Angel Numbers: The Universe's Way Of Communicating With You
Angel numbers are recurring numerical sequences that are meant to divinely guide us along our human journeys. They often appear as synchronicities and signs that we are meant to gain energetic insights from. These numbers begin to appear when you start to "wake up." This read will describe how angel numbers function and reveal interpretations of some of the most common sequences.
Besides counting my money, Numerology was my first introduction to numbers, and I became very intrigued. It is the branch of knowledge that deals with the supernatural significance of numbers. Just like looking up your astrological natal chart, you can look up your numerology to map out things such as your life path number, as well as to foretell certain milestones during different intervals of your life.
Just as I began to be open to the significance of numbers, I started to see my first angel numbers. 11:11 mysteriously showed up whenever I would look up at my clock, on buses, on television, on someone's clothing, on posters, everywhere. Whenever I would cross the pedestrian crosswalk, my eyes always met the number 11 during the countdown. This numerical phenomenon felt eerie because every time I would see the number, I would feel a ripple crawl up my spine or arms. It was a new experience that I had never felt before.
Along with seeing the number 11:11, I begin to have scattered thoughts, and found myself sitting in more moments of silence than usual. It truly was as if I was trying to figure something out, while simultaneously thinking about a bunch of nothing.
Soon, new numbers begin to appear in my reality. I saw 444's and 222's popping up all over the place. I started to realize that the numbers were trying to tell me something, but I was too afraid to ask anyone else if they had been experiencing the same things.
Something within my spirit told me that this was not just a coincidence and that my intuition was picking up on a deeper meaning. It wasn't until I reconnected with my estranged sister, that I learned that I was "waking up." We had not seen or spoken to each other for almost a year, and were brought together by a family crisis. I revealed to her what I was experiencing, and she knew exactly what I was speaking of because she had gone through the same thing.
Seeing the number 11:11 is the first sign that you are undergoing the process of Ascension, which, in short, is the journey of spiritual awakening. Through Ascension, you open your eyes to your own divine sovereignty with the realization that your physical body is just a vessel for infinite consciousness. It involves unplugging from "The Matrix," which is a structure of illusion that disconnects you from universal oneness and traps you in an existence of three-dimensional duality.
How Angel Numbers Work
Numbers are as natural as anything else on the Earth, both physically and biologically. Numerical patterns can be found in everything from plants, to the sequence of our human DNA. Consider the "Golden Ratio" or the "Fibonacci Code."
The Fibonacci code is a term in mathematics that is characterized by the fact that every number after the first two numbers in the sequence is the sum of the previous two. What happens with this specific numeric sequence when drawn out in a scale or diagram, is that it begins to spiral.
This spiral appears in the smallest and largest objects in nature, anywhere from flowers to whole galaxies. It is a way for information to flow in a very efficient manner. When you look at the mandala, a spiritual and ritual symbol in Hinduism and Buddhism that represents the universe, or a circular disk or spiral shape, you will notice how numerical coding creates patterns that are visible to the human eye.
Numbers are found at the core of everything. Numbers govern the universe. from nature, to energy movement, to sound, colors, and sacred geometry - numbers are a binary universal language of their own.
No matter what race, gender, tongue, or creed, numbers speak to all of us. This is why numbers are used as indicators of rising consciousness and why numbers are one of the first signs or synchronicities you notice when you are waking up to your higher self.
When the universe relays messages to us during the beginning stages of Ascension we consciously become aware of the vibrational language and nature of numbers. They are nicknamed "angel" because these messages seem to come from above, but in reality these numbers are simply understood by your higher consciousness.
The Most Common Angel Numbers & What They Mean
1111
This number represents Spiritual Awakening. It is the first number that most people see when they begin to wake up. This synchronicity tells you that you are aligned and going in the right direction. It is the confirmation you need that tells you that you are on the right path. It is also a code for twin flame connection and starseed awareness.
222
This number is about being in the right place at the right time, as well as meeting the right people. It's about balance, partnership, communication, and mutual respect. When you see this number, seek balance. Two is the number of relationships. When you see 2:22, pay attention to the people who are showing up in your world. You might be bumping into a soulmate or someone who will play a significant role in your world.
333
When you see this number, know that your spirit guides, angels, or ancestors are keenly watching over you even more during this time. They have your back and want you to know that they are protecting and guiding you. They are all for the current move you are making and want you to feel encouraged and empowered. You are never alone.
444
Jay-Z did not name his album 4:44 for nothing. When you see this number, this tells you that you are in alignment with spirit and the universe. You are currently buzzing in your purpose and experiencing inspiration. The Spirit is putting you on to something. Your intuition is on high level. You are in tune to your higher self, and in this moment, you are your own guardian angel.
555
When you see this number, know that big changes are on the horizon. These changes could be what you have been praying for, or they can be sudden or abrupt. Either way, they will be impactful, and bring about a greater benefit to your life. This number also reminds you that you are more than just a person. You are a spiritual being having a human experience, and you are connected to a universal consciousness. Your soul knows what to do to survive, so trust your choices.
