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When the moon is in Virgo, we heal. On February 24, we have a Full Moon in this earth sign, and this is the Snow Moon of the year. Full Moons are the time of the month for closure, culmination, and letting go. Add Virgo into the mix, and we are entering a Full Moon where deep healing and renewal are taking place. Get out in nature, connect to your inner goddess, and let go of what doesn’t resonate with your soul growth.
February Snow Moon 2024: Full Moon In Virgo
Virgo is self-sufficient, and the seeds you have been planting in your life and the intentions you have been setting for yourself, are ready to show fruition. We are moving through a time of recognition and clarity, and the answers you need to move deeper into healing and abundance are coming forth now.
Virgo is the goddess in Astrology, and during this Full Moon, do as the goddesses do. Stand in your power, focus on your well-being, and protect your energy and boundaries. It is officially Pisces Season, Virgo’s opposite sign, and as they say, opposites attract. A lot of things are coming together in the grand scope of things, and it’s all starting to make sense. Pisces is the heart, Virgo is the head, and there is a mending happening here now. Jupiter in Taurus will also be in harmony with this Full Moon, and Jupiter is loving, expansive, and full of grand gestures.
Although Full Moons are about letting go, we are gaining a lot of good fortune in the process.
What Should You Do During a Full Moon?
During Full Moons, you nurture your world and take a little bit of weight off your shoulders. It’s not a New Moon, and setting intentions aren’t meant for this time, however, creating a nice little healing ritual is. Light a candle and focus on where you want to let go in your life. Write a list of gratitude of where you feel like you are truly aligned with yourself and your well-being, and want to give thanks.
Get out in nature, meditate, and let the healing energy of the moon connect with you. With absolutely no planets in retrograde, what happens now has all the possibility to continue to grow into something more.
Read for your sun, moon, and rising sign below to see how this Full Moon will be illuminating your life.
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What the February Snow Moon Has in Store for Your Zodiac Sign
ARIES
This Full Moon for you, Aries, is about your health, your daily life, and your overall well-being. Where have you been feeling restricted from living your best life? Have you been taking care of yourself the way you want to, or are there some changes that can be made right now? You are thinking things over during this Full Moon and are ready to let go of the fears that have been keeping you away from living in your true power.
You feel like your hands have been tied recently, and this Full Moon is here to unravel them and free yourself from this limiting energy. You are more powerful than you know, and the Virgo Full Moon is guiding you to healthier spaces, routines, and mindsets. You are free to do what is best for you, Aries.
TAURUS
The Virgo Full Moon is aligning positively with you, Taurus, but there is still a lot to think about right now. This Full Moon is happening in your 5th house, which is your heart. So, emotionally, you are moving through a culmination right now and need some time to process, accept, and settle into your energy. Clarity is beaming, and it’s changing the way you are looking at things moving forward.
A lot is coming together for you, and you are ready to let go of a lot right now as well. This time is reminding you to spend more energy on the things and people that make you happy and to take your joy more seriously. Discover where your passions can take you, communicate from the heart, and be free of the stressors that interrupt your happiness.
GEMINI
The Full Moon of the month is opening a new door for you financially and when it comes to your stability in life, Gemini. Full Moons overall are about closures and culminations, but the closures you are personally moving through right now are ultimately creating a new beginning in the process. Home, family, and your safe spaces are where the energy is for you right now, and it’s about developing here. Where have you been looking to make an opportunity into something more, and how can you dedicate yourself here?
Dreams are being fulfilled during this Full Moon, and you are the one leading the way for yourself. You are feeling in tune with the energy of this Full Moon occurring in a fellow mutable sign, and you are ready for the healing and transformations that are taking place right now.
CANCER
Your guidance for this time is to rest, let go, and heal the mind, Cancer. This Full Moon is bringing in a major culmination in your life, and even though you are happy to finally close a chapter, you are still working through the energy of everything coming to a head at once. You have been piling on responsibilities and perspectives, and it’s time to let go of some of this energy for the sake of your peace of mind.
Take care of the things you have been putting off, and trust that you can. You don’t want to move forward into new experiences with old baggage, and this Full Moon is helping you lighten the load both emotionally and mentally, before moving you forward again. Talking to someone about how you have been feeling, can be a first step towards feeling a burden lifting.
