If there was a way you could express yourself in the most aligned, harmonious, and beautiful-to-you way, would you do it? If you knew what colors look best on you, what fashion styles express your personality the best, and what hair or beauty tricks enhance your aura, would you trust Astrology more? This is what Astrologers have been teaching clients and students for years, and it’s easier than you think to dress like and align with your Venus Sign.
What Does Your Venus Sign Mean?
Your Venus Sign represents what sign the planet Venus was in when you were born. It signifies how you express yourself in love, how you receive love, what you are attracted to, and what people are drawn to in you. It also represents beauty, what styles look the best on you, and how you can attract admiration, success, and love.
Dressing like your Venus Sign has been trending on TikTok and social media as of late, but this is not a new phenomenon. Venus is the planet of love, beauty, creativity, art, and finances, and has been influencing the world of fashion forever.
Your Venus Sign is your personal aesthetic and learning more about it can help you discover aspects of yourself you weren't sure of or what to know better and enhance in your life.
Certain trends become more popular during certain Venus transits, and certain celebrities also make fashion trends more popular, in which these fashion trends match their Venus signs well. Rihanna is a great example of this, as when you think of her and her style you think reds, sexy, edgy, tomboy-ish sometimes, and not afraid to take risks. Her Venus in Aries explains her fashion taste and femme fatale energy well and also aligns with her lingerie line Savage x Fenty.
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Every Venus sign is different in what they look best in, and what type of colors, accessories, and beauty tricks reflect their natural energy and aura.
Fire Venus signs tend to look best in bold colors and often feel beautiful in reds or yellows. Air Venus signs love a flowy look and look their best in blues or lavenders. Water Venus signs have a dynamic style and are more drawn to wearing darker colors like black and gray. Earth Venus signs have a taste for the luxurious and are drawn to earthy tones, faux fur, and jewel-town jewelry.
Connecting with your Venus sign is like having your own personal stylists, and it’s all about working with what the stars have given you.
Read for your Venus sign below for a more in-depth view of dressing like your Venus sign.
VENUS IN ARIES
AriesWith a Venus in Aries, everything that makes you unique and different is what you are going to want to highlight. Venus in Aries should take risks with their style and should not try to pay attention too much to trends. You ARE the trendsetter. Let people get inspired by you and the style you come up with or uniquely wear. Venus in Aries looks best in deep reds, yellows, oranges, and also just a simple all-white or a monochromatic look.
Whatever you feel the most sexy, confident, and dominant in is what you should wear. Aries Ven
VENUS IN TAURUS
TaurusVenus in Taurus has an expensive taste, and rightly so. You are more of the type of person to spend extra on fashion and luxury items because you believe it’s a good investment. With a Venus in Taurus, you would look well in earthy tones, but accessories are going to be the highlight of any look. Gold jewelry, statement pieces, and bright accessories are favored. Your style borders comfy with fashion, and you have a way of executing the perfect balance here. You are also aligned with fabrics and material, and a good chiffon top in a soft pastel or earthy tone would be perfect for you.
VENUS IN IN GEMINI
GeminiWith your Venus in Gemini, you are the type of person to have a shock factor with your style as you typically wear things people may not expect or that don’t necessarily align with your personality in any one way. Venus in Gemini can rock any color and typically has a more maximalist aesthetic. There is nothing as “too much” for a Venus in Gemini, and you should focus on maximizing your look with an extra coat, color, texture, or style within another.
Your look should highlight your fun, outgoing, and light-hearted nature and have a balance of form-fitting and more lax, flowing clothes. The colors that look best on you are the colors you would see in the sky like blues, whites, yellows, as well as stripes, polka dots, and fun patterns.
VENUS IN CANCER
CancerVenus in Cancer has a nostalgic fashion taste. If you have a certain era or time period you are more drawn to fashion-wise, you should highlight that. Venus in Cancer looks best in deep colored tones like black and dark blue, but also draws a lot of attention to them in light pinks, off-whites, and light blues as well. Fashion styles that enhance their aura are soft materials like silk and velvet, and they look the best in vintage styles and silhouettes. Dresses, blouses, pearls, and romantic looks that align with their romantic heart work well for Venus in Cancers.
