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Your 2024 Career Forecast, Based On Your Zodiac Sign
Explore your sign’s 2024 horoscope predictions to learn what is in store for you this year in love, career, and more. Check out the love compatibility of each sign to learn more about zodiac pairings and all things compatibility.
When it comes to what is in store for your career in 2024, the vibe is influential. The Astrology transits of 2024 are pointing toward musings, finding inspiration, planting new seeds, and nurturing your goals. It’s about taking your passions, hobbies, and interests seriously and turning an idea into material. This is a year of getting creative with what you are looking to go after within your professional world and about maintaining a confident sense of patience while they come about for you.
Jupiter will be in Taurus until May 25, and Jupiter in Taurus brings benefits financially, artistically, and when it comes to personal investments. The first half of the year is a good time to turn intentions into attainable goals and to create a new structure for yourself financially if needed. Jupiter then moves into Gemini on May 25 until June 9, 2025, and the second half of the year will be a good time for networking, putting your ideas out there, thinking outside of the box, careers that are based on communication, and opening your mind to what is possible for you within your career.
Your 2024 Career Horoscope Predictions, Based On Your Zodiac Sign
Jupiter in Gemini is inspiring, and this energy is changing the way we look at things professionally. Something healing is happening when it comes to the way we work and the way we handle the workday or environment. Changes need to be made, and there is a shift happening in the world this year that is geared more towards rest, collaboration, taking intentional action, and having a good balance between personal life and professional life.
The North Node entered Aries in July 2023 and will be in this feisty sign until early 2025. With the North Node in a sign aligned with leadership, courage, and independence, there is a lot of motivation to go after your personal goals in life right now and to forge a new path for yourself. Self-awareness is highlighted, and there is a need to stand out from the crowd, to shine in what makes you unique, and to be the leader of your goals.
You will find success by not being afraid to be authentically you in whatever environment you are in. At the same time, Chiron, the wounded healer, is also in Aries, and we are also healing said matters and wounds related to the self. Ask yourself this year, “What do you feel empowered to create, to be, and to become, and does it align with the current path you are on right now in your career?”
Read on for your sun and rising sign below to see what 2024 has in store for your career.
1.ARIES
You are learning a lot within your career this year, Aries. You are learning how to let go of things when you know it’s time to, how to plan financially so that you are not left feeling overburdened or restricted, and how to trust yourself and the dreams that are meant for you. The North Node is our direction in life, our goals, and our dreams, and with the North Node in your sign all year, you have a lot you want to accomplish and tend to right now. The vision is clear, but you are being reminded to go about things with more confidence and dignity rather than competition or fear of loss.
Jupiter, the planet of blessings, is in your 2nd house of finances and income until May, and the first half of the year will be a good time to experience gains financially and to set yourself up for future success.
2.TAURUS
There is a lot of positive and transformative energy flowing through your career world this year, Taurus. Jupiter, the planet of blessings, is in your sign until May 25th, and you are experiencing the benefits of this benevolent planet in your orb. You are seeing past goals and dreams come to fruition, your stature within your career is evolving, and things are overall turning around for you for the better here. On May 25th, once Jupiter moves out of your sign and enters Gemini, the energy then moves into your 2nd house of finances, and you get to end the year on an abundant tone.
You could be expanding your income this year or overall feeling a greater sense of financial stability. With Saturn in your house of community, you are learning an important lesson when it comes to working with the right people, sharing your dreams with the right people, and thinking big picture when it comes to your goals.
3.GEMINI
It’s all about perspective this year, Gemini. Maintaining a positive attitude while going after your dreams is needed, and there may be some ups and downs you are moving through career-wise this year. With the North Node and Chiron in your 11th house in 2024, you are learning more about who you want to work with and how to attract the right people into your life to help you reach success. You are also recognizing the right headspace it takes to feel emotionally fulfilled in life, and taking care of your personal life will help benefit your career a lot this year.
Once Jupiter moves into your sign from May 25th until June 2025, you enter one of the luckiest times in your life, and you end the year with opportunities falling into your lap. Remember to keep your focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want so that you don’t miss the gifts that are presenting themselves to you this year.
4.CANCER
There is a lot to celebrate this year, and you are having fun with where things are within your career, Cancer. You are working with the right people and feeling a sense of love and emotional fulfillment with what you are doing in your career life and the people you are doing it with. You are finding yourself being celebrated and encouraged, and with the North Node and Chiron both in your 10th house of career, you are reaching some significant goals in 2024. This is a year of expressing yourself and your ideas freely, having more fun in the workplace, and coming together with others who share a common goal as you.
