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In My Feelings: Why You Can't Let Your Emotions Control You

In My Feelings: Why You Can't Let Your Emotions Control You

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I got my life at church recently. My pastor (shoutout to Pastor Danielle Murphy) was talking about how being caught up in your feelings can stop you from living your best life. Of course, there's the whole connotation of Drake's song "In My Feelings", but in all seriousness, I had to come to terms that my emotions were taking over for a lot of areas I didn't even realize.

While the stigma that women are emotional creatures has arguably been proven, I know I'm one of those people that have made decisions based off of my emotions and they clearly didn't suit me. On the flip side, when you don't let your emotions take control, you'll be closer to living your best life.

Get Over Overthinking & Overreacting 

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I can be so terrible at this. Our emotions have this super heavy power to make us overthink any situation and then overreact. The worst part is that most of the time it's about a situation that we've completely made up in our head. You have one thought (i.e. that someone has an issue with you), and then use everything that person says or does to justify why you think that about them. It's not only draining (because who has time to come up with Tyler Perry's latest plot line in our mind), but it can also create awkward situations in real life that only started with an assumption in your mind.

Overthinking and overreacting can really cause us to push people away that actually care about us, because we've tried to convince ourselves that they're being shady. One of the ways to overcome your emotions in this case is to address it head-on and trust the answer without trying to make it fit into what you've already come up with. I know this one is hard but it can also be refreshing once you make it a lifestyle.

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