Here's Your 2022 Love Forecast, According To Your Zodiac Sign
This is a powerful year of love for the world. With so many changes and transformations happening on a global scale, this year we are focused on the roots and support systems that ground us through it all. In numerology, 2022 is a 6 Universal Year, a number representative of love, support, service, and balance. Relationships are at the forefront of many people's lives this year.
Jupiter is also making its every-decade transit in Pisces now, a water sign based in the emotional world and the transcendent experience of love, and right now, it's all about moving beyond ego, and into unconditional love and the higher heart. If the past few years have taught us anything, it is that love is all we have at the end of the day.
Aries
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Love for you this year, Aries is about transcending any boundaries, limitations, and emotional patterning from the past that doesn’t serve you now. With Jupiter moving through your house of the unknown, spirituality, endings, loss, healing, and renewal for a large part of the year, you are experiencing a transformation on all levels of life this year, including love. Your ruling planet Mars goes retrograde at the end of the year, from October 30 to January 1, 2023. This is when you are learning more about your passion and direction in love.
Being your resilient, free-spirited self, you are able to overcome anything that comes your way with passion and grace. Love wants to move to new levels in 2022, and you are creating space for your peace, your future, and the love and redemption that are coming in for you now, Aries.
Taurus
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Love is where a lot of passion is this year, Taurus, and also where a lot of the activity is in your life. With the North Node moving through your sign, your ruling planet Venus in retrograde at the beginning of the year, and the eclipses of the year moving through your house of love, relationships are renewing for you. You are finding the balance between self and others, and you're understanding more of the relationship dynamics in your life, what works for you, and what doesn’t. There is a lunar eclipse on May 16 and a solar eclipse on October 25, transiting your house of love. This is when you will see turning points within your relationships.
It’s all or nothing for you right now, and your love is claiming its space. Find your ground through the different changes and transitions you are moving through this year, and trust the love that is blooming for you this year, Taurus.
Gemini
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You're strongly focused on your career and the new paths you are taking there Gemini. When it comes to love, you are looking for what aligns with the goals you are seeing through right now. There are peak moments of activity for you when it comes to love this year and these times are the supermoon in Sagittarius on June 14, when Venus enters Gemini from June 22 to July 17, and when Mars goes retrograde in your sign from October 30 to January 1, 2023.
Love this year is about lifting yourself up from any patterns you’ve felt stuck in here, and aligning with the compassion within you. Speaking with others about how you are feeling, getting trusting advice, and listening to the intuition of your soul are key for you when it comes to love this year, Gemini.
Cancer
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You are learning the most when it comes to your partnerships, devotion, and stability in love this year, Cancer. With Saturn moving through your house of intimacy in 2022, love for you is about the bonds that are forming and have formed, about which structures and dynamics here have been serving your relationships, and which ones are being released now. Healing is prevalent within your emotional world this year, and you are unfolding within new chapters of love. Venus is in Cancer from July 17 to August 11, and this is when you are especially seeing some new beginnings in love.
This year is about emotional renewal and transformation, and about love because it is your birthright. Strings that have been attached are losing their strength, while bonds and commitments that allow you to be, love, and connect are strengthening for you this year.
Leo
2022 is stabilizing the blessings you saw in love in 2021. With Saturn moving through your house of love and partnerships over the past few years, you have been on a deep and, at times, challenging experience of love. Saturn is finishing its last full year here, and this year you also have Jupiter in your 8th house making sure you receive your due blessings within your commitments while you continue to build your new foundations in love.
There is a coming together happening for you this year where everything you’ve learned over the past few years is giving you the clarity on which relationships have truly been there with you through it all, how much you have grown personally, and within your connections in life. There is a supermoon in your house of love on August 11, and things are coming to fruition for you in love this summer, Leo.
Virgo
This is your year of love, Virgo. With Jupiter moving through your house of love and partnership this year, the North Node transiting your house of romance, and two eclipses in your 5th house this year, 2022 is a year of new beginnings and manifesting your dreams in love. This year is all about your courage of love, and your commitment to the seeds you have been planting here. Life is reflecting everything that you feel within. The more you stay in your confidence, remember how worthy you are, and allow love to be, the more effortless your experience will be this year. There is support, love, and connection around you, and although you love to do it all yourself, you don’t have to do it alone this year, Virgo. Love is showing up.
