Capricorn is one of the most loyal partners to have in life. Capricorns will never admit this but once they are in love or find someone they want to commit to, they are down bad.
Capricorn in Love & Relationships
Capricorns thrive in stable environments, and they need this type of energy in their relationships as well. They aren’t the ones to rock the boat or make the relationship more difficult than it needs to be. You know exactly what you are getting when you get into a relationship with a Capricorn, and they aren’t too fond of change.
Capricorn Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Matches in the Zodiac
If you are someone Capricorn believes in, they will give all of their dedication and time to the relationship and will set goals here that help the relationship in the long haul and the success of it overall. Being in a relationship with a Capricorn is like being with someone who always has your back.
Even if they don’t agree with something you are doing or want to do, they won’t put you on blast to others and tend to deal with challenges in private. Their respect for their partners in love is hard to shake, and once they commit to something, they see it as being a forever type thing.
However, Capricorn is a stubborn sign who is often stuck in their ways and it can be difficult for their partners to get them to understand their perspective or where they are coming from. Capricorns also isn’t the most emotional signs to be in a relationship with so if you are looking for public displays of affection, you are better off with a Leo. What Capricorn will provide, however, is something that will last the tests of time, something you can grasp, and a relationship built on mutual trust and stability.
Who Are Capricorns Most Compatible With?
Capricorn + Aries Love Compatibility
This pairing is the definition of a power couple. Capricorn and Aries individually are the bosses of the zodiac, and when they come together as a team they are truly unstoppable. If both of these signs are willing to put their egos aside for the sake of the happiness of the relationship then this can definitely work. What Capricorn wants in life, Aries wants as well. Being that they are cardinal signs, they both enjoy initiating projects, working toward something, and creating a legacy for themselves. However, Aries tend to get stuck at square one, and Capricorns also have a tendency for stagnation, and they could butt heads from time to time if they aren’t actively doing things for fun that they enjoy, and not keeping things too serious all the time.
Capricorn + Taurus Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Taurus are a match made in heaven. I don’t always ship same-element duos as I find they can get quite boring, but when it comes to earth signs, they do have a down-to-earth energy that works well together when it comes to the longevity of a relationship. Capricorn appreciates Taurus’ need for stability and security, as this is what Capricorn is looking for in companionship as well. This duo works because they are both going at the same pace and both enjoy the sensual nature they can provide for each other. This couple builds together and creates a nice, often luxurious life together.
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Capricorn + Gemini Love Compatibility
This is a match that rarely works out the way that’s intended. The thing about Gemini is that some people love what they are giving, and some are immediately turned off. Capricorn tends to be the sign that turns away from this air sign. Gemini is a sign you have to keep up with in a lot of ways romantically, and even though Capricorn is all about putting the work in, they are all about smart investments and don’t often see Gemini as being one. Gemini’s up-in-the-air qualities entice signs such as Libra or Leo, but when it comes to Capricorn, they want someone easier to grasp. Although this pairing can seem like fun at first, it rarely ends up at the altar.
Capricorn + Cancer Love Compatibility
This pairing is what I like to call the mom (Cancer) and the dad (Capricorn) of the zodiac. Capricorn’s dependable, loyal, and stable nature matches well with Cancer's nurturing, compassionate, and giving nature. These two are opposite signs, and opposites attract when it comes to both of them. There is more room for love and growth within this relationship than there is discord or discontent, and they often feel like they have met their match when they come together. This is a relationship where they both intuitively understand what each other needs and both naturally want to provide that. Although Cancer’s emotional mood swings can seem like a lot for an emotionally mature Capricorn, it's just what this earth sign needs to nurture the world they are creating for themselves.
Capricorn + Leo Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Leo can be another power couple if they are willing to grow together rather than separately, but this duo is hit or miss. Capricorns tend to be quite intrigued by the seemingly always-confident Leo, as they remind them of a part of themselves they often try to humble away. Leo helps Capricorn take their eyes away from climbing the mountain and enjoying what is in the moment. However, what Capricorn does best, which is ground energy, manifest, and stabilize, is something that Leo isn’t typically looking for in a romantic relationship. Leo needs more excitement than Capricorn is always willing to give, but through learning more about what each other wants and needs, this relationship can work out.