LEO
This Full Moon is one of abundance and financial culminations, Leo. The work you have been doing and the seeds you have been planting are coming to fruition, and you are receiving the rewards and achievements for your efforts. Life is coming full circle for you right now, and you are happy with where things stand. This is a good time to write a list of gratitude on where you feel the abundance in your life.
Truly take the time to soak in the good that surrounds you in life and know that it is here to stay. This Full Moon is reminding you that you are worthy of all you seek in life and that your value is not determined by anyone else but yourself. Everything's coming together for you right now, better than you may have hoped.
VIRGO
The Virgo Full Moon is here, and the power is in your hands right now, Virgo. You are in a powerful place to receive, and you are creating something out of nothing. You are tapping into your inner strengths during this Full Moon and are feeling personally invigorated for what is unfolding for you now. Full Moons are about letting go, and you are letting go of insecurities and self-doubt.
There is no room for doubt where you are heading, and rather than catering more to that energy, you are ready to claim what you are ready to manifest in your life. You are starting from square one in many ways right now, and you are seeing things come together for you in a way where you feel like it is truly possible for you. The past is the past, the present is a gift, and the future is better than promised.
LIBRA
This Full Moon is a time of deep closure for you, Libra. The Full Moon is happening at the very bottom of your chart in your 12th house, and you are moving through a culmination that is changing your priorities and goals moving forward. There is a lot to learn and investigate during this Full Moon, and you are doing the work. Enlightenment is beaming, and your mind is opening to everything that once seemed impossible to you before.
You are focused on what you want rather than what you don’t, and you are letting go of the rest. Your sharp focus serves you well in life, and there is a lot of gratitude for where things are and where you feel capable of leading them. What’s leaving your life is what you have wanted to be released from, and you have more space to allow more abundance and positivity into your life now.
SCORPIO
This is a more emotional and eye-opening Full Moon for you, Scorpio. You are coming full circle, and you are ready to release some emotional burdens that have been weighing you down. With this Full Moon happening in your 11th house of friendship, community, and your hopes and dreams, this is a good time to spend some more time with your soulmates, friends, and trusted community.
Life is reflecting to you what you have been feeling within, and you are ready to address your emotional world more deeply. The people in your life are coming in, and there is support around you when you need it right now. Feel all the feels, but don’t let yourself attach to any outcomes. You are free to be, and life is coming into balance for you right now, Scorpio.
SAGITTARIUS
Celebrations are in store for you, Sagittarius. This Full Moon is happening in a public area of your chart, and you are getting out there and showing up. This is a time when you are ready to have some more fun, let go of worries, and enjoy the gifts life has presented to you. You are also focused on your career and professional goals right now, but you are enjoying what’s coming into focus for you, and there is more to celebrate than be concerned about.
You have the right people in your life to succeed, and you are stepping forth into your dreams. This Full Moon is a good time to let go of being too serious or overly concerned with your achievements and to enjoy more what you have done for yourself and your life and the people that have been there for you through it all.
CAPRICORN
There is a lot to think about during this Full Moon, Capricorn. This Full Moon is happening in a fellow earth sign, so you are flowing well with the energy right now, but there are also a lot of different options presenting themselves that you hadn’t seen before. This is a time of diving deeper into your emotional world and discovering what your heart has been trying to tell you. More adventure wants to come into your life, and this is a good time to open your mind and consider all possibilities.
New doors don’t open for no reason, and the reasons for recent experiences in your life are coming forth right now. Honor where you are and what headspace you are looking to move into, and make sure you are protecting your peace of mind. This is the time to broaden your horizons and trust your gut instincts more.
AQUARIUS
This Full Moon is an awakening for you, Aquarius. You are a more mental sign and aren’t one to get too caught up in your emotional world. However, with this Full Moon occurring in a very emotional and transformative area of your birth chart, you are moving through an eye-opening time right now. This Full Moon is about letting go of perfection and honoring progress instead. Divine intervention is coming in, and where you have been committing yourself and prioritizing your energy is being reviewed right now.
You are seeing where you can dedicate more of yourself and where you can let go so that you have more space and freedom to feel like yourself and like you are aligned with your true intentions and goals. There is some re-working you are doing this Full Moon, and you are healing where healing has needed to take place.
PISCES
A lot is happening for you during this Full Moon, Pisces. This Full Moon is occurring in your opposite sign, Virgo, and you are going through an emotional whirlwind. Things change, and that’s because they are meant to. Your guidance for this Full Moon is to take the culminations that are presenting themselves right now in strides and to trust that your heart will always lead you in the right direction and to the right people who are meant for you.
