What To Ask A Potential Employer When Changing Careers
Interviews can either go really right or really wrong. They're difficult enough if it's for an industry you've been dominating for years, but when you're bravely taking on a career change, they can seem even more intimidating.
Yes, you've scored the interview, which is major. But now you have to sell yourself at a different level and prove even more why you should be offered the position. The questions you ask could make or break the progress you've already made during the conversation. Plus, asking the right questions will also help you determine if it's a good fit for you too.
Need a little direction? Here are a few questions to ask your potential boss when changing careers:
1.Is There Potential For Growth?
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Asking about how you can grow in the company shows that you're not only serious about taking on this new venture, but that you plan on doing it for the long-haul. It proves that you can do more than bring something like your unique background to the table. It shows that you don't think you have it all together, but rather that you're looking to learn and be challenged.
If it's an entry-level position that you want to take to get your foot in the door, their answer can also help you determine how long you'll be in that position and if the company encourages a learning environment.
2.Ask A Question That Will Connect How Your Background Can Bring Value
This one certainly requires a lot of research, but it can also impress your potential employer as you continuously prove that even though you might not have much experience, the experience and history that you do have can be beneficial for them. It displays that you're not looking for them to just hand you a position that will be an advantage for you, but that you also want to contribute to the team. Their answer can reveal a lot about how you might feel valued with the company once you're officially brought onboard.
3.What Does A Typical And Successful Day Look Like?
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While the employer might be trying to get you to prove why you're a good fit, you should also be on guard to determine if the position is a good fit for you; especially because it's something unique to your background. When you ask a possible future employer about the outline of a typical day (if it exists in that company), you can get a better idea of your expected roles and responsibilities and decide if that's even something you'll want to do.
Chances are, you're stepping out on this career change because you want to try something new or want to be challenged. Finding out what the regular responsibilities are can indicate if you'll like doing the job and the people you work with. You can also ask what their expectations are within the first 30, 60, and 90 days of your start date to gain more clarity.
4.Do You Have Any Concerns About My Career Background?
Looking at your resume, it's clear that the elephant in the room will be that you could very well have little-to-no experience. While that might not be addressed head-on, you should definitely be prepared for them to ask what brought on this change.
If they don't, (or even if they do) that's a great opportunity for you to get ahead of the curve and ask what concerns they have, if any. Their answer will show what could be holding you back from being a shoo-in. But it also gives you a chance to give a rebuttal and reassure them how and why you're the best person for the job.
5.What Do You Think Most Makes Me A Fit?
Sorry sis, this isn't a question to have the interviewer gas you up. Even though they might rant and rave about why you got the interview to begin with, it's really a chance for you to hear why they think you'll fit in.
If their reasons are factors you really don't want to focus on in your next career, that's something that should be considered. Your potential employer's answer should give you an idea of what they expect to pull out from you while you're on the job. Whether it's a fit for you or not, it's nice to have a good idea of how they perceive you, your strengths, and what they feel you can offer before you accept the position.
6.What Are The Biggest Challenges The Company (Or Department) Is Currently Facing?
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I love this question because it gives you the perfect opportunity to once again prove why you can do this job. If they choose to actually answer honestly, you can pull from your previous positions and explain how you can be the answer to those problems.
For example, if you have a background in customer service and you're looking to go into marketing and their issue is clientele, you can speak to how you've helped resolve issues and please customers by the masses on a daily. The main idea is to be prepared to discuss how you can contribute to the company, even though you might not have the traditional and cookie-cutter experience they were looking for.
7.What’s The Typical Career Direction For Someone Who Takes On This Role?
It's no secret that the position is open because someone is no longer with the company or moved to a different role. Whatever the reason, hearing your potential employer dish and brag about what others in that position have gone on to do can be encouraging for you. Their response can also show you if that's the direction you want to go. That doesn't mean that this factor should determine if you take the job, but it does at least let you know of the limitless possibilities you can take advantage of once you accept the offer.
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Not too long ago, while in an interview, someone asked me for a top complaint that I hear husbands say (first) and then wives state (second) as it relates to what goes down (or doesn’t go down) in the bedroom.
Ladies first: when it comes to women, I think what comes up more than anything might surprise some: it’s boredom. A lot of wives want there to be more spontaneity instead of taking the “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” approach from their partner. As for men? I mean, would anyone be shocked to hear that they wished their wife would initiate sex more often?