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Capricorn + Virgo Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Virgo are a sweet couple. This is a couple that has history and that deeply values each other’s presence and perspective. Loyalty is what these two thrive on, and they are both willing to give it to each other. This earth sign duo is a couple that doesn’t ask for much but for love itself. They both have similar perspectives in life and in love, which keeps them on the same page. Being that these signs are both extremely hard-working, however, it can be difficult for them to put that same time and dedication into the relationship, and they’ll have to remember to take the time out for date nights and romantic ventures so the relationship doesn’t feel like another obligation in their life.
Capricorn + Libra Love Compatibility
This is a pairing you wouldn’t immediately assume is something magical, but it definitely can be for some. What brings these two together the most is their love of the finer things in life. Capricorn wants to build a beautiful life, Libra loves looking at beautiful things. They both value commitment and are both the type of signs to take their relationships in life seriously, and they enjoy knowing this about each other. Capricorn and Libra make great partners to have in life, and when they come together they can provide this sense of dedication to the relationship. If they can focus on their similarities more than their differences, they can be a great couple.
Capricorn + Scorpio Love Compatibility
This is a common pairing in love when it comes to Astrology. Not only do these two signs tend to be immediately drawn to each other, but they are often in the same spaces and environments that make meeting each other inevitable. Capricorn is intrigued by Scorpio and their mysterious nature, and Scorpio feels the same about Capricorn’s grounding and sensual energy. The sexual chemistry between these two is strong, and this is important to not only Scorpio but to Capricorn as well. These two have a lot in common and they both go at the same pace when it comes to relationships in life, making them feel extremely comfortable and open in each other’s presence.
Capricorn + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Sagittarius' compatibility isn’t the strongest, but if other factors in the birth chart are there, this can work. Anything is possible, as they say. However, Sagittarius is a roller coaster Capricorn isn’t always down to ride. An evolved Sagittarius who is at that place in life where they are ready to commit and settle down can work for the stable Capricorn. Although, Sagittarius is typically looking for something different than what Capricorn is. Sagittarius lives day by day, and Capricorn needs a plan. If they can both lay everything out on the table and define the expectations of the relationship, there will be fewer disagreements and fallouts here. Sagittarius can teach Capricorn a lot and vice versa and there is always an underlying energy of love with the sign next to you on the zodiac wheel, after all.
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Capricorn + Capricorn Love Compatibility
These two earth signs coming together can either be a divine connection or a recipe for disaster. Capricorns are typically better off in a relationship with someone that can provide something different than they can because they like to feel needed and like they are providing something valuable to the relationship. By dating their sign, it can be hard to understand what they are bringing into the relationship, and will feel almost like the purpose isn’t there for them. What works here, however, is that Capricorn is a goal-oriented sign and this relationship can be one where they meet a lot of success in life together and a relationship that is rich in accomplishments and stature.
Capricorn + Aquarius Love Compatibility
You would think that Capricorn would stay away from such an air sign, but Capricorns are often very intrigued by aloof Aquarius. Capricorn and Aquarius are both ruled by Saturn which makes this relationship one where they take things step by step and evolve and grow together within the relationship. Capricorn appreciates Aquarius’ logical yet eccentric nature, and Aquarius finds Capricorn's down-to-earth nature comforting. These two have more similarities than most earth/air sign duos, and this is a homebody couple that enjoys spending time with each other or close loved ones, in safe environments. This is an easy-going pairing that doesn’t ask for much from each other but time.
Capricorn + Pisces Love Compatibility
Capricorn and Pisces is another soulmate pairing that you see often in marriage and committed relationships. Capricorn finds something sweet, romantic, and compatible about Pisces’ energy, and Pisces feels the same about Capricorn. This is a couple that wants to spend all their time together and nothing is forced here. They get into the relationship already on the same page and there is a lot of reciprocity here. Pisces helps Capricorn live in their heart more than their head and helps them see things with an open-minded view. Capricorn reminds Pisces of the importance of stability and security, and Pisces feels safe in this relationship. Commitment is easy for these two as they both want what the other is offering.
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Whew, please hear me when I say that, no matter how much you love someone, if you say “I do” without addressing (and hopefully resolving) these issues before jumping somebody’s broom, you could be in for a really unpleasant marital experience…if not divorce court up the road.
And speaking of divorce, although it’s not discussed nearly enough, believe it or not, there are also things that should be considered divorce red flags — also glaring warning signs that you are about to blow up your union, if you don’t gather yourself together, talk to your partner (and, if need be a marriage therapist, counselor or life coach) and work to get things back on track.