VENUS IN LEO
LeoVenus in Leo needs to shine in love and their fashion. They want all eyes on them and prefer to be adored and recognized wherever they go. This is why their fashion sense needs to stand out, and they often look best in bright and bold colors, a lot of jewelry, gold, and big or eye-catching hair. Venus in Leos often look beautiful in yellow and also turn heads in reds, black, and gold.
They have a more sexy style and aren’t afraid to show skin if they feel like it. Venus in Leos shine when they are embracing their maximalist and loving character, and making a bold statement with their fashion. Hair is everything for a Venus in Leo, and they are often known for their hair or stand out in some way with this and should highlight it.
VENUS IN VIRGO
VirgoVenus in Virgo is all about a classy, put-together, and not-too-flashy style. They look best in both business and casual styles, and overall, they align with authenticity in fashion. Whatever they are feeling that day is what they are going to wear, and they often take on many different looks in fashion. Venus in Virgos looks best in whites, off-whites, coral, green, and earth tones. They know how to make a pair of jeans look like a luxury item and often have a coastal aesthetic.
Venus in Virgos have a more minimalist style and would look good in a basic tee, blazer, and sneakers. Whatever Venus in Virgo is wearing, their confidence will be the most important thing they have to make them shine, as they can get overly fixated on the details.
VENUS IN LIBRA
LibraVenus in Libra is all about the aesthetic. These are the people with a cohesive Instagram feed and that have a Pinterest everyone gets inspiration from. Venus in Libra is good at defining their aesthetic, highlighting it, and being known for it. They look best in soft colors like pastel pink, blue, and purple, as well as diamonds, faux fur, and silver.
Venus in Libra is another sign with a luxurious taste, and they often feel their best when expressing their romantic, loving, soft, and abundant nature. Venus in Libra is one of the best signs to have Venus in as Venus is the ruler of Libra, so overall, this is a Venus sign that is most likely already dressed like their romantic, feminine, and timeless Venus sign.
VENUS IN SCORPIO
ScorpioVenus in Scorpio is another Venus sign who is not afraid to take risks in fashion. They have a sexy fashion taste that pushes the boundaries and wants to make people feel something- whether good or bad. Venus in Scorpios should look more into edgy pieces and styles, as they look best in black, leather, gray, burgundy, brown, and, of course, a dark lip color.
They have a style that draws people in and would benefit from having the perfect black dress in their closet. For events, dates, or experiences they want to focus on drawing more attention or receiving love, they should be wearing a deep red.
VENUS IN SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusWith a Venus in Sagittarius, your fashion sense is inspired by the many different places you have traveled or the people you have met. You have a quirky fashion taste that gets people talking, and you love a good conversation. You are the one to have the pieces that no one else has, and you love a one-of-a-kind, special edition item. You are someone who could rock both sexy and sporty styles and look best when there is a mixture of both.
Venus in Sagittarius is also drawn to bold colors and more neutral tones, so a balance is what you are trying to reach here. Overall, your fashion should be highlighting your eclectic taste.
VENUS IN CAPRICORN
CapricornVenus in Capricorn is the perfect representation of femme fatale in fashion. Venus in Capricorns often have the best items that they have invested in and took time to research and receive. The perfect example of a Venus in Capricorn’s style is what you would wear to a gala. Meaning, that either a business suit or a long, classy dress highlights this Venus sign's aura well. The colors you should wear with a Venus in Capricorn are blacks, purples, whites, and anything that is well-tailored and sleek. You are often drawn to the more high-end pieces, and your style should match your classy aesthetic.
