5 Go-To Positions For When Your Partner Is Well-Endowed
I've come to the conclusion that big dick (and I mean actual big-girthy-dick) is not for everyone. If the dick is too big, I'm running and not in the "home run" hit it sense. But there are living legends out there who speak of riding big dick like the stallion that it is and I have to believe that position, patience, and did I mention "positions" have everything to do with it. Big dick is nawt for the faint of heart but sometimes you meet one that you just can't resist. Because this is so, I reached out to my network of big dick whisperers to find out what positions are best and most comfortable for you to truly take it all in. These were the positions that polled the highest and most pleasurable.
Keep in mind, comfort and pleasure are two subjective measurements so what's for some isn't for all and with that in mind I'll try to add modifications when possible because I'm already scuffing at some of the poor decisions of these people. But I digress and give you the keys to channel the ebbs and flows of big dick energy.
Missionary
We all know what missionary is, but it must be said that this position catches a bad rap. Mostly because it's the alleged marker of a vanilla sex life and it is pretty vanilla -- nonetheless even vanilla can be spiced up with a topping or two. So I'd much rather view missionary as the base, where one might start but you can stack on to it and, best of all, you can slow stroke in it -- making it ideal for the slow stroke and grind.
Doggie Style
Finding this out took me back a bit because I've always been under the impression that this is the one move you want to avoid and I'm still under that impression. But I suppose I wasn't specific in my research -- nowhere did I ask for positions that might minimize pain with a highly hung man. And, it's also very possible that you can control penetration through doggy style by decreasing the amount of ass you're throwing back. Nonetheless, I'm going to alter this as my research shows that it's standing doggy style that will change ya life for the better while getting the good-good.
Cowgirl
This position is popular and always pushed as the best way for women to take control of sex and the dick depth they're taking in. It works because you've got the reins up top and can adjust your angles, how far down you're coming, and much more.
Alternatively, try reverse cowgirl for even more resistance on how far you're coming down.
Plank
This position is classic for a number of reasons. It can be super intimate or super impersonal, depending on people behind the pose. But it's also a great position for inching your way into deeper penetration and also allows you to resist deeper penetration by clenching your cheeks. Should you take the more intimate approach, which could entail some back kisses and whatnot, it has been shown through research that kisses can decrease pain.
Spoon
In my experience, the spoon position is perfect because it forces your partner to dole out dick given that the bed puts a bit of friction in your motion. You can start spooning and turn things out to something more exciting once you've adjusted and feel comfortable.
In addition to being mindful of your positioning when dealing with a hung-hung man, you should gloss it up with lube. Please, don't yell at me about you needing nothing because we can all use an assist and lube is that -- lube is your friend. After all, the wetter, the better! So lube it up in order to reduce the friction. And, those are just basic pleasure principles.
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Motor City native, Atlanta living. Sagittarius. Writer. Sexpert. Into all things magical, mystical, and unknown. I'll try anything at least once but you knew that the moment I revealed that I was a Sag.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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I Tried Beyoncé's Haircare Line CÉCRED & Here's My Honest Review
Beyoncé is snatching our wallets yet again with her latest business venture CÉCRED. In 2023, the Texas native hinted at a potential haircare line when she posted this photo causing fans to speculate that her next project would be focused on her famous tresses - they were right. Her haircare line Cécred launched on February 20 with her first drop called The Foundation Collection which focuses on haircare first, and I can only assume that a style product line for colored-treated hair will likely follow since Beyoncé is known for slaying various shades of blonde.
As a super fan since the early 2000s, it was only right that I give an honest review of the full line and purchase the Super Fan Bundle (retailed at $265) which includes the full product line of the 8 products, as well as a branded cosmetic bag. If you’re thinking, “Girl that bundle is too pricey for me,” I can assure you that for the value you're getting, the price is quite reasonable. This bundle was an intentional and marketable way to allow consumers to experience every Cécred product.
The brand messaging surrounding Cécred has been salon-inspired, and rightfully so as an ode to Beyoncé’s upbringing growing up in her mother’s hair salon in Houston. This line is backed by science and licensed cosmetologists showing that she’s done her research and appointed the experts. Cécred's IG feed has been filled with images and videos inside of hair salons including some videos of Ms. Tina herself assisting in the styling of beauty experts who visited Cécred's private salon to have the VIP treatment!