There is a New Moon Eclipse on April 8th, happening in a career area of your chart, and this is when you will see a turnaround and a new beginning come about professionally. There is friendship, creativity, and love in the workplace for you this year, Cancer.
5.LEO
This year is about going after what you want, showing up, and being fearless about your goals, Leo. This is going to be a more action-oriented year for you, and you are feeling confident in the things you are showing up for right now. Jupiter, the benevolent planet of blessings, is in your career, public life, and reputation area of your chart until May, and you are taking on new opportunities eagerly. Your world is abundant this year, and you are thinking big right now. With the North Node in your house of adventure, this is the time to get inspired about where life can take you and to expand your horizons.
You are a visionary, you are a leader, and it’s time to think long-term about your goals and intentions. Take inspired action, trust your instincts, and be confident in the opportunities that are presenting themselves to you this year.
6.VIRGO
When it comes to career life this year, you are working, playing, connecting, and creating. You are shining in your creativity this year and connecting with people who you professionally resonate with. You are in a creative zone this year and are putting out a lot of work or producing a lot of the things you have been thinking over. You may also find yourself in more group atmospheres in the workplace, as people are coming into your life to collaborate and help you succeed. Jupiter is in your 10th house of career from May until next year, and the second half of the year is going to be the most successful time for you as things move forward for you quickly and harmoniously in this energy.
Your expertise is needed this year, and you are shining and gaining financially in the things you excel in and have worked towards. You are being rewarded for your efforts in 2024, Virgo.
7.LIBRA
Career life this year for you, Libra, is about taking a step back, looking at the options in front of you, and deciding where you want to go from here. Your professional and career life may be put on the back-burner a little more this year as there are other more pressing matters grabbing your attention. There is a sense of more rest, clarity, and inspiration needed to feel confident enough to move forward again, and you need some time to plan your next steps this year.
With Saturn, the planet of lessons and restrictions, in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routine for the year, this is an area of your life where you are feeling more challenged and need some time to grow here. The New Moon Eclipse in your sign on Oct. 2nd will be a turning point for you and when you feel like you can take a breath of fresh air.
8.SCORPIO
Career this year is about what you are saying yes to and what you are saying no to, Scorpio. There are a lot of opportunities presenting themselves, but you will want to make sure you are choosing from the heart and the head and not saying yes to things you will later regret doing. Aligning with the things you truly feel passionate about this year is essential, and you will see greater gains financially when you do so. The New Moon Eclipse on April 8th will be influencing your work and career life and will be creating a new beginning for you here.
Jupiter is in your 8th house of shared finances, taxes, debt, and resources from May until 2025, and this is a good time to see your finances increase, pay off debts, or feel a greater sense of abundance in your relationships and commitments. Overall, your career life this year is about choosing wisely, gaining financially, and experiencing a transformation.
9.SAGITTARIUS
This year is all about trusting your intuition in your career and letting go of what is not serving you while moving into what is Sagittarius. There may be some uncomfortable experiences you have to confront within your career this year, and you are being guided to trust your instincts more. If something feels too good to be true, or if something feels off while talking to someone in the workplace, trust yourself on it. Don’t be blinded by glitz and glamour; dive deeper into the opportunities that are presenting themselves.
Jupiter will be in your 6th house of work until May, helping you expand in your career and receive your successes- but not everyone may be happy for you in the process. Protect your energy, protect your assets, and focus on your future. With Pluto in your 3rd house of communication this year, you are communicating effectively, and feeling empowered to do so.
10.CAPRICORN
It’s all about your intentions within your career this year, Capricorn. You are already someone who is a more career-focused person, and you typically thrive in this area of your life. However, you also can lean more towards overworking yourself and burning yourself out in the process. This year is reminding you to work smarter and not harder and to release your grasp on unhealthy habits or work environments when they don’t serve you or your well-being.
You are gaining financially but may be feeling more restricted in the process if you don’t take the time to settle into and be grateful for what is- instead of always continuing to strive for more and losing balance on your other priorities. Pluto entered your 2nd house income in early 2024, where it will be for some time to come, and you are entering a new era financially this year. Overall, you are feeling a lot of empowerment and transformation here.