VENUS IN AQUARIUS
AquariusVenus in Aquarius is another Venus sign of a trendsetter. You don’t care what people think about what you are wearing, and this opens up many doors that are possible for you in the fashion world. You are someone who looks best in outfits with different patterns, textures, and colors. Fashion looks that make someone think, “Wow, I would never think to put those two things together; that looks so good,” are what you should be aiming for.
Your style should highlight your unique and unconventional character. This is a Venus sign that looks good in eclectic pieces, layers, metallics, crystal jewelry, mismatched patterns, and florals.
VENUS IN PISCES
PiscesA Venus in Pisces signifies an intuitive approach to fashion. You can often have premonitions on what styles are going to become trendy, keeping you ahead in the fashion world. Overall, you are going for styles that allow you to move around, dance, and be free. You don’t want to wear something too constrictive, and you would rather wear a dress than yoga pants.
You look beautiful in colors that resemble the ocean, like blues, teals, whites, and greens, and also in colors that represent your more mystical side, like indigo, silver, and black. Your style should reflect your romantic, dreamy, and ethereal heart. What are some of the styles you dream about or daydream of wearing? Venus in Pisces should dress the way they feel that day.
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Whether you're planning to meet a certain financial or fitness goal, or you're simply trying to maintain and build on the progress you made this year, having something to look forward to is always a good look. Setting actual goals, according to research, actually leads to more success than just playing things by ear. So here are a few to get you started, sis:
(Disclaimer: Not everything is for everyone, so do like my Granny always says: "Eat the meat. Spit out the bone." Take on five out of the 40 and focus on that for the remainder of the year, or do them all. Either way, this is just to get you started.)
40 Ways To End The Year Strong and Inspired
Money Moves
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1. Increase your retirement (or other savings/investment) contributions by 1%.
Experts have found that you could be leaving money on the table by not upping your contributions when you can.
2. Cancel two to five subscriptions.
You could be missing hundreds, even thousands, of dollars a year due to sneaky price hikes and "updates."
3. Create a "fun" in a high-yield savings account.
This is especially important if you struggle with the dreaded b-word (budget) and will make next year's efforts a lot less intimidating. Even if it's $10 a month, do it.
4. Put on your big-girl panties, and set up automatic transfers and payments for at least one bill.
It reduces the stress of managing bills, lessens the chance of a missed payment---and the fees that come with that---and there can be cost savings for doing so.
5. Invest in a cleaner or housekeeping service.
Bosses who value their time (and mental health) invest their dollars into areas where the time they'd spend doing those tasks themselves could be better used to focus on other money-making projects. (And yes, rest is part of that.) Get a housekeeper, sis, or drop off that laundry, even if it's once per month.
6. Donate to a charity.
Beyond the tax benefits, it's a win-win for the greater good of communities you care about.
7. Review your insurance policies and negotiate a better rate (or move on) before their end dates.
Experts often agree this is a small but mighty step to take each year, especially since insurance rates are competitive, you could be spending more money than you need to (or not enough) and your insurance rates can affect your mortgage payments.
8. Call your loan provider and refinance.
As interest rates fall, “millions of borrowers may be able to refinance and get more affordable payments. As interest rates eased down to 6.5%, about 2.5 million borrowers could already refinance and save at least 75 basis points (0.75%) on their interest rate,” the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau reports. You can also refinance student and other types of loans.
9. Stop buying individual items and stock up via going bulk.
Research has found that, among 30 common products, buying in bulk could save you 27% compared with buying in lower quantities. Water, paper products, and baby products like diapers, toiletries, and garbage bags are the top items where people see the most cost-effectiveness. (This has been a lifesaver for me—children, large family, or not—especially when it comes to toothpaste, deodorant, toilet paper, and feminine hygiene products, saving stress, time, and money.)
10. Go cash-only for the holidays.
If you set smart goals and stick to limits on things like gifts, going out to eat, or groceries, you'll see the benefits of this. Cash-stuffing is one method recommended, but something as simple as taking a $10 bill out for lunch, disabling that card for an hour, and leaving your card in a safe place at the office can give you that mindset jump start to see how far you can take your money without the need to splurge.
