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Make Protecting Your Peace A Daily Practice By Following These 5 Steps

When I was in my mid-20s, my life was a hot mess. Chaotic doesn't even begin to describe it. I worked a full-time job while doing consulting gigs as a side hustle, and I spent all my free time helping others while neglecting myself. Eventually, I had a total meltdown and an existential crisis. I felt like I wasn't living my life, leaving me empty, depressed, and miserable. I was always exhausted and super irritable.


As a former therapist, I know how important it is to engage in therapy to manage our well-being. I'm lucky to have had a therapist who called me out and helped me realize that the chaos and lack of peace in my life were the results of poor choices I was making when it came to managing my mental health and well-being. "Protecting your peace" has become a popular tagline on social media for a good reason. It is one of the best ways to help preserve your mental health.

However, while it sounds good in theory, many people still struggle with taking the necessary actions to make protecting their peace a daily practice. Mental health work is daily work. And here are five steps you can start taking daily to ensure you are protecting your peace.

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1. Consider yourself important enough to be protected.

You have to consider yourself important enough to be protected. Engaging in self-neglect is not going to help you have a peaceful life. There are going to be things you need to say no to in order to care for yourself, and you don’t have to feel guilty about putting yourself first.

2. Set boundaries and limits on who and what has access to your energy.

You cannot be everything to everyone. You have to be willing to set limits because if you wait for others to set them, you will never have peace in your life. Having boundaries means learning to realize what you can say yes to and exercising your voice, and saying no when needed.

3. Evaluate the relationships in your life.

As part of protecting your peace, evaluating the relationships in your life is important.

Ask yourself:

  • Are these people adding value to my life?
  • Do they encourage and support me?
  • Do they constantly bring me down, make me feel drained, and spark the dysregulation of my nervous system?

Some relationships are meant to be seasonal; it’s okay to move on from relationships when they no longer align with your growth.

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4. Create space for self-care.

Let go of unnecessary commitments that cause burnout and protect your peace by creating space for rest and self-care. This might look like finding a new hobby, doing fun and exciting activities, and trying new things that are for pleasure and not for work.

5. Let go of the need to control the external and instead focus on the internal.

Trying to control everything can create anxiety and stress. Let go of the need to control external circumstances and instead focus on what you can control---your attitude and response. Sometimes, you have to be willing to say, "What am I going to do to get through this?" as a way to remind yourself that you have choices. Sometimes the choice you need to make is leaning into radical acceptance and learning to move forward when things don’t go your way.

By letting go of these things, you can create a space for yourself to nurture your inner peace and cultivate a sense of well-being that will benefit every aspect of your life.

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