This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Pairs With Libra In Matters Of The Heart
Libra is the definition of love. They are ruled by Venus herself, the planet of love, and they put a lot of focus on this area of their life as well.
Libra in Love & Relationships
A Libra in a relationship is one of the best partners to have, as they put their relationships first in life. They provide a lot of value and care into their relationships, and love itself means everything to them. They love the feeling of being in a partnership with someone and mirroring each other and are the example of two becoming one. With Venus being the planetary ruler of both Libra and Taurus, Libra effortlessly matches Venusian energy.
Venus is all about love, beauty, harmony, sex, creativity, and attraction. The power of attraction for Libra is strong, and this is a flirty sign that doesn’t have a problem meeting someone or attracting love into their life.
There are two types of Libras when it comes to love. A Libra in a relationship and a Libra in a situationship. Some Libras do have a pattern of not committing and having a more flaky or laissez-faire attitude in their relationships.
That’s not to say they aren’t completely loving and romantic in the process, but they may not be the first ones to bring up making the relationship official, let's just say that. On the other side, there are also those Libras that have planned out their wedding day since they were a child and are serial daters. Let’s not forget that Libra rules the 7th house, which is the house of marriage. You will often always find a Libra in a relationship and they are that perfect spouse someone is looking for.
Either way, a Libra almost always has someone in their vicinity, and if they don’t, they won't feel like themselves. This doesn’t mean they are the most committed sign of the zodiac, as a Libra will run free and have its fun unless they are really at that place in their life to commit.
Libra Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Love Matches in the Zodiac
All in all, Libras are the type of partner to wow you. They will take note of everything you like, dislike, enjoy, love, and will make it their mission to provide that for you. They want to meet you where you are and will shower you with a type of love and affection that is truly unforgettable. They are genuine with the affection they show, and they will always consider their partners' thoughts, values, and interests.
Libras are one of the best romantic partners to have, however, read below to see what signs Libras are most compatible with.
Who Are Libras Most Compatible With?
Libra + Aries Love Compatibility
Libra and Aries are the definitions of opposites attract. They are sister signs of the zodiac and are on complete opposite sides of the zodiac wheel. They have a magnetic attraction toward each other and they often don’t know why or where it is coming from. Libra and Aries are very different from each other but they give and take where needed. This pairing is that of yin and yang, and when they are in balance with each other this is a very fulfilling partnership.
Libra gives Aries the love and attention they crave but don’t always necessarily express, and Aries helps Libra feel empowered and focused. Not to mention, they are both cardinal signs and will have a lot of fun and passion in the relationship, especially in the beginning.
Libra + Taurus Love Compatibility
Libra and Taurus is a match you wouldn’t expect right away, but they actually go together pretty well. Being both ruled by Venus, the planet of love, they both have expectations in a relationship that they can meet. They deeply align with their values in life and will bring a lot of care, dedication, and warmth into this relationship. This couple loves to do nothing together or spend their time in leisure activities which makes for a fun and relaxing partnership.
However, their differences arise when it comes to communication style, and Taurus can be too stubborn for Libra’s more easygoing demeanor. They may often question each other and think too much into things which can lead to the downfall of the partnership. All in all, this couple has Venus on their side and this relationship can definitely work and be filled with love.
Libra + Gemini Love Compatibility
Libra and Gemini are a match made in heaven. If anyone can handle a Gemini, it is a Libra, and they would do so happily. Libras see something in Gemini that most don’t, and they are often very intrigued by them. When these two come together, it’s easy for them to get on the same page and they flow through life with a type of unique synergy.
Being both air signs, they don’t take things too seriously so commitment within this pairing may be a little difficult, but if they both are at that place in life then it would definitely be a different story. Overall, this is one of Libra’s best matches in the zodiac, and this is a very exciting, thoughtful, and communicative pairing.
Libra + Cancer Love Compatibility
Libra and Cancer compatibility is hit or miss. Libra and Cancer have a lot in common, however, how they go about things is completely different. Libra and Cancer are both the type of partners to give. This energy is beneficial however, it can lead to some laziness in the relationship and not a lot of progress as they both don’t want to rock the boat. Libra needs love and affection which Cancer provides, but Cancer needs stability and emotional security, which may be too tight-knit for free spirit Libra. Cancer thinks with their emotions, Libra with their head, so they will often have to find the middle ground in the relationship in order to be on the same page.