777
This number represents blessings, good fortune, new opportunities, expansion, prosperity, and wealth. This means that you have been aligning with your higher self, and on your divine path. When you see this synchronicity, know that all of your hard work, faith, and intuition will result in the aforementioned manifestations. This is a very lucky number!
The higher you go in numbers like 888, 999, and 1010, the longer you have been on the journey of spiritual awakening because the sequences are connected to all 7 chakras and beyond to the higher chakras.
Once you get more accustomed to seeing Angel numbers, you will begin to understand the vibration you feel when they occur without having to look them up.
Have you been seeing any angel numbers lately?
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Not too long ago, while in an interview, someone asked me for a top complaint that I hear husbands say (first) and then wives state (second) as it relates to what goes down (or doesn’t go down) in the bedroom.
Ladies first: when it comes to women, I think what comes up more than anything might surprise some: it’s boredom. A lot of wives want there to be more spontaneity instead of taking the “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” approach from their partner. As for men? I mean, would anyone be shocked to hear that they wished their wife would initiate sex more often?
I’m telling you, over frequency, technique, and even dressing up more for bed (and yes, those things also come up quite a bit), hands down, what I hear that more men want is for their partner to show them that they are desired by taking the initial steps to make copulation happen…more often.
And so, since I’m all about doing whatever I can to reduce dissatisfaction and frustration in the bedroom department, let’s explore this very topic today — from a few angles. For starters, what it truly means to be a sexual initiator; two, why it’s so vitally important to be a sexual initiator, and three, why it could literally change the entire tone, energy, and outcome of your sex life with your partner — if you’d simply be open to initiating sex more often than you (probably already) do.
What It Means to Initiate Something. LITERALLY.
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I’m word-literal — there’s no secret about that. So, when it comes to the topic of initiating sex, let’s start with what the word means. To initiate is “to begin, set going, or originate” and “to introduce into the knowledge of some art or subject.” Some synonyms for initiate include begin, open, set up, trigger, admit, introduce, and invest. And when it comes to all of the meanings of these words, between men and women, when it comes to sex specifically, guess who does it more? Men. BY A LONG SHOT TOO: a whopping 60 percent.
When it comes to why a lot of women are so comfortable with men initiating intimacy, many think that, just like men should pursue them for a relationship, it is also “the man’s role” to pursue sex in the bedroom; they literally think that it makes them look desperate or needy for them to be the initiator — yes, even as a wife. What in the world?
Listen, when two people sign up to be each other’s exclusive sex partner until death parts them, it means they are both saying that they desire each other so much that they are willing to make that kind of commitment — and so, there should be no “I don’t want to appear this way or that” when it comes to sexual activity.
So, with all of that ridiculous overthinking out of the way, that should make you want to “set up” some sex plans, “admit” to some sexual fantasies that you may have, and “introduce” some new ideas to your partner; especially since that’s exactly what so many men wish that their lady would do, to begin with.
So, with all of this said, if you’re someone who is hung up on not initiating, first spend some time really processing what the word means. Because when two people are eager to begin sex and invest in each other sexually, that is the recipe for a truly satisfying experience…over and over and over again.
C’mon. Who Doesn’t Want to Feel Wanted?
GiphyI remember once reading an article that said our brain processes rejection the same way that it does physical pain, and y’all, I don’t know about you, but if something is physically hurting me, my natural inclination is to get away from it. Along these lines, when it comes to relationships since research has proven that rejection can lead to things like jealousy, shame, anxiety, loneliness, and guilt — yes, it makes all of the common sense in the world that you would want to do all that you can to make your partner feel wanted…both in and outside of the bedroom because, just like no one wants to deal with physical pain, no one wants to keep dealing with rejection and all of the fallout that comes with it…either.
Actually, when it comes to this particular point, I think that an article that I once read on Psychology Today’s site said it best: “Not only does being needed help define your role in a relationship, but being needed can also influence how satisfied you feel in a relationship.” And before some of you say that “sex is not a need” — the hell you say? I mean, the only purpose of your clitoris is to provide sexual stimulation, so that alone should make us all deem sex (and sexual fulfillment) as pretty damn important.
Plus, by definition, a need is something that is deemed as being essential while also being something that is extremely necessary, and anyone who thinks that a romantic relationship doesn’t need physical intimacy? That’s someone who really needs to remain single because one of the top things that makes a relationship more than a friendship is there is intimacy that’s involved.
Besides, who doesn’t want to feel wanted by their partner — and I do mean, in every way? And when you make the decision to be in an exclusive relationship with someone else, you are declaring that they are someone who pleases you to the point where you don’t need to look for anyone else to do it; and, if that is indeed what you are saying, it doesn’t make sense that you wouldn’t initiate sex with them sometimes (and I do mean more than on their birthday).
