Aries is a passionate lover. Aries loves the excitement, the chase, and the spark of a relationship and is often the initiator, being a cardinal sign and the first sign of the zodiac. They are not the type of people to shy away from anything, and they have no problem making the first move. An Aries loves their freedom and prefers to do things on their own terms, including love. They look for a partner who can match their energy and keep up with them in life, and not someone they feel is going to hold them back. Aries is a young soul and has a free spirit about them that often attracts others to them.
Aries in love is a unique experience, as Aries is more of an independent sign and isn’t focused as much on the relationship aspects of life. Aries value individuality and know and enjoy themselves well, so when they meet someone who they feel is more interesting than themselves or just as, they give it their all. This energy is felt by the people they are in relationships with, and they make their partners feel special. Aries’ fire in the relationship, however, can go out if there isn’t enough spark and passion in the relationship, and being with an Aries long-term isn’t for the weak. Though, if you win their trust and treat every day like you just met for the first time, then your Aries will be there till the end for you.
Read below to see what each sign’s compatibility with Aries is like. Check Sun, Moon, and Venus signs.
Aries and Aries Love Compatibility
The love compatibility between an Aries and an Aries is a wild combination to see together. Dating your own sign and seeing couples in a relationship with their own sign is rare, however, fire signs in general typically do this better than most. An Aries and Aries combo is sexy, passionate, and loving. The good thing about this combo is that nobody knows Aries better than they know themselves, so when it comes to these two, it works because they just get each other. Aggression and conflict will have to be watched out for, however, as with Aries being ruled by Mars, if this sign is not feeling seen or heard then the relationship will be more chaotic than needed.
Aries and Taurus Love Compatibility
These two signs are more likely to butt heads than have a smooth-sailing relationship. Aries and Taurus are both very headstrong individuals, and they are both “my way or the highway” types of people. When two people are like this in a relationship, it can cause a lot of friction and ego clashes and this relationship often comes to a halt. In the beginning, the connection between an Aries and a Taurus feels exciting and like it could be something, though, as Taurus is attracted to the boldness and confidence that comes from Aries, and Aries likes the way Taurus makes them feel grounded and sane. However, at the end of the day, their stubbornness and unwillingness to compromise will either make or break this relationship.
Aries and Gemini Love Compatibility
The love compatibility between an Aries and a Gemini is fun, dynamic, and exciting. Both of these signs have an innate curiosity for life and love to do it together. These two complement each other well and are the type of couple to be best friends and lovers. They like to enjoy time together, be out and about, and tend to inspire each other in many ways. Not to mention, the chemistry is strong here between these two. They don’t have to force anything to make it work or to form a relationship together, and forming a connection is easy.
Gemini’s charm can easily sweep Aries off their feet, and Aries will have fun with Gemini. There will need to be some type of groundedness between the two for it to work long-term however, as they can get caught up in the moment and move without knowing where they are headed.
Aries and Cancer Love Compatibility
Aries and Cancer’s love compatibility is underrated. These two balance each other out well and although friction can arise in this pairing, this is ultimately a fun, dynamic, and in-tune duo. What works so well here is that these two signs are highly intuitive; Aries is very in-tune with themselves, and Cancer is very in-tune with others. If Aries had to date any water sign, it should be a Cancer. Cancer gives Aries the type of support they crave, but that they would never admit they need, and Aries gives Cancer the type of confidence that truly changes their lives. These two can form a powerful relationship that is layered and multifaceted, or they will be immediately turned off and will not pursue each other due to their immediate differences.
Aries and Leo Love Compatibility
Aries and Leo are a more obvious compatible couple, but at the end of the day when it comes to Aries in love it depends on where they are in their life and what they are looking for at that moment. These two, however, are very intrigued by each other and tend to form an immediate connection instantly. The passion is steamy here and the sexual chemistry between the two is off the charts. The only downside to a fire and fire sign duo though, is that it often starts very exciting and impulsive, and then turns into a complete mess afterward. This relationship can be the best of the best for Aries if both people are thinking long-term and aren’t just in it for the moment.