Libra + Leo Love Compatibility
Libra and Leo are a notoriously good match in Astrology. They often tend to have an instant connection and attraction toward each other, and this pairing can go the distance. The compatibility of Libra and Leo together is that of a couple who are both best friends and lovers. Their energy and connection are unmatched, and they have a good rapport. With both of these individuals enamored by love, they love to have fun, be out and about, and this relationship tends to be more flashy than most. Public displays of affection are likely with this couple, not to mention they often just look good together and are a couple that people want to be around.
Libra + Virgo Love Compatibility
Libra and Virgo are a couple that you wouldn’t immediately think of going together, however, you do see this pairing often as well. What works in this connection is their mindset and modes of communication. Both signs are very logical which makes for great conversation and inspiring each other, however, this relationship can get stale or stagnant if there is nothing else being brought to the table other than good conversation. Virgo requires more stability than Libra, and Libra isn’t the easiest sign to get to settle down. Virgo loves a mission, however, after a while, these two may realize they have more that’s keeping them apart rather than together.
Libra + Libra Love Compatibility
Surprisingly, this is a very common duo. Now, most signs can not do the same sign relationship thing, as this energy can get competitive and to be honest, kind of boring sometimes. However, Libra is the exception here as a Libra and Libra duo is often a sexy surprise. The thing about Libra is that they mirror people. They see themselves in others and will match the energy of people. So it’s not hard to see why a Libra would be attracted to dating someone similar to themselves, as they already feel like they are one with the person they are in a relationship with. Although this relationship may get shaky in the long haul and they both will have to put in the work, there is something enticing about a Libra and Libra match and they are both drawn to each other.
Libra + Scorpio Love Compatibility
A Libra and a Scorpio relationship can be sexy or scary and there is really no in-between here. Libra and Scorpio, although next to each other on the zodiac wheel, have really nothing in common. They are both more relationship-oriented which is a plus, however, Scorpio’s power-focused mindset tends to make Libra’s balanced-focused mindset feel uneasy. Scorpio can be too abrasive for Libra as Libra likes things sweet and soft, whereas Scorpio is all about being bold and passionate. It’s hard to get these two on the same page, and although they will probably respect each other and admire each other in different ways, air and water energy aren't the easiest to come together and this compatibility isn’t the best.
Libra + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
A Libra and Sagittarius pairing is a power couple. Sagittarius broadens the mind of a Libra and takes them places they never thought they would be. Sagittarius and Libra both value their space and freedom, which is why this relationship is full of lightness, ease, laughter, and humility. They aren’t ones to take things too seriously, however, and this could be more of a fling than a long-term partnership. If they do see each other working out in the future and aligning with their life goals, then this will work, but they both need to check in often within this relationship to make sure they are still on the same page and have the same intentions for the relationship.
Libra + Capricorn Love Compatibility
The compatibility of a Libra and Capricorn is better than most air and earth sign duos. This is because both Libra and Capricorn enjoy the finer things in life, and have a refined nature of going about things and about their expectations in a relationship. Capricorn values tradition and Libra values things such as love, marriage, and partnership, which makes it easy for this couple to set goals within the relationship and evolve together. Capricorn may be too cold for Libra at times and Libra too up in the air for Capricorn, but they will find that their weaknesses are often each other's strengths and they can learn a lot from each other in this relationship.
Libra + Aquarius Love Compatibility
Libra and Aquarius give off soulmate energy. They both need a lot of the same things in a relationship and they don’t have to put that much energy into making it work since they already have such a good connection, to begin with. This couple has a lot of fun together and they are also the type of couple to still hang out with their friends; you can find them often hanging out with other couples as well. They are all about sharing the love and this relationship tends to be a progressive one. Libra definitely meets their match here when it comes to commitment in the relationship, however, and it can be hard to define this relationship. All in all, this is one of Libra's best matches for a partner.
