The Personality & Love Compatibility Of An Aquarius, Explained.
Born between January 20th and February 18th, Aquarius, a fixed Air sign, is the highest expression of its element. Highly intelligent, these individuals enjoy discussing a wide array of topics from human rights, extraterrestrial encounters, and conspiracy theories. Typically, there are two starkly different expressions of Aquarius—one being the Saturnian, conservative type and the other being the "Wild Child" archetype influenced by its modern ruler Uranus.
As a masculine sign, they have no problem taking the lead whether in their professional affairs or within their relationships. A bit of a control freak, it's important for Aquarius to give others the opportunity to take the reins. Their uncompromising nature can often result in them isolating themselves from others—especially those that they perceive as a threat to their authority.
As the 11th sign of the zodiac, Aquarius represents the voice of collective in contrast to its opposite sign, Leo, which prizes individuality. Although these friendly Air signs enjoy being a part of a group they often find themselves struggling to feel at home amongst their social network. From an early age, Aquarius is keenly aware of just how different they are from their peers which often contributes to feelings of loneliness.
Growing up, there could have been very strict, demanding, and critical influences that made it difficult for them to express their individuality. And if ever there was a display of sovereignty, severe punishment was often the result. Once the Aquarius becomes an adult, they can be quite rebellious as they carve out space for themselves in the world.
Aquarius Zodiac Sign: An Overview
Physiologically, Aquarius rules the calves, ankles, and shins granting many of them long, slender legs (particularly those with Aquarius Rising). In addition to the legs, they are also associated with the circulatory system. Generally, their body temperature can run pretty cold which is why they prefer warmer climates. In the cold seasons, you can usually spot them bundled up in an impressive amount of layers. Depending on what end of the spectrum they're on, you'll either find them dressed down in a simple attire of fashioned in dramatic colors, prints, and textures that make them look like a walking textile factory.
As important as setting themselves apart is for some Aquarians, they are ultimately a woman/man of the people.
Although their motivations aren't typically fueled by their emotions, their strong conviction in what is best for ALL of humankind often positions them as activists, humanitarians, and thought-leaders. Naturally inquisitive, they seek to understand what connects us all at a core level. Given their organizational abilities, Aquarius can easily gather others together for a common cause that can ultimately impact some changes—whether on a small or grand scale.
Aquarius Best & Worst Personality Traits
Best Aquarius Personality Traits:
- Inquisitive
- Humane
- Original
- Systematic
Worst Aquarius Personality Traits:
- Temperamental
- Aloof
- Uncompromising
Aquarius in Career
Ruled by Uranus, Aquarians are drawn to the world of IT and inventions. Their progressive mindset positions them to be on the leading edge of new breakthroughs not only in the tech industry but in the field of science as well. Given their altruistic nature you can easily find them working in a lab to find a cure for cancer. Due to their clearly defined beliefs of what is right and wrong, they typically bode well in positions of influence such as politics, social work, and teaching.
As a future-oriented zodiac sign, Aquarians tend to consider how they can impact generations to come. "Each one teach one" is a motto that they put into action whether they are formally guiding others or just setting an example amongst their peers. Their motivation to improve the lives of disenfranchised groups can lead them to philanthropic efforts as well.
Aquarius in Love
With an Aquarius, or any sign, it's important to learn their love language. As a masculine Air sign, this isn't the most emotionally expressive zodiac sign (although you'd be surprised by the chaos that is underneath the surface of their steely-eyed gaze). Sometimes referred to as the Ice Queen/King, it can take a little time for them to warm up to a new suitor. In the earlier stages of a connection, they're enticed by the idea of picking someone's brain to figure out who they're dealing with. The road to intimacy is a well thought-out process so you can forget about this sign falling head over heels for you (unless they have some prominent Water or Fire placements in their chart).
Oftentimes, it's common for an Aquarius to end up pursuing a relationship with a long-time friend. They like to know that there is common ground between them and their partner that isn't solely based on a physical attraction or the oh so dreaded feelings. Sometimes they can send mixed signals in an attempt to create emotional distance and to emphasize their independence. If they're not careful, someone can easily take their approach as a lack of interest.
The more Saturnian Aquarians like to take things slow and can easily shy away from dramatic displays of affection. If you're coupled up with one of these types, acts of service may be one of their love languages. On the other hand, the charismatic Uranian Aquarians typically have many varied types of friends. Even when they break things off with a romantic interest, they don't have a problem maintaining a platonic connection. Generally, other Air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) and Aries and Sagittarius are good matches for this rebellious genius.
Famous Aquarius Celebs
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- Megan Thee Stallion
- The Weeknd
- Oprah Winfrey
- Michael Jordan
- Kelly Rowland
- Kerry Washington
- Brandy
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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