Aries and Virgo Love Compatibility
A Virgo may be one of the least compatible signs for an Aries. These two surprisingly have a lot in common and see things similarly in life, however, it’s difficult for them to feel that because they go about things very differently. Aries and Virgo tend to get into conflicts with each other as they both are the type of people to think they are right and that they know best. This facet of Aries works for some people, but when they meet a Virgo, they truly meet their greatest challenger. Virgo will challenge Aries in many ways, and not in a way that Aries likes. This pairing works more when it's a Virgo woman and an Aries man, and also works well as a friendship, but overall, this is not Aries' best match.
Aries and Libra Love Compatibility
Aries and Libra are a sweet combo. In terms of their love compatibility, these two are the yin and yang for each other, and this couple is the definition of opposites attracting. Aries and Libra are what we call sister signs in Astrology, which means these two are on opposite sides of each other on the Zodiac Wheel, forming a unique connection. The thing about sister signs is that they represent the part of you that is more hidden or unrecognized yet. This energy can be inspiring and life-changing, but it can also be triggering for people as it’s a relationship meant to challenge you and help you grow. Signs that are opposite each other have a karmic tone to them, and this relationship will often feel like they have known each other for many lifetimes before. This compatibility is 50/50- it works, or it doesn’t.
Aries and Scorpio Love Compatibility
When it comes to their love compatibility, Aries and Scorpio tend to hit it off right away. These two are similar in many ways, thanks to their shared ruling planet, Mars. In traditional Astrology, Mars is the ruler of Scorpio, and in modern times, it’s the ruler of Aries. Mars represents passion, energy, activation, sex, desire, war, and direction in life. When these two come together, they enhance these qualities in each other. This is a very energy-packed relationship and it works when they are flowing in harmony with each other but when differences arise, things can get very shaky and combative. The strengths here are that they both will want to confront issues head-on and always know where each other stands. There is no beating around the bush between these two.
Aries and Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Sagittarius is one of Aries' soulmates in this lifetime. More aspects are keeping this relationship together than tearing them apart, and this is a relationship that Aries can be in long-term. Both of these signs love adventure and will begin a big one once they enter this relationship. There won’t be many dull moments in this pairing, and when they come together it is often serendipitous. This is a power couple in Astrology and a match that works without having to try too hard. The world is their oyster to this couple and they will live an exciting life together. With all fire/fire sign duos, ego clashes are the downfall, and if this can be worked through then these two are endgame.
Aries and Capricorn Love Compatibility
Capricorn is the best earth sign match for Aries. They are both cardinal signs and share a similar drive and inspiration for life. Both of these signs want the best of the best out of life, and by coming together they can create just that. They are very supportive of one another and uplift each other to be their best selves. The energy between the two of them can get competitive, however, if they aren’t working together, though Capricorn's determination and unwavering loyalty often wins Aries over in the long run. Emotionally, they may have a difficult time getting there and forming that deep emotional bond that makes relationships last, but if they see the other in each other’s future, they will try to make it work.
Aries and Aquarius Love Compatibility
Aries and Aquarius are an eccentric couple. These two have a lot of fun together and enjoy each other’s company first and foremost. The love compatibility between this zodiac pairing means synergy here is enticing, and they flow well together when it comes to the day-to-day. This is a couple that would spend a lot of time talking and exploring each other’s worlds. These two learn a lot from each other and try to see the best in each other. Aquarius’ aloof nature may pull the wrong chords in Aries after too long, however, and for the relationship to work they will both have to recognize each other's individuals selves and know that both perspectives and sense of authenticity can be without being less than or unworthy of the other. This is a couple that is destined to meet.
