6 Sex Positions To Try During The Next New Moon
The moon moves in phases, which have been said to sync up with menstruating people – both phases last approximately 29 days. When attuned to the needs of self, menstruation will either sync with the Full Moon (red moon cycle) or the New Moon (white moon cycle). Legend has it that those who are in sync with the white moon cycle are “most fertile” or simply ready to become a parent, while the red moon cycle provides an opportunity or signals your alignment with your passionate, open-minded, and sexual self.
So you can imagine how each might contrast when it comes to the sex you might have at that time, especially because the moon represents not only the mother but the emotional self. I would argue that the New Moon provides an opportunity for a more intimate, traditional loving-making type of sex while the Full Moon provides an opportunity to explore. It is said to be the time when women are the horniest, which makes sense if you’re aligned with a red cycle since the New Moon is also when you’re typically ovulating.
That doesn’t mean that we can’t spice things up a little during the New Moon though. In case you haven't figured it out by now, we thought this might be a good opportunity to give you some sexy, new sex positions for you and your partner to try during the next New Moon and every one that follows.
Here are 5 positions to help you harness that New Moon energy, and have other things realigned.
1. Missionary
Let's not be quick to dismiss this position as we all too often do (though the girls that get it, get it). Not only does missionary provide intimacy, but it comes highly recommended for those who are indeed ready to have children. The gravitational pull of the position makes it easier for the sperm to get where it needs to be.
2. Legs on Shoulders
Similar to the missionary position, this position increases the odds of pregnancy at an already fertile time (so to speak). However, it’s even better because your legs being raised and the overall slanted position of your body not only further gives the little swimmers an advantage, but it also places you at an angle. It provides a similar impact to having a pillow underneath your back.
3. Spooning
Though this position can be a pain in the ass trying to get into, it’s well worth it once you’re there. It provides slower backshots, forcing your partner to pace themselves and allowing them to trace kisses on your neck and shoulder area.
4. The Laptop
This position combines a sitting position with the legs on the shoulders position, asking you to take things a little higher. You may have already imagined it but just in case – paint this picture. Your partner sits in a chair (most any kind will do) and you will sit in front facing them. You can even start with a little reverse cowgirl while here but to kick things up a notch, you’ll want to reposition your legs to straddle their neck (there should be a bend in your knees).
It does call for some flexibility but there is some wiggle room so you aren’t in such cramped quarters. This also allows for anal play – an added benefit if that’s your yum.
5. Standing
While I personally despise any standing sex position that’s not me bent over (because yes I’m a bit lazy), I do want to focus on face-to-face standing. After all, there is something about a partner who can carry their own weight and yours too! In order to get in this position, it may be easiest to be near a wall when your partner goes to pick you up. Once you’re up there, you won’t want to “stand” tall and erect, instead straddle your partner's waist, allowing them to penetrate you with kisses amongst other things.
6. Lotus Blossom
The lotus blossom is another sitting sex position! But even better than the other, is that it doesn’t require much flexibility. For this position, both partners will need to sit, one will immediately go into a criss-cross-applesauce movement. The other partner will sit on top of the primary partner, straddle, and then wrap their legs around them. Once everything is settled and you are comfortable (you may have to explore this a little), the bottom partner will insert a toy, digits, or their penis.
The face-to-face positioning of (most of) these…positions allows for you to make eye contact and physical contact with your partner. You can pull them in closer for kisses or just generally embrace them. As I mentioned before, there’s a real traditional sense of intimacy to them because as you will know intimacy comes in many forms.
For an added touch of intimacy, try these positions while bathing under the New Moon – if and only if you have the access to privacy underneath the moonlight.
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DJ 9AM: DJ & Curator
Representing: Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "On My Mama" by Victoria Monét
Favorite OG It Girl: Nia Long
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon, Pisces Rising
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Representing:Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Lucky Girl" by Carlina
Favorite OG It Girl:Naomi Campbell
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Virgo Rising
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Representing: New Jersey
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Princess Going Digital" by Amaarae
Favorite OG It Girl: Kelis, Eve, Lil Kim
Zodiac Big Three: Aries Sun, Cancer Moon, Cancer Rising
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Denise Stephanie Hewitt, Photographer
Representing: Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Experience" by Victoria Monét
Favorite OG It Girl: Hannah Montana
Zodiac Big Three: Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Aquarius Rising
This Gordon Parks Foundation scholar is a full-time student who has been working to expand her freelance career in photography. Denise is also been featured among Essence'sinaugural list of "Top 10 Creators Under 30," for her unique aesthetics and perceptions through her art.
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Nayamka Roberts-Smith, Aesthetician
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Tomorrow 2" by GloRilla & Cardi B
Favorite OG It Girl: Meagan Good
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Capricorn Rising
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Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Nice" by The Carters
Favorite OG It Girl: Issa Rae
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Cancer Rising
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Marley Rae, Organizer, WalkGood
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Nice For What" by Drake
Favorite OG It Girl: Mariah Carey
Zodiac Big Three: Capricorn Sun, Taurus Moon, Leo Rising
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Shawnee Dez
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "FreeBody Freestyle" by Shawnee Dez
Favorite OG It Girl: Toni Morrison
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon, Cancer Rising
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Bianca Pastel, Visual Artist
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: Anything by Whitney Houston
Favorite OG It Girl: Grace Jones
Zodiac Big Three: Taurus Sun, Leo Moon, Sagittarius Rising
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Donyale Walton, Founder, Hoop Mobb
Representing: Detroit
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Yeah I Said It" by Rihanna
Favorite OG It Girl: Aaliyah
Zodiac Big Three: Virgo Sun, Libra Moon, Capricorn Rising
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Ticara Devone, Content Creator
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "She's a Bitch" by Missy Elliott
Favorite OG It Girl: Ananda Lewis
The Zodiac Big Three: Libra Sun, Taurus Moon, Virgo Rising
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SOUTH
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AllyiahsFace, Content Creator
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Go Off" Doja Cat
Favorite OG It Girl: Gabrielle Union and Halle Berry
Zodiac Big Three: Gemini Sun, Leo Moon, Scorpio Rising
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Jaycina, Executive Director, Tender
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "All I Got" by Amel Larrieux
Favorite OG It Girl:Tracee Ellis Ross
Zodiac Big Three: Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Sagittarius Rising
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Asha Christian, Founder, Coily App
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "It's My Life" by Mariah Carey
Favorite OG It Girl: Toni Childs (Girlfriends)
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Leo Rising
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