Now, have I seen influencers, consumers, and beauty stylists using the Foundation Collection at home? Yes, but I thought it was best to experience Cécred with my go-to cosmetologist who also happens to be my Auntie Tawana. She has been my educator and go-to for hair knowledge since I was a child and has had a hand in my mom's hair health which has always been goals for me. As a little girl, my Saturdays were spent sitting in her hair salon while my mama got her hair done as I patiently waited reading Jet and ESSENCE, ever so carefully eavesdropping on the conversations of the ladies who were coming for much more than just a beauty routine, but an experience.
I’d fall asleep on the plush couch in the waiting area flipping through magazines while listening to the sultry sounds of Maxwell. And I had my first lesson in breakup empowerment when I heard Sunshine Anderson’s “Heard It All Before.” So there was no other place for me to go than to see her, and because I’m her niece, I was able to visit her private salon in her home that she calls The After Hours where upon arrival I was greeted with my favorite Black-owned sparkling Rosé, candles lit, and my aunt’s breakdown of Cécred.
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But let me refocus and share my salon experience as I tried Cécred for the first time.
If You’re Wondering…Who is Cécred For?
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When news of Beyoncé potentially launching a beauty brand hit the internet, there were a bunch of predictions of what and who the line would be marketed towards and if she’d have any wig care products as she’s known for slaying her units! But she went in a totally different direction which I love, and I’m going to tell you why. Critics have questioned if Beyoncé should be venturing into the haircare industry because she is often seen in weaves and wigs, but true Beyoncé fans know that she has healthy hair and that, like many Black women, experiments with various styles.
Cécred was created for all hair types and textures, including straight to coily, virgin, color-treated, chemically processed, and heat-styled. As a Black woman who has worn wigs, had chemically processed hair, heat-styled, natural, and color-treated hair, let me tell you, this was no easy feat! The amount of money I’ve spent on my hair through its various changes just on product alone, forget styling has been astronomical.
Cécred is serving the needs of various hair types in textures and I truly believe that this is going to make Beyoncé a true competitor in the hair industry amongst brands that are comparable such as OUAI and Olaplex. Both competitor brands have similar items at a higher price point and unlike Cécred, their products and brand messaging haven’t always felt inclusive to Black women and other hair types.
Cécred has been tested inclusively and the reviews from various hair types and backgrounds of consumers are allowing the brand to stand out.
I Tried Beyoncé's Haircare Line Cécred: My Honest Review
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My hair has never felt cleaner and it shined for well over a week following the styling (but the oil should be used sparingly if like me, oil can weigh down your hair.) Immediately when my hair touched the sink, my aunt told me that she saw all the dirt and oils lifting from my hair when she applied the clarifying shampoo. As a girl who loves my curls, I am often judgy when I use any other shampoo and conditioner aside from Pattern, but not this time.
When my aunt guided my hands across my hair, she showed me how my curls weren’t tangled, and how she didn’t need to comb out my curls before applying the moisturizing deep conditioner or the deconstructing treatment mask.
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She applied each step with care and walked me through the process, and to my surprise, the hair mask wasn’t thick - but through trial and error as a natural girl, I’ve learned that a thick mask doesn’t always equal what’s best for your hair. She styled me with a silk press that left my hair with shine and I can honestly say that each step of the line is needed especially if you are someone who changes up your hair and deals with breakage. If your hair is healthy, you can opt out of the reconstructing treatment mask but I recommend taking the product line to your salon, having a discussion with your stylist on where your hair health needs improvement, and then purchasing based on that.
We know ourselves better than anyone else, but your stylist knows your hair better than you do. I like to lead with their knowledge first and then incorporate what my hair goals are. If you’re a girly who’s committed to hair health and has either the discipline to incorporate each step at home or can bring your products to the salon, Cécred is for you no matter if you’re a silk press or a wash-and-go naturalist.
Give Cécred a try, I’ll be using the line for my hair appointments until it runs out and if I see long-term results, it will be added to the beauty regimen indefinitely.
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