With the sun and Saturn currently in your sign, you have the confidence and strength to overcome what has been, and you are ready to move deeper into love and connection. Partnerships strengths and weaknesses are coming to the forefront right now, and you are ready for things to come full circle here overall.
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A big part of the clarity that is coming through this month is due to Neptune going direct in Pisces on December 10, after being retrograde here since July. With Neptune now direct, we are able to see our inspiration and creativity a little more clearly, providing the perfect energy for dreams and manifestation to be built upon. The smoke is clearing, and it’s up to you to decide what you want to do with this newfound clarity that this transit is bringing. Mercury also moves back into Sagittarius on December 11, which is great for communication and clarity, and the adventures you were trying to see through at the beginning of November come around for you again with greater purpose and support.
On December 15, Mars enters Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and this is the extra push we need to make important changes and to be on the path towards greater abundance, stability, and prosperity. Mars in Capricorn takes care of business, and we have extra energy at our disposal during this time to do so. This transit is an ideal time to focus on your career or financial goals for next year and to start putting some of these plans into motion now. A few days later, we have the New Moon of the month, which will be in Sagittarius on December 19, and this is the perfect New Moon to manifest.
The energy is high, magic is in the air, and it’s all about moving forward with the new beginnings that are inspiring you and bringing you joy to think about right now.
Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21, and this earth sign energy is how we heal, gain closure, and build new foundations in our world. With Venus also moving into a Capricorn a few days later, there is something about peace, prosperity, and security that we are gaining in life and in love as we close out the year, and this is what we need right now. This month is about reflecting on what was, letting go of old hurt, and renewing. December is an ending and a new beginning in one, and there is magic in this space to be created.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what December 2025 has in store for you.
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleARIES
December is a full-circle moment for you, Aries. You are seeing the gifts in your world and have a lot of gratitude for the way things have come about for you as of late. There are culminations in your world that are providing you with more abundance, stability, and community, and you are exactly where you are meant to be this month. With the Sun in a fellow fire sign and in your 9th house of travel for most of the month, December is a good time to get out of your comfort zone, explore the world around you, and get your body moving.
Mars, your ruling planet, also makes a change and moves into Capricorn on December 15, which will fuel your inspiration and power in your career space. You are making a lot of professional progress as we close out the year; however, make sure to be more mindful of your competitive drive right now. The New Moon on December 19 is the perfect opportunity for you to create some new plans and goals when it comes to traveling, education, and where you want to gain some new inspiration in your world. Overall, this is a month of things coming together for you serendipitously.
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleTAURUS
December is about trusting your intuition, Taurus. You have a lot on your mind this month, and it’s best to delegate, communicate, and allow yourself some relief by opening up to someone and not feeling like you have to hold everything in. As we begin the month, we have a Supermoon in Gemini happening in your house of income, and the plans and projects you have been building here come to fruition for you now. This is the time to gain clarity on your financial world and to take a look at what spending habits you want to let go of here as well.
With Venus in your 8th house of shared resources for most of the month, you are doing a cleanse on your commitments, partnerships, and business ventures. You are taking a look at what you want to dedicate yourself to in the future, and what commitments you may need to let go of now in order to be in the space you truly want to be, both financially and within some of your relationship dynamics. Before we end the month, we have a New Moon in this same area of your chart, and it’s time to look at the opportunities that are presenting themselves and to trust your internal guidance system to lead you forward.
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleGEMINI
You are moving forward fearlessly this month, Gemini. December is your month of love, passion, and dignity, and you are owning the light that you shine. We begin the month with the last Supermoon of the year, happening in your sign, and you are stepping up to the plate. You are showing up, owning how much you have grown this year, and allowing yourself to heal while also acknowledging that you have done your best and you deserve to have fun in the midst of the changes you are creating.
Mercury, your ruling planet, is officially out of retrograde, and you can use this energy to the fullest potential now. With Mercury in your 7th house of love, it’s time to speak from the heart and to talk about the things that matter and that are inspiring you right now to your loved ones. You never know what kind of epiphanies you may have when you open up the conversation to others. Before the month ends, you have a New Moon in this same love area of your chart, and this New Moon is all about manifesting romance, commitment, and abundance in your world.