Aries and Pisces Love Compatibility
This is more of an odd pairing for Aries as they are coming from completely opposite ends of life. Aries being the first sign in the zodiac and Pisces being the last explains this type of emotional distance between the two. Aries and Pisces almost live in different worlds, so coming together they can learn a lot from each other. Pisces feels and Aries acts. They are moving at different speeds at all times, but there is something about Aries’ passion and drive that spikes Pisces' curiosity. Pisces' emotional nature will either be a turn-off or an endearing trait, depending on the Aries. Ultimately, this is not one of Aries' best matches, but they both tend to have good intentions for the relationship at the end of the day.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
Amber Riley Is In Her Element
Amber Riley has the type of laugh that sticks with you long after the raspy, rhythmic sounds have ceased. It punctuates her sentences sometimes, whether she’s giving a chuckle to denote the serious nature of something she just said or throwing her head back in rip-roarious laughter after a joke. She laughs as if she understands the fragility of each minute. She chooses laughter often with the understanding that future joy is not guaranteed.
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The sound of her laughter is rivaled only by her singing voice, an emblem of the past and the future resilience of Black women stretched over a few octaves. On Fox’s Glee, her character Mercedes Jones was portrayed, perhaps unfairly, as the vocal duel to Rachel Berry (Lea Michele), offering rough, full-throated belts behind her co-star’s smooth, pristine vocals. Riley’s always been more than the singer who could deliver a finishing note, though.
Portraying Effie White, she displayed the dynamic emotions of a song such as “And I'm Telling You I'm Not Going” in Dreamgirls on London’s West End without buckling under the historic weight of her predecessors. With her instrument, John Mayer’s “Gravity” became a religious experience, a belted hymnal full of growls and churchy riffs. In her voice, Nicole Scherzinger once said she heard “the power of God.”
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Riley’s voice has been a staple throughout pop culture for nearly 15 years now. Her tone has become so distinguishable that most viewers of Fox’s The Masked Singer recognized the multihyphenate even before it was revealed that she was Harp, the competition-winning, gold-masked figure with an actual harp strapped to her back.
Still, it wasn’t until recently that Riley began to feel like she’d found her voice. This sounds unbelievable. But she’s not referring to the one she uses on stage. She’s referencing the voice that speaks to who she is at her core. “Therapy kind of gave me the training to speak my mind,” the 37-year-old says. “It’s not something we’re taught, especially as Black women. I got so comfortable in [doing so], and I really want other people, especially Black women, to get more comfortable in that space.”
“Therapy kind of gave me the training to speak my mind. It’s not something we’re taught, especially as Black women."
If you ask Riley’s manager, Myisha Brooks, she’ll tell you the foundation of who the multihyphenate is hasn’t changed much since she was a kid growing up in Compton. “She is who she is from when I met her back when she was singing in the front of the church to back when she landed major roles in film and TV,” Brooks says. Time has allowed Riley to grow more comfortable, giving fans a more intimate glimpse into her life, including her mental health journey and the ins and outs of show business.
The actress/singer has been in therapy since 2019, although she suffered from depression and anxiety way before that. In a recent interview with Jason Lee, she recalls having suicidal ideation as a kid. By the time she started seeing a psychologist and taking antidepressants in her thirties, her body had become jittery, a physical reminder of the trauma stacked high inside her. “I was shaking in [my therapist’s] office,” she tells xoNecole. “My fight or flight was on such a high level. I was constantly in survival mode. My heart was beating fast all the time. All I did was sweat.”
There wasn’t just childhood trauma to account for. After auditioning for American Idol and being turned away by producers, Riley began working for Ikea and nearly missed her Glee audition because her car broke down on the highway while en route. Thankfully, Riley had been cast to play Mercedes Jones. American Idol had temporarily convinced her she wasn’t cut out for the entertainment industry, but this was validation that she was right where she belonged. Glee launched in 2009 with the promise of becoming Riley’s big break.