After over 20 years of working with married couples, some of which were right on the brink of calling it quits, here are six of the consistent divorce red flags that I’ve noticed — along with a bit of advice on how to effectively handle them…so that you don’t end up ending your marriage, when there wasn’t a reason to.
1. Impatience
GiphyI promise you, with everything in me, I don’t get — not really — why impatient people get married. There are a billion-and-one reasons why it baffles me; however, we can start with Scripture telling us that “love is patient” (I Corinthians 13:4) and, as I’ve shared in other articles, patience isn’t just about knowing how to wait well, it’s also about “bearing provocation, annoyance, misfortune, delay, hardship, pain, etc., with fortitude and calm and without complaint, anger, or the like.” Please tell me that you really caught that second one because it clearly says that patient people are able to deal with things like annoyances and hardships by remaining calm and without complaining.
Now, be real — how many people do you know, married or not, who act like this? And yet, again, the Good Book pretty much says that this is one definition of what it means to truly love other individuals: you can deal with challenging times in a steady and mature fashion. And this is why I can’t think of one client who will tell you that I am not a big fan of people worshipping the god of happiness.
What I mean by that is — how many times have you watched a post on social media (shoot, probably today alone) where someone has said that they left their marriage because “I’m just not happy anymore”? SMDH. Some people aren’t going to want to hear this, but only children should expect to be happy all of the time — and even they need to be taught just how unrealistic that is. Where the big kids play is getting that HEALTHY should always trump HAPPY — and the people who truly grasp this concept, they tend to be better at being patient than those who think that everything should be about their happiness darn near every minute of every day.
While we’re here, what are some other signs of being an impatient individual (who is usually unhappy most of the time)?
- They always want things done in their time
- They use pressure, stress, and ultimatums to get things done
- They get frustrated whenever things don’t go as planned (which means they are inflexible)
- They constantly cut people off in conversations (which means that they don’t listen well)
- They don’t know how to relax and be in the moment
And this is just five signs, chile. Anyway, the reason why this tops the list of being a divorce red flag is because, if you’re thinking about ending your marriage because you don’t know to deal with disappointments or challenges or you think that your spouse should move in your timeframe, not only do you have some tremendously unrealistic beliefs about marriage but you do about humanity, in general. Not only that, but leaving your husband, just to get with someone else? That isn’t really going to change things.
Hmph. Let me tell it, the reason why 67 percent of second marriages and 74 percent of third ones also end in divorce is because people don’t take the saying “everywhere you go, there you are” seriously and literally enough. In other words — if you’re impatient with the partner you have now and you don’t make some changes within yourself about your issues with impatience, you will be the same way with the next guy…and the next…and the next.
Divorcing because you don’t know how to wait well and/or deal with things not always going how you would like? That is a serious divorce red flag.
2. Making Comparisons
GiphyI’m pretty sure you’ve heard the quote by Theodore Roosevelt that says, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” What that basically means is if you are caught up in looking at what others are doing or what others have, it can rob you of finding pleasure, contentment and satisfaction in your own life — and when you stop to think about the fact that the internet/social media didn’t even exist at the time that he said this…whew.
When it comes to the impact that the World Wide Web has on people, one study says that social media causes 90 percent of women and 60 percent of men to compare themselves to what they see online; not only that, but 40 percent of those same people say that it affects them in a negative way. Another study? It states that social media content plays a direct role in individuals having low self-esteem, while another study revealed that 88 percent of women said that their body image was impacted by what they see on social media. And y’all, still another study cited that 75 percent of folks assessed their self-worth by what they saw online. Geeze.
If you take all of this in and then add to it the fact that some studies say that one in seven marriages say that social media played a direct role in their divorce — although there used to be a time when folks were needing to be intentional about not comparing themselves to their relatives, friends and co-workers, now they need to avoid doing it with the hundreds of people who they are able to access online on a daily basis too.
That said, I don’t care how big someone’s engagement ring is, how many trips certain couples go on or how someone speaks about their partner — everyone’s relationship is different and unique and it is pretty close to ridiculous to participate in self-sabotaging behavior by creating problems in your marriage simply because you wish it was more like someone else’s.
