Explore your sign’s 2024 horoscope predictions to learn what is in store for you this year in love, career, and more. Check out the love compatibility of each sign to learn more about zodiac pairings and all things compatibility.
June is a month of owning your power and aligning with your strength and perseverance. There isn’t much going on in the sky in June. However, what is happening is significant. Mercury moves into Gemini at the start of the month on June 3 and will be in this sign until June 17. Mercury loves being in Gemini and communication channels get a boost of positive growth in this energy. Mercury in Gemini is the grand communicator and important insights and messages are getting across this month.
With Gemini season also fueling most of June, the best thing to do right now is to expect the unexpected.
The New Moon of the month will be in Gemini on June 6, and this New Moon is important when it comes to gaining some renewed inspiration for a new beginning. This is the New Moon to set intentions for your self-expression, communication, the people you want to connect with, and the places you want to go. This is a good time of the month to network, put yourself out there, and experience a meeting of the minds. A few days later, Mars enters Taurus on June 9, and Mars in Taurus brings the focus to luxury, self-care, love, and stability.
Mars, being in this lush earth sign until July 20, will be an exciting time for financial growth, and this is good for creating new plans financially, paying off debts, bringing more comfort into the home, or increasing your income in some way.
What June 2024 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Venus, the planet of love, is in Gemini until June 17 and will be keeping things spicy and a little up in the air until she moves into Cancer. With Venus in Cancer from June 17 until July 11 and Mercury in Cancer from June 17 until July 2 as well, this is a good time for experiencing healing and nurturing energy in your love life, and this is also the time to focus on the needs of your relationships.
Venus in Cancer is a giver, and people are more willing to love and be there for their loved ones in this energy. Mercury in Cancer speaks from the heart, and you can expect important communication happening regarding love matters this month. However, be careful with overextending yourself emotionally during this time as well, and remember balance is key no matter what you are doing or saying.
Cancer Season officially begins on June 20, and this heart-centered switch of energy is exactly what we need right now. The following day, there is a Full Moon in Capricorn and this Full Moon is bringing things full circle when it comes to your finances, achievements, and goals in life.
This is a good time to allow yourself a little break and congratulate yourself on how far you have come. Before the month ends, the most important transit of the month occurs, and that is Saturn going retrograde in Pisces from June 29 until November 15. With Saturn in retrograde motion for the next five months, there will be a lot of shifts happening when it comes to people’s belief systems, spirituality, emotional clarity, and creativity.
Saturn retrograde helps you retrace your steps and gives you the push you need to see what you are building for yourself in a new light. In Pisces, a lot of this energy and change will be happening behind the scenes and within our emotional world. Overall, this is a good month for progress and a new beginning, but you may need some extra support right now to make that happen.
Read on for your sun sign and rising sign below to see what June 2024 has in store for you:
ARIES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleDreams are coming true for you in June, Aries. This is an important month for financial freedom, clarity, and reaching some new goals. You have been creating plans for yourself and putting things into motion, and you are going to start seeing some significant manifestations in your life unfold this month.
The New Moon at the beginning of the month on June 6 will be a good time for you to express yourself and your mind and to allow your voice to be heard. Set intentions for the way you want to communicate and be received right now.
Moving further into June, Mars enters your 2nd house of income on June 9 until the end of July, and you are feeling motivated financially. This is a good time to ask for a raise and go after that promotion, to create greater stability for yourself and your financial world. Saturn will be going retrograde at the end of the month, and this change of energy will be creating a shift for you emotionally. You are moving through some closures this summer, and you are being guided to let go of what is no longer needed or healthy for you anymore.
TAURUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is all about making your voice heard, Taurus. Mars enters your sign on the 9th, where it will be until the end of July, and you have a lot of passion and energy at your disposal right now. You are going to want to move forward, take initiative, and create breakthroughs in your life, and you are letting nothing get in the way of that this month. The more you allow yourself to communicate and share your perspectives and ideas, the more confident you are going to feel about the new beginnings you are creating in your life right now.