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleCANCER
December is an opening for more love, more joy, and more freedom in your life, Cancer. You have come to a place where you hold so much gratitude in your heart for where you are today and where your heart is shining, and things come together for you with more ease right now. With the Sun in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines for most of the month, you are getting your ducks in a row while also putting more energy and effort into taking care of yourself, your priorities, and your well-being. This month surprises you in many ways, and it’s because you are showing up.
Mars and Venus both move into your house of love, relationships, marriage, and abundance this month, and you are making strides in your love life. You have both of these opposing forces on your side and are being recognized for the love you are while also receiving the love you want. This month, overall, is about focusing more on the positives in your world and letting your heart have its joy. Before December comes to an end, there is a New Moon in Sagittarius, and this is the perfect opportunity to create the plans you want to see through next year, especially when it comes to your work life, colleagues, business ventures, and health.
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleLEO
The scales of karma are balancing, and they are balancing in your favor this month, Leo. December is your month of truth, and of seeing it clearly in your world. The Sun is in your house of romance, pleasure, and happiness for most of the month, and it’s time to relax, be in the present moment, and allow what is meant to be, to be. With a Supermoon in your 11th house of manifestation as December begins, this is a powerful month for seeing your dreams come to fruition, and for feeling like the intentions you have set this year are finally here for you now.
Mars also moves into your 6th house mid-month, and this is the perfect energy to have to move into the new year. You have extra energy at your disposal right now and are feeling fearless with what is possible for you and your daily routine. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in a fellow fire sign, Sagittarius, and this is a breakthrough moment for you and your heart. December, overall, wants to show you how loved and supported you are and will be doing so in magical, unexpected, and concrete ways.
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleVIRGO
December is a month of victory, Virgo. You are showing up and experiencing some new successes in your world that move you forward on your path in life. With a Supermoon in your 10th house of career as we begin the month, the effort and intentions you have made this year come into full bloom, and you are being recognized for who you are and the good work you have done. This month is all about showing up and allowing yourself to be seen and loved, knowing that you deserve the support and opportunities you are receiving.
Mars moves into Capricorn on December 15, which brings the passion and excitement into your love life, hobbies, and little pleasures in life that light you up. You want to have fun this month and are going to be walking into the new year with this fearless, happy, and spontaneous energy within you. Before the month ends, Venus also enters Capricorn, and in this same area of your chart, you have a lot to look forward to and believe in right now. Overall, December wants you to be happy and will be doing everything possible to make that happen for you. This is your month to shine, Virgo.
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLIBRA
December is a month of opportunity for you, Libra. New doors open, and you are financially making breakthroughs this month because of it. December begins with a Supermoon in your 9th house, and you are getting a clearer view of where you have been making strides in your life and how it has all brought you here to this present moment of freedom. This month is showing you what happens when you are fearless with your purpose and when you believe in yourself and what you are worthy of.
Moving further into December, Mars moves into your 4th house of home and family mid-month, and you are closing out the year in your safe spaces. You are spending more time with your loved ones and taking the time to quiet your mind and listen to what your heart has been telling you. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, happening in an area of your life that deals with communication. This is a great time for getting the answers you have been looking for and for feeling more clear-headed and confident about the decisions you are making as you move into the new year.
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleSCORPIO
Patience is a virtue this month, Scorpio. December is all about remaining patient and vigilant with what you are creating in your world, and knowing that the universe has your back. It’s time to be reminded of the power of hope, and this month is an opening to greater clarity in your life. There is a lot of energy in your financial zones right now, and this is providing you with new opportunities and new insight; however, the speed at which things come about for you may feel daunting. Keep your head up and eyes focused on what you want and know that you are more than worthy of receiving it.
With Mercury in your 2nd house of income this month, December is a good time to plant new seeds and to think about where you want to be financially a month from now or even a year. This month is asking you to think bigger and to think more long-term so that you can set the appropriate plans into motion now. We also have a New Moon in your house of income before the month ends, and this is when you will see more of your dreams come to fruition in this area of your life, and have more opportunities to build. Overall, December will be teaching you a lot, Scorpio.
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleSAGITTARIUS
Sagittarius Season is here, and there is a lot in store for you this month, Sag. December is all about what you are dedicating yourself to. It’s about setting your intentions and putting the work in to back up your dreams, and about getting things in order so that when the new beginnings come, you are ready for them. The Sun and Venus are in your sign for most of this month, and there are a lot of eyes on you right now. You have the potential to create a new beginning for yourself, and it’s time to invest in yourself, your love life, and your dreams.