Love And Romance
11. Say "no."
There are clear mental and physical health benefits to saying no including the setting of healthy boundaries, creating time and energy for other self-care activities, and protecting yourself from physically harmful situations (i.e. unprotected sex or abuse). Just say it, clearly and simply, when you need to.
12. Set a fun, free, adults-only date night for once a week or twice a month with your spouse.
If busy, high-profile folk have touted the success of this, even you can make the time for quality time with your partner. And it's even better when it costs nothing. The best connections are made doing something chill, challenging, or outside the usual dinner-and-a-movie date. Play a game that allows you to reconnect, take a walk in your neighborhood to chat and laugh, or try a little erotic chocolate/edible liquid/paint episode a la Mea Culpa.
13. Go out with Mr. or Ms. "Not My Type."
I love my man, but if I were waiting out for my "type" at the time, we wouldn't be celebrating seven (going on eight) years together. Sometimes having strict, unrealistic expectations for a spouse (especially related to things like height, physical features, or career path) is what's keeping you alone and lonely.
Take the pressure off and explore all your options. I'm not telling you to stop popping the balloon on the guy who earns $20,000 less than you if that's a hard no that Jesus himself told you to skip. I'm asking you to explore other options and see what else God might have out there for your love journey.
14. Immediately apologize and pray together.
I've learned that always being "right" isn't always ideal when you truly care about someone and you're in a relationship for the long haul. Defaulting to an apology when necessary, even when things aren't 100% resolved, is a good way to prioritize peace and save your energy for more worthwhile battles. Research has even supported the benefits of apologies in relationships, and how couples married for five or more years do it often.
15. Get a Rose and discover true self-love.
Do I really have to explain this? You've gotta know what satisfies you, and how better to figure that out than to practice self-love in the bed by yourself? You can also try this with a partner, but as a woman who got on this train very much later in my sexual activity journey. I have a lot more learning to do on my own, and even in a satisfying relationship, I like to find out new things about myself, by myself.
Figure out what you're into, watch what you want to watch, and read what you want to read to define pleasure for yourself. There's a freedom and empowering element there especially if you're used to prioritizing pleasing your partner.
16. Be direct and have the "money talk" with bae.
Money issues are one of the leading causes of divorce, so you need to have those conversations before you even think about marrying someone. And true, nobody can predict the future so you won't be able to avoid some challenges altogether, however, talking with your potential spouse about how they view money, their spending habits, and the pain points in terms of their approach to money management can at least give you a glimpse into what's in store if you do walk down the aisle, move in with them, or decide to share a bank account/business/child with them.
17. Invest in the "paid" version of that dating app.
I know plenty of successful, married folk who did this and met "the one" as a result. Let's be honest: The free version is for playing around. I had a lot of fun with my "free" profile back in the day, trust me. Upgrade that photo, profile, and package, and see if the quality of your dating adventures changes when you're serious about finding a true partner. Dating coaches and matchmakers cosign this.
18. Solo travel to meet that long-distance connection.
Sometimes, your perfect match isn't within 100 miles of you, and that's okay. Make it an adventure, enjoy the memories, and book that ticket. I met my man this way and it's been a whirlwind escape ever since. If you're not comfortable traveling solo, travel or (network to plan travel) with a group via Facebook.
Career And Business
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19. Schedule coffee or virtual meetups with smart people from your graduating class, previous employer, or current employer.
I have gotten many freelance opportunities by doing this. It's as simple as connecting and offering value (or simply learning how you can better equip yourself to do so.) It's also a great way to expand your network, spark new friendships, or find out about new job opportunities.
20. Invest in a well-made suit.
I don't care what industry you're in, a suit says "power," and it's not as old-school or out-of-style as you'd think. Plus the whole experience of looking for a new one (or getting one tailored) is fun and affirming. Try these options. I swear, anytime I wear a blazer, I'm treated like a celebrity or boss, especially when traveling. I was once upgraded to first-class wearing a yellow blazer outfit, and the airline professional literally said, "You look like somebody important. Here you go."
