November is a game-changer. Eclipse Season is over, but that is not stopping the transformative energy that this month is bringing. Saturn goes direct in Pisces at the start of the month, and this is exciting news after the emotional uneasiness Saturn retrograde brought over the past few months. Saturn has been retrograde since June, and on November 4, it officially goes direct, allowing more of a clear vision when it comes to your intuition, your creativity, and your emotional world.
However, as with any change, time is needed to settle into the new energy. This month is here to bring in some more magic (maybe even a little chaos?) before the year ends.
What November 2023 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Venus enters Libra on Nov. 8, and Venus loves being in this air sign. With Scorpio Season in full effect this month and Venus now in Libra, there is a balance needed between the head and the heart right now. Venus in Libra prioritizes love, relationships, and connection, and the Sun in Scorpio will be reminding us to do so, but not at the expense of our own well-being and emotional needs.
Mercury enters Sagittarius on Nov. 10, bringing in some heat into the month. Mercury in Sagittarius is bold, and you can expect people to not be afraid to speak their minds right now.
Overall, this energy is about allowing your inner muse to create abundance in your world and to open your mind to what is possible for you.
The New Moon this month is occurring on Nov. 13 and will be in Scorpio, aligning with the Sun. This New Moon is an emotionally healing one and is creating new beginnings and a rebirth. Set your intentions for your inner power, your shared resources, and where you want to overcome in your life right now. Sagittarius Season officially begins on Nov. 22, and with the Sun in a fire sign, emotions are heightened, but in a new way. Sagittarius Season is all about seeing the bigger picture, expressing your authentic self, and focusing on the positives.
Mars enters Sagittarius on Nov. 24, and this is a good time of the year to travel for most or just find new avenues to explore in your life. Spontaneity is favored when the energy is in Sagittarius, and things are getting exciting right now. The Full Moon will be happening on Nov. 27 and this Full Moon is occurring in Gemini. Gemini is a wildcard, and you may be surprised with what’s being brought to your attention right now.
This Full Moon is a reminder that change is constant, and it’s best to work with the energy that is coming to fruition in your life and mold it to where you want it to be. Overall, November is all about overcoming and claiming your space.
Your November 2023 Monthly Horoscopes For Each Zodiac Sign
ARIES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is all about nurturing your world, Aries. Patience is needed now as you prepare for your dreams and intentions to come to fruition. At the beginning of the month, Saturn goes direct after being retrograde in your 12th house of closure since June of this year. Now that Saturn is direct, you feel free to heal finally, let go, and create space for the new to enter.
November is an excellent month to treat yourself, enjoy the riches in your world now, and believe that you deserve everything you are trying to create in your life. On Nov. 8, Venus enters your opposite sign, Libra, and moves into your 7th house of love. Your love life sees improvements with this energy, and with the New Moon on Nov. 13 highlighting the intimacy in your life, support is really coming in for you right now.
TAURUS
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The tables are turning for you in November, Taurus. This is a fulfilling and abundant month for you and a time when you are seeing positive culminations in your life. Your ruling planet, Venus, is in your 6th house of work, health, and daily routines for most of the month, and this energy is inspiring you to take care of yourself, your well-being, and the special people in your life.
The New Moon in Scorpio on the 13th aligns with your house of love and is creating a new beginning within your relationships this month. You are looking forward to where the romance is headed in your life right now, and there is growth taking place within your heart. At the end of the month, there is a Full Moon in your 2nd house of investments, and what you have been spending your time and energy on is coming full circle for you. This month, love is coming your way.
GEMINI
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleIn November, communication is clear, and your energy is direct, Gemini. You are focused on moving forward and letting go of anything that keeps you in a state of confusion or stagnancy. Venus is in a fellow air sign for most of the month, and as it’s moving through your 5th house of romance, you are able to feel more love in your life, and you are truly focused on following your happiness right now.
The Sun moves into your sister sign, Sagittarius, on the 22nd, even more fueling the love and romantic energy that is in your life right now. This is your time to shine within your relationships and to receive what you have been looking for here. On Nov. 27, before the month ends, there is a Full Moon in your sign, and you are seeing some personal goals come to completion and are closing chapters in your life that no longer resonate with who you are today.
CANCER
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is inspiring you to new heights, Cancer. You are taking off on the new ideas and passions you have been tapping into and are ready to communicate your vision with others. You are being guided to express yourself thoroughly but to also have patience with the delivery. With Venus in Libra and aligned with the area of your life having to do with the home and family for most of the month, spending time in your safe spaces and with close loved ones is truly therapeutic for you now.