11.AQUARIUS
You are feeling in tune and well-prepared for career matters this year, Aquarius. This is a year of mentally moving through a deep space of growth, reflection, and wisdom, and you are putting this energy into your career and the people you work with. You may find yourself in more leadership positions this year, and people want to know what you have to say and what you are thinking about things. Pluto entered your sign at the beginning of the year, making you one of the power players of 2024- and you are truly a force to be reckoned with this year.
The Full Moon Eclipse happening on Sept. 17th will be in your 2nd house of income, and you will see some past goals and intentions come to fruition for you during this time. Your investments are seeing a return, and you are being heard and supported. You are closing one chapter within your career this year and opening the door to a new one.
12.PISCES
This is a passionate and inspiring year for you when it comes to your career, Pisces. You have the right energy with your goals, and you are taking intentional action here. This is a year of feeling confident in who you are and what you bring to the table and being seen as a leader in the workplace. Jupiter is in your 4th house for most of this year, and you are looking to create stable and long-term financial gains in your life right now. Stability is everything for you this year, especially with Saturn in your sign now, and you are building new structures in your life that are meant to last.
There is an Eclipse in your sign on Sept. 17th, and you are coming full circle when it comes to your personal goals and are seeing fewer obstacles ahead to reach them. You are mastering your creativity and your world this year and are meeting successes, Pisces.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
These Newlyweds Found Love Thanks To A Friend Playing Matchmaker
How We Met is a series where xoNecole talks love and relationships with real-life couples. We learn how they met, how like turned into love, and how they make their love work.
Jason and Elise Robinson’s union is a reminder that kind people still get their happily ever after. The pair had their first date in October of 2021 and tied the knot on June 15, 2024. Both of them have dedicated their lives to celebrating and supporting Black culture so it was only fitting they get married in what's considered the Black Hollywood of America during the Juneteenth celebration weekend. From the florists to Elise and Jason's gown and suit designers to the table signage and so much more, everything was Black-owned. It's no wonder their love for Black culture was the jumping-off point for their love story.
When they met, Jason had just moved to Atlanta for a new job opportunity, and Elise was living happily in her career and had put dating on the backburner. But luckily, a mutual connection saw something in both of them and thanks to a yoga-themed baby shower and a chance text message, they found their forever. Check out their beautiful How We Met story below.
I’ll start with the easiest question. Can you both tell me a little bit about yourself and your background?
Elise: Sure, my name is Elise. I’m actually from Atlanta, GA – not a transplant. I grew up here and left right after college to pursue my career. Now I’ve been back going on eight years, and I’m in my early 40s.
Jason: And I’m Jason. I’m originally from Racine, Wisconsin. I went to school at Florida A&M University, so I am a rattler. I went back to the Midwest for a period of time, in Indianapolis. Now, I’ve been in the Atlanta area for a little over two and a half years.
Jason and Elise Robinson
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Wow, that’s nice because Atlanta gets a bad rap when it comes to relationships. So you have to give us the deets. How did you two find each other?
Elise: So I work in TV and I was on-air for a number of years and then transitioned into being a producer and then a manager. As a producer, I’d always have guests on. And there was a woman who came on frequently named Rosalynn (@Rosalynndaniels, often referred to as The Black Martha Stewart), and we connected instantly. Anyway, she got pregnant right before COVID and invited me to a “modern-day yoga baby shower.” I came to support, but was also just curious about that theme.
I had an amazing time. And when it was over a few of us stuck around and convos got personal. She ended up asking me the infamous ‘Are you dating’ question. When I told her no, she decided to set me up. So I should tell you, in both of my only two serious relationships, I was set up – so I was like no.
But she pointed at her husband, who was folding up chairs, and said that another friend set her up with him. Sometimes, it takes people outside of us to see what we need. A few months later, she reached out and said she had family relocating and thought I’d really like him. So she gave him my number, and I reached out with a text. He responded with a call, and that night, we talked for about 2-3 hours. So that’s how we met. I was a little nervous because me and Rosalynn were starting a friendship, and here I was, talking to her family!
Jason: It was new for me too. Remember, I was new to the area, and I had heard so many “stories” about how people have been done wrong in the dating world. Whether it’s by theft or scamming (laughs). Plus, I had just got a new job and wanted to focus on that. But I did want to be able to date someone in a more personal way and see where it led. I felt like who better than someone who I trust to connect me. Rosalynn knows I’m private, about business life, and my personal life is important to me.
So let’s get into your courtship. What was your first date like?