In some ways, it was. The show introduced Riley to millions of fans and catapulted her into major Hollywood circles. But in other ways, it became a reminder of the types of roles Black women, especially those who are plus-sized, are relegated to. Behind the scenes, Riley says she fought for her character "to have a voice" but eventually realized her efforts were useless. "It finally got to a point where I was like, this is not my moment. I'm not who they're choosing, and this is just going to have to be a job for me for now," she says. "And, that's okay because it pays my bills, I still get to be on television, I'm doing more than any other Black plus-sized women that I'm seeing right now on screen."
The actress can recognize now that she was navigating issues associated with trauma and low self-esteem at the time. She now knows that she's long had anxiety and depression and can recognize the ways in which she was triggered by how the cult-like following of the show conflicted with her individual, isolated experiences behind the scenes. But she was in her early '20s back then. She didn't yet have the language or the tools to process how she was feeling.
Riley says she eventually sought out medical intervention. "When you're in Hollywood, and you go to a doctor, they give you pills," she says, sharing a part of her story that she'd never revealed publicly before now. "[I was] on medication and developing a habit of medicating to numb, not understanding I was developing an addiction to something that's not fixing my problem. If anything, it's making it worse."
“[I was] on medication and developing a habit of medicating to numb, not understanding I was developing an addiction to something that’s not fixing my problem. If anything it’s making it worse.”
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At one point, while in her dressing room on set, she rested her arm on a curling iron without realizing it. It wasn't until her makeup artist alerted her that she even realized her skin was burning. Once she noticed, she says she was "so zonked out on pills" that she barely reacted. Speaking today, she holds up her arm and motions towards a scar that remains from the incident. She sought help for her reliance on the pills, but it would still be years before she finally attended therapy.
This stress was only compounded by the trauma of growing up in poverty and the realities of being a "contract worker." "Imagine going from literally one week having to borrow a car to get to set to the next week being on a private jet to New York City," she says. After Glee ended, so did the rides on private planes. The fury of opportunities she expected to follow her appearance on the show failed to materialize. She wasn't even 30 yet, and she was already forced to consider if she'd hit her career peak.
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We’re only four minutes into our Zoom call before Riley delivers her new adage to me. “My new mantra is ‘humility does not serve me.’ Humility does not serve Black women. The world works so hard to humble us anyway,” she says.
On this Thursday afternoon in April, the LA-based entertainer is seated inside her closet/dressing room wearing a cerulean blue tank top with matching shorts and eating hot wings. This current phase of healing hinges on balance. It’s about having discipline and consistency, but not at the risk of inflexibility. She was planning to head to the gym, for instance, but she’s still tired from the “exhausting” day before. Instead, she’s spent her day receiving a massage, eating some chicken wings, and planning to spend quality time with friends. “I’m not going to beat myself up for it. I’m not going to talk down to myself. I’m going to eat my chicken wings, and then tomorrow I’m [back] in the gym,” she says.
“My new mantra is ‘humility does not serve me.’ Humility does not serve Black women. The world works so hard to humble us anyway."
This is the balance with which she's been approaching much of her life these days. It's why she's worried less about whether or not people see her as someone who is humble. She'd rather be respected. "I think you should be a person that's easy to work with, but in the moments where I have to ruffle feathers and make waves, I'm not shying away from that anymore. You can do it in love, you don't have to be nasty about it, but I had to finally be comfortable with the fact that setting boundaries around my life – in whatever aspect, whether that's personal or business – people are not going to like it. Some people are not going to have nice things to say about you, and you gotta be okay with it," she says.
When Amber talks about the constant humbling of Black women in Hollywood, I think of the entertainers before her who have suffered from this. The brilliant, consistent, overqualified Black women who have spoken of having to fight for opportunities and fair pay. Aretha Franklin. Viola Davis. Tracee Ellis Ross. There's a long list of stars whose success hasn't mirrored their experiences behind the scenes.
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If Black women outside of Hollywood are struggling to decrease the pay gap, so, too, are their wealthier, more famous peers.
Riley says there’s been progress in recent years, but only in small ways and for a limited group of people. “This business is exhausting. The goalpost is constantly moving, and sometimes it’s unfair,” she says. But, I have to say it’s the love that keeps you going.”