21. Volunteer for a worthwhile project or cause that's important to your company.
If you're overworked and underappreciated, skip this one, but if you truly have the time, love what you do, and want to advance, this move is clutch. Volunteering for extra projects got me where I am today in media because I had foresight, and knew that was the only way at the time to leverage relationships, and I was able to challenge myself to learn skills that 20 years later are still bankable. That VP you can't get a meeting with will be at that gala your company is planning, so join that committee, sis.
22. Write down why you deserve a raise and ask for it in your next one-on-one.
Gather those receipts (ie sales increase numbers, KPIs met, deals closed, people acquired via recruitment, the impact of systems updates, or other tangible success metrics) and ask for that raise before the first or second-quarter budgets are being finalized.
23. Instead of quitting, write down your exit plan.
While revenge quitting is set to be a thing next year (and maybe you're among those who will be leading the trend), try the better boss move and quit with a real plan.
24. Start automatically separating that estimated self-employed quarterly tax estimate.
If you have side hustles (or you're collecting 1099 income,) baby, you do not want to neglect those quarter tax payments. Talk to a professional, do your research, and set up automatic transfers to an account specifically for paying these at the appropriate due dates.
25. Sign up for a free one- to 11-week course related to your industry—or the industry you want to be in next year.
Institutions like Harvard University and platforms like Coursera offer free courses that can enhance your skills. You can also invest in certificate courses with accredited colleges as well as tech training.
26. Hit "Easy Apply" for 10 dream jobs listed on LinkedIn.
While you shouldn't solely rely on this when actively job-seeking, using this convenient LinkedIn option is a great way to get into the habit of applying for positions. And if you're already employed, you should still be "dating" other employers if you're looking to make a move in the next six months. Keep your interview skills sharp, practice toughening up for the "nos," and get a bit of an ego boost in the process.
Self-Care And Wellness
27. Pre-schedule three month's worth of massages.
Oftentimes this is cost-effective since some spas offer deals for multiple bookings. Also, it makes an act of self-care deliberate and important, not an option. When you get that reminder call, you'll know it's real.
28. Fire that therapist and try another one.
Cultural competency in mental health support is one major problem that can hinder Black women from even bothering with therapy. And who wants the added stress of spending multiple, paid sessions explaining why something is a microaggression? Cut the cord and move on to try someone else, either via a Black women therapists channel or recommendations from others.
29. Join a small group at church.
Bedside service ain't gonna cut it and neither is going to the usual Sunday service. Join a smaller group and upgrade your efforts to connect, network, and elevate spiritually. Even if virtually, take a step to dig a bit deeper with more targeted Bible study and discussions.
30. Say no, even to loved ones.
This is on here twice, for a reason. Saying no is the simplest, most powerful micro-action you can take today to make 2025 better. No explanations. No guilt. Say no.
31. Choose one "luxury" beauty product for skincare and stick to it.
This was trending big on social, especially for millennials hitting their 40s. There's just something so freeing about not giving in to every trend and sticking to the basics that work, especially when there are quality, healthy ingredients involved. Put those orders on auto-renew.
32. Sign up for a new sport or fitness class just for fun, not for results.
It's great to be on a weight-loss or weight-lifting journey, but try something just for the fun of it. Switch things up with a couple of these fitness activities.
33. Book a staycation.
Leave the passport at home and explore a nearby community or another town in your state. There's so much enrichment in your own backyard right here in the U.S., and you don't even have to break the bank.
34. Pre-schedule your mammograms, Pap smear, and peri-menopause checkups for next year.
Take control of your health by pre-scheduling essential appointments like mammograms, Pap smears, and peri-menopause check-ups for 2025. Prioritizing these screenings early ensures you stay on top of your wellness and make time for self-care in the new year.
