These Intimate Sex Positions Will Up The Ante On Your Orgasms
As soon as January comes to a close, Cupid gets us all hyped up on cheap pharmacy box chocolates, pheromones, and oxytocin. We become obsessed with expressing our love through what we've come to know as the day of love -- Valentine's Day (unless you're from the midwest and celebrate Sweetest Day, or the East and enjoy Steak and BJ Day).
However, it's been said that women have made a poor habit out of giving up the box as an efficient means of gift giving, rather than putting thought and effort into giving our men an actual box of chocolates. Quite frankly, I don't see a thing wrong with this! That said, if you came here, thinking that this was anything other than that I'm afraid you've already jumped ahead to April Fool's Day. Because this here is a safe space for women who plan on smacking a skimpy bow on their ass this Valentine's Day and allowing their guy to unbox them, and delight in the pretty fine brown that not even Godiva is packing.
In all seriousness, sex doesn't have to be the main event of your Valentine's Day but we'd all be kidding ourselves if we didn't say a sensual evening to wrap the day wasn't at the forefront of our minds. Perhaps you're wondering how to make this sex stand out from any other day. What tricks can you pull out of that heart-shaped box to make his ass go wild. Allow us to put your mind at ease though, we've pulled together some simple but sweet sex positions that might just sweeten your Valentine's Day even more. So grab the dessert wine, pull up this bookmarked list, and ask bae what he wants to get into 'cause tonight you're the snack -- you're the smorgasbord of chocolate -- you're the whole damn meal.
1.Ice Cream Sex Position
On a flat surface, have your partner kneel onto both knees and rest on or between their feet. You will then face forward (away from them) and squat in order to be penetrated. This delivers the best of both worlds with a sense of "from the back" action while also placing all the control of cowgirl in your hands. You can bounce, grind, and wind as deeply as you need to in this position. But my favorite feature is the easy access to the breasts because who doesn't love a nice, sensual squeeze?
2.Sweet Pussy Sex Position
Have your partner sit on the armchair and straddle your legs, placing each one on a chair arm. To stabilize yourself, you can grab onto the back of the chair or a wall. You should be kneeling and they should be face to face with your vulva. Your partner can now eat you as deeply as they desire, pulling you in more closely with their hands firmly placed in the butt area.
3.Counterblow Sex Position
Grab a dining chair, have a seat and firmly grab the sides of the chair. Get your balance, girl. Then lean your body back into a slight 'V.' Your partner should be in a wide straddle when they crouch down and place their hands on the edges but positioned in front of your hands. (The chair ought to be completely between his legs). Once you all have got that down, you can wrap your shins around your partner's butt.
4.Sweet Sin Sex Position
Allow your partner to sit in a loose type of criss-cross applesauce. Their hands should be planted firmly behind them. A flat position is preferable but hey, do you! Cradle yourself in their lap, and lean back enough where you're able to comfortably place your hands behind you as well. Then place your feet flat onto your partner's shoulders. Your knees should be tucked into your chest and your neck relaxed.
5.French Kiss Sex Position
Pull out the old armchair again for the French Kiss position. You will sit in the chair and slide down so that your butt is on the edge, while your partner will kneel in between your legs with their feet side by side (making a butterfly, knees should be straddled and feet should be touching). This is an intimate position, allowing you to kiss and hold your partner.
6.Snow Angel Sex Position
In order to do the Snow Angel sex position, start in a 69 position, but ensure you are the bottom. The difference will be that you will need to scoot your bodies down so that your partner is able to slide into you with ease. Lift your legs and wrap them around your partner's back so that your feet are resting at the nape of his head, and together in a prayer position. Their legs will simply fall to the side of you and they are able to use their rest on their forearms.
7.Captivity Sex Position
Your partner will need to sit on the edge of the bed, with their feet wide apart and planted on ground. Climb on top of them, straddling your legs around their waist but your legs should be slightly bent at the knee (feet will be flat on the bed if correct). Once you're sitting, you can lean back and allow your partner to support you by holding onto your shoulder as if they're breaking your fall.
8.Superhero Sex Position
Lie on your back with your legs criss-cross applesauce, with your partner kneeling directly in front of your crossed legs. Their knees will be straddled, they should be able to rest there but between their feet. Leaning in as you lift yourself up, your partner will use their hands to lift you and comfortably place your hip on their shoulder. Here, you can open your legs and reposition them so they're crossed while straddling your partner's head.