I’m telling you, over frequency, technique, and even dressing up more for bed (and yes, those things also come up quite a bit), hands down, what I hear that more men want is for their partner to show them that they are desired by taking the initial steps to make copulation happen…more often.
And so, since I’m all about doing whatever I can to reduce dissatisfaction and frustration in the bedroom department, let’s explore this very topic today — from a few angles. For starters, what it truly means to be a sexual initiator; two, why it’s so vitally important to be a sexual initiator, and three, why it could literally change the entire tone, energy, and outcome of your sex life with your partner — if you’d simply be open to initiating sex more often than you (probably already) do.
What It Means to Initiate Something. LITERALLY.
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I’m word-literal — there’s no secret about that. So, when it comes to the topic of initiating sex, let’s start with what the word means. To initiate is “to begin, set going, or originate” and “to introduce into the knowledge of some art or subject.” Some synonyms for initiate include begin, open, set up, trigger, admit, introduce, and invest. And when it comes to all of the meanings of these words, between men and women, when it comes to sex specifically, guess who does it more? Men. BY A LONG SHOT TOO: a whopping 60 percent.
When it comes to why a lot of women are so comfortable with men initiating intimacy, many think that, just like men should pursue them for a relationship, it is also “the man’s role” to pursue sex in the bedroom; they literally think that it makes them look desperate or needy for them to be the initiator — yes, even as a wife. What in the world?
Listen, when two people sign up to be each other’s exclusive sex partner until death parts them, it means they are both saying that they desire each other so much that they are willing to make that kind of commitment — and so, there should be no “I don’t want to appear this way or that” when it comes to sexual activity.
So, with all of that ridiculous overthinking out of the way, that should make you want to “set up” some sex plans, “admit” to some sexual fantasies that you may have, and “introduce” some new ideas to your partner; especially since that’s exactly what so many men wish that their lady would do, to begin with.
So, with all of this said, if you’re someone who is hung up on not initiating, first spend some time really processing what the word means. Because when two people are eager to begin sex and invest in each other sexually, that is the recipe for a truly satisfying experience…over and over and over again.
C’mon. Who Doesn’t Want to Feel Wanted?
GiphyI remember once reading an article that said our brain processes rejection the same way that it does physical pain, and y’all, I don’t know about you, but if something is physically hurting me, my natural inclination is to get away from it. Along these lines, when it comes to relationships since research has proven that rejection can lead to things like jealousy, shame, anxiety, loneliness, and guilt — yes, it makes all of the common sense in the world that you would want to do all that you can to make your partner feel wanted…both in and outside of the bedroom because, just like no one wants to deal with physical pain, no one wants to keep dealing with rejection and all of the fallout that comes with it…either.
Actually, when it comes to this particular point, I think that an article that I once read on Psychology Today’s site said it best: “Not only does being needed help define your role in a relationship, but being needed can also influence how satisfied you feel in a relationship.” And before some of you say that “sex is not a need” — the hell you say? I mean, the only purpose of your clitoris is to provide sexual stimulation, so that alone should make us all deem sex (and sexual fulfillment) as pretty damn important.
Plus, by definition, a need is something that is deemed as being essential while also being something that is extremely necessary, and anyone who thinks that a romantic relationship doesn’t need physical intimacy? That’s someone who really needs to remain single because one of the top things that makes a relationship more than a friendship is there is intimacy that’s involved.
Besides, who doesn’t want to feel wanted by their partner — and I do mean, in every way? And when you make the decision to be in an exclusive relationship with someone else, you are declaring that they are someone who pleases you to the point where you don’t need to look for anyone else to do it; and, if that is indeed what you are saying, it doesn’t make sense that you wouldn’t initiate sex with them sometimes (and I do mean more than on their birthday).
One, because you choose them to “fill that role.” Two, because they are the source of your fulfillment in that area. Three, because it’s completely unfair (not to mention totally hypocritical) to expect them to make you feel wanted when you’re not being intentional about making them feel the same way in return. Not to mention the fact that initiating also helps to safeguard your relationship on a lot of levels too.
Since sex is important and rejection is detrimental on so many levels, it’s crucial to make your partner feel sexually wanted and desired by you. One way to definitely do that is to initiate sex.