35. Cut off support of beauty and wellness professionals whose customer service is below standard.
This is another one that many Black women have been vocal about—from unrealistic pre-appointment requirements, to booking fees, to long waits, to unsavory in-salon experiences. Spot the red flags early, and just stop accommodating foolishness. Support salons or experienced stylists who are kind, have proper systems in place and value your time.
36. Schedule five to 10-minute moments of silence on your calendar.
Again, wellness is not optional, and if it's not on my calendar, it's not official. Sit quietly. Pray. Meditate. Or do nothing. The benefits of silent moments are almost endless.
37. Download a meditation app.
If you've found that meditation is difficult to schedule or to even start, an app can help. Try this, this, or this one, and take that step to embrace something new to enhance your wellness routine. If you're tired of downloading apps, create a playlist for meditation via Amazon Music or Spotify and schedule a reminder to do it once a day or week.
38. Invest in a healthy meal prep or delivery service.
Time is emotionally expensive, so save as much of it as possible. Getting into meal prep to keep to your goals is a great way to save time, stress, and effort. The health benefits of meal prepping have also been proven via research.
39. Create a positive playlist on Spotify, Amazon Music, YouTube, or other streaming platform.
It can be podcasts, music, affirmations, or somatic sounds. It's a game-changer. You can even set an alarm to wake you up to start your day with the positive playlist. Not into creating your own? There are plenty to choose from with a quick search.
40. Set up reminders for Alexa (Siri or other AI) to remind you, "You are loved," and "You are okay."
This simple effort can boost your endorphins and remind you that you're indeed, not alone, and you will be okay, regardless. To set mine up, I simply commanded, "Alexa, remind me everyday 'Jesus loves me,'" and like clockwork she does. She almost scared the ish out of me one day when I'd forgotten the reminder was active, but it was the reminder I needed when anxiety had gotten the best of me that week.
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While the movies and shows on this list vary in genre and style, they all have toe-curling elements that make them truly mind-blowing.
1. Love & Basketball
Now, Love & Basketballis a universally memorable movie in the Black community in its own right, but that sex scene was almost revolutionary. The raw, realistic portrayal of Monica’s first time as she loses her virginity to her childhood soulmate Quincy was an important moment for young Black women everywhere. For a scene that had no on-screen nudity, the chemistry between the characters was enough to have us all feeling a little hot under the collar!
2. Set It Off
This 1996 sex scene between Blair Underwood and Jada Pinkett-Smith’s characters Keith and Stony had all the elements that take a sex scene from good to great. And let’s not let the fact that Jada used a body double take away from how iconic this scene is. Attractive actors, focused foreplay, close-ups, tension-building music (shout out En Vogue!), and chemistry for days. When I rewatched this movie recently and noticed the way Keith moved his chain out of the way (IYKYK), I yelled! Those little details set this sex scene apart.
3. Out of Time
Denzel Washington has been fine his whole life. He’s intergenerational fine. And when this movie came out he was in his PRIME, okay?! The chemistry between Denzel and Sanaa Lathan in Out of Time is undeniable. So much so that when the movie came out, rumors began to circulate that the actors were romantically involved. And if you’ve seen the movie, I’m sure you’re not surprised.
The icing on the cake for me was that roleplay scene (peep the video above). You know, the one where Matthias pretends to be investigating a crime and Ann talks him through what the “intruder” did to her and he reenacts it? Turns out WE were the ones intruding on a crime - assault with a deadly weapon, if you will.
4. Scandal
Thursdays haven’t been the same since ABC’s TGIT. Shonda Rhimes was in her bag when she gave us back-to-back episodes of Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, AND How To Get Away With Murder. Lives were changed. Aside from nail-biting drama and salacious storylines, Shonda also consistently gave us an array of dangerously attractive characters and sexual tension so thick you could cut it with a knife.
I’ll forever be team #Olitz. Their steamy sex sessions were made even hotter because their relationship was taboo, scandalous, even.