Venus, your ruling planet, moves into your 3rd house of communication on the 17th, and this is going to be helping you align your heart with your head and make some important decisions in your life. On June 21, there is a Full Moon in fellow earth sign Capricorn, and this Full Moon is highlighting your sense of adventure in life. Plans and intentions are coming to fruition for you now, and you are getting the opportunity to see the future a little clearer. By the end of June, you are looking to get inspired, get some space, and follow your passions.
GEMINI
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYour season is here, and it’s your time to shine Gemini! This is a month of freedom, empowerment, and also a month of getting some more rest and taking care of yourself. You have a lot going on in June and you’ll want to remind yourself that you can’t be at your best if you are not allowing yourself the sleep and rest it takes to get there. Mercury moves into Gemini on June 3, however, and with your ruling planet in your sign for most of the month, you are feeling pretty clear-headed about what you want and what you need right now.
On June 6, there is a New Moon in your sign, and this is a fortunate time to manifest and create a new beginning in your life. This is a New Moon to take a look in the mirror and remind yourself you are that girl and that you deserve everything you are seeking in your life right now. With Venus entering your 2nd house of income, gifts, and values on June 17, love and money come together for you right now in a new way that allows you to support and nurture both. Before June ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 10th house of career, and you are going to be moving through some changes professionally during this time.
CANCER
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is about opening your heart and allowing yourself to be the person you are, Cancer. This month is a time of shining in your truth, getting back to you, and feeling the love and support in your life. The New Moon happening at the beginning of the month will allow you to let go of what has been making your heart heavy, and you will get the closure you need to move forward again.
This is a big month for making new developments in your life and love, but you need some time to close some doors before then as well. On June 17, Venus and Mercury both enter your sign, and this is when things are going to start picking up for you this year.
You are not only feeling a little more heard and understood right now, but you are also feeling more of the love and like your relationships are supporting the growth you are moving through. On June 20, Cancer season officially begins, and you get to be your emotional, supportive, moody, and creative self without feeling as much judgment from others for doing so. Overall, this is a month of receiving the love you have been giving and feeling more of a connection and nurturing in your life.
LEO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are not messing around or playing any games in June, Leo. You are highly focused and in tune with your desires this month, and you are focused on what you need to do to create a better long-term future for yourself. You are cutting out what is not serving you or your life and making plans for what you feel will. The New Moon happening on June 6 is going to be one of the most important New Moons of the year for you to manifest, and it’s time to write a list of your visions and what inspirations and dreams you want to come true for you.
Mars moves into your 11th house on June 9, the same area of your birth chart the New Moon was, and you are moving into a few months of receiving new opportunities and miracles. The 11th house is all about your hopes, dreams, manifestations, and friendships, and that is where a lot of your energy will be going while Mars is here until the end of July. Before the month ends, however, the Sun moves into Cancer and into your 12th house of healing and endings, and you are going to be taking the time you need to regroup, rest, and renew as June ends.
VIRGO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is about growing in stability and finding your balance in life, Virgo. You are an overthinker at the core of you and are learning to let go of this energy in June and allow yourself to think more positively about what is possible for you in this life. With the Sun in your 10th house of career for most of the month and a New Moon here on June 6, you are focused on your goals and achievements right now, but you may be being too hard on yourself on how things are developing. Take moments to appreciate the little things and set your intentions for what else you want to see through within your professional world.
On June 7, Venus moves into Cancer and enters your house of friendship, and some new support and comfort are coming into your life during this time. While Venus is in your 11th house, you may meet some new people, feel more community in your life, and overall feel a little more stable and secure right now. However, with Mars entering your 9th house of adventure a few days later, there is a bit of a push and pull you are moving through this month when it comes to feeling stable and wanting more freedom. Balance is key for you overall this month, and remember you are creating your life by the thoughts you are thinking.
