Music has hyped the cowgirl sex position forever and it's with good reason. In fact, had "Look Back At It" been released neoooow, Trina would've had people everywhere recording themselves for the 'gram trying to spin around and keep the d*ck inside. See the vision? #DaBaddestChallenge.
Call it overrated, but girl, riding is the one sex position that will no doubt have you come out on top or victorious, if you will. This is your moment to shine, leaving him with a temporary stammer brought on by the ill nana. It's your show, your rodeo, your time to shine. So you'll no doubt be center stage calling all the shots, which is far too infrequent when it comes to women in sex, us taking the reins that is.
Unlike many other positions, this one gives you more control, from the speed and angle to the depth which is necessary considering the way my cervix is set up (she's a lowrider). In other words, you're in control of everyone's pleasure. Including the quick access you have to your clitoris making it easier for you to play with. Once you get in a rhythm, you might not even mind that sweet, slow burn but either way, there is something for everybody. That said, we scooped up the best "cowgirl" positions that the internet has to offer to give you a good amount of options. After all, there are levels to this position.
Saddle up, ladies, you're in for the ride of your life, and with these 7 positions, you'll be doing all the driving.
Cowgirl Sex Positions
1.The Amazon Sex Position
This Amazon sex position allows you to slow stroke and grind your way to a climax as it stimulates the g-spot. To get in formation for this position, your partner will lie on his or her back while drawing their knees into the chest, feet straddled apart. While you will stand on your knees between his legs, slightly straddling your legs with your feet touching in a prayer-like pose. Once you're settled into position, your partner can rest his or her ankles on your butt while pulling you in deeper with their hands.
2.Sledge Sex Position
Sledge combines doggy style with girl on top in that it gives bae a full moon view of everything your mama gave you. Making it great for booty rubbing and grabbing. Here's how it works! Have your partner sit on a flat surface with their leg straight in front of them. You will sit on top of him, straddling your legs around him and lean low on your elbows or put your hands straight out in front of you. Once your comfortable, you know what to do.
3.The Lusty Lunge Sex Position
The Lusty Lunge is for the indecisive, or maybe you just value depth and clitoral stimulation. This variation of girl on top is simple. Your partner will lie on his back with his legs at an A-line and you will mirror that position while on top of them. You'll position yourself so that you're lying on your forearms, palms pressed flat to the bed and lift one leg 90 degrees. Once you've done all of the above, rest your foot on their thigh.
4.Backwards Cowgirl Sex Position
Backwards Cowgirl gives your partner a handful of you by providing easy access to your breasts. While your partner is in a seated position with their legs straight, you will straddle your legs around them and sit up on your knees, balance things out by placing your hands on his knees.
5.The Pinocchio Sex Position
The Pinocchio goes deep or deeper if you throw a pillow in the mix. But for starters, all you need to do is hop in a squat over your partner while they're lying down. Your squat should be you getting your eagle on, but plant your hands on their chest. Now get it, girl.
6.Aries Sex Position
With Aries, you will do almost exactly what you did in Sledge (see slide #2), with a few exceptions. Your partner's legs will be slightly raised and while you're straddled across them facing forward, you will balance by placing your hands shoulder length apart from your knees. Clinch his body with your feet and go at your own leisure.
7.Side Saddle Sex Position
Side Saddle is the move those old, classic movies always talk about. They would say "ladies" ride side saddle, but you know the rule of thumb, a lady in the street, freak in the sheets, so rest assured there's nothing ladylike about this position. Your partner will lie on a flat surface with his feet planted firmly on the ground while you sit on his groin area in a squat with your knees together. Place your hand on his lap for stability and bounce up and down on the d*ck. You can also execute side saddle while your partner sits in a chair or on the edge of the bed. You will face sideways so that your partner is facing your cheek. Pressing your legs together, you will ride off in the sunset stroking your favorite horse.
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One new fun fact we learned was that Nicole was married and Boris was also in a relationship. That didn’t bother Boris though because when you know, you know.
“It started getting tricky when the second year, second season [of Soul Food], I think, when the whole entire crew was over us. The whole crew was like, ‘Y’all mfs, you better get that together because we know. Are you guys blind?’”
He went on to say, “Then one day I walked in a trailer and I said to her, ‘By the way, we are gonna be married with two kids one day.’ And I just walked out. That didn’t go over very well. She was mad. She was mad for three weeks. But think about it—why was she mad though? Why was she mad? Because she was right. If it was just a joke to her, she would’ve just laughed and moved on.”
They decided to take a break from each other over the summer after Soul Food wrapped. But the universe had other plans, just two weeks later, they found themselves working together again on the set of Brown Sugar in New York.
Together, they’ve navigated parenthood, launched business ventures, and become advocates for health and wellness, all while keeping their connection strong. Their journey is a beautiful reminder that true love thrives on teamwork, trust, and a shared vision for the future.
The 'Soul Food' cast members in 2000: Darrin Henson, Rockmond Dunbar, (back row) Boris Kodjoe, Nicole Ari Parker, Vanessa Williams, (middle row) Malinda Williams and Aaron Meeks (foreground)
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2000:
First Meeting: Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe met on the set of the Showtime series Soul Food, where they played on-screen love interests. Their chemistry both on- and off-screen sparked a real-life romance. During his interview with Jemele Hill, he said, “When I first got there, I was the newbie. It was my first job. Super excited, super nervous. And she was unbelievable—actress on stage, movies, TV, everything. But she really embraced me. She was super nice to me. I remember that—super heartwarming and nice.”