Libra
Love for you this year is about figuring out what makes you happy, Libra. With your ruling planet Venus being in Retrograde as the year starts out, you are entering 2022 doing some reflecting. This year is about the different cycles you have been through within your relationships, and about coming together with what you want for yourself now. Saturn is moving through your house of romance this year and you are addressing any blockages or challenges that have been preventing you from feeling loved and secure.
Love gets more serious with Saturn moving through this area of your chart and you are taking care of the environment around you right now. There is a sacred convergence occurring for you this year, as love manifests. Venus will be in Libra from September 29 to October 23, and this is a good time to set intentions in love.
Scorpio
You are dancing to the beat of love this year, Scorpio. This year brings with it profound changes within love and an acceptance of the unconditional support that is there for you. You are being moved by love in 2022, and are seeing your own personal revelations and becoming in the process like the ever-evolving Scorpio you are. With the North Node officially in Taurus and moving through your house of love this year, partnership awareness is what this transit brings for you.
The different balance dynamics, needs of your partner, or needs of a relationship, in general, are highlighted for you this year as any unresolved karmic issues are looked at and healed. With Jupiter moving through your 5th house of romance, the universe is blessing you with the true gifts of partnership this year--and that’s the pure joy, pleasure, and light that it brings.
Sagittarius
Your passion is leading you forward in love this year, Sagittarius. You’ve never been afraid to stand on your own, and this is why so many are so enticed with you. In 2022 you are paving your own paths in love and defining what foundations and commitments support what you are trying to grow here. It’s about quality over quantity right now, and emotional stability and security are where your heart is this year. You are taking care of your inner world, creating art with your passions, and letting love fall into place. Venus enters Sagittarius from November 16 to December 9, and you are ending the year on a high note in love. As you stand tall in your being, you attract all to you, and 2022 is about self-love, intimacy, and being your fierce self, Sag.
Capricorn
Love brings with it a breath of fresh air for you this year, Capricorn. You love a good success moment and this year you are seeing those within your relationships and commitments. There is a pinnacle moment on your journey of love being reached this year, and you are finding yourself in the right place at the right time. With Venus Retrograde in your sign at the start of 2022, you had a special key given to you and this key was the acknowledgment of what’s been below the surface for you in love that needed to be addressed, as well as clarity on your relationship to self-love and how you keep this eternal flame burning.
You are communicating more of your need and wants in love this year, and seeing a nice reciprocation and flow within your relationships because of this. Focus on where you want to spend your time and energy this year, and rise Capricorn.
Aquarius
You have been on a journey of self since 2020 when Saturn first entered your sign. With 2022 being the last full year of Saturn transits through your beloved sign, this year is your epiphany year, and your year where you receive more of the blessings from the growth--and at times tough decisions--you’ve had to make when it comes to love. You’ve learned how to put yourself first more and make decisions that reflect the intentions of your heart, and this year you are seeing more of your intentions in love manifest for you.
You have self-clarity like no other this year and it’s leading you to the places you need to be in love. You are nurturing your world, your intentions, and your heart, and allowing space for those who support that and are on the same page in 2022, Aquarius.
Pisces
With your Jupiter transit, a once-every-decade transit of luck happening this year, you can be sure this extra juju is going to be flowing through your romantic world as well. Love this year is about moving beyond fear, beyond the unknown, and into your magic. There are opportunities on the other side of doubt, and you are releasing and moving forward this year, Pisces. With Saturn moving through your 12th house this year, you are continuing this cycle you have been in when it comes to emotional healing and spiritual reflection, and are finding ways to let more people in your bubble this year.
2022 is all about shining your heart light and allowing love to transcendent any beliefs, stigmas, or fears, and be just what it is, love. You are worthy of love, and you always have been Pisces, claim it this year.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
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Navigating Dating When Emotionally Unavailable & Detached: My Journey Back To Feeling
The last time I came with a dating story, I told you I got my little feelings hurt in 2021. I called myself trying to be out in these streets entertaining a man in a different area code, city, and state — only for homeboy to play in my damn face. So, I went and gave y’all "8 Rules To Casual Dating Every Woman Should Know This Summer." You’re welcome. Fast forward to 2024, and I am now coming to you from a more mature and intentional place. We’re not in summer yet, but I truly believe what blooms in spring, thrives in summer.