LIBRA
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are moving into a successful month, Libra. You have the power, vision, and stamina with you to see your goals through in June, and you are doing so with the support of others. The month begins with a New Moon happening in your 9th house, and this is a good month for you to travel or to create your intentions and plans for where you want to go this year.
You are beginning the month feeling inspired and like the wisdom you have gained so far in life is serving you well right now. On June 17, your ruling planet Venus, moves into Cancer and enters your 10th house of career, reputation, and professional life.
With Venus here you are receiving some extra love at work and when it comes to what you are putting out into the world. Financially, you are also growing in your wealth and are overall focused on building your legacy right now. Before June comes to a close, there is a Full Moon occurring in an area of your chart having to do with the home and family, and you are ending the month needing some time with the people who keep you feeling grounded.
SCORPIO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is all about perspective for you, Scorpio. You are gaining some much-needed clarity this month, but the insights can feel like a whiplash at times. You are being guided towards seeing things with an open mind, and not letting yourself get too mixed up in how you think things should be that you miss the gift and opportunities of where they are now. The New Moon in Gemini on June 6 will be opening a door for you for rebirth, and this is a New Moon to focus on your health, shared finances, and emotional world, and to allow yourself a fresh start.
Mars moves into Taurus, your opposite sign, on June 9, and this is good news for your love life. Mars in Taurus will be bringing passion to your one-on-one relationships, and things are getting sexy for you right now. You are focused on building with the people you love and are creating space for more emotional connection and passion to enter your life. Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 5th house of romance, however, and you are still learning the lessons of balancing your heart with your head.
SAGITTARIUS
SAGITTARIUSKyra Jay for xoNecoleEverything's coming together for you this month, Sagittarius. You are feeling renewed in your life and like you are more on top of things over the next month, and this energy is like a breath of fresh air for you. With the Sun being in your 7th house of love and partnership for most of the month, and with a New Moon here on June 6, there is a lot to be grateful for right now and a lot of love to hold onto. You are moving into June feeling a sense of security that you are going to be able to build upon.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening in your house of income, values, and self-confidence, and you are seeing the fruition of your desires right now. This Full Moon is about allowing yourself to take note of the gains you have made this year and what you want to do with the financial stature you find yourself in now. By the end of the month, Saturn goes retrograde in your 4th house of home and family, and some changes may need to be made in the home over the next month. Overall, June is about supporting yourself, supporting others, and allowing yourself and your life to thrive.
CAPRICORN
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is a month of putting in the work, Capricorn. You are focused on your dreams and goals right now and are working diligently to reach them. The month begins with Mars moving into your 5th house on June 9, and this is fueling your passion for your creativity, your self-expression, and the things that make you happy. You are focused on having fun right now, but you are also concerned with taking the appropriate steps and finishing the projects you have to do before then. Remember to give yourself some breaks this month.
On June 17, Venus moves into Cancer, your opposite sign, and love takes on a new tone. Venus in Cancer is good news for you as a Capricorn, and it signifies a time of the year when you are feeling more support, connection, and reciprocity in your love life.
Before the month ends there is a Full Moon in your sign on June 21, and this is the Strawberry Moon of the year. This Full Moon is a big full circle moment when it comes to the way you see yourself and your life, and you are acknowledging your growth and are focused on your life path right now. Overall, this is a month of effort, intention, and love for you, Capricorn.
AQUARIUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are taking initiative and focused on your abundance this month, Aquarius. This is a month of feeling inspired, capable, and like you have reached some important goals in life. You are feeling comfortable with the position you are sitting in, and growth is all around you. On June 6, there is a New Moon in a fellow air sign, Gemini, and this New Moon is opening your eyes to the love that is possible for you in life. This is a good New Moon to set your intentions for your happiness, the romance in your life, and how you want to express your heart and feel understood.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening that is creating some closures in your life, and you are ready to create space for greater abundance to enter. During this Full Moon, make sure you are taking care of your body, your mind, and your heart, and remaining open to receiving some guidance from the universe. Before June comes to a close, Saturn goes retrograde in Pisces and will be retrograde in your 2nd house of income until November. What this is going to do for you is help you rebuild financially, and it will be putting you in different experiences and around different people to do so.