“There’s no way you can continue to be in this business and not love it, especially being a plus-sized Black woman,” she continues. “We’re still niche. We’re still not main characters.”
"There’s no way you can continue to be in this business and not love it, especially being a plus-sized Black woman. We’re still niche. We’re still not main characters.”
Last year, Riley starred alongside Raven Goodwin in the Lifetime thriller Single Black Female (a modern, diversified take on 1992’s Single White Female). It was more than a leading role for the actress, it also served as proof that someone who looks like her can front a successful project without it hinging on her identity. It showcased that the characters she portrays don’t “have to be about being a big girl. It can just be a regular story.”
Riley sees her work in music as an extension of her efforts to push past the rigid stereotypes in entertainment. Take her appearance on The Masked Singer, for instance. Riley said she decided to perform Mayer’s “Gravity” after being told she couldn’t sing it years earlier. “I wanted to do ‘Gravity’ on Glee. [I] was told no, because that’s not a song that Mercedes would do,” she says. “That was a full circle moment for me, doing that on that show and to hear what it is they had to say.”
As Scherzinger praised the “anointed” performance, a masked Riley began to cry, her chest heaving as she stood on stage, her eyes shielded from view. “You have to understand, I have really big names – casting directors, producers, show creators – that constantly tell me ‘I’m such a big fan. Your talent is unmatched.’ Hire me, then,” she says, reflecting on the moment.
Recently, she’s been in the studio working on original music, the follow-up to her independently-released debut EP, 2020’s Riley. The sequel to songs such as the anthemic “Big Girl Energy” and the reflective ballad “A Moment” on Riley, this new project hones in on the singer’s R&B roots with sensual grooves such as the tentatively titled “All Night.” “You said I wasn’t shit, turns out that I’m the shit. Then you called me a bitch, turns out that I’m that bitch. You said no one would want me, well you should call your homies,” she sings on the tentatively titled “Lately,” a cut about reflecting on a past relationship. From the forthcoming project, xoNecole received five potential tracks. Fans likely already know the strengths and contours of Riley’s vocals, but these new songs are her strongest, most confident offerings as an artist.
“I am so much more comfortable as a writer, and I know who I am as an artist now. I’m evolving as a human being, in general, so I’m way more vulnerable in my music. I’m way more willing to talk about whatever is on my mind. I don’t stop myself from saying what it is I want to say,” she says.
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“Every era and alliteration of Amber, the baseline is ‘Big Girl Energy.’ That’s the name of her company,” her manager Brooks says, referencing the imprint through which Riley releases her music after getting out of a label deal several years ago. “It’s just what she stands for. She’s not just talking about size, it’s in all things. Whether it’s putting your big girl pants on and having to face a boardroom full of executives or sell yourself in front of a casting agent. It’s her trying to achieve the things she wants to do in life.”
Riley says she has big dreams beyond releasing this new music, too. She’d love to star in a rom-com with Winston Duke. She hasn't starred in a biopic yet, but she’d revel in the opportunity to portray Rosetta Tharpe on screen. She’s determined that her previous setbacks won’t stop her from dreaming big.
“I think one of my superpowers is resilience because, at the end of the day, I’m going to kick, scream, cry, cuss, be mad and disappointed, but I’m going to get up and risk having to deal with it all again. It’s worth it for the happy moments,” she says.
If Riley seems more comfortable and confident professionally, it’s because of the work she’s been doing in her personal life.
She’d previously spoken to xoNecole about becoming engaged to a man she discovered in a post on the site, but she called things off last year. For Valentine’s Day, she revealed her new boyfriend publicly. “I decided to post him on Valentine’s Day, partially because I was in the dog house. I got in trouble with him,” she says, half-joking before turning serious. “The breakup was never going to stop me from finding love. Or at least trying. I don’t owe anybody a happily ever after. People break up. It happens. When it was good, it was good. When it was bad, it was terrible, hunny. I had to get the fuck up out of there. You find happiness, and you enjoy it and work through it.”
