Even though I am dating a Virgo now, for a while, I vowed that I would never date a Virgo. My sister is a Virgo, and although we get along now, we fought and bickered when we were younger. Even more so, although I love my sister to death, we are two totally different people and I could never imagine myself romantically linked to anyone with the same personality. I'm a Gemini and from my experience, Geminis and Virgos don't pair well together. Having a sister as a Virgo is one thing, but the idea of dating a Virgo - those insanely blunt, perfectionists - was a complete 'hell no.'
Similar to reading your horoscope for love or for fun, there is a lot that your zodiac sign can tell you about yourself when it comes down to your work ethic and professional behavior. Now, I'm not saying that you should make all of your career and work choices based off of astrology, but after speaking with Astrologer Mecca Woods of mylifecreated.com, I have learned that there is so much that we can learn about our work behavior by just being knowledgeable about our zodiac sign.
Astrologer, Mecca WoodsCourtesy of Mecca Woods
As Mecca told me, “By looking at a your birth chart (which is kind of like a cosmic map or blueprint to who you are individually) you can see the kind of career you might pursue, your natural born talents or gifts, what kind of work environment you would thrive in, and the kind you would run from."
Even more, depending on our sign and birth chart, the time of the year when our work ethic is the weakest can be determined. According to Mecca, “In astrology when the planets move through water signs, it's usually a time when people seem to be more low-key and less active. Those times of the year marked by the Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces seasons are when we tend to need more rest and privacy than usual. This is because the element of water in astrology tends to absorb whatever it comes in contact with and frequently needs periods of solitude/recharging in order to avoid burnout."
"When we're in these seasons many of us will be feeling the same way. Plus, water is a 'go with the flow' kind of energy. It's hard to buckle down and barrel through assignments under its influence."
I recently came across an astrological sign list by the University of California, Davis. Listed below, I have gathered the pros and cons of each sign, and I've listed how this can relate to a person's work ethic or behavior.
Also, don't mind the Beyoncé-inspired zodiac signs. I'm a proud member of the Beyhive.
The Work Ethic of an Aries (March 21 - April 20)
Pros: Adventurous, energetic, confident, and enthusiastic
Cons: Selfish, impatient, quick-tempered, and impulsive
In the workplace: You don't have to tell an Aries that they are the shit, because they know it. It's very refreshing to work with Aries because they have so much energy and their joyful attitude is refreshing to be around. However, their joyous attitude won't lasts long if you irritate them. Because they can be easy to anger, nagging them or not trusting their work is an easy way to turn an Aries employee off.
The Work Ethic of a Taurus (April 21 - May 20)
Pros: Patient, persistent, reliable, and warm-hearted
Cons: Jealous, resentful, possessive, and resentful
In the workplace: The Taurus employee is an ideal manager because they are kind and patient, which are two major qualities to have if you are a leader in the workplace. On the flip side, when you cross a Taurus, forgiveness won't come easy and this type of bad energy can bring negativity to the workplace.
The Work Ethic of a Gemini (May 21 - June 21)
Pros: Adaptable, lively, communicative, and versatile
Cons: Nervous, tense, and cunning
In the workplace: People say that Geminis are moody because of the dual personalities, but a Gemini's personality is just the best of both worlds. Geminis are amazing to work with because they have a natural ability to adapt to all types of people. Also, they are a likeable bunch and are natural leaders. However, Geminis can easily jump to conclusions and sometimes freak out at the slightest inclination of trouble.
The Work Ethic of a Cancer (June 22 - July 22)
Pros: Intuitive, imaginative, cautious, and sympathetic
Cons: Changeable, moody, and over-emotional
In the workplace: Cancers are naturally creatives and are great to include on brainstorming teams. Because of their nurturing personalities, Cancers are most likely able to make a positive impact in an organization. On the flip side, Cancers can be very moody and over-emotional at times because of their sensitive nature.