2023 was my year, and it was my turn. I had just completed an 8-month holistic detox. The glow-up was real and well-deserved. The way I have poured into myself is unmatched. Let me tell you, self-love is a love you have never known. After a five-year healing journey, I finally felt like myself again, and I was ready to play. My heart was open, my mind was clear, and my body hella transformed. I had told all my friends that I was ready to explore dating again, and at the height of summer, I did exactly just that.
This time I decided I wanted to take my time. I wanted to date the “right way” or the “healthy way.” You know, keep your options open, ask the right questions, believe actions and not words, observe patterns and pay attention to red, yellow, and green flags. I was never the dating app type of girl. I sincerely miss everything about human connection and dating from 2000 to 2012. Can we please bring all of that back into 2024? I prefer to feel a man’s energy and presence in real-time. Nonetheless, I still chose to dabble with a few dating apps. I was all the way outside and dating for practice.
Unfortunately, with today’s dating culture, social climate, and how some of these men move and/or behave, these dates were a dead end. Not one guy made it to my roster. What these men were was benched this season – not one of them could be my first-round select draft pick. It didn't seem like anyone I met was interested in a serious relationship. And it’s completely fine. Miss me with the ghosting, lack of effort, inconsistency, and poor communication. I continued to just do me because what is for me will not miss me.
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The universe must have heard me talking because I had specifically told my closest girlfriends that I wanted to meet someone who lived in the vicinity, no more than twenty minutes away, and no more long distance. And I did meet him (it’s crazy how I manifest exactly what I want). As we started to get to know each other, I liked his energy and effort. I liked the direction it seemed to be going to the point my girlfriends had to tell me not to run from him. Because every part of me wanted to run from something that seemed normal.
I liked what he was coming with until I became uncomfortable with my own feelings, and I didn’t know how to communicate them to him.
With that said, I knew if I truly wanted to experience the truest of loves, a reciprocal, requited love, and be in a healthy relationship this story had to come to a pause. What I didn’t know was that he was going to show me things I didn’t know I needed to work on. I didn’t know he inadvertently was going to help me continue to heal parts of me that were hidden.
As someone who has learned to self-heal, I am no longer the type that runs from herself. I am here for the growth.
The truth is I am emotionally detached from myself, and I am not actively dating at the moment. I am the one that has to work on herself. My reiki healer called it, too – she told me this year would not be a year for a relationship, but a year of continuous growth. And now I see why. After all the healing work I have done thus far – I am an unemotional mess. How?
At my big age of 39, I struggle to communicate my wants and needs.
I still struggle to communicate and process uncomfortable feelings. I would rather give myself anxiety, act nonchalantly, emotionally react, and choose non-communication when I am bothered with someone than address the issue (I will later explain why). I have been ignoring my feelings for so long it has become a habit, a defense mechanism, and more so a trauma response.
If you are someone like me who grew up in a household that didn’t discuss feelings, your emotional needs were unmet, and you don’t feel safe to share your feelings – emotional detachment is quite common.
Oftentimes, we always talk about men being emotionally unavailable, but what if it’s a woman who is emotionally unavailable or emotionally detached? How does she navigate herself, dating, or being in a relationship? As I navigate my emotions this season, let’s explore what it means to be emotionally detached, the signs of detachment, and how to reconnect with yourself emotionally.
Emotional Unavailability vs. Emotional Detachment
When we look at the terminology emotional unavailability and emotional detachment, one might argue that the two terms are interchangeable and have the same meaning. One could also argue that both terms mean that some people are not in tune with their emotions or lack the emotional capacity to be responsive to someone else’s emotions. Fair enough. However, there is a big difference. The definition of emotional unavailability is described as people who have difficulty with sharing their emotions and being receptive to the emotions of those around them.