Elise: We had our first convo on a Monday, and he asked me out the next day. I didn’t have any plans, but I still said no. I was just playing hard to get (laughs). But we were talking every day, and he told me he wanted to take me somewhere I’ve never been. And I’m like, you’re in my city! But he sends me three options, and sure enough, two of the places I hadn’t gone to. So, our first date was October 1, 2021, and somebody was 45 minutes late.
Now Jason, why were you 45 minutes late?
Elise: It was me – in my own city. I just got turned around, and the traffic was horrible. I kept calling him and giving him permission to leave. Full transparency: I probably wouldn’t have waited if the shoe was on the other foot. But this was my first sign of what I now know and love the most about him. It’s his patience. When I got there, I was frazzled and everything, but he was just super calm. It ended up being a great first date.
Jason: I remember just waiting and being concerned for her well-being. Because I know how traffic can be, especially when someone is rushing. I was just scrolling through my phone and looking through the menu. It was cool.
Elise and Jason Robinson
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That’s beautiful. Now let’s talk about the “what are we” convo? Did you have one of those and if so, who initiated it and how was it?
Elise: I initiated it. Jason was dating me – and still does. But by this time, we had been on a number of dates. We were on our way to a winery, and we had a bit of a drive. So I decided to state my intention. We were just a few weeks in, but we were spending a lot of time together and we are people of a particular age. So I told him, I know Atlanta can be a Black man’s playground. There’s so many beautiful professional women here. But I’m dating with intention. I don’t want to kick it or hang with a good guy even though he’s not my person. I was done with all of that. So I’m “laying down the law” in my eyes, and he didn’t flinch. He let me finish and basically let me know we were on the same page. He was not trying to sow his royal oats.
Jason: Yeah, I was not trying to be Prince Akeem. But also, it was more so about setting a tone and goal for myself. My mama always told me to set my goals. And having a family was always one of mine. I think the biggest thing of it all, was I felt blessed – in terms of moving for work and meeting Elise, now being married. There’s victories being placed in my life.
I love that you both shared that because sometimes I get feedback on these stories and it seems like sometimes we’re afraid to really voice what we desire, no matter what that looks like.
Elise: Yeah, I think sometimes women feel like they don’t want to put pressure on their partner. But it’s not pressure. Look, Jason and I are based in faith, and what is for us is for us. Being upfront and honest is best – and early makes sense. You don’t have to convince someone to be your person.
Jason: I think her sharing those values resonated with me, and hearing her “lay down the law” was fine because I was there, too. I would say to millennial women, don’t be afraid to tell a mate what you want. You never know what that would lead to. Time is a precious commodity. Elise saying that early on showed me that she values both of our time. It showed her heart, character, and integrity, and I was drawn to that and the mature conversation. In the social media world, we don’t have those pointed conversations face-to-face. I would challenge readers to have those conversations in person, and you would get more from that convo than any post or reel. Because you see body language reactions and have deeper communication.
Yeah, I think sometimes women feel like they don’t want to put pressure on their partner. But it’s not pressure. Look, Jason and I are based in faith, and what is for us is for us. Being upfront and honest is best – and early makes sense. You don’t have to convince someone to be your person.
You both have mentioned time, family, and integrity. I’m curious what other core values do you both share?
Elise: Early on, our faith. Not just do you believe in God. It had to be deeper in that. I needed someone who would lead me, our home, and our family. I didn’t want to be in a push-and-pull relationship about prayer, church, or have conversations about being better people. Also, we discussed finances. That doesn’t just mean going to work. We chatted about ownership and what it looks like for us. How do we support each other individually and together? I know I like having my hands in a few different pots, and I needed someone who was supportive of that and likewise.
Jason: My background is that I was raised in the church. My father is a deacon and my mom is a deaconess. They've been married for 55 years. Faith was very important to me and it was crucial that my wife have that relationship as well.
Elise and Jason Robinson
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Can we talk about challenges? Big or small, what are some things you had to grow through together?
Elise: I have never lived with anyone – not a roommate, a sister, friend, boyfriend or anything. Now, I’m in my 40s and I'm living with someone. When you’ve been by yourself for so long that was a challenge for both of us. We weren’t pulling each other's hair out but I’m a bit extreme. Things are color-coded in my closet. For me, working in news is chaotic so I want my home to be peaceful and organized.
Jason: I’m a man, and she’s a woman. That dynamic alone adds a flair to it. She wants things a certain way. She’s a Capricorn. But just in terms of how she wants to keep a home was a big adjustment for me. It took time.