PISCES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleMake a wish, and believe in yourself, Pisces! June is a beautiful month for you and you are feeling emotionally satisfied. There is a lot of love and support coming your way this month, and you are also giving out this abundant sense of energy as well. June begins with a New Moon in your 4th house, and this is a good time to set your intentions for your stability, your home, and your relationships with your close loved ones. You are entering the month feeling a little more stable and sure of yourself, and this is attracting miracles into your life.
On June 9, Mars moves into your house of communication, and you have a lot to say right now. Be careful with impulsive speaking and remember to think things through; however, overall this energy will be good for you and making new connections. On June 17, Venus and Mercury will enter fellow water sign Cancer and will move into your 5th house of romance. You are hearing some good news when it comes to your love life by the end of the month, and it’s changing things for the better for you moving forward.
Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your sign until November 15, and it’s best not to rush yourself or your progress during this time.
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A big part of the clarity that is coming through this month is due to Neptune going direct in Pisces on December 10, after being retrograde here since July. With Neptune now direct, we are able to see our inspiration and creativity a little more clearly, providing the perfect energy for dreams and manifestation to be built upon. The smoke is clearing, and it’s up to you to decide what you want to do with this newfound clarity that this transit is bringing. Mercury also moves back into Sagittarius on December 11, which is great for communication and clarity, and the adventures you were trying to see through at the beginning of November come around for you again with greater purpose and support.
On December 15, Mars enters Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and this is the extra push we need to make important changes and to be on the path towards greater abundance, stability, and prosperity. Mars in Capricorn takes care of business, and we have extra energy at our disposal during this time to do so. This transit is an ideal time to focus on your career or financial goals for next year and to start putting some of these plans into motion now. A few days later, we have the New Moon of the month, which will be in Sagittarius on December 19, and this is the perfect New Moon to manifest.
The energy is high, magic is in the air, and it’s all about moving forward with the new beginnings that are inspiring you and bringing you joy to think about right now.
Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21, and this earth sign energy is how we heal, gain closure, and build new foundations in our world. With Venus also moving into a Capricorn a few days later, there is something about peace, prosperity, and security that we are gaining in life and in love as we close out the year, and this is what we need right now. This month is about reflecting on what was, letting go of old hurt, and renewing. December is an ending and a new beginning in one, and there is magic in this space to be created.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what December 2025 has in store for you.
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleARIES
December is a full-circle moment for you, Aries. You are seeing the gifts in your world and have a lot of gratitude for the way things have come about for you as of late. There are culminations in your world that are providing you with more abundance, stability, and community, and you are exactly where you are meant to be this month. With the Sun in a fellow fire sign and in your 9th house of travel for most of the month, December is a good time to get out of your comfort zone, explore the world around you, and get your body moving.
Mars, your ruling planet, also makes a change and moves into Capricorn on December 15, which will fuel your inspiration and power in your career space. You are making a lot of professional progress as we close out the year; however, make sure to be more mindful of your competitive drive right now. The New Moon on December 19 is the perfect opportunity for you to create some new plans and goals when it comes to traveling, education, and where you want to gain some new inspiration in your world. Overall, this is a month of things coming together for you serendipitously.
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleTAURUS
December is about trusting your intuition, Taurus. You have a lot on your mind this month, and it’s best to delegate, communicate, and allow yourself some relief by opening up to someone and not feeling like you have to hold everything in. As we begin the month, we have a Supermoon in Gemini happening in your house of income, and the plans and projects you have been building here come to fruition for you now. This is the time to gain clarity on your financial world and to take a look at what spending habits you want to let go of here as well.