On Nov. 13, there is a New Moon in your 5th house of romance, and love is coming in for you in new ways. You are opening the door to your personal happiness and creativity, and are being received especially favorably right now. By the end of the month, there is a Full Moon at the very bottom of your chart, and you need more quiet time alone to renew and emotionally regroup as the month ends.
LEO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis is a month of success for you, Leo. You are experiencing new developments taking place in your life and your professional world and are being seen for the light you are in this world. You have been putting in the work while also creating space for your dreams to grow, and with the Sun in Scorpio for most of the month, you are seeing a lot of these manifestations coming through within the home, your emotional well-being, and your sense of security in life.
This month, the key for you is to have balance with what you are doing. Venus is in your 3rd house of communication for most of the month, and you are experiencing a lot of breakthroughs here that will help you feel safer to take up space and ask for what you need. The Full Moon on the 27th is showing you just how worthy you are of abundance, and you are letting go of insecurities and embracing your success in life.
VIRGO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYour intentions are manifesting for you this month, Virgo. This month is allowing you to tap into your inner source of abundance, and in turn, you are creating more material abundance in your life as well. This is a creative, fruitful, and nurturing time for you, and with Saturn moving direct in your 7th house of love and partnerships at the start of the month, you get to enter November with a weight off your shoulders and your heart.
November is about creating beauty in your world and claiming the blessings that are entering- without the self-sabotage.
Venus is in your house of investments this month, and you are seeing a return on yours. The New Moon in Scorpio on the 13th is an excellent time for you to see things more clearly and come up with some new ideas and perspectives for the life you are trying to create right now. This month is all about releasing stress and having more compassion and support for your growth.
LIBRA
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleLibra Season is officially over, but you are just beginning the new journey of love that November is bringing you on, Libra. Venus enters your sign as the month begins on Nov. 8, and you are ready for a new beginning. Relationships feel more personal and sensitive for you right now, but you are also recognizing where in your life you could be showing yourself some more love and attention.
The New Moon on the 13th is a good time to set your intentions for your finances and the plans you want to set in motion here. New beginnings and financial opportunities are here for you, make sure you don’t overcomplicate things with fear or self-doubt. The Full Moon on Nov. 17 is an eye-opening time for you, and you are gaining a bigger picture that you may have missed before. By the end of the month, you are starting from square one in the best way possible.
SCORPIO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is about having patience and trusting the process, Scorpio. This is your season, and it’s your time to allow the light to shine on you. Your personal goals and motivations are being highlighted right now, and you are moving through a space of self-development. Divine timing is everything this month, and what you are hoping to bring to fruition right now is taking some time for better conditions.
With Venus in your 12th house of closure, spirituality, and healing for most of the month, your heart is giving you some new wisdom. You are really feeling things through this month and need some time to grasp where things are and where they could be. On Nov. 13, there is a New Moon in your sign, and this New Moon is all about setting intentions for your future and your dream life, and aligning with your higher self. November is helping you see yourself clearer and reinvest and align with what you want.
SAGITTARIUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is all about connection, Sagittarius. Love is filling your world, and there is a sense of feeling more whole right now. The month begins with the Sun moving through the very bottom of your chart, allowing you more time to rest, contemplate, and spend more time with your heart. On Nov. 8, Venus moves into your 11th house of friendship, hopes, and dreams, and you are going to feel more social and make some new connections in your life. Mercury moves into your sign this month on the 10th, and the vision is clearer.
You are communicating freely and from the heart, and the smoke is moving away from your life. Where you once felt pressure and challenge in your world, you are now feeling resolution and balance.
Sagittarius Season begins on Nov. 22, and it’s all about living in your light right now. With Mars also entering your sign a few days later, the empowerment is really there for you this month, and its love is seeping into many different areas of your life.
CAPRICORN
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is a month of freedom, collaboration, and self-confidence, Capricorn. You are working together with others in harmony and are making your dreams come true through the efforts of yourself and those around you. With your ruling planet Saturn in retrograde over the past five months, it’s been difficult to find the inspiration or words for how you are feeling. Saturn officially goes direct at the start of November, and you finally have more room to express yourself and define your interests- and feel more safe doing so.