If there are things that you genuinely want to do or accomplish, then get with your spouse and start making some plans; however, if your core motivation is to keep up with other people, actually, that is low-key a form of being unfaithful to your own relationship because you are putting so much energy into what other folks have going on that you are neglecting the man who is right in the bed with you. And yeah, that ain’t good.
3. Unforgivingness
GiphySomeone else who has no business getting married — people who are stubborn when it comes to forgiving other people. In fact, I’ll go so far as to say that it is rooted in complete delusion and/or egomania to think that people should give you grace and mercy when you’ve done wrong and yet you believe that can and even should weaponize forgiveness when it comes time for individuals to receive it from you.
What are some signs that you suck at forgiving other people?
- You constantly live in the past or bring it up (once it’s been addressed)
- You hold people’s faults over them like it’s a power trip
- You hold grudges for days and weeks on end
- You lack empathy and compassion (as if you don’t have faults as well)
- You keep trying to make people “pay” for what they have done
- You punish them by withholding engagement or intimacy (if it’s your spouse) from them
- You’re bitter
And yet, I can’t tell you how many times that a person has told me that they are ready to end their marriage because they told their spouse beforehand that if they did something ONE TIME, they were out — only for life to humble them by them doing that very thing and then begging for their partner to pardon them for it.
And if the first thing that some of you want to jump to is infidelity — first of all, reportedly only 20 percent of men and 13 percent of women, so this obsession with that topic really needs to cease. Besides, if you aren’t a good forgiver, things like your man hurting your feelings by not keeping a date, and you holding onto that? That can cause you to feel resentful over time which can make you want to make literal mountains out of molehills when it comes to other things that he does…things that wouldn’t be as big of a deal in your mind if you had let the original offense — which sometimes isn’t even an offense, it’s just a disappointment — go.
Some people aren’t going to want to hear this, and yet, still, it needs to be said: A lot of people end up divorcing, and it’s not because of abuse or cheating or anything as extreme. It’s because they leave very little room for error when it comes to their partner (which is unrealistic as hell) and so, since they aren’t good at forgiving, they don’t know how to handle it whenever someone makes a mistake (or a poor decision) — and so, they would rather leave than figure out how to heal the situation by forgiving their partner as their partner seeks a way to make things right.
And those people? They are never going to be in a healthy long-term relationship because the reality is that humans are fallible and will always need to be forgiven — ALL HUMANS (including oneself). People who don’t accept this, they are the unforgiving types who are a constant example of a divorce red flag.
4. Selfishness
GiphyI ain’t gonna lie — the times when I do tiptoe out into social media to see what folks are talking about and I watch even five minutes of relationship-related content, the first thing that comes to my mind is a whole lot of people are not emotionally mature enough for marriage, just by their selfishness alone. By definition, to be selfish is to be self-consumed and anyone who is consistently concerned about what they can get out of a relationship without even considering another individual — they are selfish. Not to mention the fact that Scripture shows us how to love and care for other people, especially our spouse:
"Love is not rude, is not selfish, and does not get upset with others. Love does not count up wrongs that have been done." (I Corinthians 13:5-NCV)
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." (Philippians 2:3-4-NIV)
Did you catch it? If you truly love someone, you won’t be selfish, and if you want to show someone how much you care for them, selfish ambition cannot come into play. What this means is you’ve got to operate from a place of humility and be willing to take their own needs, wants, and interests into consideration.
Sometimes, when I’m in a session with a couple, all I hear is selfishness coming out, whether it’s from one or both sides. It’s not that they don’t still love each other. It’s not that they regret getting married. No, what they are struggling with is they either thought that marriage was going to be about their needs taking precedent most of the time or that they didn’t seriously consider the fact that, sometimes, they would need to put their own desires on hold for the betterment of their partner and oftentimes the relationship overall.
You know, when I recently read an article on some of the traits of a selfish person, three that stood out to me were that selfish people hate to compromise, selfish people put their wants above anything else, and selfish people don’t care about other people’s feelings. And these are the kinds of people who file for divorce on a daily basis — and that is both childish and sad.
Another thing to keep in mind about selfishness is it tends to be supremely self-centered — this presents itself as folks who are “good” at dominating conversations, skirting around accountability and responsibility and refusing to put themselves in other people’s shoes…and oftentimes, it takes a spouse “putting up a mirror” to their partner to show them that they are exactly this way.