Libra + Pisces Love Compatibility
A Libra and Pisces relationship can get messy. There is an attraction there, however, it’s often very hard for them to understand each other. Libra and Pisces both tend to be pacifists and this can make the relationship of a couple who are very nice and kind to each other, but they both might not be getting what they need to thrive and grow together. Kind gestures only go so far, and if the energy isn’t right or Pisces isn’t feeling that excitement or mystery in the relationship, then Pisces tends to lose interest and wander off. It can be hard to keep up with each other and this compatibility will only work if it is meant to.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
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Navigating Dating When Emotionally Unavailable & Detached: My Journey Back To Feeling
The last time I came with a dating story, I told you I got my little feelings hurt in 2021. I called myself trying to be out in these streets entertaining a man in a different area code, city, and state — only for homeboy to play in my damn face. So, I went and gave y’all "8 Rules To Casual Dating Every Woman Should Know This Summer." You’re welcome. Fast forward to 2024, and I am now coming to you from a more mature and intentional place. We’re not in summer yet, but I truly believe what blooms in spring, thrives in summer.
2023 was my year, and it was my turn. I had just completed an 8-month holistic detox. The glow-up was real and well-deserved. The way I have poured into myself is unmatched. Let me tell you, self-love is a love you have never known. After a five-year healing journey, I finally felt like myself again, and I was ready to play. My heart was open, my mind was clear, and my body hella transformed. I had told all my friends that I was ready to explore dating again, and at the height of summer, I did exactly just that.
This time I decided I wanted to take my time. I wanted to date the “right way” or the “healthy way.” You know, keep your options open, ask the right questions, believe actions and not words, observe patterns and pay attention to red, yellow, and green flags. I was never the dating app type of girl. I sincerely miss everything about human connection and dating from 2000 to 2012. Can we please bring all of that back into 2024? I prefer to feel a man’s energy and presence in real-time. Nonetheless, I still chose to dabble with a few dating apps. I was all the way outside and dating for practice.
Unfortunately, with today’s dating culture, social climate, and how some of these men move and/or behave, these dates were a dead end. Not one guy made it to my roster. What these men were was benched this season – not one of them could be my first-round select draft pick. It didn't seem like anyone I met was interested in a serious relationship. And it’s completely fine. Miss me with the ghosting, lack of effort, inconsistency, and poor communication. I continued to just do me because what is for me will not miss me.
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The universe must have heard me talking because I had specifically told my closest girlfriends that I wanted to meet someone who lived in the vicinity, no more than twenty minutes away, and no more long distance. And I did meet him (it’s crazy how I manifest exactly what I want). As we started to get to know each other, I liked his energy and effort. I liked the direction it seemed to be going to the point my girlfriends had to tell me not to run from him. Because every part of me wanted to run from something that seemed normal.
I liked what he was coming with until I became uncomfortable with my own feelings, and I didn’t know how to communicate them to him.
With that said, I knew if I truly wanted to experience the truest of loves, a reciprocal, requited love, and be in a healthy relationship this story had to come to a pause. What I didn’t know was that he was going to show me things I didn’t know I needed to work on. I didn’t know he inadvertently was going to help me continue to heal parts of me that were hidden.
As someone who has learned to self-heal, I am no longer the type that runs from herself. I am here for the growth.
The truth is I am emotionally detached from myself, and I am not actively dating at the moment. I am the one that has to work on herself. My reiki healer called it, too – she told me this year would not be a year for a relationship, but a year of continuous growth. And now I see why. After all the healing work I have done thus far – I am an unemotional mess. How?
At my big age of 39, I struggle to communicate my wants and needs.
I still struggle to communicate and process uncomfortable feelings. I would rather give myself anxiety, act nonchalantly, emotionally react, and choose non-communication when I am bothered with someone than address the issue (I will later explain why). I have been ignoring my feelings for so long it has become a habit, a defense mechanism, and more so a trauma response.
If you are someone like me who grew up in a household that didn’t discuss feelings, your emotional needs were unmet, and you don’t feel safe to share your feelings – emotional detachment is quite common.
Oftentimes, we always talk about men being emotionally unavailable, but what if it’s a woman who is emotionally unavailable or emotionally detached? How does she navigate herself, dating, or being in a relationship? As I navigate my emotions this season, let’s explore what it means to be emotionally detached, the signs of detachment, and how to reconnect with yourself emotionally.
Emotional Unavailability vs. Emotional Detachment
When we look at the terminology emotional unavailability and emotional detachment, one might argue that the two terms are interchangeable and have the same meaning. One could also argue that both terms mean that some people are not in tune with their emotions or lack the emotional capacity to be responsive to someone else’s emotions. Fair enough. However, there is a big difference. The definition of emotional unavailability is described as people who have difficulty with sharing their emotions and being receptive to the emotions of those around them.