According to Verywell Mind, signs of emotional unavailability can look like being distant or cold, lack of closeness, and emotional intimacy in relationships, inability to understand and relate to others’ feelings, defensiveness when asked to change or let others in, tendency to shut down or avoid topics that require emotional openness, or withdrawal from people or situations that provoke emotional reactions.
Whereas emotional detachment is defined as the inability to or willingness to connect with others on an emotional level. Furthermore, Psychology Today states emotional detachment can also mean that people do not engage with their feelings. Exhibit A – me. Emotional detachment has various causes – past neglect, childhood or adult trauma, PTSD, depression, personality disorder, bipolar disorder, substance abuse, or, in some cases, medication (i.e. antidepressants). It is important to note emotional detachment is a complex issue. For someone like me, it’s a coping mechanism.
It is easier for me to ignore uncomfortable feelings to protect myself from stress or getting hurt. Hence, my nonchalant demeanor. It is also true for some people it is a reaction to trauma, abuse, and unprocessed emotions. Exhibit B – me. As it is difficult for me to open up about my feelings at the moment. On the contrary – emotional detachment can be helpful in navigating some situations like listening to people’s opinions and gossip.
Unfortunately, emotional detachment is not a behavior that can be turned on and off at will. Please note that emotional detachment is NOT a mental health diagnosis but can be a symptom of a mental health condition such as an attachment disorder. And if you know anything about attachment theory, it is related to the relationship we develop in our childhood with our primary caregivers.
Signs You're Emotionally Detached
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According to Psychology Today and Verywell Mind, general signs of emotional detachment can look like difficulty showing empathy to others, sharing emotions, committing to a relationship, feeling numb, poor listening skills, lack of self-esteem, preferring to be alone, struggling to feel positive emotions, inability to identify emotions, lack of physical, verbal, or sexual contact and losing touch with people or maintaining connections.
In a romantic relationship, emotional detachment shows up as you or your partner not being available for connection, poor communication, or reduced affection.
For me, my experience with emotional detachment is collective. I am an empath to my core. I don’t have a problem relating to other’s feelings or circumstances. I don’t have commitment issues, nor do I have an issue connecting with others or maintaining those connections. I struggle with sharing emotions, at least the negative ones.
Due to the emotional abuse from my childhood and a toxic relationship, I learned sharing emotions just wasn't the safe thing to do. As a survivor of trauma, I learned to suppress feeling negative emotions in general as a form of protection.
How To Reconnect To Your Emotions When You're Emotionally Unavailable
Serious Kid Cudi GIF by Apple MusicGiphyExploring my emotional side in-depth started late last year simply by noticing my reaction to something that he did. I didn’t know how to properly communicate to him how I was feeling or what he did bothered me in the moment. So, I swallowed my feelings and said absolutely nothing. I intentionally chose to avoid the issue. I chose to rationalize the situation instead of acknowledging that my feelings at the time were valid. I chose to act like everything was all good because it was all good.
“It wasn’t that deep to begin with” is what I told myself. And this is where the problem lies.
The saying is true, “What happens in your childhood shows up in your adult relationships.” I came to realize that because I was not able to express my feelings as a child, I struggled to process them. I either hold back my feelings, take a long time to say how I feel, or don’t say anything at all. This is because I fear people will walk away from me like my mother did if I share what I truly feel. I fear my feelings won’t be validated, or they will be rejected.
With that said, I was completely unaware that I was emotionally detached from myself until recently. So, here we are with this article. It all started by reading Instagram’s @theholisticpsychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera’s newest book How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships, which was released on November 28, 2023. As I read through the first chapter, I became triggered.
How Dr. LePera describes her childhood with her parents and experiences with her romantic partners somewhat mirrored my experiences with my own parents and relationships. As Dr. LaPera stated in her book, I have no issue showing up for others or meeting their needs and wants. But when it comes to expressing my own needs and wants – I cannot or I don’t. This is mainly due to my hyper-independence.
At an early age, I learned to show up for myself because the people I trusted to show up for me failed. Given my home environment, I had internalized it is not safe to talk about feelings. I never knew my emotional responses and behavior were abnormal. But because I am willing to continue to do my inner work, I know that I can reconnect to my emotions, and undo four decades of repressed emotions.