The Work Ethic of a Leo (July 23 - August 21)
Pros: Generous, creative, enthusiastic, faithful
Cons: Bossy, patronizing, and interfering
In the workplace: Leos are very energetic and when on a team, they are able to keep everyone pumped up and focused. It is not second nature for a Leo employee to take the lead in any situation, however, sometimes their take-charge personality can be taken off as bossy and demanding, and can be a turn-off to other employees.
The Work Ethic of a Virgo (August 22 - September 23)
Pros: Meticulous, reliable, practical, and analytical
Cons: Overly critical, perfectionist, and harsh
In the workplace: Virgos are very analytical, so they work well on projects that require detail-oriented characteristics. Because they are perfectionists, you can count on Virgos to get their job done well, with minor errors. On the flip side, sometimes their perfectionist mindset can come off as tense and demanding. When working with others that are not as detailed-oriented and analytical, Virgos unconsciously are overly critical and judging.
The Work Ethic of a Libra (September 24 - October 23)
Pros: Charming, easy-going, peaceful, and diplomatic
Cons: Indecisive, gullible, and easily influenced
In the workplace: Libras are one of the easiest types of people to work with because of their “go with the flow" attitude. Libras are known to exude positive energy and this can be felt among their peers, bosses, and clients. Because Libras seek peace and not conflict, at times they can easily be influenced and fail to voice their opinions.
The Work Ethic of a Scorpio (October 24 - November 22)
Pros: Passionate, magnetic, emotional, and determined
Cons: Secretive, obsessive, and resentful
In the workplace: Scorpios are very ambitious and driven. When a Scorpio has a goal, they will work hard and nonstop to achieve that goal. Sometimes because of their “can't stop, won't stop" attitude, they can be considered as opportunists. Also, once you cross a Scorpio, they can be unforgiving and can hold grudges.
The Work Ethic of a Sagittarius (November 23 - December 22)
Pros: Optimistic, good-humored, and honest
Cons: Careless, irresponsible, and tactless
In the workplace: Sagittarius employees see the good in others and are natural motivators. They possess a positive attitude and thrive in making others happy. However, because they work hard at being good stewards to others, sometimes their execution in handling projects isn't well thought through. They are also sometimes perceived as irresponsible because of their lack of direction for large-scaled, detailed projects.
The Work Ethic of a Capricorn (December 23 - January 20)
Pros: Practical, ambitious, and disciplined
Cons: Lack of imagination, grudging, and pessimistic
In the workplace: Capricorns are the ideal leaders in the workplace because they are self-disciplined, pragmatic, and go-getters. They work well in operational type roles because they can easily manage different types of projects and people. However, because of their straight-forward attitude, they can come off as too blunt at times.
The Work Ethic of an Aquarius (January 21 - February 19)
Pros: Friendly, honest, loyal, and independent
Cons: Unpredictable, unemotional, and detached
In the workplace: Aquarius' work well in teams and as individuals. They are also very trustworthy and believe in being loyal to the people around them. On the contrary, Aquarius' can sometimes lack empathy for others and can come off as distant when they get in their zone.
The Work Ethic of a Pisces (February 20 - March 20)
Pros: Imaginative, compassionate, and selfless
Cons: Vague, easily-led, and weak-willed
In the workplace: Because of their compassionate and selfless attitude, Pisces are great to work with because they are very likeable. They are creative spirits, and easily inspires those around them. On the flip side, Pisces fail at standing up for themselves and are sometimes easily talked into situations that they may not wholeheartedly agree with.
Whether or not you are an astrology lover, your zodiac sign can disclose a lot about your work personality and those around you.
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Our teeth are connected to so many things - our nutrition, our confidence, and our overall mood. We often take for granted how important healthy teeth are, until issues like tooth sensitivity or gum recession come to remind us. Like most things related to our bodies, prevention is the best medicine. Here are five things you can do immediately to improve your oral hygiene, prevent tooth sensitivity, and avoid dental issues down the road.