According to Verywell Mind, signs of emotional unavailability can look like being distant or cold, lack of closeness, and emotional intimacy in relationships, inability to understand and relate to others’ feelings, defensiveness when asked to change or let others in, tendency to shut down or avoid topics that require emotional openness, or withdrawal from people or situations that provoke emotional reactions.
Whereas emotional detachment is defined as the inability to or willingness to connect with others on an emotional level. Furthermore, Psychology Today states emotional detachment can also mean that people do not engage with their feelings. Exhibit A – me. Emotional detachment has various causes – past neglect, childhood or adult trauma, PTSD, depression, personality disorder, bipolar disorder, substance abuse, or, in some cases, medication (i.e. antidepressants). It is important to note emotional detachment is a complex issue. For someone like me, it’s a coping mechanism.
It is easier for me to ignore uncomfortable feelings to protect myself from stress or getting hurt. Hence, my nonchalant demeanor. It is also true for some people it is a reaction to trauma, abuse, and unprocessed emotions. Exhibit B – me. As it is difficult for me to open up about my feelings at the moment. On the contrary – emotional detachment can be helpful in navigating some situations like listening to people’s opinions and gossip.
Unfortunately, emotional detachment is not a behavior that can be turned on and off at will. Please note that emotional detachment is NOT a mental health diagnosis but can be a symptom of a mental health condition such as an attachment disorder. And if you know anything about attachment theory, it is related to the relationship we develop in our childhood with our primary caregivers.
Signs You're Emotionally Detached
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According to Psychology Today and Verywell Mind, general signs of emotional detachment can look like difficulty showing empathy to others, sharing emotions, committing to a relationship, feeling numb, poor listening skills, lack of self-esteem, preferring to be alone, struggling to feel positive emotions, inability to identify emotions, lack of physical, verbal, or sexual contact and losing touch with people or maintaining connections.
In a romantic relationship, emotional detachment shows up as you or your partner not being available for connection, poor communication, or reduced affection.
For me, my experience with emotional detachment is collective. I am an empath to my core. I don’t have a problem relating to other’s feelings or circumstances. I don’t have commitment issues, nor do I have an issue connecting with others or maintaining those connections. I struggle with sharing emotions, at least the negative ones.
Due to the emotional abuse from my childhood and a toxic relationship, I learned sharing emotions just wasn't the safe thing to do. As a survivor of trauma, I learned to suppress feeling negative emotions in general as a form of protection.
How To Reconnect To Your Emotions When You're Emotionally Unavailable
Serious Kid Cudi GIF by Apple MusicGiphyExploring my emotional side in-depth started late last year simply by noticing my reaction to something that he did. I didn’t know how to properly communicate to him how I was feeling or what he did bothered me in the moment. So, I swallowed my feelings and said absolutely nothing. I intentionally chose to avoid the issue. I chose to rationalize the situation instead of acknowledging that my feelings at the time were valid. I chose to act like everything was all good because it was all good.
“It wasn’t that deep to begin with” is what I told myself. And this is where the problem lies.
The saying is true, “What happens in your childhood shows up in your adult relationships.” I came to realize that because I was not able to express my feelings as a child, I struggled to process them. I either hold back my feelings, take a long time to say how I feel, or don’t say anything at all. This is because I fear people will walk away from me like my mother did if I share what I truly feel. I fear my feelings won’t be validated, or they will be rejected.
With that said, I was completely unaware that I was emotionally detached from myself until recently. So, here we are with this article. It all started by reading Instagram’s @theholisticpsychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera’s newest book How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships, which was released on November 28, 2023. As I read through the first chapter, I became triggered.
How Dr. LePera describes her childhood with her parents and experiences with her romantic partners somewhat mirrored my experiences with my own parents and relationships. As Dr. LaPera stated in her book, I have no issue showing up for others or meeting their needs and wants. But when it comes to expressing my own needs and wants – I cannot or I don’t. This is mainly due to my hyper-independence.