9.Young Stallion Sex Position
A classic! Lie in doggystyle on your sofa or couch, but spread your knees as wide as they will possibly go. Your partner will come behind you and lunge, placing one foot on each side of you. You can take a slight reach to the side, and use the armrest to give you some footing when it's time for you to throw it back.
10.Gemini Sex Position
Both you and your partner should sit face to face, while your legs straddle their waist with your leg bent at the knee (shoulder width apart). Your partner will also be straddling you, but their feet will be together as their legs are bent at the knee. Essentially, you two will mirror one another so when you take one hand and place it on the floor; for support, they ought to place the opposite arm behind them.
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So, here’s the deal: if you’re over the age of 35, perimenopause can last anywhere from a few months to an entire freakin’ decade. And so, if you’re wondering why I’m talking about menopause more often these days…now you know.
Okay and just what does perimenopause and especially menopause have to do with your skin? Chile, where do I even start? SMDH. Probably the easiest way to explain it is that when your estrogen and progesterone levels drop (which is what automatically happens during that time of life), it can directly impact how your skin both looks and feels. Your skin may feel drier, thinner, or appear less “full” (meaning plump) — and all of that can make it look older than you want it to.
Honestly, that’s why a lot of skincare products are marketed as being “anti-aging”; it’s their gentle way of saying skin that is perimenopausal or menopausal. In fact, I actually read that during the first five years of menopause, it’s pretty common to lose as much as 30 percent of the collagen that’s in your system (check out “We Lose Collagen As We Age. 10 Ways To Naturally Boost It.”). And since collagen plays such a significant role in your skin retaining moisture, having elasticity, and avoiding the fine lines and wrinkles that most of us would prefer to put off for as long as we possibly can, it’s important to do what can be done, even now, to keep a youthful and radiant glow.
So, let’s get into it. Because there is indeed such a thing as menopause skincare (the anti-aging industry brings in literally billions of dollars every year because of it), I want to share 12 things that you can proactively do to care for your own skin: whether you’re in perimenopause, menopause, post-menopause or just…curious.
1. Eat More Phytoestrogens
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Okay, so since you lose quite a bit of estrogen during menopause, if you don’t want your skin to look like you did, you should consider consuming some phytoestrogens. Those are foods like dried fruits, garlic, plums, pears, apples, onions, and collards that come from plant-based estrogen. Since phytoestrogens are able to do everything from bring more hydration into your skin to boost your collagen levels, if you want to “push pause” on the aging process of your skin from the inside out, eating phytoestrogens is certainly one way to do it.
2. Also, Consume More Collagen-Enriched Foods
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We already touched on what collagen is able to do, which is why it’s a good idea to eat foods that are rich in this particular structural protein as well. Chicken, broccoli, bone broth, berries, cashews, egg whites, and citrus fruit can get you right in this department. Know what else can? Green tea.
3. Enjoy Some Dark Chocolate
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Women who are postmenopausal should consume dark chocolate on a consistent basis because it helps with their heart health. Something else that research reveals is dark chocolate is great when it comes to boosting cognitive function (which can also decline during menopause when it comes to your memory). Your skin could use dark chocolate because it increases blood circulation to it. Also, dark chocolate can protect your skin from damaging UV rays. And since dark chocolate helps to reduce stress, that is just one more reason to snack on it — and perhaps why you should consider applying a dark chocolate face mask a couple of times a month, too (you can check out some more info via StyleCraze on all of that here).
By the way, it should go on record that the key is not to pick up a Hershey’s bar on your way home. You need to eat the kind of dark chocolate that contains no less than 65-70 percent cocoa. Yep, the less sweet and more chalk-like it tastes, the better (just sayin’).
4. Put Aloe Vera Juice in Your Drinks
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The antibacterial, antioxidant, and anti-inflammatory properties in (pure) aloe vera juice can do wonders for your system. Not only is it full of antioxidants and vitamin C, but aloe vera juice can also help to improve digestion, regulate your blood sugar levels, improve your oral health, soothe heartburn, and keep your vision healthy and strong. As far as your skin goes, aloe vera juice will definitely help it to maintain a proper level of moisture. As a bonus, it can also help to increase collagen production and improve elasticity in your skin.
Oh, if the thought of drinking aloe vera juice straight makes you slightly want to throw up in your mouth, take it from me that if you put a tablespoon in your juice or smoothie, you will hardly even notice that it’s there.
