As I scrolled down my TikTok feed, I couldn't help but realize how sex-positive the app has become. TikTok has been one of the hottest social media platforms in recent years. Not only has it become a hub for dance challenges and lip-syncing videos, but it's also turned into the ultimate destination for discovering the latest sex trends.
From new sex positions to creative techniques, the platform offers a plethora of steamy ideas to keep things fresh in the bedroom. TikTok is definitely the go-to platform for sex-positive content. So, let's dive in and explore six sex trends on TikTok.
1.Egg Yolk Technique
TikTok is full of bizarre sex tips, but this one isn’t as bizarre as the name suggests. The 'egg yolk method' is a sex trend on TikTok that is helping men learn about the vulva. In a video posted by Kayla Christine, "How men should be taught.” Kayla is seen gently massaging the egg yolk in a slow circular motion before she presses a little harder and ends up splitting the yolk right down the middle. With the egg yolk representing the vulva, Kayla emphasizes the importance of applying just the right amount of pressure to it.
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The Coconut Challenge has made its return to social media thanks to a viral TikTok video by rapper Cardi B. The trend actually started on TikTok back in 2019 and refers to a technique where, during sex, one partner tries to spell out the word “C-O-C-O-N-U-T” with their hips.
In a TikTok video, the rapper mentions Megan Thee Stallion, “going to do the coconut challenge on the d***,” which has inspired people to talk about the challenge again.
3.The Sex Pillow Hack
Another trending sex topic currently on TikTok is the sex pillow hack. The sex tip involves putting a pillow under your pelvic area during vaginal and anal sex to increase pleasure. Using a pillow under your hips during penetrative sex can shift the angle at which penetration happens slightly.
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The four-minute foreplay technique is another TikTok trend that can spice up the bedroom. Basically, all you do is set a timer and take turns with your partner to pleasure them until it goes off. While this might not seem all that groundbreaking, four minutes of foreplay can be beneficial because it builds arousal, anticipation, and excitement. All of which are important, particularly for women, because being sufficiently aroused prior to sexual intercourse helps women to reach orgasms.
5.Ankles As Earrings
There’s a saying that goes, “There is nothing new under the sun,” and the 'ankles as earrings' technique proves just that. Depending on who you ask, the 'ankles as earrings' is a new sex position on TikTok that essentially is a modified missionary position. Basically, one individual is lying on their back with their legs propped up on their partner's shoulders. Users on TikTok claim the position can make you orgasm in minutes because it leads to deeper penetration.
#stitch with @nurse.ria11
Sex advice TikToker Nurse Ria posted a TikTok claiming that pressing down on a woman’s stomach during sex can help stimulate the G-spot. Applying pressure to the G-spot, located on the front wall of the vagina, can stimulate the nerve endings and increase pleasure for the woman. Using the pad of your finger, press gently but firmly downward in a "come hither" motion.
TikTok is more than just a platform for dance videos and lip-syncing; it's a space for creative self-expression and exploration, which now includes sex trends. By embracing inclusivity, education, kink, and sexual wellness, TikTok is revolutionizing the way we talk and think about sex. As the conversations surrounding sexuality continue to evolve, it's exciting to see where TikTok will take us next.
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From Monogamy To Polyamory: 'I'm In An Asexual Poly Marriage With My Husband Of 7 Years'
Have you ever wondered what it's like to be asexual and in an open marriage? Relationship Coach Mikki Bey shared her first-hand experience with us as well as answered some of our burning questions.
Like a lot of people, Mikki met her now husband, Raheem Ali, online. As soon as they met, they instantly fell in love and got engaged on their first date. Just 90 days after they met, the couple tied the knot and have now been married for seven years. Raheem and Mikki aren’t your typical married couple, and despite being married for almost a decade, their marriage is anything but traditional. Mikki and Raheem have what she calls an "asexual polyamorous marriage."
Defining Her Sexuality
It wasn't until last summer that Mikki found the language to define her sexuality. "I didn't have the language for it until last summer," she explained to xoNecole. "Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing.”
Mikki always thought she was broken because she had no interest in sex. Mikki noticed after her friends came to visit and started discussing their sexual fantasies that she realized something was different about her. “At that point, I knew something was definitely different about me since I do not have sexual fantasies at all. It was truly news to me that people are at work thinking about sex! That was not my experience.” This led to Mikki researching asexuality, which she soon realized fit her to a T. “It felt like breathing new air when I was able to call it by name," said Mikki.
"Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing it."
Asexuality refers to people who experience little or no sexual attraction, experience attraction without acting on it sexually, or experience sexual attraction differently based on other factors. Like most things, asexuality falls on a spectrum and encompasses many other identities. It's important to remember, however, that attraction and action are not always synonymous: some asexuals may reject the idea of sexual contact, but others may be sex-neutral and engage in sexual activity.
It's possible that some asexuals will have sex with someone else despite not having a libido or masturbating, but others will have sex with a partner because it brings a sense of connection.
From a Traditional Marriage to Kitchen Table Polyamory
Although Mikki never really had a high sex drive, it wasn’t until after the birth of her son, that she noticed her sex drive took a real nosedive. “I never had a high sex drive, but about a year after my son was born, I realized I had zero desire. My husband has a high sex drive, and I knew that it would not be sustainable to not have sex in our marriage at that time.”
She was determined to find an alternative to divorce and stumbled upon a polyamory conversation on Clubhouse. Upon doing her own research, she brought up the idea to their husband, who was receptive. “It’s so interesting to me that people weigh sex so heavily in relationships when even if you are having a ton of sex, it’s still a very small percentage of the relationship activity," Mikki shared.
They chose polyamory because Mikki still wanted to be married, but she also wanted to make sure that Raheem was getting his individual needs and desires met, even if that meant meeting them with someone else. “I think that we have been programmed to think that our spouses need to be our 'everything.' We do not operate like that. There is no one way that fits all when it comes to relationships, despite what society may try to tell you. Their path to doing this thing called life together may be different from yours, but they found what works for them. We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us,” Mikki explained.
"We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us. We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sex partners to lifetime partners if it should go there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it."
She continued, “We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sexual partners to lifetime partners if it should get there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it. Our dynamic is parallel with kitchen table poly aspirations.”
Kitchen table polyamory (KTP) is a polyamorous relationship in which all participants are on friendly terms enough to share a meal at the kitchen table. Basically, it means you have some form of relationship with your partner’s other partner, whether as a group or individually. A lot of times, KTP relationships are highly personal and rooted in mutual respect, communication, and friendship.
Intimacy in an Asexual Polyamorous Marriage
Mikki says she and her husband, Raheem, still share intimate moments despite being in a polyamorous marriage. “Our intimacy is emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical, although non-sexual. We are intentional about date nights weekly, surprising and delighting each other daily, and most of all, we communicate our needs regularly. In my opinion, our intimacy is top-tier! I give my husband full-body massages, mani-pedis and make sure I am giving him small physical touches/kisses throughout the day. He is also very intentional about showing me his love and affection.”
Raheem and Mikki now use their lives as examples for others. On their website, thepolycouplenextdoor.com, they coach people interested in learning how to be consensually non-monogamous. “We are both relationship coaches. I specialized in emotional regulation, and Raheem specializes in communication and conflict resolution. The same tools we use in our marriage help our clients succeed in polyamory."
Mikki advises people who may be asexual or seeking non-monogamy to communicate their needs openly and to consider seeking sex therapy or intimacy coaching. Building a strong relationship with a non-sexual partner requires both empathy and compassion.
For more of Mikki, follow her on Instagram @getmikkibey. Follow the couple's platform on Instagram @thepolycouplenextdoor.
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