Venus is in your 10th house of career and reputation for most of the month as well, and you are thinking about how you want to show up in the world and what skills and talents you want to move forward with and experience success in. The Full Moon at the end of the month is another working area of your chart, and you are really getting things done in November. By the end of the month, you are seeing more rewards and recognition for the work you have been doing.
AQUARIUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYour guidance for the month, Aquarius, is to rest more, tend to your needs more, and give yourself time to think things through. The past cannot be undone, and how you treat yourself in the present moment is more important right now. One of your ruling planets, Saturn, officially goes direct this month, and for you, this means your financial world, self-confidence, and personal values experience a boost of direction and positivity, and you are overcoming the confusion you have been in.
Venus is in fellow Air Sign Libra for most of the month and is in your 9th house of adventure. You could be traveling this month or also just spending more time exploring your inner world.
Know that one door opening can lead to many other opportunities for yourself, and trust your instincts right now. The Full Moon at the end of the month on the 27th is signaling to you what energy to prioritize more in your life and where you can let go for the sake of your happiness.
PISCES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are seeing abundance in a new way this month, Pisces. The new beginnings you are moving through in your career life right now are planting the seeds for your future financially, and you are getting a glimpse of how good it can get for you. Saturn goes direct in your sign at the start of the month, and you are moving into the energy of fewer obstacles towards your goals and more success with what you set your intentions on and dedicate yourself to.
The New Moon on Nov. 13 is allowing you to turn a new page when it comes to your perspective and mindset and helping you see your gifts in life clearer. This is a good New Moon to set your intentions for your future, your bucket lists, and what you want to learn more about and discover in life. At the end of the month, there is a Full Moon in Gemini, and this Full Moon is giving you closure, emotional healing, and making space for secure foundations to grow.
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It’s not like it has to be a bad thing. In fact, studies say that somewhere around 15 percent of engaged couples actually met through a friend. All I’m saying is, before you entertain someone’s “I’ve got someone I want you to meet” invitation, it would benefit you to interview them first — for the sake of all parties involved.
The questions that I recommend asking? The following six are what I think can get everyone on the same page, so that there is more pleasure than regret from the hook-up attempt.
1. Why Are They So Invested?
GiphyTwo things that I recently watched over again are the series Survivor’s Remorse (the writing is so damn good) and a movie called Trapped in Temptation (both are currently on Tubi). Something that both of them made me think about is the fact that motive reveals a lot when it comes to why people say and do the things that they do.
When it comes to the movie, specifically, without giving the film away — let me just say that, if you are in a relationship, be really careful about listening to individuals who try to talk you out of maintaining it. More times than not, the motive is shady as hell. And honestly, sometimes people who are close to obsessed with you being in one deserve a bit of side-eye too.
Now, if it’s someone who loves all things love, they are in love and they want you to experience something similar — that’s sweet. Just make sure that they are approaching the set up from a healthy space. What I mean by that is they don’t see singleness as some sort of relational handicap or they aren’t trying to override what you want for your life as if they somehow know better (there are so many ways to be a control freak, y’all).
Hmph. Now that I think about it — make sure that the set-up crew isn’t trying to use you to “save” some male friend or relative of theirs. I say that because I once knew a mother whose son had — count ‘em — 10 kids and she was FOREVER trying to get me to date him. Girl, that wasn’t for me. She was looking for a Holy Ghost Jr. for that child of hers. I’ll pass. HARD PASS.
Bottom line with this one — if someone wants to set you up with someone else, the first thing to ask is why? Make sure to really listen to what their answer is. Then pay attention to if your mind, body and spirit are at peace with their answer(s).
2. Do They Know What You Want?
GiphyI don’t know about y’all, but the people (and let’s be honest, by far, it’s usually women) who have tried to set me up with someone? They didn’t even know what my preferences or type was. Hell, they didn’t even know my thoughts or timeline as it relates to being in a serious relationship were either. And what that boils down to is they were trying to hook me up based on their agenda, not mine — and that usually meant that the guys who they came up with? Yeah…I was good on them. LOL.
Yeah, if someone wants to hook you up, you definitely should ask them if they know what you are looking for in a guy when it comes to his looks, personality, passions, spirituality, relational desires and goals, location, etc. Because, indeed, what is the point in going out with someone who is fine as hell and yet, you want kids and he doesn’t (or vice versa) or who has a great personality yet he isn’t even in the same ballpark of your spiritual beliefs?
If your friend really wants to help you out, valuing your time should come with that — and that means bringing someone into your life who complements your lifestyle. No wiggle room here.