Mercury moves into Sagittarius on December 11, and this is giving you another opportunity to see through some of the plans that you had initiated in November. Mercury was retrograde in your sign last month, and there may have been some disruptions to your vision and plans for the future, and now this energy is turning around for you. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in Sagittarius, and you are walking through new doors fearlessly. You are catching others by surprise by your growth this month, and you are thinking a lot about your purpose, future, and plans for the new year.
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleCAPRICORN
December is all about the vision, Capricorn. You are moving through a lot of changes and transformations this month, yet they are giving you a chance at a new beginning in the process. You are focused more on the future and what goals you want to manifest for yourself right now, and are ready to let go of what hasn’t been working for you. With the Sun in your 12th house of closure for most of December, this is your time for healing, but remember, healing doesn’t have to be isolating or boring; you can thrive while you renew, and you are this month.
Mid-month, the excitement picks up for you, and you are feeling more energized than you have in a while. Mars moves into Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and you are being proactive with your goals, intentions, and passions. You are a force to be reckoned with this month, and you are making things happen for yourself with confidence. Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21 this year, and this is definitely speeding up your healing process. You are breaking free from what was, and with Venus also moving into Capricorn before the month ends, you are leaving this year in high spirits and with love opening a new door for you.
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleAQUARIUS
December is all about community, creativity, and manifestation, Aquarius. This is the month to work together with others to help bring your dreams to life. You are in a space of inspiration, empowerment, and beauty, and are creating more of this energy around you and in your world. Look out for what support comes your way this month and know that you don’t have to do everything alone to succeed. With the Sun in your 11th house of manifestation and friendship, your intentions are coming to fruition, and it’s time to celebrate with the people you love and to own how far you have come this year.
On December 19, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, lighting up your life in all of the best ways possible. This is your New Moon of freedom, victory, and magic, and you are seeing new beginnings appear that you were once just hoping for. Before the month comes to an end, Venus moves into your 12th house of closure, and after an active and successful month, you are ready to relax, heal, and give your heart some of the attention it has been asking for. You are moving into the new year with the need to release and renew what hasn’t been working in your relationships, and you are finally ready to.
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecolePISCES
December is a big month for you, Pisces. You are making some huge accomplishments this month, and are feeling like everything you have been through this year has been worth it for these moments that are coming to fruition for you now. The Sun is in your 10th house of career and reputation for most of the month, and this is where a lot of your focus is right now. You are claiming your successes and putting yourself out there in ways that not only serve you, but that inspire others as well.
Neptune officially goes direct on December 10, after being retrograde in your sign since July, and you are finally seeing things a little more clearly. You are feeling renewed inspiration and passion in your life, and your intuition is your strongest asset right now. Before December comes to an end, we also have a New Moon in your 10th house of career, and what happens now not only changes things for you in the present, but it also opens new doors and what is possible for you in the new year as well. Overall, you are on top of your game this month and are owning the joy and empowerment you feel.
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Things like what exactly? So glad that you asked.
How Serious Is the Relationship?
GiphyOkay, so if you’ve never heard of the “10-date rule” before, it’s basically the belief that after 10 consecutive dates with someone, it’s time to come to the conclusion that you are officially in a relationship with them. Personally, I have lived, observed and counseled enough people to say that when it comes to knowing where you stand with another person, you shouldn’t assume one damn thing — you should 1000 percent communicate your thoughts and listen to theirs in return.
That said, it is a bit different (wouldn’t you say?) if you’ve been out on a couple of dates with someone vs. if you’ve been with them for almost a year. So yeah, the first thing to ponder is how serious the dynamic is. Because honestly, if things are new and fairly casual, I don’t see how ending things, whether it’s the holiday season or not, is going to matter much — one way or another.
Remember, the holidays tend to be a very emotional time; however, if there isn’t a huge emotional investment going on, I don’t think anyone in a casual situation is going to look back and think that you are a villain (or Grinch), just because you’d prefer not to go on a third date with them. Good lord.
Next point.
Do You Want to Slow Down or End Things Entirely?
GiphyAre you totally over him or is it more like there are some things about the situation that you want to step back and ponder before making any major decisions about the future? If the answer is “B,” I recommend talking it over ASAP; especially if the two of you have been seeing each other for a while at this point. I say this because, whether you all are at the “meet the family” (or have already met the family) stage or not, when people are in a relationship, they tend to factor one another into their holiday plans — and it’s hella inconsiderate to not take this into account when it comes to the guy who you are seeing.
