As soon as January comes to a close, Cupid gets us all hyped up on cheap pharmacy box chocolates, pheromones, and oxytocin. We become obsessed with expressing our love through what we've come to know as the day of love -- Valentine's Day (unless you're from the midwest and celebrate Sweetest Day, or the East and enjoy Steak and BJ Day).
However, it's been said that women have made a poor habit out of giving up the box as an efficient means of gift giving, rather than putting thought and effort into giving our men an actual box of chocolates. Quite frankly, I don't see a thing wrong with this! That said, if you came here, thinking that this was anything other than that I'm afraid you've already jumped ahead to April Fool's Day. Because this here is a safe space for women who plan on smacking a skimpy bow on their ass this Valentine's Day and allowing their guy to unbox them, and delight in the pretty fine brown that not even Godiva is packing.
In all seriousness, sex doesn't have to be the main event of your Valentine's Day but we'd all be kidding ourselves if we didn't say a sensual evening to wrap the day wasn't at the forefront of our minds. Perhaps you're wondering how to make this sex stand out from any other day. What tricks can you pull out of that heart-shaped box to make his ass go wild. Allow us to put your mind at ease though, we've pulled together some simple but sweet sex positions that might just sweeten your Valentine's Day even more. So grab the dessert wine, pull up this bookmarked list, and ask bae what he wants to get into 'cause tonight you're the snack -- you're the smorgasbord of chocolate -- you're the whole damn meal.
1.Ice Cream Sex Position
On a flat surface, have your partner kneel onto both knees and rest on or between their feet. You will then face forward (away from them) and squat in order to be penetrated. This delivers the best of both worlds with a sense of "from the back" action while also placing all the control of cowgirl in your hands. You can bounce, grind, and wind as deeply as you need to in this position. But my favorite feature is the easy access to the breasts because who doesn't love a nice, sensual squeeze?
2.Sweet Pussy Sex Position
Have your partner sit on the armchair and straddle your legs, placing each one on a chair arm. To stabilize yourself, you can grab onto the back of the chair or a wall. You should be kneeling and they should be face to face with your vulva. Your partner can now eat you as deeply as they desire, pulling you in more closely with their hands firmly placed in the butt area.
3.Counterblow Sex Position
Grab a dining chair, have a seat and firmly grab the sides of the chair. Get your balance, girl. Then lean your body back into a slight 'V.' Your partner should be in a wide straddle when they crouch down and place their hands on the edges but positioned in front of your hands. (The chair ought to be completely between his legs). Once you all have got that down, you can wrap your shins around your partner's butt.
4.Sweet Sin Sex Position
Allow your partner to sit in a loose type of criss-cross applesauce. Their hands should be planted firmly behind them. A flat position is preferable but hey, do you! Cradle yourself in their lap, and lean back enough where you're able to comfortably place your hands behind you as well. Then place your feet flat onto your partner's shoulders. Your knees should be tucked into your chest and your neck relaxed.
5.French Kiss Sex Position
Pull out the old armchair again for the French Kiss position. You will sit in the chair and slide down so that your butt is on the edge, while your partner will kneel in between your legs with their feet side by side (making a butterfly, knees should be straddled and feet should be touching). This is an intimate position, allowing you to kiss and hold your partner.
6.Snow Angel Sex Position
In order to do the Snow Angel sex position, start in a 69 position, but ensure you are the bottom. The difference will be that you will need to scoot your bodies down so that your partner is able to slide into you with ease. Lift your legs and wrap them around your partner's back so that your feet are resting at the nape of his head, and together in a prayer position. Their legs will simply fall to the side of you and they are able to use their rest on their forearms.
7.Captivity Sex Position
Your partner will need to sit on the edge of the bed, with their feet wide apart and planted on ground. Climb on top of them, straddling your legs around their waist but your legs should be slightly bent at the knee (feet will be flat on the bed if correct). Once you're sitting, you can lean back and allow your partner to support you by holding onto your shoulder as if they're breaking your fall.
8.Superhero Sex Position
Lie on your back with your legs criss-cross applesauce, with your partner kneeling directly in front of your crossed legs. Their knees will be straddled, they should be able to rest there but between their feet. Leaning in as you lift yourself up, your partner will use their hands to lift you and comfortably place your hip on their shoulder. Here, you can open your legs and reposition them so they're crossed while straddling your partner's head.
9.Young Stallion Sex Position
A classic! Lie in doggystyle on your sofa or couch, but spread your knees as wide as they will possibly go. Your partner will come behind you and lunge, placing one foot on each side of you. You can take a slight reach to the side, and use the armrest to give you some footing when it's time for you to throw it back.
10.Gemini Sex Position
Both you and your partner should sit face to face, while your legs straddle their waist with your leg bent at the knee (shoulder width apart). Your partner will also be straddling you, but their feet will be together as their legs are bent at the knee. Essentially, you two will mirror one another so when you take one hand and place it on the floor; for support, they ought to place the opposite arm behind them.
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In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
Gabrielle Union
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"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
Gabrielle Union and Kaavia Union-Wade
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“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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