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7 Ways To Step Outside Your Comfort Zone And Step Into A New You

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The courage to take a leap of faith and embark on a new life journey is equally one of the bravest and scariest things a person can do—and it can change the course of your life for the better.


We all have reasons why we're hesitant to step outside of our comfort zone and shake our lives up by going down a completely different path, but once you realize that discomfort is often what pushes you to find your purpose, you'll be more open to giving it a try.

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Make no mistake, it's definitely not an easy thing to do. With the combination of your family and friends telling you how crazy you are and your own inner self-doubt, leaving your comfort zone takes courage, but that is what makes it significant, because most people are afraid to even attempt it.

Once you decide that you are officially leaving your comfort zone behind, the next thing to do is to put your plan into action. Whether you hope to improve your career, your love life, your health or a myriad of other things, following a specific set of steps can make the transition easier.

We put together some ways to step outside of your comfort and never look back!

1.Embrace Discomfort

Feeling discomfort during your process, especially in the beginning, is expected and instead of letting it deter you from your end goal, use it as fuel to keep going. When embarking on anything new, there is always a level of discomfort, but if you don't begin, you won't get the end results you're seeking.

2.​Turn Failure Into A Learning Experience

Some of the most successful people in the world failed more than once in their lives and it's nothing to be ashamed of. If it takes you a few tries to find your rhythm, that's okay, take that failure and learn from it by not making the same mistakes again. If everything comes easy, you won't appreciate it as much because there is often beauty in the struggle.

3.Have A Clear Vision Of What You Want To Achieve

If you have a clear vision of exactly what it is that you want to achieve from the very beginning, it makes things a lot easier. Write your vision down, say a personal mantra to yourself, or visualize yourself getting exactly what you want. These are all ways to fine-tune your vision of success while you're still in the process of making it a reality.

4.Pace Yourself

Slow down, you don't have to do everything a warp speed. Putting a time limit on things can easily make you feel worse about stepping outside your comfort zone because if you don't hit certain milestones within a specific time frame, you'll feel like a failure. Instead, pace yourself by setting smaller, realistic goals to achieve that are doable for you and your endgame.

5.Filter Out Doubt

Doubt can come from all sides when you decide to step outside your box. From your family/friends, co-workers, or even yourself, doubt has a way of polluting your process. Try to block it out and focus on positivity and why you're doing this in the first place. Believe in yourself even when it gets hard because those are the moments when doubt likes to filter in the most.

6.Put A Support System In Place

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As much as we all like to think we can conquer any and everything on our own, there is nothing wrong with asking for guidance, advice, or help. Implement a support system to help you as you transition to something new. Ask those who have done it before what their process was like, call on your most supportive loved ones to pick you back up when you want to throw in the towel. Simply surround yourself with as much positivity as possible.

7.Remember Why You’re Doing It

In those moments when you want to give up and revert back to your old routine, remember why you wanted to step outside your comfort zone in the first place. That will help give you the motivation you need to see things through to the end.

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