This Is The Difference Between A Twin Flame & A Soulmate

Love & Relationships

In the spiritual community, many people have confused the concept of a twin flame with a soulmate. Because of the confusion between the two, some have fallen prey to detrimental belief systems that cause anxiety and teater along the lines of mental health issues. There is a clear distinction of the two that will help anyone on a journey to find either their twin flame or soulmate.

Twin flames are two people who share the same soul energy vibration. In simple terms, when any two flames were born, their soul was split into two bodies encompassing either the divine masculine or the divine feminine, aka yin and yang. This is an eternal connection that carries on through every single lifetime each flame incarnates into. Essentially, one twin flame is the other half of one soul.

A soulmate couple are two individual souls that have connected with each other through many lifetimes, in order to teach each other lessons and fulfill karmic debts. Soulmates usually feel like they have met before and play deep roles in each other's lives. A soulmate does not have to be romantic, rather you can have a sibling, friend, or parent be a soulmate in your life. Though twin flame pairs tend to be romantic, they could also be be platonic.

Read on to learn more about both concepts and the many differences between the twin flame and the soulmate relationship.

Twin Flames' Purpose Are Rooted In Humanity, Soulmates' Purpose Are Rooted In Each Other

When Twin Flames meet in person, this is a profound event because each twin would have had to undergo part of a major spiritual transformation where they remembered that they even had a twin flame to begin with. Since the twin flame separation is essentially an illusion, due to the fact that twin flames are never separated in spirit, meeting your twin flame in the physical realm is a pretty big deal! It is so powerful that it sends a ripple through the universe. Once twin flames are reunited, they embark on a shared purpose to aid humanity in transformative ways, which includes raising collective consciousness. There are many stages that each twin must go through individually before divine timing reunites the two in the flesh.

Soulmates, on the other hand, manifest in each other's realities as a part of the "Soul Contracts" that each person agrees to through their higher selves. For instance, after some past life regression sessions, I found out that my biological sister and I are soulmates because we have been through many lifetimes together where we have had to rely on one another to survive. Her higher self and mine are paired together through an agreement to each other to fulfill karmic debt on an ultimate road to discover each of our purposes. The higher purpose of a Soulmate relationship is the growth and evolution of one's own consciousness.

Soulmate Relationships Can Have An Expiration Date, The Twin Flame Dynamic Withstands Time

Soulmate relationships can last a lifetime, or just a few months. Depending on the contract between the two, your soulmate could only be in your life for you to uncover a karmic lesson. For instance, the first love of your life could be a soulmate. Even though you were highschool sweethearts, and eventually went separate ways, that person was in your life to teach you lessons you never learned before. The same goes for a best girlfriend, turned stranger. You both were connected so strongly for a period of time to teach each other valuable soul lessons. If you no longer talk, or have a relationship, it's possible that your soul contract with that friend ended. Still, wherever you needed to grow was likely mirrored in that person.

A twin flame, no matter if they are together or not, will never be separated in spirit. There will always be an energetic cord that keeps them tied forever.

Not Everyone Has A Twin Flame, But We All Have Soulmates

Every soul incarnates on earth to fulfill a unique purpose. Some people incarnate having a twin flame. This does not make them better than those that do not have one. In fact, being a twin flame is no easy feat. It is often romanticized by people in the spiritual community who don't have a complete grasp of the Twin Flame Dynamic.

Whether you are a twin flame, or have a soulmate, every human being has an opportunity to raise their consciousness. Someone with a twin flame has a counterpart that catalyzes the process of Spiritual Ascension. As a twin flame begins to awaken, the remembrance of the other half of their soul appears. Through the stages of twin flame reunion lie an intense and sometimes maddening emotional, mental, and energetic roller coaster. A twin flame must undergo a spiritual transformation to be in a healthy relationship. Soulmate relationships don't require the same experience to exist in a healthy bond. Think of the twin flame relationship as a profoundly amplified energetic connection.

How To Tell The Difference Between Whether You Are Connected To A Romantic Soulmate Or Twin Flame

Sometimes people get confused about whether they're in a Twin Flame, or a Soulmate relationship. In my opinion, being someone who has not met their twin flame yet in person, I believe that you just know. Still, it's good to be educated about how to decipher the difference.

*As a disclaimer, it is my responsibility to also say that just because you are in a separated Twin Flame Dynamic doesn't mean you should wait around for them to show up. Continue walking in your purpose, and if it is meant to happen in this lifetime, it will.