On a smaller level, what are some of the things you disagree about day-to-day?
Elise: Cleanliness and systems. Like, he recycles and I do not. But sometimes I just have to decide if it really needs to be a thing or if I can just take care of it.
Jason: This is where my organization takes over (laughs).
What are your love languages? Do you know?
Elise: Jason’s is an act of service which works because I love cooking for him. It doesn’t feel like a chore to me. I love when I’m out, picking up his favorite juice. The other day I saw he needed t-shirts while folding clothes. So I just like doing small things for him that he doesn’t expect. He’s very much that guy that will ask to help so it doesn’t bother me.
Jason: I’d say Elise is all of them, but physical touch would probably be the biggest one. I had to get used to that. She’s taught me it in a number of ways. I remember we actually talked about love languages, and I sent her this song called “More Than Words” by Extreme. That explained to her how I felt.
Finally, can we end with the proposal? Tell us everything!
Jason: It was at a restaurant. And again, I was trying to find somewhere she hadn’t been. Also, I didn’t want to do it on our anniversary because that would have been too obvious. I contacted one of the restaurant’s staff and decided to change up the dessert menu. Each item was something special to us.
Elise: We go on so many date nights, so I just thought it was a regular night. We had finished eating, and I had to go to the bathroom. They had a nice mirror, girl. So I’m in there taking videos and stuff.
Jason: While she’s in the restroom, I’m getting everything in place with the waitress.
Elise: So as I’m reading the menu, I realize it’s telling our story and he eventually proposed. It was so special; I actually had the menu framed! It was so beautiful and thoughtful.
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While in a session with a client a few months back, she found herself going on a bit of a tangent about how no woman she knows has ever experienced a vaginal orgasm before, so she didn’t get why it was such a big deal. All I did was sit quietly and let her vent until she said, “Right Shellie? Do you know anyone who’s had one before?”
Yep. Me. And yes, I am well aware of the fact that it’s kind of like being a unicorn out here. Trust me.
What I mean by that is, to this day, reportedly, onlyaround 18 percent of women are able to honestly say that they’ve been able to “see the mountaintop,” just from intercourse alone. And although I am in that number and some of it does have to do with certain “tricks of the trade” (technique, knowing your body, etc.), a lot of it has to do with how your body was made more than anything else (more on that in a second).
That’s why, wheneverthe whole topic of the orgasm gap comes up, I really wish that (more) women would stop stressing themselves out over whether they can have an orgasm vaginally or not. Because while your partner “aiming to please” is a very valid point and necessary requirement when it comes to healthy and happy copulation, if you’re basing being orgasmic on whether or not you’ve had a vaginal orgasm before, you’re really missing the point — and wasting precious time on something that isn’t nearly as big of a deal as you might think that it is (or society might try to make it out to be).
I’ll explain.
What Is a Vaginal Orgasm — and Why Is It So Difficult to Achieve?
Before going deeper into this thing, let me just say that my reason for defining a vaginal orgasm isn’t to come off as patronizing or condescending in any way. I’m just doing it because I think that far too often, whenever the topic of orgasms even comes up, folks loop them all in together — especially vaginal vs. clitoral ones.
That being said, a vaginal orgasm is when you’re able to climax from intercourse alone. This means that you don’t need any (direct) clitoral stimulation in order for an orgasm to take place. Okay, so with that being said, why is it so challenging for so many women to have one? Well, that gets into what I said about the makeup of one’s body — which no one has any control over.
See, the reason why vaginal orgasms are fairly easy for me is that (and yes, my doctor has confirmed it) the distance between my clitoris and my vaginal opening is pretty close together — and the closer they are, the easier it is for a vaginal orgasm to go down.
And gee, when you put it this way, vaginal orgasms still kind of have a cheat code, right? Because whether or not your partner is directly stimulating your clitoris or not, if a vaginal orgasm is about “close clitoral placement,” he still kind of is relying on the clit to make it all happen— he’s just not needing to use his hands, a sex toy or you’re not needing to help him out.
Another thing to note about vaginal orgasms is the G-spot tends to play a starring role in it too. Still, since, at the end of the day, all a G-spot is, is the backside of the clitoris on the inside of your vagina, it’s still the clitoris for the win.
Hmm…sounds to me like, really, a vaginal orgasm is just a different kind of a clitoral orgasm — I mean, not exactly, but kinda…because if there was no clitoris involved at all, I highly doubt that vaginal orgasms would even exist.
