

Here's How To Make Doggystyle Feel More Intimate
Doggystyle is often placed in the doghouse when the conversation of intimate sex comes up. Historically, it’s believed that those who solely want to “hit it from the back" are not attracted to you or don’t want anything deep with you, and Doggystyle is their way to opt-out of a face-to-face connection. There is indeed a “no strings attached” connotation there. However, there are also couples deeply in love who enjoy the undeniable pleasure found in this position.
With the right person and the intent to please, Doggystyle is a superior move as far as intimacy is concerned – while still maintaining its pleasure principles and practicality. Back kisses, easy access to breasts, booty, and clitoris, and it allows for a range of depth are just a few reasons why Doggystyle is a superior intimate sex position. Oh, oh, and how could I forget the dripping sex that is your partner talking you through the act, which somehow comes more naturally when they have you on all fours?
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Because let's be real, what’s better than your partner talking you through a nut? Next to nothing. If you’re someone who has been uninterested in doggystyle for one reason or another, here are ways you can introduce more intimacy as well as helpful tips to keep it cute while keeping it nasty.
1. Communicate Your Needs and Desire
In regards to this position or really any, you will want to discuss what you need from it. Sex doesn’t have to be goal-oriented but it should be pleasure-oriented and if the lack of intimacy in any position is creating a lag in pleasure, you should openly discuss this. Furthermore, this will allow you to talk with your partner about what doors can be opened and which you both feel most comfortable staying closed. For example, doggystyle is a good position to introduce different sensations such as oral sex or anal play. You’ll want to set these guidelines beforehand for maximum pleasure and even safe words as they aren’t only for kinky sex.
2. Introduce Elements of Sensory Play
If you’re someone who doesn’t take advantage of the different types of touch that doggystyle allows, try it. This doesn’t mean you have to go to anal play immediately. But instead, try allowing your partner to place gentle, slow kisses on your backside. Other suggestions might include:
- Add toys for more stimulation of areas such as the g-spot, clitoris, or butt;
- If you’re a little kinky, try some wax play while on all fours (though not entirely necessary, they have special candles for this which I highly recommend if you haven’t dabbled in wax play before);
- Incorporate oral sex, which adds pleasure, while also providing additional lubricant.
3. Pace Yourself With Intervals
Just because you’re in doggystyle does not mean you have to sprint through the sex like a racehorse. In fact, because the position allows for so much depth from your partner, it may be best if you pace yourself. In the same way that intervals are preferred on the treadmill for maximum performance, consider using intervals in this position so you don’t feel like you’re getting “bunny rabbit” treatment and this also decreases the likelihood of your partner cumming too fast.
Instead of going a full round of sex (whatever that timeframe may be) at the same speed or tempo, try 10 minutes at a slow and sultry pace, then switch it up for about five minutes. The switch-up can be to solely kiss/touch each other or you might want to actually just change the pace of the stroke completely.
4. Keep It Spicy With Lingerie
Buy some sexy, lacy lingerie to spice it up. If you’re comfortable, go with some lacy crotchless panties (like these, here!). Furthermore, wearing lingerie always has a way of reminding you of who you are and boosting your self-esteem almost immediately. In fact, even while we’re using it to seduce, it’s actually more soothing to our ego than anything. At least for me. If you’re someone who still needs time to feel comfortable in lingerie, try using one of your partner's dress shirts as a cover-up. In fact, you can even dress up one of their t-shirts with a sexy pair of lacy panties if that’s preferable.
5. Aftercare
Just as important as communicating before sex is the act of communicating after. Each of you should create a safe space after sex, to present your dislikes and likes during your time together. Do keep in mind that aftercare can be as small a gesture as verbal communication or you can add more layers that encompass touch such as bathing with one another, cuddling, massages, etc.
Rest assured that adding these five elements to your doggystyle routine will make it feel less Ruff Ryders and more Lady and the Tramp.
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Motor City native, Atlanta living. Sagittarius. Writer. Sexpert. Into all things magical, mystical, and unknown. I'll try anything at least once but you knew that the moment I revealed that I was a Sag.
Smile, Sis! These Five Improvements Can Upgrade Your Oral Hygiene Instantly
This article is in partnership with Sensodyne.
Our teeth are connected to so many things - our nutrition, our confidence, and our overall mood. We often take for granted how important healthy teeth are, until issues like tooth sensitivity or gum recession come to remind us. Like most things related to our bodies, prevention is the best medicine. Here are five things you can do immediately to improve your oral hygiene, prevent tooth sensitivity, and avoid dental issues down the road.
1) Go Easy On the Rough Brushing: Brushing your teeth is and always will be priority number one in the oral hygiene department. No surprises there! However, there is such a thing as applying too much pressure when brushing…and that can lead to problems over time. Use a toothbrush with soft bristles and brush in smooth, circular motions. It may seem counterintuitive, but a gentle approach to brushing is the most effective way to clean those pearly whites without wearing away enamel and exposing sensitive areas of the teeth.
