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These Intimate Sex Positions Will Up The Ante On Your Orgasms

Delight in the pretty fine brown that not even Godiva is packing.

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As soon as January comes to a close, Cupid gets us all hyped up on cheap pharmacy box chocolates, pheromones, and oxytocin. We become obsessed with expressing our love through what we've come to know as the day of love -- Valentine's Day (unless you're from the midwest and celebrate Sweetest Day, or the East and enjoy Steak and BJ Day).

However, it's been said that women have made a poor habit out of giving up the box as an efficient means of gift giving, rather than putting thought and effort into giving our men an actual box of chocolates. Quite frankly, I don't see a thing wrong with this! That said, if you came here, thinking that this was anything other than that I'm afraid you've already jumped ahead to April Fool's Day. Because this here is a safe space for women who plan on smacking a skimpy bow on their ass this Valentine's Day and allowing their guy to unbox them, and delight in the pretty fine brown that not even Godiva is packing.

In all seriousness, sex doesn't have to be the main event of your Valentine's Day but we'd all be kidding ourselves if we didn't say a sensual evening to wrap the day wasn't at the forefront of our minds. Perhaps you're wondering how to make this sex stand out from any other day. What tricks can you pull out of that heart-shaped box to make his ass go wild. Allow us to put your mind at ease though, we've pulled together some simple but sweet sex positions that might just sweeten your Valentine's Day even more. So grab the dessert wine, pull up this bookmarked list, and ask bae what he wants to get into 'cause tonight you're the snack -- you're the smorgasbord of chocolate -- you're the whole damn meal.

1.Ice Cream Sex Position

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On a flat surface, have your partner kneel onto both knees and rest on or between their feet. You will then face forward (away from them) and squat in order to be penetrated. This delivers the best of both worlds with a sense of "from the back" action while also placing all the control of cowgirl in your hands. You can bounce, grind, and wind as deeply as you need to in this position. But my favorite feature is the easy access to the breasts because who doesn't love a nice, sensual squeeze?

2.Sweet Pussy Sex Position

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Have your partner sit on the armchair and straddle your legs, placing each one on a chair arm. To stabilize yourself, you can grab onto the back of the chair or a wall. You should be kneeling and they should be face to face with your vulva. Your partner can now eat you as deeply as they desire, pulling you in more closely with their hands firmly placed in the butt area.

3.Counterblow Sex Position

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Grab a dining chair, have a seat and firmly grab the sides of the chair. Get your balance, girl. Then lean your body back into a slight 'V.' Your partner should be in a wide straddle when they crouch down and place their hands on the edges but positioned in front of your hands. (The chair ought to be completely between his legs). Once you all have got that down, you can wrap your shins around your partner's butt.

4.Sweet Sin Sex Position

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Allow your partner to sit in a loose type of criss-cross applesauce. Their hands should be planted firmly behind them. A flat position is preferable but hey, do you! Cradle yourself in their lap, and lean back enough where you're able to comfortably place your hands behind you as well. Then place your feet flat onto your partner's shoulders. Your knees should be tucked into your chest and your neck relaxed.

5.French Kiss Sex Position

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Pull out the old armchair again for the French Kiss position. You will sit in the chair and slide down so that your butt is on the edge, while your partner will kneel in between your legs with their feet side by side (making a butterfly, knees should be straddled and feet should be touching). This is an intimate position, allowing you to kiss and hold your partner.

6.Snow Angel Sex Position

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In order to do the Snow Angel sex position, start in a 69 position, but ensure you are the bottom. The difference will be that you will need to scoot your bodies down so that your partner is able to slide into you with ease. Lift your legs and wrap them around your partner's back so that your feet are resting at the nape of his head, and together in a prayer position. Their legs will simply fall to the side of you and they are able to use their rest on their forearms.

7.Captivity Sex Position

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Your partner will need to sit on the edge of the bed, with their feet wide apart and planted on ground. Climb on top of them, straddling your legs around their waist but your legs should be slightly bent at the knee (feet will be flat on the bed if correct). Once you're sitting, you can lean back and allow your partner to support you by holding onto your shoulder as if they're breaking your fall.