Adultery aside, Olivia and Fitz’s sexy time scenes never left anything to be desired. Interestingly, my favorite Olitz sex scene is their very first time. After six episodes of build-up, they finally did the deed and alleviated all the sexual tension we’d all been feeling. I think we all developed a new level of respect for Fitz when he ordered Olivia to take her clothes off, and she did not disappoint because she served bawdy in that white lingerie (I see what you did there, Shonda). Olivia served at the pleasure of the President, and so did we. For all 6 seasons.
5. Bridgerton
Dearest Gentle Reader, this couple certainly set the Ton abuzz in Bridgerton season one. For a Duke who was once lost for words, the cat’s certainly no longer in possession of his tongue. And luckily, it seems the Duchess is more physical touch than words of affirmation.
The Hastings basked in newlywed bliss all over their new abode and that library ladder scene - you know the one - took the couple’s sex life to new heights. What made this scene with Simon going down on Daphne while she’s suspended on a ladder so incredibly hot is how it centered *female* pleasure. He a good man, Savannah!
6. Insecure
One thing we could always expect from Issa Rae and Larry Wilmore’s hit series - a jaw-dropping sex scene. What I loved about Insecure’s sex scenes is that they’re not only seriously hot, but alsoVERY relatable. From that incident with Daniel, to Issa and Lawrence’s freshly-broken-up-unfinished-business ex-sex.
The one that tops my list has got to be when Issa and Nathan joined their own version of the Mile High Club on the Ferris wheel at Coachella. Cinematically, the scene was gorgeous but it also felt truly organic, like it was the perfect first time for them. I feel like we all collectively exhaled because she finally chose a man we could actually root for. You know what that is? Growth.
Honorable mention: the we’ve-finally-reunited couch sex Lawrence and Issa have when they finally get back together.
7. Power
From gunplay to foreplay, Power held nothing back. Every sex scene was spicy in its own way from Tate and his staffer, to the pilot episode Ghost and Tasha, to Tommy and Keisha. So many to choose from! The one that stands out in my mind is when Ghost and Angela get it on against the window of his hotel room overlooking the New York cityscape. Their chemistry was undeniable and the yearning was palpable in every single one of their sex scenes. Now, that’s acting!
8. Love Jones
WhenLove Jones premiered in 1997, a Black romance about a couple of creatives living and loving in the city was unprecedented. Between the novelty of the story and the charming dynamic between Darius and Nina, Love Jones quickly became a cultural classic. And even with the plethora of Black stories that have since graced our screens, Love Jones is a movie the conversation always comes back to. I mean, with bars like “I’m the blues in your left thigh trying to become the funk in your right”? Yeah, I would’ve folded.
Nina and Darius having sex on the first date felt bold and spontaneous, but that’s only part of why that scene was so steamy. Music can make or break a moment on-screen - sex or otherwise - and Maxwell’s "Sumthin’ Sumthin’" playing in the background made it feel like they were truly making love. Romance is sexy too, right?
9. Queen & Slim
Finally, on-screen car sex that actually looks enjoyable! It’s a beautifully shot scene with long, slow closeups of the characters making intense eye contact (IYKYK!). And the passion between the two actors is so realistic that some people even questioned if the scene was real! The buildup that led to this spontaneous daylight, on-the-run hookup made it even sexier. 10/10, no notes.
For so long, we’ve been starved of seeing positive Black female sexuality on screen and the She’s Gotta Have It remake helped to change that. DeWanda Wise absolutely killed it in the Spike Lee remake as Nola Darling, a polyamorous pansexual woman living her best sexually liberated life, boldly approaching relationships in a way we usually see as taboo. Men, women…one, two, three on rotation, Nola’s pleasure was Nola’s priority (IKDR!).
While her sexual appetite meant her loving bed saw many visitors, I think her best sex scene came when she finally decided to give monogamy a try with her girlfriend Opal. While the scene was pretty graphic, just like the others, this one was different because it was special. It felt like Nola and Opal were two women passionately in love. And what’s sexier than sex with someone you love?
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