With Venus in your 8th house of shared resources for most of the month, you are doing a cleanse on your commitments, partnerships, and business ventures. You are taking a look at what you want to dedicate yourself to in the future, and what commitments you may need to let go of now in order to be in the space you truly want to be, both financially and within some of your relationship dynamics. Before we end the month, we have a New Moon in this same area of your chart, and it’s time to look at the opportunities that are presenting themselves and to trust your internal guidance system to lead you forward.
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleGEMINI
You are moving forward fearlessly this month, Gemini. December is your month of love, passion, and dignity, and you are owning the light that you shine. We begin the month with the last Supermoon of the year, happening in your sign, and you are stepping up to the plate. You are showing up, owning how much you have grown this year, and allowing yourself to heal while also acknowledging that you have done your best and you deserve to have fun in the midst of the changes you are creating.
Mercury, your ruling planet, is officially out of retrograde, and you can use this energy to the fullest potential now. With Mercury in your 7th house of love, it’s time to speak from the heart and to talk about the things that matter and that are inspiring you right now to your loved ones. You never know what kind of epiphanies you may have when you open up the conversation to others. Before the month ends, you have a New Moon in this same love area of your chart, and this New Moon is all about manifesting romance, commitment, and abundance in your world.
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleCANCER
December is an opening for more love, more joy, and more freedom in your life, Cancer. You have come to a place where you hold so much gratitude in your heart for where you are today and where your heart is shining, and things come together for you with more ease right now. With the Sun in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines for most of the month, you are getting your ducks in a row while also putting more energy and effort into taking care of yourself, your priorities, and your well-being. This month surprises you in many ways, and it’s because you are showing up.
Mars and Venus both move into your house of love, relationships, marriage, and abundance this month, and you are making strides in your love life. You have both of these opposing forces on your side and are being recognized for the love you are while also receiving the love you want. This month, overall, is about focusing more on the positives in your world and letting your heart have its joy. Before December comes to an end, there is a New Moon in Sagittarius, and this is the perfect opportunity to create the plans you want to see through next year, especially when it comes to your work life, colleagues, business ventures, and health.
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleLEO
The scales of karma are balancing, and they are balancing in your favor this month, Leo. December is your month of truth, and of seeing it clearly in your world. The Sun is in your house of romance, pleasure, and happiness for most of the month, and it’s time to relax, be in the present moment, and allow what is meant to be, to be. With a Supermoon in your 11th house of manifestation as December begins, this is a powerful month for seeing your dreams come to fruition, and for feeling like the intentions you have set this year are finally here for you now.
Mars also moves into your 6th house mid-month, and this is the perfect energy to have to move into the new year. You have extra energy at your disposal right now and are feeling fearless with what is possible for you and your daily routine. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in a fellow fire sign, Sagittarius, and this is a breakthrough moment for you and your heart. December, overall, wants to show you how loved and supported you are and will be doing so in magical, unexpected, and concrete ways.
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleVIRGO
December is a month of victory, Virgo. You are showing up and experiencing some new successes in your world that move you forward on your path in life. With a Supermoon in your 10th house of career as we begin the month, the effort and intentions you have made this year come into full bloom, and you are being recognized for who you are and the good work you have done. This month is all about showing up and allowing yourself to be seen and loved, knowing that you deserve the support and opportunities you are receiving.
Mars moves into Capricorn on December 15, which brings the passion and excitement into your love life, hobbies, and little pleasures in life that light you up. You want to have fun this month and are going to be walking into the new year with this fearless, happy, and spontaneous energy within you. Before the month ends, Venus also enters Capricorn, and in this same area of your chart, you have a lot to look forward to and believe in right now. Overall, December wants you to be happy and will be doing everything possible to make that happen for you. This is your month to shine, Virgo.
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLIBRA
December is a month of opportunity for you, Libra. New doors open, and you are financially making breakthroughs this month because of it. December begins with a Supermoon in your 9th house, and you are getting a clearer view of where you have been making strides in your life and how it has all brought you here to this present moment of freedom. This month is showing you what happens when you are fearless with your purpose and when you believe in yourself and what you are worthy of.