8.Superhero Sex Position

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Lie on your back with your legs criss-cross applesauce, with your partner kneeling directly in front of your crossed legs. Their knees will be straddled, they should be able to rest there but between their feet. Leaning in as you lift yourself up, your partner will use their hands to lift you and comfortably place your hip on their shoulder. Here, you can open your legs and reposition them so they're crossed while straddling your partner's head.

9.Young Stallion Sex Position

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A classic! Lie in doggystyle on your sofa or couch, but spread your knees as wide as they will possibly go. Your partner will come behind you and lunge, placing one foot on each side of you. You can take a slight reach to the side, and use the armrest to give you some footing when it's time for you to throw it back.

10.Gemini Sex Position

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Both you and your partner should sit face to face, while your legs straddle their waist with your leg bent at the knee (shoulder width apart). Your partner will also be straddling you, but their feet will be together as their legs are bent at the knee. Essentially, you two will mirror one another so when you take one hand and place it on the floor; for support, they ought to place the opposite arm behind them.

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You may not know her by Elisabeth Ovesen – writer and host of the love, sex and relationships advice podcast Asking for a Friend. But you definitely know her other alter ego, Karrine Steffans, the New York Times best-selling author who lit up the literary and entertainment world when she released what she called a “tell some” memoir, Confessions of a Video Vixen.

Her 2005 barn-burning book gave an inside look at the seemingly glamorous world of being a video vixen in the ‘90s and early 2000s, and exposed the industry’s culture of abuse, intimidation, and misogyny years before the Me Too Movement hit the mainstream. Her follow-up books, The Vixen Diaries (2007) and The Vixen Manual: How To Find, Seduce And Keep The Man You Want (2009) all topped the New York Times best-seller list. After a long social media break, she's back. xoNecole caught up with Ovesen about the impact of her groundbreaking book, what life is like for her now, and why she was never “before her time”– everyone else was just late to the revolution.

xoNecole: Tell me about your new podcast Asking for a Friend with Elisabeth Ovesen and how that came about.

Elisabeth Ovesen: I have a friend who is over [at Blavity] and he just asked me if I wanted to do something with him. And that's just kinda how it happened. It wasn't like some big master plan. Somebody over there was like, “Hey, we need content. We want to do this podcast. Can you do it?” And I was like, “Sure.” And that's that. That was around the holidays and so we started working on it.

xoNecole: Your life and work seem incredibly different from when you first broke out on the scene. Can you talk a bit about the change in your career and how your life is now?

EO: Not that different. I mean my life is very different, of course, but my work isn't really that different. My life is different, of course, because I'm 43. My career started when I was in my 20s, so we're looking at almost 20 years since the beginning of my career. So, naturally life has changed a lot since then.

I don’t think my career has changed a whole lot – not as far as my writing is concerned, and my stream of consciousness with my writing, and my concerns and the subject matter hasn’t changed much. I've always written about interpersonal relationships, sexual shame, male ego fragility, respectability politics – things like that. I always put myself in the center of that to make those points, which I think were greatly missed when I first started writing. I think that society has changed quite a bit. People are more aware. People tell me a lot that I have always been “before my time.” I was writing about things before other people were talking about that; I was concerned about things before my generation seemed to be concerned about things. I wasn't “before my time.” I think it just seems that way to people who are late to the revolution, you know what I mean?

I retired from publishing in 2015, which was always the plan to do 10 years and retire. I was retired from my pen name and just from the business in general in 2015, I could focus on my business, my education and other things, my family. I came back to writing in 2020 over at Medium. The same friend that got me into the podcast, actually as the vice president of content over at Medium and was like, “Hey, we need some content.” I guess I’m his go-to content creator.

xoNecole: Can you expound on why you went back to your birth name versus your stage name?