5. Up Your Water Intake
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Our bodies are made up of mostly water; so, of course, we need it. How much? For regular maintenance purposes, many health experts say that we, as women, can benefit from nine cups a day. If you want to shed a few pounds, 1-2 liters are recommended. And when it comes to dealing with menopause, in general, and avoiding dry skin that comes from it, at least do the bare minimum (although adding a couple of glasses of water to that would be ideal). The bottom line here is hydrate, hydrate, HYDRATE. If you want to get a leg up on menopausal skin, that’s gonna be how you do it best.
6. Take a Probiotic
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You’re gonna be hard-pressed to read something on gut health and not see a probiotic mentioned (check out “80% Of Your Immunity Is In Your Gut. Take Care Of It Like This.”). That’s because there is plenty of data out here to support that taking a probiotic can do wonders for keeping your intestinal health in great condition. Your skin will thrive off of a probiotic because, not only is it proven to decrease the amount of water that your skin loses, but it also helps to improve the quality of your skin too.
7. “Seal Your Skin” with Marula Oil
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If you want your skin to look as young as it possibly can, it’s always a good idea to look for products that contain a lot of antioxidants, essential fatty acids, and amino acids; one of those is marula oil (which is an oil that comes from marula fruit). In fact, one of the reasons why it gets a shout-out here is a lot of skincare experts recommend that you use it to “seal in moisture.” And since that is a great way to keep water in your skin (for longer) after taking a shower or bath, if you’re looking for the perfect oil to keep your skin feeling super soft and hydrated, hours after washing up, marula oil is one to keep in mind (plum oil is pretty bomb too, by the way).
8. Hyaluronic Acid Is Your Friend
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Over the past several months, something that I’ve been becoming more and more of a fan of is hyaluronic acid (check out “Why Your Skin, Hair, And Nails Need Hyaluronic Acid Like...Yesterday”). As far as menopause goes, it can actually help to naturally treat vaginal atrophy in postmenopausal women. Also, when it comes to your skin, since it actually has the ability to make it more flexible — well, that can make fine lines and wrinkles less of a visible issue.
9. Do Chemical Peels
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Last fall, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “I've Been Doing At-Home Chemical Peels. Here Are The Pros And Cons.” I did it because, ever since I started doing chemical peels, I’ve started to see a nice shift in both the appearance as well as the texture of my skin. Anyway, since fine lines and acne are two things that oftentimes come with menopausal skin (more on pimples in a bit), and that is just what chemical peels help to treat, applying them on a consistent basis could be a wise move. You can get a potent chemical peel from a skin professional, or you can do what I do and go the lighter route at home. I’ve had no regrets (other than not fully following the directions and getting a mild chemical burn on my face once in the beginning) since doing so.
10. Try CeraVe (No Joke)
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I can’t remember the last time that I watched television, and a doggone CeraVe commercial didn't come on at some point. Personally, I’ve never used any of the products before — I might consider it now, though. Apparently, “the ceramides in CeraVe” are exactly what our skin is longing for during perimenopause and menopause. Long story short, ceramides are the fats that are in our skin cells; they actually make up around 30-40 percent of the outer layers of our skin. And since you not only lose quite a bit of ceramides during menopause, their structure tends to change too — next time you’re at the store, picking up a CeraVe moisturizer certainly couldn’t hurt.
11. Do Research on “Menopausal Acne”
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It’s like it never ends. Lawd. Okay, so why in the world, would we as grown-ass women, end up with acne? The bottom line here is just like hormonal fluctuations can trigger breakouts in teenagers, pretty much the same thing can happen to us during perimenopause and menopause. From what I’ve read and researched, as far as how to treat it, you can do similar things that you did as an adolescent (if acne was an issue), including applying benzoyl peroxide and topical retinoids. Although, if you’ve never been to a dermatologist before, this may be the time to do it. They may be able to customize a skincare regimen that can make getting through this season of acne a lot easier for you.
12. Don’t Forget About Sunscreen
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Even though we’re more melanated than any other demographic (and I love that for us!), it is ridiculous to think that skin cancer cares about that. Know what else some of us need to let go of? The belief is that we only need protection from the sun during the summer months. Listen, so long as the sun is shining, rays are beaming, and they can ultimately damage our skin (even in the wintertime). And since menopause makes skin thinner, which ultimately means that it’s more vulnerable, you definitely need to make sunscreen a part of your daily skincare routine, now more than ever. You can check out a list of some of the best sunscreens for our complexion(s) here.
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Menopause skin prep. Chile, you ain’t gotta tell me — I’m right there with you, somewhere in perimenopause. Hopefully, this intel will make shifting into the transition easier to bear…so that “Black not cracking” can remain intact. Even during the seasons of (perimenopause) and menopause.
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