Check out a list below of the signs of being in a relationship by ForeverConcious.com:

Twin Flame Relationships:

Feel fated or "destined" in some way. The relationship does not need to be romantic, but there is often a connection felt on all levels.

There is a strong connection that feels constant and stable.

There are challenges but they are more about the "self" than the other.

The relationship brings about a desire to team up together in order to create.

The relationship almost forces you to respond with love as a way to survive together.

There can be a strong past life connection together and if highly advanced, it could feel as if it is both your last lifetime on earth.

Whether you are romantically involved or not, you will always feel a strong connection to this person, but you don't need to be around each other to experience the connection.

The relationship helps to prepare your for ascension into another dimension and helps to instill a higher consciousness for the planet.

Soulmate Relationships:

Feel fated or "destined" in some way.

The relationship does not need to be romantic, although it can be.

There is a strong connection that may change or fluctuate in intensity.

They are often challenges presented in order to change or shift things in your life.

The relationship brings about a strong life lesson or a change in your life path.

The relationship can uncover and release past pains, hurts, and traumas so healing can occur.

There can be a strong past life connection.

The relationship may not last or may feel different once the lesson has been learnt.

The relationship helps you to awaken to a higher level of consciousness or spirituality.

So now that you know more about the Twin Flame and Soulmate dynamics, are you ready to write your own open letter to your future partner, whomever they might be?

ACLU By ACLUSponsored

Over the past four years, we grew accustomed to a regular barrage of blatant, segregationist-style racism from the White House. Donald Trump tweeted that “the Squad," four Democratic Congresswomen who are Black, Latinx, and South Asian, should “go back" to the “corrupt" countries they came from; that same year, he called Elizabeth Warren “Pocahontas," mocking her belief that she might be descended from Native American ancestors.

But as outrageous as the racist comments Trump regularly spewed were, the racially unjust governmental actions his administration took and, in the case of COVID-19, didn't take, impacted millions more — especially Black and Brown people.

To begin to heal and move toward real racial justice, we must address not only the harms of the past four years, but also the harms tracing back to this country's origins. Racism has played an active role in the creation of our systems of education, health care, ownership, and employment, and virtually every other facet of life since this nation's founding.

Our history has shown us that it's not enough to take racist policies off the books if we are going to achieve true justice. Those past policies have structured our society and created deeply-rooted patterns and practices that can only be disrupted and reformed with new policies of similar strength and efficacy. In short, a systemic problem requires a systemic solution. To combat systemic racism, we must pursue systemic equality.

What is Systemic Racism?

A system is a collection of elements that are organized for a common purpose. Racism in America is a system that combines economic, political, and social components. That system specifically disempowers and disenfranchises Black people, while maintaining and expanding implicit and explicit advantages for white people, leading to better opportunities in jobs, education, and housing, and discrimination in the criminal legal system. For example, the country's voting systems empower white voters at the expense of voters of color, resulting in an unequal system of governance in which those communities have little voice and representation, even in policies that directly impact them.

Systemic Equality is a Systemic Solution

In the years ahead, the ACLU will pursue administrative and legislative campaigns targeting the Biden-Harris administration and Congress. We will leverage legal advocacy to dismantle systemic barriers, and will work with our affiliates to change policies nearer to the communities most harmed by these legacies. The goal is to build a nation where every person can achieve their highest potential, unhampered by structural and institutional racism.

To begin, in 2021, we believe the Biden administration and Congress should take the following crucial steps to advance systemic equality:

Voting Rights

The administration must issue an executive order creating a Justice Department lead staff position on voting rights violations in every U.S. Attorney office. We are seeing a flood of unlawful restrictions on voting across the country, and at every level of state and local government. This nationwide problem requires nationwide investigatory and enforcement resources. Even if it requires new training and approval protocols, a new voting rights enforcement program with the participation of all 93 U.S. Attorney offices is the best way to help ensure nationwide enforcement of voting rights laws.

These assistant U.S. attorneys should begin by ensuring that every American in the custody of the Bureau of Prisons who is eligible to vote can vote, and monitor the Census and redistricting process to fight the dilution of voting power in communities of color.

We are also calling on Congress to pass the John Lewis Voting Rights Advancement Act to finally create a fair and equal national voting system, the cause for which John Lewis devoted his life.