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"I don’t owe anybody a happily ever after. People break up. It happens. When it was good, it was good. When it was bad, it was terrible, hunny. I had to get the fuck up out of there. You find happiness and you enjoy it and work through it.”
With her ex, Riley was pretty outspoken about her relationship, even appearing in content for Netflix with him. This time around is different. She’s not hiding her boyfriend of eight months, but she’s more protective of him, especially because he’s a father and isn’t interested in becoming a public figure.
She’s traveling more, too. It’s a deliberate effort on her part to enjoy her money and reject the trauma she’s developed after experiencing poverty in her childhood. “I live in constant fear of being broke. I don’t think you ever don’t remember that trauma or move past that. Now I travel and I’m like, listen, if it goes, it goes. I’m not saying [to] be reckless, but I deserve to enjoy my hard work.”
After everything she’s been through, she certainly deserves to finally let loose a bit. “I have to have a life to live,” she says. “I’ve got to have a life worth fighting for.”
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Having Quitter's Regret? Here's How To Ask For Your Job Back
We all heard about the Great Resignation, where millions of professionals quit their job during the pandemic in order to find balance and pursue fulfillment. Well, today, among those who took the leap, 80% regret ever quitting in the first place. Sometimes we have to actually make a move before finding out it’s the wrong one, and that’s okay.
If you’re experiencing a bit of quitter’s remorse, here are a few tips on how to ask for your job back with your pride intact:
1. Be sure you’ve weighed the pros and cons of going back to a former employer.
Maybe the new job you quit the old one for just didn’t stand up to the interview hype, or you just miss your old gig and coworkers. Write down all the benefits and possible pitfalls of going back. Will you have to settle for less money? Did you leave the company on good terms? Is this something that will advance your career? Do you just need the money to pay your bills? (In that case, you might want to just consider applying for a whole new job elsewhere.) Before asking for that job back, be sure you’re aware of all outcomes of your decision.
I once considered going back to an old job after hitting a slump early in my self-employment journey. After talking with a few friends I still had in the industry, they highly recommended that I push through and find other ways to bring in money while boosting my client roster. Looking back, it was the best decision not to return to an old job because I would not have the flexibility or job satisfaction I have today as a digital nomad, nor would I be earning the money I am today.
2. Reframe the ask.
To ensure you’re not coming off desperate, be sure to start off by emailing your former employer or HR department, briefly detailing what you loved about the position or company, and expressing that, after some reflection, you’d be interested in reconnecting to be rehired.
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3. Request a meeting to discuss your options.
This is a good idea since you can better pitch yourself to get back into the fold with an in-person or phone conversation. It’s much more personal, and you can really let your former manager or HR rep know the details of why you want to come back and why you would be an asset to the company if you did. This is especially important if your position hasn’t already been filled, if you took major contacts or connections with you when you left, or to leverage better pay or benefits this time around.
4. Be authentic and honest.
Oftentimes, people respect honesty, especially company leaders, with integrity. I once resigned from a job, thinking I was going to pursue higher education full-time. I didn’t want to have to juggle my studies with holding down a job that I really loved and wanted to give my all to. After a bit of thought, I decided that missing out on the opportunity to really thrive in that role and continue the work I’d been doing just wasn’t worth quitting to go back to school full-time, so I was honest, and I got the job back. My manager was very encouraging and actually was happy I’d asked to rejoin the team. If you left the job due to what you thought would be a good life pivot or for reasons that are positive, just keep it real with your former manager and allow them the chance to offer understanding and grace.
5. If the position has been filled, apply for another one.
Many companies keep employee files in their systems for quite some time after someone resigns, and there may be other opportunities for you to get your foot back in the door. If you find that your position has already been filled, apply for another position with your former department or another department altogether, either through your former company’s HR portal or via a recruiter. Talk to your former colleagues or industry friends and find out about what’s available. They might even be able to give you a heads-up when a position is opening that’s perfect for your comeback.
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