The Personality & Love Compatibility Of A Scorpio, Explained.
Born between October 23rd and November 21st, Scorpios are Fixed Water signs that will mesmerize you. Their piercing gaze seemingly invites you to come closer while simultaneously sending a shudder of fear down your spine. With Mars being their ancient ruler, these powerhouses can intimidate the most courageous of hearts. Once Pluto came on NASA's radar in the early 1900s, it then became Scorpio's co-ruler. Associated with the underworld, this tiny planet is how this zodiac sign gets its reputation for having a dark side.
Given their symbol being the Scorpion, there's definitely some truth to this statement. However, a Scorpio typically won't sting first and usually lash out in a form of defense against anyone that bruises their fragile heart. Although they can be tough as nails, these undercover romantics just want their feelings to be held safely within the gentle, devoted hands of another.
Physiologically, Scorpio is associated with reproductive system, sex organs, and bowels. Associated with the 8th house, they're known for being the best secret-keepers which could be a good or bad thing depending on the context. If you ever get jammed up with one of these loyal Water signs, you won't ever have to worry about them snitching.
These baddies are the epitome of "ride or die" making them fiercely dedicated to their loved ones. You can typically spot a Scorpio in the crowd by the brooding look on their face and the all-black attire they wear as if every single day is a funeral. And essentially it is for this zodiac sign who just so happens to represent death—which, in some societies, is still a taboo topic.
However, this is what the energy of Scorpio is here to awaken within us—a curiosity to explore that which is often viewed as forbidden fruit.
The Scorpio Zodiac Sign: An Overview
As the ruler of the 8th house, Scorpio represents the shadow aspects of ourselves and society. Wherever we find this zodiac sign in our natal chart can often pinpoint the trauma we've experienced. Being a Fixed Water sign, these individuals have a tendency to harbor trapped emotions that desperately need acknowledgment and healing. This zodiac sign is notorious for holding a grudge which can result in physical ailments if they're not mindful fo the emotional debris that needs to be cleared.
Associated with the psyche, Scorpio also represents shadow work as well as therapy which is often a resource that can be utilized during a healing process. As water signs, they tend to be more introverted with a tendency to internalize their emotions. It's important for Scorpio to learn that someone can be just as gentle with them as they generally are with others.
It's a battle for them to put down their guards but once they do, they'll invite you into their world of mystery because deep down they actually want to be known through and through. Their intensity can frighten off some but those special people that dare walk straight into this quiet storm will be pleasantly surprised by the warmth and care that a Scorpio can provide.
Scorpio Best & Worst Personality Traits
Best Scorpio Personality Traits:
- Determined
- Thorough
- Passionate
- Intuitive
Worst Scorpio Personality Traits:
- Deceptive
- Obsessive
- Spiteful
Scorpio In Career
Tell a Scorpio they can't do something then watch them commit themselves—blood, sweat, and tears—into proving you wrong; not so much for the purpose of stroking their ego but more so as a confident decree to the Universe that they are capable of accomplishing whatever they put their minds to. It's easy for them to get fixated on a goal, especially if it involves them attaining masses of power and influence.
In a past life, your favorite Scorpio was probably a deranged cult leader but in this lifetime they've returned to right their wrongs. When these competitive, hard workers aren't busy trying to out-perform themselves, you can typically find them working in fields such as psychology and detective work. With the 8th house being associated with the Occult, these spooky babes have a knack for the invisible realm making them powerful healers and psychics.
Scorpio In Love
More than likely, a Scorpio wrote the prototype marriage vows particularly that one line that emphasizes "until death do us part." Once they're in a relationship, they are in it which typically grants them the wherewithal to deal with toxic bullsh*t a lot longer than most—all for the sake of an eternal love. They are literally obsessed with the idea of finding, and possessing, that one special person that just gets all of their weird ways that most people don't have the patience to understand. If you're thinking about partnering up with one of these sultry hotties be prepared to merge your souls-- possibly through some sort of blood binding ritual that will seal your fates together for all of eternity. *inserts evil laugh*
Exaggeration or not, Scorpio aims to go deep (in more ways than one). Commonly known as the freakiest sign of the zodiac, they aim to please but don't mind taking on a more dominating role either. Remember—they're ancient ruler is Mars. During sex, they prefer a rough ride whether they're the ones getting pushed around or the one handing out the lashings while they have you handcuffed to the bed.
