How To Manifest Your Next Relationship
Manifesting is a power that we all have that we can use at any time throughout our lives. In fact, we are manifesting at every single second and every single moment through the thoughts we are thinking the most. People are brought together through what they are manifesting for themselves and what type of energy they are attracting into their life. By directing more of your attention to the things you want and the fact that you are worthy of them, you can begin your journey of manifesting in love.
When it comes to manifesting someone into your life or manifesting a romantic partner, there are a few steps you can take to recognize your power here.
1.Develop your relationship with yourself.
A common factor in why people aren’t receiving the things they want is that they believe they are not worthy of them. You can have strong desires, but if you don’t have the self-belief and self-love to support them, then what you want will always feel far away from you.
A key to manifesting someone in love is being the type of person you love and that you fall in love with. Take yourself out on dates, treat yourself to something nice, love yourself unconditionally, tell yourself how loved and valued you are, develop a self-love ritual, and commit to loving yourself first and foremost.
Love will match you where you are. This part of manifesting is where you heal. You may have already reached this point on your journey of manifesting, and if so, skip to the next step. However, this part of the process can take months and even years and is the most important part of this whole thing, so don’t cut it short. Knowing and believing you are worthy of what you want is how you get it.
2.Figure out the type of person you are looking to manifest.
Who do you want to be with? How do you want to feel in your dream relationship? What type of people inspire you and bring out positive emotions in you? Set your intentions, write a list of the attributes and characteristics of the person you see yourself with, the way you want to feel with them, etc. If it’s difficult to think about the details, then write down how you want to feel in the relationship in general.
If you are trying to manifest a specific person, think of the person when writing down who you want to be with and say “This or better.” If they are for you, they will be, and if not, what is for you (better) will replace it.
Manifesting someone into your life is allowing your energy to meet someone else’s in the middle. It should not feel like you are doing all the work or that you have to put in more effort than what you are receiving. If you are on the right path with manifesting the right person into your life, it will be a good experience for you, and you will be met where you are emotionally.
3.Work on your manifesting power in all areas of your life.
Manifesting works in all areas of your life, and strengthening these different areas can help you in love as well. Focus on manifesting other things in your life so that you can show yourself that you can do it. Whether it be small things or big, working on this power is like a muscle, and the more you use it, the stronger it is. By honoring your spirit, your power as a creator, and the gifts you have within you, you create space for magic to happen in your life and in love.
Strengthen your intuition so you can notice the signs. When working on manifesting someone or something, you will begin to see signs that you are on the right path. Whether it's a song you hear, a horoscope you read, a person you see. Journal these moments of synchronicity, and remember to congratulate yourself for the recognition. Ask the universe to show you a sign, and be prepared to receive them.
4.Open up to receive.
Make space for what you want to enter your life. You have set everything in motion, now it’s time to let go. I know, “What do you mean let go?” you may ask. Well, tightening your grip on something you want doesn’t make it come to you any sooner. In fact, it pushes it further away. If you want to manifest someone, you have to let go. Have you ever wondered why as soon as you’ve forgotten about them, they text you randomly, or you run into them somewhere? It’s because you finally let go. Letting go is opening up to receive.
Know that as you let go, your intention and desires do not go as well. The universe knows what you want at all times, and there is no misunderstanding here. The discord of not receiving what you want comes from getting in the way of yourself through overthinking and acting more than trusting. You have already set the tone, and now is the time to believe and trust that it will happen for you.
5.Practice gratitude.
Gratitude is the final and significant part of manifesting. You really cannot manifest without gratitude. When you wake up in the morning, journal down what you are grateful for. Be around people that put you in this space of gratitude, and be in your happy places. Perspective is everything, and by directing your attention to the things you are thankful for, you create more of them in your life.
Work on bringing more gratitude into your life and focus on what is making your heart happy right now. Gratitude is felt in the same space love is, and when manifesting love, this is where you will meet it.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
Smile, Sis! These Five Improvements Can Upgrade Your Oral Hygiene Instantly
This article is in partnership with Sensodyne.
Our teeth are connected to so many things - our nutrition, our confidence, and our overall mood. We often take for granted how important healthy teeth are, until issues like tooth sensitivity or gum recession come to remind us. Like most things related to our bodies, prevention is the best medicine. Here are five things you can do immediately to improve your oral hygiene, prevent tooth sensitivity, and avoid dental issues down the road.
1) Go Easy On the Rough Brushing: Brushing your teeth is and always will be priority number one in the oral hygiene department. No surprises there! However, there is such a thing as applying too much pressure when brushing…and that can lead to problems over time. Use a toothbrush with soft bristles and brush in smooth, circular motions. It may seem counterintuitive, but a gentle approach to brushing is the most effective way to clean those pearly whites without wearing away enamel and exposing sensitive areas of the teeth.
