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A $2K Sex Toy Gave Me The Ride (& The Orgasm) Of My Life
Historically, vibrators have come a long way in their use and design. They went from creepy looking contraptions used to treat women of hysteria (imagine being so "sick" you're ordered to a day of orgasms) to cute little devices that camouflage with your office decor and yet, still they pack the almighty gift of orgasm.
Ironically, the advances in technology have moved us away from bulky, outlet operated toys, and because history loves to repeat itself, taken us right back in the direction with more potential than ever as we hear about human-like sex robots on the rise and the innovation of modern sex machines such as the Cowgirl — a $2,000 product.
The Cowgirl Sex Toyridethecowgirl.com
I'm careful not to call it a sex toy, as I'd hate to give the wrong idea with a price tag like that. I operate on a "you break it, you buy it" motto and I wouldn't want anyone to pay the steep price for breaking this bad boy. Although, I'm not entirely positive you could ...even if you tried. But, I digress. The sex machine was brought to my attention as I shopped for new products for my own company.
It immediately caught my eye because how could it not with all the makings of a deconstructed mechanical bull made from vegan leather?
Curious as ever, I knew as much as I loved my little handheld bullet, I'd live to regret it if I let this moment get away from me, so I requested a ride on the Cowgirl.
Although I don't typically enjoy the cowgirl position because of the confidence it takes to man the man and the burnout it causes in my thighs, I gladly accepted the challenge with no one in my presence.
When I met the package on my porch, I was enthusiastic to get it inside, and admittedly it looked a lot scarier to put together than it actually was. All I saw was cords, springs, and directions before nearly melting down in discouragement. After a nap and a second glance, I realized there wasn't a damn thing to put together, just a plug to plug and those were in fact extra pieces.
Realizing I had the temper of an impatient toddler, I gave the Cowgirl a quick ride and decided to come back to it another day as I wasn't feeling it. And, as always being in the mood sure does help! A couple days later, when I saddled up on the Cowgirl, I looked for pointers from those who came before me (pun fully intended) and decided to throw the mule of a toy on my bed instead of on the floor, where I initially tried it. Because I have a memory foam mattress, my first thought was that it would sink, but there was none of that. Not to mention, it muffled the lite bulldozer-like sounds coming out of my bedroom while it sat on something softer.
After five minutes and an extra drop of lube on the Wildwest silicone attachment, which is a four-inch phallic shaped piece, I confirmed that this piece wasn't for me and tossed it aside. It was really unpleasurable, even when I tried adding the spring for additional movement. There was something so awkward and uncomfortable about this piece that it made me think reverse cowgirl was the solution -- clearly not. However, poorly my experience went, I was optimistic and ready for the Rawhide silicone attachment to show and prove.
The Rawhide attachment is a little nub of a piece that provides clitoral stimulation, my personal fave and long story short: it did not disappoint. Unlike the phallic piece, there is not an rotary option.
Now, due to the impatience that I previously mentioned, my everyday vibrator tends to stay on the highest speed; obviously with a toy like this all that's not necessarily necessary, so again, I started low and worked my way up. And although each vibration was intense, they should certainly throw a disclaimer on everything from five to ten (yes ten!) where I literally rained puddles all over my damn bed.
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On a serious note, I will say that in the same way that you have to find your style when sitting cowgirl on your man -- you have to do so with this toy. For me, I felt more intensity in the earlier vibration paces when I sat upright, but as the intensity increased, I leaned into my straddle on my forearms. The only problem with this was that I would continuously lean on the cord attached to the remote and accidentally, but abruptly, cause the machine to cut off.
At this point, I quickly sanc my phone to the sex machine to ensure nothing else got in the way of the orgasmic warpath I was on and perhaps it was a placebo of sorts but when the machine came back on, my orgasms came in faster and stronger than before. The more likely reason is that I was left to orgasm without the disruption of the remote getting unplugged again, right? Whatever the reason is, the cordless option is the way to go if you're working with it and it can also be connected to a site called Feel Me that allows distant lovers to control the action.
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For what it's worth, the product requires a little TLC, as in you have to play around with it to see what's comfortable for you, and it's probably safe to say that finding that sweet spot is a process with any new toy. Nonetheless, for however good it is once you do find that sweet spot, it's also the down payment on a small car that you can real life ride so I'm not sure I'd be willing to come out of pocket like that to get off. But for those of you who aren't starving grad students and your pockets run deep, read just one last thing:
I've often said that sex with myself has proven to be better than my infrequent experiences with men because my pleasure is a priority and that alone makes me a superior f*ck.
In hindsight and after much evaluation, after taking the ride of my life, the only thing I regret about this sentiment is that I didn't have anyone to make me a sandwich afterwards.
You. Won't. Regret. It.
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Motor City native, Atlanta living. Sagittarius. Writer. Sexpert. Into all things magical, mystical, and unknown. I'll try anything at least once but you knew that the moment I revealed that I was a Sag.
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UnPrisonedhas returned for its highly anticipated second season, delving deeper into the complex dynamics of the Alexander family.
The series premiere comes a year after its debut season garnered rave reviews from fans and critics and earned record-breaking ratings for Hulu's Onyx Collective brand. UnPrisoned's success can be attributed to its raw, relatable themes and comedic appeal.
Inspired by creator Tracy McMillan's life, the show follows Paige (Kerry Washington), a therapist and single mother whose life takes an unexpected turn when her father, Edwin (Delroy Lindo) --who was released from prison-- moves in with her and her teenage son, Finn (Faly Rakotohavana).