EO: No, it was nothing to expound upon. I mean, writers have pen names. That’s like asking Diddy, why did he go by Sean? I didn't go back. I've always used that. Nobody was paying attention. I've never not been myself. Karrine Steffans wrote a certain kind of book for a certain kind of audience. She was invented for the urban audience, particularly. She was never meant to live more than 10 years. I have other pen names as well. I write under several names. So, the other ones are just nobody's business right now. Different pen names write different things. And Elisabeth isn’t my real name either. So you'll never know who I really am and you’ll never know what my real name is, because part of being a writer is, for me at least, keeping some sort of anonymity. Anything I do in entertainment is going to amass quite a bit because who I am as a person in my private life isn't the same a lot of times as who I am publicly.

xoNecole: I want to go back to when you published Confessions of a Video Vixen. We are now in this time where people are reevaluating how the media mistreated women in the spotlight in the 2000s, namely women like Britney Spears. So I’d be interested to hear how you feel about that period of your life and how you were treated by the media?

EO: What I said earlier. I think that much of society has evolved quite a bit. When you look back at that time, it was actually shocking how old-fashioned the thinking still was. How women were still treated and how they're still treated now. I mean, it hasn't changed completely. I think that especially for the audience, I think it was shocking for them to see a woman – a woman of color – not be sexually ashamed.

I hate being like other people. I don't want to do what anyone else is doing. I can't conform. I will not conform. I think in 2005 when Confessions was published, that attitude, especially about sex, was very upsetting. Number one, it was upsetting to the men, especially within urban and hip-hop culture, which is built on misogyny and thrives off of it to this day. And the women who protect these men, I think, you know, addressing a demographic that is rooted in trauma that is rooted in sexual shame, trauma, slavery of all kinds, including slavery of the mind – I think it triggered a lot of people to see a Black woman be free in this way.

I think it said a lot about the people who were upset by it. And then there were some in “crossover media,” a lot of white folks were upset too, not gonna lie. But to see it from Black women – Tyra Banks was really upset [when she interviewed me about Confessions in 2005]. Oprah wasn't mad [when she interviewed me]. As long as Oprah wasn’t mad, I was good. I didn't care what anybody else had to say. Oprah was amazing. So, watching Black women defend men, and Black women who had a platform, defend the sexual blackmailing of men: “If you don't do this with me, you won't get this job”; “If you don't do this in my trailer, you're going to have to leave the set”– these are things that I dealt with.

I just happened to be the kind of woman who, because I was a single mother raising my child all by myself and never got any help at all – which I still don't. Like, I'm 24 in college – not a cheap college either – one of the best colleges in the country, and I'm still taking care of him all by myself as a 21-year-old, 20-year-old, young, single mother with no family and no support – I wasn’t about to say no to something that could help me feed my son for a month or two or three.

xoNecole: We are in this post-Me Too climate where women in Hollywood have come forward to talk about the powerful men who have abused them. In the music industry in particular, it seems nearly impossible for any substantive change or movement to take place within music. It's only now after three decades of allegations that R. Kelly has finally been convicted and other men like Russell Simmons continue to roam free despite the multiple allegations against him. Why do you think it's hard for the music industry to face its reckoning?

EO: That's not the music industry, that's urban music. That’s just Black folks who make music and nobody cares about that. That's the thing; nobody cares...Nobody cares. It's not the music industry. It's just an "urban" thing. And when I say "urban," I say that in quotations. Literally, it’s a Black thing, where nobody gives a shit what Black people do to Black people. And Russell didn't go on unchecked, he just had enough money to keep it quiet. But you know, anytime you're dealing with Black women being disrespected, especially by Black men, nobody gives a shit.

And Black people don't police themselves so it doesn't matter. Why should anybody care? And Black women don't care. They'll buy an R. Kelly album right now. They’ll stream that shit right now. They don’t care. So, nobody cares. Nobody cares. And if you're not going to police yourself, then nobody's ever going to care.

xoNecole: Do you have any regrets about anything you wrote or perhaps something you may have omitted?

EO: Absolutely not. No. There's nothing that I wish I would've gone back and said to myself, no. I don’t think at 20-something years old, I'm supposed to understand every little thing. I don't think the 20-something-year-old woman is supposed to understand the world and know exactly what she's doing. I think that one of my biggest regrets, which isn't my regret, but a regret, is that I didn't have better parents. Because a 20-something only knows what she knows based on what she’s seen and what she’s been taught and what she’s told. I had shitty parents and a horrible family. Just terrible. These people had no business having children. None of them. And a lot of our families are like that. And we may pass down those familial curses.

*This interview has been edited and condensed

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