One, because you choose them to “fill that role.” Two, because they are the source of your fulfillment in that area. Three, because it’s completely unfair (not to mention totally hypocritical) to expect them to make you feel wanted when you’re not being intentional about making them feel the same way in return. Not to mention the fact that initiating also helps to safeguard your relationship on a lot of levels too.
Since sex is important and rejection is detrimental on so many levels, it’s crucial to make your partner feel sexually wanted and desired by you. One way to definitely do that is to initiate sex.
What Initiating Sex Does for You
GiphySo, what does initiating sex do for the initiator? Something that I tell a lot of my women clients is it helps them to create an atmosphere that puts them in the mood. What I mean by that is, if their husband is perfectly content having sex on the couch during commercials (I’m kind of exaggerating to make a point…kind of…LOL) while they would like some candles, mood music, and rose petals — they can control that if they are the one who initiates.
Another perk that comes with being the initiator is you have more “control” over how the sex goes. The kind of foreplay you want, how fast or slow things go, how intercourse begins — all of this, you have more of a say so in if you’re the one who is initiating intimacy. Why? Well, think about when your bae initiates — doesn’t it seem like you tend to follow his lead more when he’s the one who is first to get the ball rolling?
Oftentimes, when a couple comes to me about being sexually dissatisfied, and I recommend that the one who doesn’t initiate takes more initiative, the one on the receiving end likes the fact that their partner is “running the show” — and the initiator likes “being in charge” more than they thought that they would. As a result, both end up experiencing far more pleasure.
The initiator shows what they want more of while the receiver feels desired in the process. A win/win for everyone.
What Initiating Sex Does for Him
sexy black and white GIFGiphyA couple of weeks ago, while in a session with a client, he was joking about how much he has “too much of a good thing” when it comes to his wife’s libido. Although science says that the fact that men have a higher amount of testosterone in their system, and it is the reason why they typically have a higher sex drive, don’t sleep on a lot of women out there who want to get it in more than their husband does. His wife is one of them. Since she’s a client of mine too (oftentimes, we do our sessions separately), it’s interesting that he’s fine with having sex a couple of times a month while she would like to a couple of times a week.
So, is he denying her when she wants it more often? Nope. The reason why they’re not having more sex is that even though her drive is higher, she still waits for him to initiate. Why? Because she thinks that’s what “the man should do”; not only that but “being wooed” turns her on more.
As I’ve been working on helping them to find a middle ground (because if marriage ain’t about compromise, I don’t know what is), he says that he feels like because he plans a lot of the dates, he wishes that she would initiate more: “I don’t think a lot of women get how hard it is to be a Black man out here. Nothing feels better than knowing that if no one else is thrilled by your presence, your woman is. For us, initiating isn’t just about sex. It’s about feeling wanted as a whole. And when we feel like our woman adores us, there is no greater turn-on.”
I’m not sure what y’all heard, but what it sounds like to me is when we, as women, initiate sex, men feel holistically special and cherished. That makes sense, too, because if we were to put our feet in their shoes, we would probably say the same thing. That’s just one more reason to pull the “gender roles” out of this topic; men and women both want to feel like they are the best thing on the planet by their sex partners. And again, initiating helps us all to feel that way.
What Initiating Ultimately Does for Your Relationship As a Whole
Issa Rae Love GIF by Insecure on HBOGiphyPersonally, I can only imagine how much better sex would be for everyone (who is in a sexual relationship) if people simply initiated copulation whenever they wanted to have it. That way, everyone would feel desired — and what could possibly be wrong with that? Especially if both individuals factored in some of the definitions for initiated that I already shared. Just think about if you rushed home tonight because you read about something that you want to introduce to your man or there’s a fantasy that you have that you want to admit.
The mere conversations alone will help to bring the two of you closer together because, after all, deep intimacy is about minds, bodies, and spirits getting as close as possible…right? And so, yes, by initiating sex, it can bring more closeness and stability to the relationship as a whole.
And what if you initiate and your partner isn’t interested at the time? Or what if you’re shy about initiating due to having a fear of rejection? That’s a fair and legitimate concern. One day, I’ll need to pen an article on how couples should handle situations like that with grace (on both ends) while applying the golden rule of “doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.” For now, I’ll just say that if this is your greatest point of concern, share that with your partner as well.
After all, it’s pretty unrealistic to expect them to always want it when you do (although it’s been my experience and observation that men are almost always far easier to convince…LOL); just know that not wanting sex at the exact moment that you do doesn’t mean that they don’t want you altogether. Besides, oftentimes, a nap or a night of sleep can rectify that issue. Trust me.
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Rihanna was actually once quoted as saying, “To me, sex is power. It’s empowering to do it because you want to do it.” I personally think that’s a great way to bring this to a close. Make your partner feel wonderful, empower yourself, and strengthen your relationship by initiating sex more often. I can’t think of one reason why it’s not a wise move. Can you?
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