At an early age, I learned to show up for myself because the people I trusted to show up for me failed. Given my home environment, I had internalized it is not safe to talk about feelings. I never knew my emotional responses and behavior were abnormal. But because I am willing to continue to do my inner work, I know that I can reconnect to my emotions, and undo four decades of repressed emotions.
If you are someone like me who struggles with emotional connection with yourself and others, here is how you go about it:
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1. Know Your Attachment Style
For me, the first step was to understand my attachment style. I asked my therapist if she could help me identify my attachment style to understand my triggers. She recommended The Attachment Theory Workbook by Annie Chen, LMFT. My therapist administered the associated online quiz – Attachment Quiz. If you haven’t figured out my attachment style yet by reading this article, I have an anxious attachment style.
This means I don’t do well with inconsistent behavior, especially from men (but I’m the type that holds men to standards too). People with an anxious attachment style have a need to feel close to their partner. It may come across as “clingy” or “needy.” However, this same need is often driven by fear of abandonment, mistrust, and low self-esteem. I would say knowing your attachment style is helpful because you can work towards having a secure attachment style (with practice) in your relationships – familial, business, work, platonic, or romantic.
2. Become Self-Aware
Most people who are not in the practice of self-care or self-healing are unaware of their triggers, patterns, and behaviors. We are so caught up in the daily minutiae of life that we forget to pay attention to the most important part of our days — ourselves. As Dr. LePera says, make it a conscious habit to pause throughout your day to check in with yourself. Ask yourself:
- How does my body feel?
- What am I doing right now?
- Am I present?
- Am I distracted and lost with other thoughts?
- What do I think or feel when I recall a specific experience with someone?
- What do I think or worry about?
- What would happen if I shared my authentic thoughts, perspective, feelings right now?”
This is what Dr. LePera refers to as exploring your embodied self or fulfilling your authentic needs in chapter two of her book. Consistent mindfulness and self-awareness are key to self-discovery and in any healing journey. Learning to focus on the present moment also includes paying attention to our emotional response to an event or how we think about emotions in general.
3. Practice Vulnerability
The idea of vulnerability is a tough one for me and so many other women for countless reasons. Whether it be toxic family, friendships, relationships, or trauma – trusting others with your thoughts and feelings is not easy. As much as I am open and transparent, I am not as vulnerable. And I believe there is so much power in the duality to be both. To trust someone, let alone a man with your authentic self is a delicate matter.
But it is emotional vulnerability that allows us humans to build authentic connections, create stronger relationships, and break down emotional walls. Emotional vulnerability is not something to be rushed – it takes time and practice from you and the people you choose to have in your life. Medical News Today suggests that we can learn to be vulnerable by opening up more to our closest friends, building our ability to become more trusting, and developing skills to regulate our emotions.
4. Seek Therapy
I have been in therapy for six years and counting. I would consider therapy one of my safe spaces. I am one of those individuals who recommend therapy to everyone as it has given me the tools and resources I need to navigate my life challenges. By choosing to get help, I was able to put my PTSD and depression in remission for four years now. I have also learned how to manage my anxiety.
I am fully aware that in this season of my life requires me to do the work to unlock new levels of self. And any time where I have consciously chosen growth – the universe or life has not failed me. I was able to heal my body, my heart, and my spirit. Now, it’s time to heal my inner child, this hurt little girl who lives in me.
I will say choosing a therapist is similar to dating; you might go through a few potentials until you find a therapist you connect with. Actually, one of my lifelong friends said to me the other day, “Your relationship with your therapist is one of the most important relationships in your life.” I needed her to say that, and I needed to hear it because it’s true. You are essentially trusting a licensed stranger to help you navigate your life on so many levels.
Be picky and ask the questions. Cut the cord at the first red flag given. Again, let me reiterate that emotional detachment is not a mental health diagnosis. It can be treated with the help of a therapist. Emotional detachment only becomes a problem when it starts to interfere with your daily life. Pay attention to changes in your daily behavior and make decisions to cope accordingly.
I am genuinely excited about reconnecting with my emotions. I want to feel all the feels – good, bad, and indifferent. I want to cry all the tears – especially the sad ones. I want to process and release negative emotions. I want to say how I feel in the moment with no fear.
If you are that girl who struggles with emotional connection or thinks you're emotionally detached, I hope that you become willing to face your inner child and show up for her. Don’t run – she has been waiting for you.
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