2) Use A Desensitizing Toothpaste: As everyone knows, mouth pain can be highly uncomfortable; but tooth sensitivity is a whole different beast. Hot weather favorites like ice cream and popsicles have the ability to trigger tooth sensitivity, which might make you want to stay away from icy foods altogether. But as always, prevention is the best medicine here. Switching to a toothpaste like Sensodyne’s Sensitivity & Gum toothpaste specifically designed for sensitive teeth will help build a protective layer over sensitive areas of the tooth. Over time, those sharp sensations that occur with extremely cold foods will subside, and you’ll be back to treating yourself to your icy faves like this one!
3) Floss, Rinse, Brush. (And In That Order!): Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s not what you do, but how you do it”? Well, the same thing applies to taking care of your teeth. Even if you are flossing and brushing religiously, you could be missing out on some of the benefits simply because you aren’t doing so in the right order. Flossing is best to do before brushing because it removes food particles and plaque from places your toothbrush can’t reach. After a proper flossing sesh, it is important to rinse out your mouth with water after. Finally, you can whip out your toothbrush and get to brushing. Though many of us commonly rinse with water after brushing to remove excess toothpaste, it may not be the best thing for our teeth. That’s because fluoride, the active ingredient in toothpaste that protects your enamel, works best when it gets to sit on the teeth and continue working its magic. Rinsing with water after brushing doesn’t let the toothpaste go to work like it really can. Changing up your order may take some getting used to, but over time, you’ll see the difference.
4) Stay Hydrated: Upping your water supply is a no-fail way to level up your health overall, and your teeth are no exception to this rule. Drinking water not only helps maintain a healthy pH balance in your mouth, but it also washes away residue and acids that can cause enamel erosion. It also helps you steer clear of dry mouth, which is a gateway to bad breath. And who needs that?
5) Show Your Gums Some Love: When it comes to improving your smile, you may be laser-focused on getting your teeth whiter, straighter, and overall healthier. Rightfully so, as these are all attributes of a megawatt smile; but you certainly don’t want to leave gum health out of the equation. If you neglect your gums, you’ll start to notice the effects of plaque buildup, which can irritate the gums and cause gingivitis, the earliest stage of gum disease. Seeing blood while brushing and flossing is a tell-tale sign that your gums are suffering. You may also experience gum recession — a condition where the gum tissue surrounding your teeth pulls back, exposing more of your tooth. Brushing at least twice a day with a gum-protecting toothpaste like Sensodyne Sensitivity and Gum, coupled with regular dentist visits, will keep your gums shining as bright as those pearly whites.
In the crazy world of dating, so much attention is placed on the behavior during actual dates. Whether it is choosing the right outfit or making a good first impression, the focus tends to center on the in-person time spent together. But something that often gets overlooked is the significance of "between date behavior (BDB)." BDB is not just generic good morning text messages (that can be sent to 10 women in one minute), but rather text check-ins during the day and even nightly phone calls. This is the time when two people are apart but still find time for connection.
It is during these in-between moments that the foundation of a truly meaningful relationship is often built. A glaring example of what happens when there isn’t BDB is the early relationship between Carrie and Big from Sex and the City. At the beginning of the series, she was so hyper-focused on the time she spent together that she ignored that Big wasn’t calling or texting her often between dates. Instead, he would reach out and send cars based on his convenience… and not hers.
When it comes to dating, don’t be Carrie!
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Please realize that 80-90% of your time will NOT be with your partner while seriously dating, so the BDB will also be a significant part of your relationship. Here are some other reasons why what happens when you're not together is just as, if not more, significant than the hours spent face-to-face…
One of the key factors that makes BDB so crucial is authenticity. When we are with someone on a date, it is easy to put on a front (show one’s representative), showcasing our best qualities and concealing our flaws. But it is in our day-to-day interactions, the text messages and phone calls, that our true selves shine through.
Consistency in behavior is an indicator of authenticity. And authenticity builds trust. And trust is the cornerstone of any meaningful relationship.
Speaking of trust, it is one of the foundations of a successful relationship. Building it doesn't happen in a single evening. It's the consistency in behavior between dates that solidifies trust. When your person consistently communicates, shows interest, and keeps it respectful in the moments between your dates, it is reassuring that your potential partner is seriously interested and invested in the relationship.
Also, in between dates, the channels of communication become lifelines that connect two people and nurture emotional intimacy. How you communicate and what you choose to communicate about can significantly impact a growing relationship. Consistent, thoughtful messages and meaningful conversations like sharing your thoughts, dreams, and vulnerabilities can help create a strong emotional bond. Being supportive and understanding during difficult moments can bring you closer together.
While the time spent on a date is super important, the BDB, I would argue, should not be slept on. It's the glue that holds the connection together, builds trust, and sets the stage for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. So, the next time you find yourself waiting for that next date, remember that the journey between those dates is just as significant, if not more so, in the grand scheme of building a meaningful connection.
Hope this helps!
Coach Anwar is a certified dating and relationship coach who has 13 years of experience helping Black and brown women date with strategy, meet relationship-ready men, and get into the best relationship of their lives.
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