2) Use A Desensitizing Toothpaste: As everyone knows, mouth pain can be highly uncomfortable; but tooth sensitivity is a whole different beast. Hot weather favorites like ice cream and popsicles have the ability to trigger tooth sensitivity, which might make you want to stay away from icy foods altogether. But as always, prevention is the best medicine here. Switching to a toothpaste like Sensodyne’s Sensitivity & Gum toothpaste specifically designed for sensitive teeth will help build a protective layer over sensitive areas of the tooth. Over time, those sharp sensations that occur with extremely cold foods will subside, and you’ll be back to treating yourself to your icy faves like this one!
3) Floss, Rinse, Brush. (And In That Order!): Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s not what you do, but how you do it”? Well, the same thing applies to taking care of your teeth. Even if you are flossing and brushing religiously, you could be missing out on some of the benefits simply because you aren’t doing so in the right order. Flossing is best to do before brushing because it removes food particles and plaque from places your toothbrush can’t reach. After a proper flossing sesh, it is important to rinse out your mouth with water after. Finally, you can whip out your toothbrush and get to brushing. Though many of us commonly rinse with water after brushing to remove excess toothpaste, it may not be the best thing for our teeth. That’s because fluoride, the active ingredient in toothpaste that protects your enamel, works best when it gets to sit on the teeth and continue working its magic. Rinsing with water after brushing doesn’t let the toothpaste go to work like it really can. Changing up your order may take some getting used to, but over time, you’ll see the difference.
4) Stay Hydrated: Upping your water supply is a no-fail way to level up your health overall, and your teeth are no exception to this rule. Drinking water not only helps maintain a healthy pH balance in your mouth, but it also washes away residue and acids that can cause enamel erosion. It also helps you steer clear of dry mouth, which is a gateway to bad breath. And who needs that?
5) Show Your Gums Some Love: When it comes to improving your smile, you may be laser-focused on getting your teeth whiter, straighter, and overall healthier. Rightfully so, as these are all attributes of a megawatt smile; but you certainly don’t want to leave gum health out of the equation. If you neglect your gums, you’ll start to notice the effects of plaque buildup, which can irritate the gums and cause gingivitis, the earliest stage of gum disease. Seeing blood while brushing and flossing is a tell-tale sign that your gums are suffering. You may also experience gum recession — a condition where the gum tissue surrounding your teeth pulls back, exposing more of your tooth. Brushing at least twice a day with a gum-protecting toothpaste like Sensodyne Sensitivity and Gum, coupled with regular dentist visits, will keep your gums shining as bright as those pearly whites.
Russell and Nina Westbrook Dish On The Key Ways To Avoid Resentment In Relationships
Russell and Nina Westbrook are one of those low-key, unproblematic couples we don’t talk about enough. They met in college and got married in 2015. They also have a beautiful family with three kids. While Russell is an NBA star, Nina is a licensed family and marriage therapist and a mental health advocate.
She recently launched the podcast The Relationship Chronicles with Nina Westbrook, and in the latest episode, she had none other than her husband on as a guest. The college sweethearts dived into important topics from marriage to children and how they navigate it all.
One of the topics they touched on was dealing with resentment in your relationship. The former MVP highlighted the sacrifices his wife has had to make in order for him to pursue a career in the NBA, and that’s why it’s also important for him to support his wife whenever he can.
“For me is respecting and understanding what your partner do and the time it takes,” Russell said. “Not kind of downplaying what they do, understanding the time and energy and effort they're doing to make sure whether it’s their job or making sure home is taken care of, and understanding that, I think that is the challenge of not being resentful.”
Nina agreed and also shared her thoughts on resentment. According to her, one of the best things couples should do is have their own identity and passions outside of the relationship in an effort to be fulfilled.
“I also think that when you’re in a relationship, that’s why it’s so important that each individual kinda pursue their own passions and follow their own dreams as I feel like it only becomes or leads to resentment when one person is not feeling fulfilled in what they're doing in their lives,” she explained.
“And so, they will start to look at the other partner who’s happy or excelling or promoting or moving along in their journey, then they’re left feeling stuck like they sacrificed themselves, their happiness, their career, their future and have not pursued it in the name of the relationship or their partner. So, it’s so much easier to avoid those feelings of resentment when you’re each equally pursuing your passions.”
The couple has many passions that they work on together and separately. Outside of basketball and his family, Russell has become known for his eclectic style and started the fashion brand Honor The Gift. Nina has her podcast, and she also started the mental health website Bene. Together, they run the Why Not? Foundation, which works with kids in underserved communities.
“I’m a firm believer that one person can’t be everything to you, so you have to sort of seek out those different friendships or groups or hobbies or activities that help to fulfill you,” Nina concluded.
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