There will never be a dull moment in the bedroom with these pleasers.
Although the way into their bedroom is enticing, you must first gain entry into their heart. After experiencing some deep heartache, these cautious lovers tend to be choosy and slow-moving in a connection. It's almost as though they're testing whether you have staying power or not. Once they feel emotionally safe with you, they'll be wide open and ready for you to unlock the coochie chakra. These sensitive, fierce individuals pair well with other Water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces), Capricorn, and Virgo.
Famous Scorpio Celebrities
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- Willow Smith
- SZA
- Tracee Ellis Ross
- Future
- Drake
- Ciara
- P. Diddy
- Whoopi Goldberg
- Gabrielle Union
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Why We'll Probably Never Hear Lupita Nyong'o Share Her Relationship With The World
Lupita Nyong'o is sharing a transparent look into her life after a recent breakup.
In a cover story for NET-A-PORTER, the A Quiet Place: Day One star shed light on the significant heartbreak she experienced following the end of her relationship with ex-boyfriend and TV host, Selema Masekela.
As a public figure, Nyong'o, 39, sought to divulge the news of the breakup in hopes of presenting a more authentic perspective on the pain that follows a separation.
"I was living in a lot of pain and heartbreak," she told the publication. "I looked at the environment of my social media and thought I don’t want to be a part of this illusion that everything is always coming up roses. Surely there is a lesson for me to learn in this, and I just want to be real about it."
The Black Panther star went on to explain that her choice to be transparent with her fans about her breakup came from the certainty she felt after ending the relationship. “In my mind, when I shared my relationship status with the world, it was because I felt sure about it,” she said.
While she didn’t know how the news would land with her fans, she found relief in knowing she wasn’t alone in her experience.
“I knew how it could be interpreted; I knew it would have a life of its own,” she reflects. “But then I started to see the comments and people were being so loving and supportive. The ones that moved me the most were other people sharing their pain and their heartbreak.”
Nyong'o and Masekela went Instagram official in December 2022, publicly announcing their relationship in a couple's video. In October 2023, Nyong'o took to her personal Instagram account to share the news of her breakup in her caption, writing, "At this moment, it is necessary for me to share a personal truth and publicly dissociate myself from someone I can no longer trust.”
She continued the vulnerable note, "I find myself in a season of heartbreak because of a love suddenly and devastatingly extinguished by deception. I am tempted to run into the shadows and hide, only to return to the light when I have regained my strength enough for me to say, 'Whatever, my life is better this way.' But I am reminded that the magnitude of the pain I am feeling is equal to the measure of my capacity for love."
These days, Nyong'o tells NET-A-PORTER that she is prioritizing profound self-discovery that extends beyond her career. She notes having a deliberate and unhurried approach to understanding herself.
She also alludes to keeping her relationships private moving forward after noting it was "very, very sage" of her not to talk about her private life professionally in the days before her last relationship. "I'm going back to those days by the way," Nyong'o shares of her reinstated boundaries around her personal life.
Earlier this month, Nyong'o made headlines alongside her new boyfriend actor Joshua Jackson. Nyong'o and Jackson went through public splits from their respective SOs in October 2023, with the latter splitting from his long-time partner Jodie Turner-Smith following her divorce filing from the Dawson's Creek alum.
The pair have been spotted together as early as December 2023, but nothing screamed "couple" quite as loudly as their recent getaway to Mexico for Nyong'o's 41st birthday featuring passionate displays of affection.
"Our purpose in life is to love. And so you have to get back in it," she tells the outlet, seemingly alluding to her budding new romance.
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