He continued, “She really helped me a lot—breaking down the scripts, explaining to me what was going on. I had a million questions. When I read the script, half the stuff I didn’t understand, right? Because there were colloquialisms, there were references to old TV shows that I’d never seen in my life. So I would always come to her and ask her about certain things that I was supposed to say, and I didn’t know what it meant.”
2005:
Engagement: Boris proposed to Nicole, marking a significant step in their relationship.
Marriage: The couple tied the knot on May 21, 2005, in an intimate ceremony in Gundelfingen, Germany, Boris's homeland. Kodjoe and Parker exchanged vows in his hometown of Gundelfingen, Germany, in 2005 at a 900-year-old venue. They told People, “We walked from the church to his Oma's house, and it was literally like we were Hansel and Gretel. I thought I was in a storybook.” The newlyweds arrived at the church in a horse and carriage donning traditional German garb.
First Child: The couple welcomed their first child, Sophie Tei-Naaki Lee Kodjoe, who was born with spina bifida. Her condition inspired their advocacy for health awareness.
2006:
Advocacy Work: Boris and Nicole became active in raising awareness about spina bifida and supporting families with children who have special needs. “We have gone through so many different emotional levels with Sophie,” Boris told PEOPLE. “We had the fear of her dying to paralysis. All kinds of different monsters attacked us.” The couple's personal journey led them to establish the Sophie's Voice Foundation.
The organization's mission is to increase awareness about spina bifida and generate financial support for a groundbreaking new surgical procedure trial.
2007:
Second Child: Their son, Nicolas Neruda Kodjoe, was born, completing their family. In 2015, Boris celebrated his baby boy on Instagram saying, “You brighten up the sky for us every single day. When God sought me out to be your dad he blessed me with so much love and light. I'm honored and excited to be in your presence and to witness the evolution of Nico.”
2010s:
Power Couple Status: Nicole and Boris became known as a Hollywood power couple, balancing their thriving careers with family life and public appearances. They often shared insights into their marriage and parenting on social media and in interviews. The Real House Husbands of Hollywood alum shared this advice, “[Treat] your wife like she's still your girlfriend. You have to water the plant every day, not just once a week. [Give her] surprises, little gifts, notes, texts, flowers. Just little things, but do them consistently."
Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe in 2010.
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2015:
10th Wedding Anniversary: The couple celebrated a decade of marriage, frequently sharing their gratitude for each other in public forums.
To celebrate, Nicole shared a love letter in German (that we have translated in English) to her forever love:
You are EVERYTHING
Corinthians said it would be.
Patient
Kind
Free of envy
Does not boast
Humble
Not easily angered
Keeping no record of wrongs.
You protect, trust and persevere.
You are EVERYTHING your fans think you are.
Ridiculously fine.
With clothes.
Without.
Takes care of his kids.
Good to his wife.
Respects his Mama.
Handles his business.
You are EVERYTHNG I ever hoped for
Strong.
Deep.
Kind.
Connected to his Spirit.
Funny.
Smells good. (heyy)
Travel companion
Focused on what matters.
Provider.
Good father.
King.
Together we have filled a decade with
Laughter and adventure,
Tears and trials,
Kids and chaos,
Deep connections and communication breakdowns,
Fried Chicken and schnitzel…
Holding each other up and having each other’s back all along the way.
I am so blessed to call you my husband for these past 10 years
and I am so ready for 10 more.
Truly, Madly, Deeply, Your Nicole.
2018:
Fitness Venture: Nicole and Boris launched KOFIT, a wellness app focused on fitness and healthy living, showcasing their shared passion for holistic health. Nicole and Boris Kodjoe's fitness app aims to help families prioritize health and wellness without sacrificing precious time. The app offers quick and easy exercises and meditations that can be completed in as little as five minutes per day, making it accessible for busy families.
The app features instructional videos led by the fit couple themselves, along with contributions from Boris' brother Pat, a certified personal trainer, and his wife, a seasoned yoga practitioner. The Kodjoe-Parker children also make appearances in the app, adding a fun and engaging element for families to enjoy together.
2019:
In a 2019 interview with PEOPLE, Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe expressed their admiration for each other. “He's exactly who his persona is, kind, loves being a husband and father. An incredible human being who thinks of others. He's just authentically good.” Boris added, "She's drop-dead, smashingly gorgeous and sexy. She's intelligent. She's confident. The fact that she's so comfortable with who she is, that to me is everything."
Nicole Ari Parker, Boris Kodjoe, and family in 2019.
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2020:
Lockdown Life: During the COVID-19 pandemic, the couple’s humorous social media posts about their relationship resonated with fans. Nicole jokingly complained about Boris not flirting with her, sparking a viral discussion about romance in long-term marriages.
2022:
Marriage Wisdom: They shared their secrets with Ebonyto keeping the spark alive in their relationship after nearly two decades, emphasizing communication, mutual respect, and adaptability. The couple attributes “kissing for no reason, surprise daycations, and spiritual check-ins” as tried-and-true tips for keeping the fire alive in your relationship throughout all of the chaos.
2023:
In February 2023, the couple revitalized Gymwrap, Parker's athleisure brand. Originally conceived by the actress years prior as a solution for workout headbands, the brand has since expanded under Parker and Kodjoe's leadership to include a wider range of accessories, jackets, tops, and leggings.
"I admire her and her brain for how creative she is and the ideas that she comes up with. I'm in awe when I just watch her navigate these kinds of environments," Boris shared with PEOPLE. The family collaborated to relaunch the brand, with Sophie contributing her production and photography skills.
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