1) Go Easy On the Rough Brushing: Brushing your teeth is and always will be priority number one in the oral hygiene department. No surprises there! However, there is such a thing as applying too much pressure when brushing…and that can lead to problems over time. Use a toothbrush with soft bristles and brush in smooth, circular motions. It may seem counterintuitive, but a gentle approach to brushing is the most effective way to clean those pearly whites without wearing away enamel and exposing sensitive areas of the teeth.
2) Use A Desensitizing Toothpaste: As everyone knows, mouth pain can be highly uncomfortable; but tooth sensitivity is a whole different beast. Hot weather favorites like ice cream and popsicles have the ability to trigger tooth sensitivity, which might make you want to stay away from icy foods altogether. But as always, prevention is the best medicine here. Switching to a toothpaste like Sensodyne’s Sensitivity & Gum toothpaste specifically designed for sensitive teeth will help build a protective layer over sensitive areas of the tooth. Over time, those sharp sensations that occur with extremely cold foods will subside, and you’ll be back to treating yourself to your icy faves like this one!
3) Floss, Rinse, Brush. (And In That Order!): Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s not what you do, but how you do it”? Well, the same thing applies to taking care of your teeth. Even if you are flossing and brushing religiously, you could be missing out on some of the benefits simply because you aren’t doing so in the right order. Flossing is best to do before brushing because it removes food particles and plaque from places your toothbrush can’t reach. After a proper flossing sesh, it is important to rinse out your mouth with water after. Finally, you can whip out your toothbrush and get to brushing. Though many of us commonly rinse with water after brushing to remove excess toothpaste, it may not be the best thing for our teeth. That’s because fluoride, the active ingredient in toothpaste that protects your enamel, works best when it gets to sit on the teeth and continue working its magic. Rinsing with water after brushing doesn’t let the toothpaste go to work like it really can. Changing up your order may take some getting used to, but over time, you’ll see the difference.
4) Stay Hydrated: Upping your water supply is a no-fail way to level up your health overall, and your teeth are no exception to this rule. Drinking water not only helps maintain a healthy pH balance in your mouth, but it also washes away residue and acids that can cause enamel erosion. It also helps you steer clear of dry mouth, which is a gateway to bad breath. And who needs that?
5) Show Your Gums Some Love: When it comes to improving your smile, you may be laser-focused on getting your teeth whiter, straighter, and overall healthier. Rightfully so, as these are all attributes of a megawatt smile; but you certainly don’t want to leave gum health out of the equation. If you neglect your gums, you’ll start to notice the effects of plaque buildup, which can irritate the gums and cause gingivitis, the earliest stage of gum disease. Seeing blood while brushing and flossing is a tell-tale sign that your gums are suffering. You may also experience gum recession — a condition where the gum tissue surrounding your teeth pulls back, exposing more of your tooth. Brushing at least twice a day with a gum-protecting toothpaste like Sensodyne Sensitivity and Gum, coupled with regular dentist visits, will keep your gums shining as bright as those pearly whites.
Imma tell y’all what — it seems like not one week goes by when I don’t see some sort of so-called term that has me like, “What in the world?” For instance, when I first stumbled upon “self-partnering,” honestly, I laughed. Then shared it with some other single people as well as married folks I know. And I kid you not, every individual was like, “What the heck does that mean?” When I told them that it was yet, one more way to seemingly define single living, basically everyone’s follow-up was, “Oh, brother.”
Why can’t (more) singles just be single and be okay with that? Good Lord. Why does there need to be some sort of relational play-on-words to make it sound like we’re with someone — even if we’re not?
Now masturdating? Even though it’s not even close to being a “real” word, it’s something that also brought a laugh outta me — although it was then followed by a genuine smile. The laugh because I almost immediately caught the play-on-words. The smile was due to the intention behind it all.
If you’re not familiar with what masturdating is and you’re curious about why you should even care, take a few moments to at least skim through what it’s about and why I think participating, as a single person, is a pretty cool (and effective) concept.
Masturdate: a date w oneself
What’s Masturdating All About?