Throughout UnPrisoned's first season, viewers witnessed how Edwin's incarceration deeply affected Paige's life and relationships. In the series, Paige unpacks her trauma through interactions with her inner child and her online followers. Meanwhile, Edwin is overcoming specific struggles with his own past that led to his life of crime, including a dysfunctional upbringing and his mother's arrest. As the Alexanders attempt to reconcile, new challenges arise.
This new season promises to further explore their unconventional family dynamic. Here are several compelling reasons why season two of UnPrisoned should be on everyone's watchlist.
The Alexander Family Life Is Still In Shambles
UnPrisoned's second season resumes where the series left off, with Paige grappling with the fallout from her troubled therapy practice and Edwin navigating life independently after moving out. Meanwhile, Finn faces his own challenges. The teenager is battling anxiety and seeking information about his father—a topic Paige avoids discussing.
The Alexander Family Are Attending Therapy To Resolve Their Underlying Issues
Amid the chaos in their lives, the Alexander family decides to mend their bond by confronting their past traumas. They seek professional help and attend therapy sessions with a “family radical healing coach,” played by John Stamos, a new cast member. This collective effort aims to unravel the complexities of their shared history and strengthen their relationships.
The process of unraveling each character's internal conflicts and their potential impact on future relationships may clash with Paige's textbook therapy approach. While Paige is used to being in the therapist's seat in both career and family, this forces her into the unfamiliar role of a patient during therapy sessions. This shift would compel her to look in the mirror and try a radically different approach.
The Alexander Family Learned A Big Lesson During A Therapy Session
In therapy, the Alexanders are tasked with addressing their individual traumas to salvage their remaining relationships. One of the family therapist’s eccentric suggestions was an exercise involving a family wrestling match. During this session, Paige faces tough questions about her refusal to share information about Finn's father.
While it's unclear whether this scene is reality or fantasy, the image of the family duking it out in the ring certainly makes for hilarious yet compelling television.
Paige Tries Dating Again Following Failed Relationships
Amid her life's chaos, Paige decides to step back into the dating field. However, her many attempts have left her with mixed results. The dating apps have turned out to be a fail, and an outing with her ex Mal (Marque Richardson), who is also her father's parole officer, doesn’t go quite as expected after he brings an unexpected guest – his new girlfriend.
The situation takes an awkward turn when Mal's new partner learns why the former couple split, partly due to Paige's self-sabotage.
UnPrisoned Is A Perfect Balance Of Comedy And Drama
As a dramedy, UnPrisoned takes a comedic approach to its heavy subjects. The show takes us on a ride with Paige's dating misadventures and navigating a friendship with her ex.
Other lighthearted moments include Edwin's attempts at CPR based on online videos and, of course, the antics of the Alexander family's unconventional new healing coach.
The second season of UnPrisoned is now available on Hulu.
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Blair Underwood Initially Turned Down 'Sex And The City' Because 'It Was About How Samantha Was Fascinated By Dating A Black Man’
Actor and heartthrob Blair Underwood is opening up about why he turned down Sex and the City the first time he was offered a role. Many fans of the HBO series may recall Blair's time on the show in which his character was dating Miranda (Cynthia Nixon). However, he was previously offered another role where his character would date Samantha (Kim Cattrall).
During his interview with AV Club, the Set It Off star revealed that he was uncomfortable with the initial offer due to the character's fascination with him being a Black man.
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But that didn't stop them from reaching out again. This time he was offered to play Dr. Robert Leeds, the love interest to Miranda and he decided to go for it. "So they were nice enough to call about a year later, and I said, 'Well, is it gonna be about race?' And they said, 'No, no, no, we’re not even gonna mention race!' And I think it really did only come up maybe once," he recalled.
"It did five episodes, and I think Samantha mentioned it once, saying something about 'a Black doctor' that Miranda was dating. And that’s really been a consistent thing in my career: not wanting to be boxed as 'the Black guy.'
"I’ve had that conversation with many producers along the way, and they were so great. They said, 'No, he’s just a doctor who Miranda meets in the elevator, and they have a nice little fling.' And it was amazing."
Blair has had a wide-ranging career playing everything from a lawyer on L.A. Law to playing Madame CJ Walker's husband on Self Made: Inspired by the Life of Madame CJ Walker. And during his interview, he revealed another role that he initially turned down, Set It Off. The movie, which is considered a classic in Black culture, stars Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett Smith, Vivica A. Fox, and Kimberly Elise. Blair's character, Keith, played a banker and love interest to Jada's character, Stony.
He explained why he said no at first and eventually accepted the offer. "I had initially said “no” to that. Because I was playing this historic, iconic African-American historical figure in Jackie Robinson, and the time, y’know, there was Boyz N The Hood, and Menace II Society was out there, and I’d finished playing this noble Negro… [Laughs]," he said.
"And I’m reading the script, and there’s a scene where Jada Pinkett’s character—Jada Pinkett-Smith now—was going to sell her body so she could make some money to send her brother to college. And I remember, honestly, I threw the script across the room. I was, like, “I don’t want to do this. I want to do something uplifting for the Black culture and Black characters, and I don’t know if I want to see this.”
After a conversation with the movie's director F. Gary Gray and the actor's manager encouraging him to finish reading the script, Blair had a change of heart. What he first thought about the movie turned out to be totally different.
"So I finished the script, and I saw that the character they were asking me to play was really the love story in the midst of all of this turmoil of all of these characters, the four ladies: Queen Latifah, Vivica Fox, Kimberly Elise, and Jada," he explained.
"It was so well-written, it was such a great platform for them. And to be able to play the love story and the storyline that gave Jada’s character a leg up and a way out of this world, something to hope for, to wish for, someone to love her… I said, 'You know what? I’d like to be a part of that.'
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