3. Are They Aware of Your Deal-Breakers?
GiphyLast year, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “Should Bad Sex Actually Be A Relationship Deal-Breaker?” The thing that I think needs to go on record about deal-breakers is they aren’t exactly standards that you have. No, a deal-breaker is something that can’t be worked out even after trying to negotiate or compromise. When it comes to relationships, a deal-breaker might be how long two people should date before becoming exclusive or getting engaged. Another deal-breaker might be if being religious is more important than being spiritual and how that manifests itself (church or no church, etc.). And yes, another deal-breaker may be what each other’s sexual needs and expectations are.
When someone is setting you up, it is imperative that they know about your standards. For instance, for me, I am not interested in dating a divorced person, pretty much ever (I Corinthians 7:10-11). I’ve had friends who have tried to hook me up with that demographic before and it has always been a moot effort. The fact that some of them have gotten frustrated with my convictions has absolutely nothing to do with me. Some have tried to get me to compromise my deal-breakers too — like a long-distance relationship. Is it a firm “naw”? No. However, it’s not really something that I am interested in, so why not just…recommend someone local?
Yeah, if someone thinks that they know you well enough to hook you up, they absolutely should be well-versed in what your deal-breakers are before they do. And if they’ve never asked, all they are doing is assuming — and we know what that typically means. LOL.
4. What Is Their Track Record?
GiphyIt’s kind of wild that we now live in a time when more couples meet online than they do through “old-fashioned ways” like via their friends (although some reports say that Gen Z is getting back to that) — and yet, here we are. Still, if you are willing to let someone play pseudo matchmaker in your life, you are well within your rights to inquire about their track record in that department. Have they hooked others up, successfully, before? Has any of their “Cupid work” caused both people to get exactly what they wanted out of the situation? If/when things went awry, why was that?
I know someone who is constantly trying to hook people up. Thing is, maybe 10-15 percent (no joke) of their efforts have proven to be positive and fruitful — and we’re talking about close to close to two decades of them doing it. Listen, time is too precious to be out here doing stuff ONLY to please other people. That said, if someone wants you to devote some time to one of their grand ideas, you are well within your rights to ask about their past and current success score when it comes to it.
5. Can They Keep Their Own Feelings Out of It?
GiphyWanna know if someone who is offering to do something for you is actually doing it more for themselves? If they try to make it be about them when things don’t go the way they would like, that is a dead ringer. An example? They post a message about you on social media and then question you about why you didn’t do the same thing in return. Another example? They do something for you and then throw it in your face during an argument. Still another example? They set you up with someone, it doesn’t work out, and suddenly you’ve put them in a weird spot. No dear — you put your own self in that position by trying to hook two people up in the first place.
I promise you, it will spare everyone unnecessary energy spent (or even drama experienced) if, before you agree to be hooked up, you get the matchmaker on record stating that they will keep their emotions out of it as much as possible. MEANING — they will do the introductions and then let the chips fall where they may. If they can’t do this, my two cents (save it or spend it) would be to decline the offer. Because all you need is someone texting you about why you haven’t called their cousin back or having an attitude with you when you break up with some guy at their church who they thought was the perfect catch (P.S. These aren’t hypothetical examples — LOL).
6. Will They Respect Your Boundaries? Start to Finish?
GiphyYeah, this final one is a biggie. Just because someone sets you up with another person, that doesn’t automatically or necessarily mean that they should have the right to the details of the dynamic. I don’t care if it’s the first date or the 10th date. I don’t care if you decide to just be sex buddies or to have a full-blown relationship. I don’t care if you stay together or break-up — it’s your relationship which makes it your business. Whatever you share is privileged data.
Yeah, I would say that probably the most challenging thing about being hooked up by someone you know is they have a tendency to think that they are a part of the relationship too — and that is a lie. If things go well beyond a couple of dates, you and the guy should discuss what you will both share with the person who introduced you and then agree to stick to that boundary, no matter what. It’s a great way to protect the dynamic, to keep “outside voices” from influencing the growth and to navigate how you want to move, moving forward.
Someone who hooked you up for the right reasons and knows how to honor limits? They will understand. Will they ask questions? Absolutely. Will they pry? Nah.
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Should you sit and let someone hook you up? I mean, you never know how your blessing will come. Just make sure that they are prepared for you to do some digging into their mindset before they start sweetly meddling into your love life.
It’s only fair. Hell, and right. LOL.
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