NOW do you get why I say that they aren’t as big of a deal as they are made out to be? Orgasms are beyond awesome. And you shouldn’t feel bad if the one that you’re not able to make happen (possibly yet) is a vaginal one.
Let me do my best to drive this point even further home.
Okay. You Are Having Orgasms, Though…Right?
If you read articles on our platform like “U-Spot Orgasm, Fantasy Orgasm & 6 Other Orgasms You Should Try Tonight” and “11 Types Of Orgasms To Add To Your Must-Hit List,” you’ll get that when it comes to “climbing the walls,” there are all kinds of ways to get there. For me? Even though vaginal orgasms aren’t hard for me to experience/achieve, for whatever reason, these 38H cups of mine will almost yawn when it comes to nipple orgasms.
In other words, breasts aren’t in the top five of erogenous zones for me (check out “So, What If 'Typical Erogenous Zones' Annoy TF Outta You?” and “Feelin' On These Pressure Points Will Give You The Best Sex Of Your Life”) — and I’m okay with that. If I happen to experience an orgasm that way (which is oftentimes on a fluke), cool. As long as I know that I can get an orgasm some sort of way, I’m golden.
You’re not me; still, I do encourage you to have a similar mindset. Although it can always be fun to find different ways to achieve things like a blended orgasm (more than one orgasm happening at once) or a kissing orgasm (which is pretty self-explanatory), if you’ve ever had any type of orgasm at all — at the end of the day, that should be good enough because, no matter how the climax happened, wasn’t it pretty damn spectacular? Anything else is just…a bonus. So, why ruin the good that you’ve already got going with stress, internalized pressure, and overthinking?
Hey, I’m not exaggerating by saying that, either. There is plenty of data out in these streets (like these articleshere,here, andhere) that points to the fact that stress definitely lowers libido, hinders sexual arousal, and can ultimately get in the way of having an orgasm. So, if you’re already gettin’ yours, even if it’s the more common way (clitorally) — who cares?
Science has pretty much always said that the purpose of your clitoris is sexual pleasure…so it makes sense that it would be the main part of your body that can “get you there” (if you know what I mean). Therefore, why worry about why your vagina “can’t” when what was created to orgasm totally can?
Am I getting through?
Vaginal Orgasms Shouldn’t Be the Goal. Pleasure Should.
Okay, and what if you’re one ofthe one-third of women who reportedly have never had an orgasm before or hardly ever do? If you happen to fall into this category, that is a bit different because I understand why this would be something that you would want to say you’ve experienced, first-hand, at least a few times in this lifetime. Actually, you are the main reason why I’ve penned articles like “Can’t Climax? 10 Questions You Should Ask Yourself,” “10 Hacks To Help You Climax More Consistently,” and “Here's Why You Can Climax Sometimes And...Sometimes You Can't;” it’s because I definitely don’t want to gaslight you into thinking that orgasms aren’t one of the best things that life has to offer…because they are. No question.
At the same time, though, the same way that you can overthink about having a vaginal orgasm, that’s the same way that you can rob yourself of enjoying the pleasure of sex overall, if you think that you can’t have a great time unless you come (or always come). Just likekissing feels really good without any kind of sex being involved, the intimacy of sex is amazing even without an orgasm — and yes, I know what that is like as well. Do orgasms come pretty easily for me? Yes.
Still, “off nights” happen, and that doesn’t mean that the rest of the sexual experience still wasn’t satisfying. Indeed and I promise you that the more you make the goal to simply embrace the closeness of relishing your partner as they do the same thing to, for, and with you, the more you can fully appreciate sex…even if it doesn’t end in fireworks. Besides, if one thing is the epitome of, “At least we had a really great time trying,” it’s having sex even if orgasms don’t transpire (by the way, if you really are not at peace with not having orgasms, start with getting your hormone levels checked, then consider seeing a sex therapist — it may be physical or psychologically-based. It can never hurt to get checked out to see).
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Bottom line here: your vagina wasn’t designed just for your sexual pleasure alone (remember, babies come out of there). Know what is, though? Your clitoris. If it’s working and getting the job done (however it happens), that really needs to be good enough. If a vaginal orgasm happens along the way — great. If not, it’s still all good. And I do mean that literally.
Any kind of orgasm is a wonderful thing.
Get it how you live and take the pressure off, sis.
Now…go get you one. However it…cums.
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