5 Go-To Positions For When Your Partner Is Well-Endowed
I've come to the conclusion that big dick (and I mean actual big-girthy-dick) is not for everyone. If the dick is too big, I'm running and not in the "home run" hit it sense. But there are living legends out there who speak of riding big dick like the stallion that it is and I have to believe that position, patience, and did I mention "positions" have everything to do with it. Big dick is nawt for the faint of heart but sometimes you meet one that you just can't resist. Because this is so, I reached out to my network of big dick whisperers to find out what positions are best and most comfortable for you to truly take it all in. These were the positions that polled the highest and most pleasurable.
Keep in mind, comfort and pleasure are two subjective measurements so what's for some isn't for all and with that in mind I'll try to add modifications when possible because I'm already scuffing at some of the poor decisions of these people. But I digress and give you the keys to channel the ebbs and flows of big dick energy.
Missionary
We all know what missionary is, but it must be said that this position catches a bad rap. Mostly because it's the alleged marker of a vanilla sex life and it is pretty vanilla -- nonetheless even vanilla can be spiced up with a topping or two. So I'd much rather view missionary as the base, where one might start but you can stack on to it and, best of all, you can slow stroke in it -- making it ideal for the slow stroke and grind.
Doggie Style
Finding this out took me back a bit because I've always been under the impression that this is the one move you want to avoid and I'm still under that impression. But I suppose I wasn't specific in my research -- nowhere did I ask for positions that might minimize pain with a highly hung man. And, it's also very possible that you can control penetration through doggy style by decreasing the amount of ass you're throwing back. Nonetheless, I'm going to alter this as my research shows that it's standing doggy style that will change ya life for the better while getting the good-good.
Cowgirl
This position is popular and always pushed as the best way for women to take control of sex and the dick depth they're taking in. It works because you've got the reins up top and can adjust your angles, how far down you're coming, and much more.
Alternatively, try reverse cowgirl for even more resistance on how far you're coming down.
Plank
This position is classic for a number of reasons. It can be super intimate or super impersonal, depending on people behind the pose. But it's also a great position for inching your way into deeper penetration and also allows you to resist deeper penetration by clenching your cheeks. Should you take the more intimate approach, which could entail some back kisses and whatnot, it has been shown through research that kisses can decrease pain.
Spoon
In my experience, the spoon position is perfect because it forces your partner to dole out dick given that the bed puts a bit of friction in your motion. You can start spooning and turn things out to something more exciting once you've adjusted and feel comfortable.
In addition to being mindful of your positioning when dealing with a hung-hung man, you should gloss it up with lube. Please, don't yell at me about you needing nothing because we can all use an assist and lube is that -- lube is your friend. After all, the wetter, the better! So lube it up in order to reduce the friction. And, those are just basic pleasure principles.
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Motor City native, Atlanta living. Sagittarius. Writer. Sexpert. Into all things magical, mystical, and unknown. I'll try anything at least once but you knew that the moment I revealed that I was a Sag.
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Rihanna Talks Shedding Expectations And Finding Balance As A Mother
Since becoming a mother in 2022, Rihanna has defined parenthood by her terms and hopes to pass that sense of autonomy on to her children.
For Vogue China’s April cover story, Rihanna shared her perspective on raising her two sons with A$AP Rocky, and how she hopes to preserve her children’s uniqueness, devoid of societal expectations.
"The most beautiful thing...is that [children] come into the world with their own individuality and sincerity, without any logic or conformity,” she told the publication. “Which usually makes you feel that you must fit into a certain group."
The “Work” artist, known for her trendsetting style and captivating persona, expressed her desire to support children in fully embracing their individuality and encouraging them to be whoever they want to be. "It's really beautiful to see and I want to continue to help them navigate that and make sure that they know they can be whoever they want to be,” she says.
She continues, “They should embrace it completely, because it's beautiful, and it's unique. I love them just that way."
From shattering music charts to shaking up the beauty industry, Rihanna has forged a path that has since created the “dream” life we see today. One that she says has made her parents proud of.
“I’m living my dream,” she continued. “My parents were very proud of that because they just wanted me to be happy and successful. So, I think the key thing is to find some kind of balance. Yes, balance is important. Do this and you get the best of both worlds. You can write your own life the way you want, and it will be beautiful. Sometimes, you just need to let go of everyone’s expectations and start living your own story.”
Rihanna, who shares sons, RZA, 23 months, and Riot, 8 months, with rapper A$AP Rocky, recently shared her vision for expanding her family in the future in Interview Magazine.
When stylist Mel Ottenberg asked about the number of additional children she hoped to have, Rihanna replied, "As many as God wants me to have.”
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