If you are someone like me who struggles with emotional connection with yourself and others, here is how you go about it:
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1. Know Your Attachment Style
For me, the first step was to understand my attachment style. I asked my therapist if she could help me identify my attachment style to understand my triggers. She recommended The Attachment Theory Workbook by Annie Chen, LMFT. My therapist administered the associated online quiz – Attachment Quiz. If you haven’t figured out my attachment style yet by reading this article, I have an anxious attachment style.
This means I don’t do well with inconsistent behavior, especially from men (but I’m the type that holds men to standards too). People with an anxious attachment style have a need to feel close to their partner. It may come across as “clingy” or “needy.” However, this same need is often driven by fear of abandonment, mistrust, and low self-esteem. I would say knowing your attachment style is helpful because you can work towards having a secure attachment style (with practice) in your relationships – familial, business, work, platonic, or romantic.
2. Become Self-Aware
Most people who are not in the practice of self-care or self-healing are unaware of their triggers, patterns, and behaviors. We are so caught up in the daily minutiae of life that we forget to pay attention to the most important part of our days — ourselves. As Dr. LePera says, make it a conscious habit to pause throughout your day to check in with yourself. Ask yourself:
- How does my body feel?
- What am I doing right now?
- Am I present?
- Am I distracted and lost with other thoughts?
- What do I think or feel when I recall a specific experience with someone?
- What do I think or worry about?
- What would happen if I shared my authentic thoughts, perspective, feelings right now?”
This is what Dr. LePera refers to as exploring your embodied self or fulfilling your authentic needs in chapter two of her book. Consistent mindfulness and self-awareness are key to self-discovery and in any healing journey. Learning to focus on the present moment also includes paying attention to our emotional response to an event or how we think about emotions in general.
3. Practice Vulnerability
The idea of vulnerability is a tough one for me and so many other women for countless reasons. Whether it be toxic family, friendships, relationships, or trauma – trusting others with your thoughts and feelings is not easy. As much as I am open and transparent, I am not as vulnerable. And I believe there is so much power in the duality to be both. To trust someone, let alone a man with your authentic self is a delicate matter.
But it is emotional vulnerability that allows us humans to build authentic connections, create stronger relationships, and break down emotional walls. Emotional vulnerability is not something to be rushed – it takes time and practice from you and the people you choose to have in your life. Medical News Today suggests that we can learn to be vulnerable by opening up more to our closest friends, building our ability to become more trusting, and developing skills to regulate our emotions.
4. Seek Therapy
I have been in therapy for six years and counting. I would consider therapy one of my safe spaces. I am one of those individuals who recommend therapy to everyone as it has given me the tools and resources I need to navigate my life challenges. By choosing to get help, I was able to put my PTSD and depression in remission for four years now. I have also learned how to manage my anxiety.
I am fully aware that in this season of my life requires me to do the work to unlock new levels of self. And any time where I have consciously chosen growth – the universe or life has not failed me. I was able to heal my body, my heart, and my spirit. Now, it’s time to heal my inner child, this hurt little girl who lives in me.
I will say choosing a therapist is similar to dating; you might go through a few potentials until you find a therapist you connect with. Actually, one of my lifelong friends said to me the other day, “Your relationship with your therapist is one of the most important relationships in your life.” I needed her to say that, and I needed to hear it because it’s true. You are essentially trusting a licensed stranger to help you navigate your life on so many levels.
Be picky and ask the questions. Cut the cord at the first red flag given. Again, let me reiterate that emotional detachment is not a mental health diagnosis. It can be treated with the help of a therapist. Emotional detachment only becomes a problem when it starts to interfere with your daily life. Pay attention to changes in your daily behavior and make decisions to cope accordingly.
I am genuinely excited about reconnecting with my emotions. I want to feel all the feels – good, bad, and indifferent. I want to cry all the tears – especially the sad ones. I want to process and release negative emotions. I want to say how I feel in the moment with no fear.
If you are that girl who struggles with emotional connection or thinks you're emotionally detached, I hope that you become willing to face your inner child and show up for her. Don’t run – she has been waiting for you.
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