Masturdating. Okay, so let the word marinate for just a moment. What does it sound like? Yeah…exactly. And since a huge part of masturbation centers around self-pleasure, it’s cool to explore how “self-dating” could produce similar (as far as pleasure is concerned in a broader sense) results. Because masturdating is all about spending quality time with yourself, pampering yourself, treating yourself— and yes, taking yourself out on dates.
Any of you who may think that masturdating is a consolation prize — and a pitiful one at that — for not being able to go out with another human being or get that dream $200 first date that social media was all in a tizzy about last year (bookmark that) — personally, I think that you’re the demographic who needs to try out masturdating first and the most. Why? Off top, I’ll share my three good reasons.
3 Reasons To Strongly Consider Masturdating
1. It’s an intimate way to get to know yourself better. I’ve been working with couples for a pretty long time at this point and if there’s a pattern that I see arise, OFTEN, it’s that two people are oftentimes so busy trying to “find their person” that they didn’t even know who they were. As a direct result, they found themselves in a relationship with someone who only complemented the “kiddie pool version” of who they were.
That’s why it can be so beneficial to spend time getting to know yourself on the “deep end” of things: what makes you tick, what your passions are, what you want most out of life, what are your interests beyond obvious things — and masturdating can help you to discover all of this. Whether it’s traveling alone or taking out a weekend to drink some wine and journal, the more you get to know yourself, the clearer you’ll be about who complements you on a romantic and friendship level.
2. It will definitely help to boost your confidence levels. I guess since I’m an ambivert, I don’t really get why people freak out at the mere thought of going to a restaurant or movie alone. Personally, I think it requires a helluva lot more energy and gumption to wait around and plan stuff with other people (#Elmoshrug). However, whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert, there’s no way around the fact that the more comfortable you get with doing things alone, the more your confidence levels will increase — no, soar — because of it.
One article that I read on the topic said that doing things alone can make you more creative, improve your mental health, and help you to be totally okay with being alone (so that you’re not “needy” for other people’s attention). A psychotherapist from a New York Times article on the benefits of spending time alone said, “Getting better at identifying moments when we need solitude to recharge and reflect can help us better handle negative emotions and experiences, like stress and burnout.” And when you’re able to stare negativity in its face without flinching, how could that not make you bolder, more self-secure, and hopeful about your life?
3. It will teach you to value your time more effectively. In every facet of your world, you’re gonna operate from a healthier place if you’re operating from a “full cup” rather than an empty one. When it comes to this topic, think about it — if you’re constantly waiting on someone to call you to go out or wishing for a dream date with some guy, all you’re doing is wasting precious time that you could be spending taking a cooking class or hell, hiring a chef to make you dinner at your own home.
Indeed, waiting has two sides to it: when it’s in the form of patience, it is indeed a virtue, yet when it’s wrapped up in the notion that you’re not really living life unless you have an audience…it is totally working against you. Choose wisely.
10 Solo Date Ideas To Help You To “Master” Masturdating
So, what if you’re someone who has either never considered actually masturdating before or you don’t really know what to do beyond dinner and the movies? Here are a few ideas to consider:
1. Attend a workshop or masterclass that you’re interested in. If there’s something that you’ve always wanted to learn, sign up for a workshop or masterclass. The cool thing about this option is there are probably some in your city, as well as some that you can find online (like here) that are convenient and affordable.
2. Binge-read at a local coffee shop. Aside from their coziness and oftentimes inviting scents, I once read that a lot of us gravitate to coffee shops because we can be around people without having to actually socialize with them. So, if you want to “hang out” while still being able to enjoy a bit of solitude, take a book that you’ve been trying to finish to a local coffee shop, order your favorite latte, and sit in a big-ass comfy chair. Usually, you can sit there for hours, and the staff will be just fine with it (another bonus).