That said, I will say this: It’s mighty interesting that you are choosing this time of the year for this type of relational self-reflection — so, while you’re on this break, think about what it symbolizes.
For instance, are you slowing things down right now because you’re not sure if you want to go into a new year with him or are you doing it because spending the holidays together tends to represent that a relationship is far deeper than you want yours to be right now? Because really, you could’ve gone with the summertime (for example) not the holiday season to make this type of move…so, if your “pump the brakes” time is now, chances are, there is some subconscious subtext going on that you really should get to the root of.
Actual Holidays Are a DEFINITE No-No
GiphyYou would think that this wouldn’t need to be said yet since I once experienced a guy who decided to be a complete a*shole on my birthday some years back — yeah, let’s address it. Isn’t it interesting that one study revealed that during the first week of December, searches for how to break-up with someone go up by a whopping 60 percent? Then, if you add to that the fact that the holidays can sometimes be pretty stressful — well, while most folks with a heart and a conscience wouldn’t dream of breaking up with someone on an actual holiday, sometimes the pressure of everything can create the perfect storm for it to happen anyway.
That said, a super-duper throwback song by Neil Sedaka entitled, “Breaking Up Is Hard to Do” — and it absolutely is. Know what makes it worse: It happening on a holiday, so that every time the day rolls around, it’s bittersweet because you remember that someone broke up with you then.
Listen, just because you may not love or even like someone (in that way) anymore, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t treat them with some common decency and respect. Besides, don’t you also want your own Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day to be as unscathed and drama-less as possible?
Whatever you’re gonna do, you’re grown, chile. If you want my advice, though — put good energy into your future holiday seasons and avoid breaking up (or even having deep decisions) on actual holidays.
Definitely Keep the Golden Rule in Mind
GiphyProbably, until the end of time, there are going to be debates about whether karma is real (in the sense of it being scientifically proven). While quite a bit of data says that it isn’t and that it tends to be adapted and promoted by certain faiths more than anything — if you do believe that you reap what you sow (Galatians 6:7-8), at the end of the day, that is pretty much what karma is all about and, as I oftentimes say, karma (or sowing and reaping) don’t have expiration dates. In other words, what you have said and done can manifest in ways and at times that you never saw coming. A cautionary tale, indeed.
So yeah — even if you’ve been with ole’ boy for a while now, you’ve tried to make it work and you just don’t see a future for the two of you anymore, however you decide to end it, definitely keep the golden rule of doing unto others as you would want them to do unto you in mind.
Be as kind as you are honest. Be as empathetic (putting yourself in his shoes) as much as you possibly can. Avoid gaslighting him about how he feels about your decision. Be clear about how you’d like things to be moving forward (for instance, if you actually DON’T want to be friends afterwards, there’s no need to say it). And try not to do anything that will make him feel used — like waiting until after receiving a Christmas gift to end it (you’d be amazed by how many people do exactly that. SMDH).
The thing about break-ups is, live long enough, and you’re probably going to be on the giving and receiving end of one. So, even if you’re not really emotionally invested in your relationship anymore, be kind to your future self and be as respectful as possible throughout your…relational transition. Because even if you don’t feel like he deserves it, your feelings up the road, with someone else who may do the same thing to you…absolutely do.
Timing Is Everything
GiphyA bishop by the name of Fulton J. Sheen once said, “Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is ‘timing’ it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.” And while it might seem really challenging to figure out when the RIGHT time to break up with someone is — “right” is about using good judgment, right is about conforming to certain principles (like integrity and fairness), right is about doing things in order. Now with that in mind, is the RIGHT TIMING now or should it be later?
Only you can really answer that yet what I will say is if your mind, body and spirit aren’t on the same page — figure out why before making any moves. Oh, and if it’s simply about fear — girl, whether it’s November 30, December 9 or January 14…break-ups are always going to be uncomfortable. It’s about knowing what’s best for you and then ending things in a way that is as respectful, timing-wise, as possible (again, due to the whole karma thing).
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‘Tis the season and sometimes “out with the old” means leaving a relationship behind. Just make sure that you move with wisdom and discernment and not hypersensitivity and knee-jerking.
That way, you can look back on every holiday season with as little regret as possible.
Due to how you handled things. Including a (potential) break-up.
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