier in its connection to Eurocentric beauty standards. Hair commercials, beauty ads, and even hip-hop music have long celebrated the idea of gloriously long tresses while holding onto the ignorant notion that it is inaccessible for Black women.
Even as we continue to fight to prove our hair professional, elegant, and worthy in its natural state to the world at large, we’ve also adopted harmful value markers of our own as a community. It’s evident in how we talk about who has the right to start a haircare line and which influencers we easily platform. It’s evident in the language we use to identify those with long hair versus short hair. And it’s painfully obvious in how we treat one another.
It makes me wonder if India.Arie’s brave rallying cry, almost two decades old in its existence, will ever actually hold true for us. Or will we just continue to invent new ways to uphold the harmful status quo?
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