The Best Crystals For Attracting Love & Romance
As a firm believer in energy, crystals are something I naturally gravitate towards. There is a crystal for everything: crystals for luck, crystals for money, crystals for stress relief, crystals for healing. For this reason, these naturally-occurring wonders of the world make excellent tools for manifestation and intention-setting in your life. What you manifest in life is based on your vibration, so crystals act as a perfect caveat to raising your vibration and therefore attracting what you want most, including love.
You can wear your crystal around your neck, carry them in your bra, place them near you or underneath your pillow while you sleep, or hold them while you meditate – there are a plethora of ways to incorporate crystals into your day-to-day life and benefit from the energy they naturally emit. It's also worth noting that regularly cleansing your crystals, or clearing them, is necessary to amplify their properties.
Some ways you can go about cleansing your crystals include planting them back into the earth in your garden or a potted plant, fully submerging them in a body of water (ocean, lake, river), practicing visualization, and using palo santo or sage to smudge your crystal. If possible, make sure you do this after each use of them in order to restore the crystal's energy.
If you are looking to manifest more love in your life, below are the best crystals for attracting the love and romance that you seek.
Rose quartz.
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For attracting love through self-love: Rose quartz.
Rose quartz is a very popular crystal and is probably the one from our list that you are most familiar with. Rose quartz is a crystal of unconditional love used to balance and open the heart chakra. The deep sense of healing it brings helps in cultivating self-love, romantic love, and connection. Because it opens up your heart, rose quartz not only helps with attracting love, but it also deepens your relationships, including the one with self.
For attracting love through protection: Amethyst.
Amethyst is another well-known crystal that can attract and promote love into one's life, as well as provide protection to the overall emotional stability in a relationship between two people. Because of this, amethyst is also regarded as a protection stone for love. Although it has other properties and uses, amethyst is considered to be its most powerful when involved in matters of love and relationships.
For attracting love through healing: Rhodonite.
Speaking of healing, rhodonite is a great gem to use in order to attract love because of its heart-based energy. If you are experiencing relationship or emotional issues, the rhodonite crystal helps facilitate forgiveness, acceptance, and loving compassion that is needed in order to radiate and operate from a space of unconditional love. For this reason, rhodonite is a helpful tool for balancing heart and root chakras.
Moonstone.
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For attracting love through authenticity: Moonstone.
The moonstone is all about goddess energy and feminine energy. Symbolic of love, the moonstone is also known to evoke balance, harmony, and the ability to connect with our truest and most authentic selves. Even though tides change and emotions change, the new beginnings the moonstone represents also provide inner peace amid the sometimes chaotic nature of life.
For attracting love through connection: Pink kunzite.
Also called 'the Woman's Stone,' pink kunzite radiates peace and calms emotional turmoil. Because it is also deeply connected to the heart, pink kunzite is a healing stone that offers many emotional benefits. It amplifies softness, sensuality, self-care, and self-compassion. It also assists with our ability to connect more deeply to others by decreasing feelings of worry and fear. Of note, pink crystals are said to be associated with new love, femininity, and romance.
For attracting love through compassion: Malachite.
Malachite is a balancing stone that can be used to balance the heart and throat chakra. Its properties amplify feelings of security, stability, and safety. Because of its balancing properties, malachite can help with accepting all types of love and loving unconditionally.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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