What Initiating Sex Does for You
GiphySo, what does initiating sex do for the initiator? Something that I tell a lot of my women clients is it helps them to create an atmosphere that puts them in the mood. What I mean by that is, if their husband is perfectly content having sex on the couch during commercials (I’m kind of exaggerating to make a point…kind of…LOL) while they would like some candles, mood music, and rose petals — they can control that if they are the one who initiates.
Another perk that comes with being the initiator is you have more “control” over how the sex goes. The kind of foreplay you want, how fast or slow things go, how intercourse begins — all of this, you have more of a say so in if you’re the one who is initiating intimacy. Why? Well, think about when your bae initiates — doesn’t it seem like you tend to follow his lead more when he’s the one who is first to get the ball rolling?
Oftentimes, when a couple comes to me about being sexually dissatisfied, and I recommend that the one who doesn’t initiate takes more initiative, the one on the receiving end likes the fact that their partner is “running the show” — and the initiator likes “being in charge” more than they thought that they would. As a result, both end up experiencing far more pleasure.
The initiator shows what they want more of while the receiver feels desired in the process. A win/win for everyone.
What Initiating Sex Does for Him
sexy black and white GIFGiphyA couple of weeks ago, while in a session with a client, he was joking about how much he has “too much of a good thing” when it comes to his wife’s libido. Although science says that the fact that men have a higher amount of testosterone in their system, and it is the reason why they typically have a higher sex drive, don’t sleep on a lot of women out there who want to get it in more than their husband does. His wife is one of them. Since she’s a client of mine too (oftentimes, we do our sessions separately), it’s interesting that he’s fine with having sex a couple of times a month while she would like to a couple of times a week.
So, is he denying her when she wants it more often? Nope. The reason why they’re not having more sex is that even though her drive is higher, she still waits for him to initiate. Why? Because she thinks that’s what “the man should do”; not only that but “being wooed” turns her on more.
As I’ve been working on helping them to find a middle ground (because if marriage ain’t about compromise, I don’t know what is), he says that he feels like because he plans a lot of the dates, he wishes that she would initiate more: “I don’t think a lot of women get how hard it is to be a Black man out here. Nothing feels better than knowing that if no one else is thrilled by your presence, your woman is. For us, initiating isn’t just about sex. It’s about feeling wanted as a whole. And when we feel like our woman adores us, there is no greater turn-on.”
I’m not sure what y’all heard, but what it sounds like to me is when we, as women, initiate sex, men feel holistically special and cherished. That makes sense, too, because if we were to put our feet in their shoes, we would probably say the same thing. That’s just one more reason to pull the “gender roles” out of this topic; men and women both want to feel like they are the best thing on the planet by their sex partners. And again, initiating helps us all to feel that way.
What Initiating Ultimately Does for Your Relationship As a Whole
Issa Rae Love GIF by Insecure on HBOGiphyPersonally, I can only imagine how much better sex would be for everyone (who is in a sexual relationship) if people simply initiated copulation whenever they wanted to have it. That way, everyone would feel desired — and what could possibly be wrong with that? Especially if both individuals factored in some of the definitions for initiated that I already shared. Just think about if you rushed home tonight because you read about something that you want to introduce to your man or there’s a fantasy that you have that you want to admit.
The mere conversations alone will help to bring the two of you closer together because, after all, deep intimacy is about minds, bodies, and spirits getting as close as possible…right? And so, yes, by initiating sex, it can bring more closeness and stability to the relationship as a whole.
And what if you initiate and your partner isn’t interested at the time? Or what if you’re shy about initiating due to having a fear of rejection? That’s a fair and legitimate concern. One day, I’ll need to pen an article on how couples should handle situations like that with grace (on both ends) while applying the golden rule of “doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.” For now, I’ll just say that if this is your greatest point of concern, share that with your partner as well.
After all, it’s pretty unrealistic to expect them to always want it when you do (although it’s been my experience and observation that men are almost always far easier to convince…LOL); just know that not wanting sex at the exact moment that you do doesn’t mean that they don’t want you altogether. Besides, oftentimes, a nap or a night of sleep can rectify that issue. Trust me.
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Rihanna was actually once quoted as saying, “To me, sex is power. It’s empowering to do it because you want to do it.” I personally think that’s a great way to bring this to a close. Make your partner feel wonderful, empower yourself, and strengthen your relationship by initiating sex more often. I can’t think of one reason why it’s not a wise move. Can you?
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