3. Have a spa day in the next town. You can never go wrong with a spa day. And while going with a friend can be fun, sometimes there’s too much talking transpiring to be able to fully chill out and relax. So, go off of the grid, get a change of scenery, and hit up a spa in the next city (or town). There are lots of studies out here supporting that day trips or “daycations” can actually be really good for your long-term health and well-being.
4. See a community play. Some of the best solo dates that I’ve ever been on consisted of taking in some of the local arts in my city. What’s really cool about this particular option is, oftentimes, they are extremely inexpensive, if not totally free of charge (in exchange for making a donation or putting money into a tip jar).
5. Plan a trip. Whenever people say something along the lines of, “If you don’t expect anything, you won’t be disappointed,” I know that they low-key have some (additional) healing to do from past disappointments. There’s simply too much intel out here to support that anticipation (of good stuff) makes us more motivated and optimistic, keeps our dopamine levels up, and makes life more exciting overall.
Since traveling alone is more cost-effective, gives you the freedom to do whatever you want (when you want), and increases the possibility of meeting new people and having new experiences on your journey — why not devote a day this weekend to planning a solo trip? All the way around, it’s good for you.
6. Try your hand at your own “$200 date.” Uh-huh. Roll your eyes if you want to, but it’s real easy to talk left about how a man should be able to just drop $200 like it’s nothing…until you actually try to do it. So yes, while taking yourself out on this type of date could serve as a bit of a reality check, it can also “scratch the itch” of waiting on some dude to do it for you. It’s also way less emotionally draining because, at least when you’re taking your own self out, it’s guaranteed that you’ll enjoy the company…right?
7. DIY some pampering. When you get a chance, check out “5 Reasons You Should Unapologetically Pamper Yourself,” “Want To Love On Yourself? Try These 10 Things At Home.,” “I’ve Got Some Ways For You To Start Pampering Your Soul,” and “When's The Last Time You Actually Pampered Your Vagina?” The bottom line here is pampering is all about, not mere self-maintenance; it’s all about treating yourself to levels of EXTREME SELF-INDULGENCE. So, if nothing else tickles your fancy on this list, at least consider doing that, chile.
8. Feed your creativity. Something that I used to be really good at is art. That said, one of my goddaughters is insanely talented, so she has reminded me to tap back into it. Also, a big part of what got me into the writing world is poetry; I actually used to be a house poet at a local spot. Sometimes, my best quality time moments with myself have been revisiting these creative sides of me — and this is definitely easier to do (and enjoy) alone.
9. Try some stargazing. When’s the last time you took a blanket into your backyard, laid down on it, and just stared at the stars for hours on end? While some say that stargazing can teach you to be mindful, others say that being in that form of nature reduces stress, while others believe that looking up at the universe at night can increase your attention span. All solid reasons to give it a shot, if you ask me.
10. DO. ABSOLUTELY. NOTHING. Let me tell you something that nobody will ever be able to make me feel bad about: doing absolutely nothing. I’ve got data to back me up. Good Housekeeping shares that doing nothing can help you decide how you want to respond or react to certain things. I like howThe Guardian says that taking this approach helps you to regain control of what you give your attention to.
TIME magazine says that it can ultimately make you more productive.BBC offers up that it can help you tap into your ingenuity.Henry Ford Health says that it can make you kinder and a better problem-solver. So, if you want to invest in yourself, do nothing sometimes.
Closing Thoughts from the Lovely Javicia Leslie
While some of y'all may know Javicia Leslie from being the former Batwoman, I discovered her back in the day from the indie series Chef Julian (and yes, "Julian" was right to say that "Mo" looks like Tatyana Ali...the real ones know). Sometimes I'll hop on her IG to see what she's got going on and this story popped up within a few hours of me penning this...so, I took it as hella confirmation.
TREAT YO SELF. WAIT FOR NO ONE.
WAIT FOR NO ONE. TREAT YO SELF.
RINSE AND REPEAT.
Sooo…what kind of masturdating plans do you have for this coming weekend? While going out with others has its perks, hanging out with yourself has a ton of ‘em too. Enjoy!
No…for real. ENJOY!
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