Moving further into December, Mars moves into your 4th house of home and family mid-month, and you are closing out the year in your safe spaces. You are spending more time with your loved ones and taking the time to quiet your mind and listen to what your heart has been telling you. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, happening in an area of your life that deals with communication. This is a great time for getting the answers you have been looking for and for feeling more clear-headed and confident about the decisions you are making as you move into the new year.
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleSCORPIO
Patience is a virtue this month, Scorpio. December is all about remaining patient and vigilant with what you are creating in your world, and knowing that the universe has your back. It’s time to be reminded of the power of hope, and this month is an opening to greater clarity in your life. There is a lot of energy in your financial zones right now, and this is providing you with new opportunities and new insight; however, the speed at which things come about for you may feel daunting. Keep your head up and eyes focused on what you want and know that you are more than worthy of receiving it.
With Mercury in your 2nd house of income this month, December is a good time to plant new seeds and to think about where you want to be financially a month from now or even a year. This month is asking you to think bigger and to think more long-term so that you can set the appropriate plans into motion now. We also have a New Moon in your house of income before the month ends, and this is when you will see more of your dreams come to fruition in this area of your life, and have more opportunities to build. Overall, December will be teaching you a lot, Scorpio.
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleSAGITTARIUS
Sagittarius Season is here, and there is a lot in store for you this month, Sag. December is all about what you are dedicating yourself to. It’s about setting your intentions and putting the work in to back up your dreams, and about getting things in order so that when the new beginnings come, you are ready for them. The Sun and Venus are in your sign for most of this month, and there are a lot of eyes on you right now. You have the potential to create a new beginning for yourself, and it’s time to invest in yourself, your love life, and your dreams.
Mercury moves into Sagittarius on December 11, and this is giving you another opportunity to see through some of the plans that you had initiated in November. Mercury was retrograde in your sign last month, and there may have been some disruptions to your vision and plans for the future, and now this energy is turning around for you. Before the month ends, we also have a New Moon in Sagittarius, and you are walking through new doors fearlessly. You are catching others by surprise by your growth this month, and you are thinking a lot about your purpose, future, and plans for the new year.
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleCAPRICORN
December is all about the vision, Capricorn. You are moving through a lot of changes and transformations this month, yet they are giving you a chance at a new beginning in the process. You are focused more on the future and what goals you want to manifest for yourself right now, and are ready to let go of what hasn’t been working for you. With the Sun in your 12th house of closure for most of December, this is your time for healing, but remember, healing doesn’t have to be isolating or boring; you can thrive while you renew, and you are this month.
Mid-month, the excitement picks up for you, and you are feeling more energized than you have in a while. Mars moves into Capricorn until the end of January 2026, and you are being proactive with your goals, intentions, and passions. You are a force to be reckoned with this month, and you are making things happen for yourself with confidence. Capricorn Season officially begins on December 21 this year, and this is definitely speeding up your healing process. You are breaking free from what was, and with Venus also moving into Capricorn before the month ends, you are leaving this year in high spirits and with love opening a new door for you.
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleAQUARIUS
December is all about community, creativity, and manifestation, Aquarius. This is the month to work together with others to help bring your dreams to life. You are in a space of inspiration, empowerment, and beauty, and are creating more of this energy around you and in your world. Look out for what support comes your way this month and know that you don’t have to do everything alone to succeed. With the Sun in your 11th house of manifestation and friendship, your intentions are coming to fruition, and it’s time to celebrate with the people you love and to own how far you have come this year.
On December 19, we have a New Moon in Sagittarius, lighting up your life in all of the best ways possible. This is your New Moon of freedom, victory, and magic, and you are seeing new beginnings appear that you were once just hoping for. Before the month comes to an end, Venus moves into your 12th house of closure, and after an active and successful month, you are ready to relax, heal, and give your heart some of the attention it has been asking for. You are moving into the new year with the need to release and renew what hasn’t been working in your relationships, and you are finally ready to.