Student Debt

Black borrowers pay more than other students for the same degrees, and graduate with an average of $7,400 more in debt than their white peers. In the years following graduation, the debt gap more than triples. Nearly half of Black borrowers will default within 12 years. In other words, for Black Americans, the American dream costs more. Last week, Majority Leader Chuck Schumer and Sen. Elizabeth Warren, along with House Reps. Ayanna Pressley, Maxine Waters, and others, called on President Biden to cancel up to $50,000 in federal student loan debt per borrower.

We couldn't agree more. By forgiving $50,000 of student debt, President Biden can unleash pent up economic potential in Black communities, while relieving them of a burden that forestalls so many hopes and dreams. Black women in particular will benefit from this executive action, as they are proportionately the most indebted group of all Americans.

Postal Banking

In both low and high income majority-Black communities, traditional bank branches are 50 percent more likely to close than in white communities. The result is that nearly 50 percent of Black Americans are unbanked or underbanked, and many pay more than $2,000 in fees associated with subprime financial institutions. Over their lifetime, those fees can add up to as much as two years of annual income for the average Black family.

The U.S. Postal Service can and should meet this crisis by providing competitive, low-cost financial services to help advance economic equality. We call on President Biden to appoint new members to the Postal Board of Governors so that the Post Office can do the work of providing essential services to every American.

Fair Housing

Across the country, millions of people are living in communities of concentrated poverty, including 26 percent of all Black children. The Biden administration should again implement the 2015 Affirmatively Furthering Fair Housing rule, which required localities that receive federal funds for housing to investigate and address barriers to fair housing and patterns or practices that promote bias. In 1980, the average Black person lived in a neighborhood that was 62 percent Black and 31 percent white. By 2010, the average Black person's neighborhood was 48 percent Black and 34 percent white. Reinstating the Obama-era Fair Housing Rule will combat this ongoing segregation and set us on a path to true integration.

Congress should also pass the American Housing and Economic Mobility Act, or a similar measure, to finally redress the legacy of redlining and break down the walls of segregation once and for all.

Broadband Access

To realize broadband's potential to benefit our democracy and connect us to one another, all people in the United States must have equal access and broadband must be made affordable for the most vulnerable. Yet today, 15 percent of American households with school-age children do not have subscriptions to any form of broadband, including one-quarter of Black households (an additional 23 percent of African Americans are “smartphone-only" internet users, meaning they lack traditional home broadband service but do own a smartphone, which is insufficient to attend class, do homework, or apply for a job). The Biden administration, Federal Communications Commission, and Congress must develop and implement plans to increase funding for broadband to expand universal access.

Enhanced, Refundable Child Tax Credits

The United States faces a crisis of child poverty. Seventeen percent of all American children are impoverished — a rate higher than not just peer nations like Canada and the U.K., but Mexico and Russia as well. Currently, more than 50 percent of Black and Latinx children in the U.S. do not qualify for the full benefit, compared to 23 percent of white children, and nearly one in five Black children do not receive any credit at all.

To combat this crisis, President Biden and Congress should enhance the child tax credit and make it fully refundable. If we enhance the child tax credit, we can cut child poverty by 40 percent and instantly lift over 50 percent of Black children out of poverty.


We cannot repair harms that we have not fully diagnosed. We must commit to a thorough examination of the impact of the legacy of chattel slavery on racial inequality today. In 2021, Congress must pass H.R. 40, which would establish a commission to study reparations and make recommendations for Black Americans.

The Long View

For the past century, the ACLU has fought for racial justice in legislatures and in courts, including through several landmark Supreme Court cases. While the court has not always ruled in favor of racial justice, incremental wins throughout history have helped to chip away at different forms of racism such as school segregation ( Brown v. Board), racial bias in the criminal legal system (Powell v. Alabama, i.e. the Scottsboro Boys), and marriage inequality (Loving v. Virginia). While these landmark victories initiated necessary reforms, they were only a starting point.

Systemic racism continues to pervade the lives of Black people through voter suppression, lack of financial services, housing discrimination, and other areas. More than anything, doing this work has taught the ACLU that we must fight on every front in order to overcome our country's legacies of racism. That is what our Systemic Equality agenda is all about.

In the weeks ahead, we will both expand on our views of why these campaigns are crucial to systemic equality and signal the path this country must take. We will also dive into our work to build organizing, advocacy, and legal power in the South — a region with a unique history of racial oppression and violence alongside a rich history of antiracist organizing and advocacy. We are committed to four principles throughout this campaign: reconciliation, access, prosperity, and empowerment. We hope that our actions can meet our ambition to, as Dr. King said, lead this nation to live out the true meaning of its creed.

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