If you just read all of this and you low-key feel triggered by it, ponder if what you currently think “isn’t working” about your marriage is more about you being more selfish than you should be. Because if you don’t learn that lesson in this relationship, you’ll just keep self-sabotaging other ones along the way — romantic ones especially, because no one really wants to be with someone who only focuses on themselves. Not for the long haul, anyway
5. A Lack of Research
GiphySeveral years back, I penned an article for the platform entitled, “What Some People Regret About Their Divorce.” You know, one of the things that I absolutely loathe about how people date these days is they think that boyfriends are husbands, girlfriends are wives, and break-ups are divorces — and that is why so many people don’t really get the weight of what marriage and ending one really is. SMDH.
And that’s why, it doesn’t surprise me in the least that one study says one-third of people who divorce end up regretting doing it. I say that because, just like not nearly enough people get into premarital counseling before saying “I do” (check out “Why You Should Strongly Consider Premarital Counseling BEFORE Getting Engaged”), not enough married couples “get their oil changed” at least a couple of times a year by speaking with a reputable marriage counselor, therapist or life coach and definitely not enough will see one of these professionals before ending their union. And because of this, people make ignorant and/or rash, and/or emotionally charged decisions without really thinking about the fallout that can come from them.
For starters, did you know that more heart attacks happen to divorced men than non-divorced men? Meanwhile, women who’ve been divorced two or more times increase their risk of having a heart attack by a whopping 77 percent. In fact, people who get divorced are reportedly 20 percent more likely to experience health-related issues overall. Divorce also tends to lead to a significant increase in depression and anxiety, and there are all kinds of ways that it can jack up your finances, including taxes, assets, and retirement.
When it comes to what divorce can do to children, there is plenty of data out here that says it can lead to them having significant emotional issues, problems in school and it increases their chances of having substance abuse issues later down the road (and that’s just the tip of the iceberg of what it can do).
Can you survive a divorce if you get one? Sure you can. All I’m saying is, before you just “up and get one” — don’t let two random posts from some random ranters on Instagram have you out here thinking that it’s “no biggie” to divorce when it absolutely is. Do some thorough research into what the consequences of ending your marriage will be; treat it like it’s a dissertation. Folks who don’t take this advice — have mercy are they ignoring a HUGE divorce red flag.
6. Emotional Immaturity
GiphyLast one. Some people? Some of them are too emotionally immature for marriage or even a romantic relationship, in general. And what are some signs of emotional immaturity? Good question.
- Emotionally immature people don’t know how to control their emotions
- Emotionally immature people deflect and make excuses whenever they are called out
- Emotionally immature people hit below the belt during conflict
- Emotionally immature people constantly want to be the center of attention
- Emotionally immature people pout and/or throw temper tantrums
- Emotionally immature people rarely, if ever, self-reflect
- Emotionally immature people constantly deflect whenever topics make them uncomfortable
- Emotionally immature people are inconsistent and unpredictable
- Emotionally immature people tend to be passive-aggressive and/or defensive a lot of the time
- Emotionally immature people absolutely suck at listening because they only want to be heard
A while back, I watched a Tubi movie entitled What Fairytale? Boy, talk about some emotionally immature (and highly selfish) married folks. SMDH. Speaking of, a really good movie that’s currently loaded up on there as well is calledParachute — and boy, is it a big bright light about what it looks like to be codependent and in a relationship. Lawd.
My point of mentioning both of these films is, in their own way, they show what happens when one or two people are so emotionally immature (perhaps without even knowing it) that they have this Disney perception of marriage to the point where they make reckless and/or entitled and/or childish and/or impulsive and/or even ridiculous decisions about their relationship when that they really should do is do some self-reflecting and then get the professional help and support that they need to see and handle their marriage from a more mature and evolved space.
Emotionally immature folks? There probably isn’t a bigger divorce red flag than this one.
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I’ve been working with married couples for a long time, y’all, with an emphasis on reconciling divorces. And you know what? Something that I’ve realized is that a ton of marriages can be saved when people 1) recognize divorce red flags when they see them and 2) get that divorce is a very serious decision that has a truly lasting impact…on all parties involved.
It can’t be said enough that a red flag is a warning. Today is a warning that you could be considering a divorce when you really shouldn’t be. If you see these red flags, talk to your spouse, hit up a professional, and get around some healthy married people.
Never ignore red flags. Address them. It can — and typically does — spare you. A LOT.
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