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecolePISCES
December is a big month for you, Pisces. You are making some huge accomplishments this month, and are feeling like everything you have been through this year has been worth it for these moments that are coming to fruition for you now. The Sun is in your 10th house of career and reputation for most of the month, and this is where a lot of your focus is right now. You are claiming your successes and putting yourself out there in ways that not only serve you, but that inspire others as well.
Neptune officially goes direct on December 10, after being retrograde in your sign since July, and you are finally seeing things a little more clearly. You are feeling renewed inspiration and passion in your life, and your intuition is your strongest asset right now. Before December comes to an end, we also have a New Moon in your 10th house of career, and what happens now not only changes things for you in the present, but it also opens new doors and what is possible for you in the new year as well. Overall, you are on top of your game this month and are owning the joy and empowerment you feel.
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Oh, but there are plenty of people whose egos have them thinking that they can read someone else’s mind. Then there are others who have fantasies, which create unrealistic expectations that others in their lives actually should read their mind. And you know what — both of these things can cause unnecessary stress, drama, and trauma, if folks aren’t careful.
And that’s why I think it’s important that we unpack this a bit more. Because if you’re someone who thinks that if another person truly cares for you, they should be able to read your mind, it’s time to let that ridiculous yet semi-popular notion absolutely and completely go.
Here’s why.
It’s Scientifically Impossible for Someone to Read Your Mind
There are a couple of reasons why I am starting this off with R&B singer Avant. For one thing, I don’t think that he gets nearly enough flowers and secondly, clearly, this is a more-than-fitting song for today’s topic, wouldn’t you say? Because, lawd, there really is something that makes some of us feel all warm ‘n fuzzy about the mere thought of a man telling us that he is so in tuned with us that he can basically read our mind.
Hmph. Problem with that is, as I said in the intro, it is scientifically impossible (for us and for AI to do, praise the Lord!). And yet the fact that so many individuals think that they defy scientific data and research is oftentimes why there are so many breakdowns in communication — because if you run on assumption (that you can read someone’s mind) without clarification and confirmation, you can create issues that didn’t exist before you decided to fall for your own mind-reading theories.
Now to be fair, while science is still trying to figure out why we can’t read minds, what is sure is that we do have the capability to perceive the thoughts and actions of others if we’re willing to pay really close attention. However, do keep in mind that reading and perceiving are different. Reading? It’s about being able "to apprehend or interpret the meaning of" and "to anticipate, expect, or calculate by observation." Perceiving? It’s all about “to become aware of, know, or identify by means of the senses” and “to recognize, discern, envision, or understand.”
And already, do you see the differences? So much certainty comes with reading while perceiving is about humbling oneself (bookmark that) to not try to know everything but instead to try and understand what is transpiring. And since no one person (or their mind) is ever truly static, that is a huge part of the reason why believing that you can read someone’s mind — no matter how close you may be to them — is futile. You can change your mind on a dime. Others can do the same. Learning to perceive what is going on instead of assuming that you can “read” folks is far more beneficial.
Besides, you might be surprised by a particular demo who thinks that if you are truly who they need you to be, you will read their minds — and boy, once you know who they are, that may cure you of the whole “read your mind” ish…quick, fast and in a hurry.
The Expectation Is Oftentimes Rooted in Egomania
GiphyWhile doing a bit of research on this topic, I thought it was interesting that a particular type of person kept coming up. Can you guess which one? A NARCISSIST. What I kept noticing is a telling sign of a narcissistic individual is they expect others to read their mind.
I must admit that I was caught off guard by that at first because narcissists and their damn egos are so out of control (bookmark that) that it would seem like they would be more focused on acting like they know the thoughts of other people. Here’s the thing, though — the reason why narcissists want others to read their mind is because they want you to do things like guess what they want and need before they ask — and they want that to happen because they believe that they are so damn special that you should put in the extra blood, sweat and tears to figure it all out. Hmph. Now that tracks.
Another reason why narcissists want you to be able to read their mind is so they can manipulate and deflect. Meaning, if you say and do things based on what you thought they wanted you to, should everything crash and burn, they can dodge accountability and blame you for it. Hmm, does reading someone’s mind seem romantic and beautiful now? SMDH.
And again, all of this is tied to ego because, at the end of the day, mind-reading is a form of control and narcissists are definitely very controlling people. And honestly, mind-reading is as well because why do you even want to know someone’s private thoughts before they share them and, at the same time, why would you want someone to have that kind of power in your life either? “Eww” is what immediately comes to my mind. “Yuck” is what follows.
So, why is it that so many people think that it’s a good thing to have someone read their mind — I mean, the ones who don’t show narcissistic tendencies, that is? Good question.
5 Reasons Why Some People Wish Someone Would/Could Read Their Mind
GiphyOkay, so ego and pridefulness aside, what would be some other reasons why people think that it’s such a wonderful thing if someone who they are in some sort of intimate relationship with can read their mind.
1. They are caught up in Disney and rom-coms. One day, I am going to do an article on all of the ways that Disney and rom-coms have destroyed the reality of relationships. For now, I’ll just say that the scripted tales of both have caused a lot of people to think that if someone loves them, they should be able to read their mind. Nooo…if someone loves you, they should care to know what is on your mind. And that brings me to the second point.
2. They aren’t as good at communicating as they think. Are you a good communicator? One way to know if you are is you’re able to clearly articulate your wants and needs — because really, if you are able to do that, why should anyone even need to read your mind? Feel me? Let’s move on.
3. They want someone else to work harder at their relationships than they do. I say it in my sessions often — it’s beyond crazy to think that someone should work harder at figuring out what your wants, needs and expectations are than you are willing to express them. Hmph. It makes me think of a friend of mine who says that “should” is a dangerous word. What she means by that is saying that someone should do or not do something simply because YOU THINK that’s how it “should” go is a surefire way to stay disappointed and even be disillusioned. No, your man shouldn’t just know what you want every year for your birthday. Did you state it? If not, why aren’t you playing fair? Who has time for all of the guessing games and then getting penalized if they guess wrong? Stop it.
4. They think it’s the sign of a healthy relationship (it isn’t). Anyone who knows me knows that I am always and forever going to be Team Healthy over Team Happy and my reason why never changes. Only children expect to live in a world where they are happy all of the time — and yes, there are a lot of childish people out here. People who want their mind read? They tend to live in happy land. Meanwhile, a healthy relationship knows that clear communication, mutual respect, keen listening, patience and understanding that humans make mistakes are foundational to its success.
5. They are lazy. And yes y’all, some people want others to read their mind because they are lazy and it really is just as simple as that. Thing is, while they are being passive aggressive, dropping hints or giving the silent treatment so that you can figure out whatever it is that they…want you to figure out, that tends to take more effort than simply speaking up. Ridiculous, chile.
How to Let the Myth Go
GiphyGee, after reading all of this, suddenly reading minds just seems like a lot of silliness with a sprinkle of drama and potential trauma, doesn’t it? And it’s all because some people choose to treat something that is a myth like it’s a bona fide fact. SMDH.
And what if you happen to be one of those individuals? How do you break free? COMMUNICATE. Openly, clearly and maturely share what’s on your mind and heart because, the true tell of a solid relationship isn’t that someone can read your mind; it’s that they can retain what you’ve already stated.
Less reading. More perceiving. That’s the secret sauce.
And when you accept this for what it is, you will realize that it’s far better for you, your partner and your relationship to stop expecting the impossible and to accept what is actual: that learning your partner, as they strive to do the same thing with you, is better than you both assuming that you know what…maybe you do, maybe you don’t.
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Author Frank Sonnenberg once said, “People can’t hear what you don’t say. Thinking isn’t communicating” — and I think this is a perfect place to bring all of this to a close.
Find the kind of relationship(s) where intention is so strong that mind-reading isn’t even desired.
At the end of the day, it really is as simple as that.
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