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The Sex Positions That Should Absolutely Be On Your Must-Hit List

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As I write this, it is day 52 of sexlessness and your girl is still learning how to deal. In the past, I've gone into dry spells seeking refuge to reconnect with myself, to detox, and to reset. The difference between now and then? Then, I wasn't interested in having sex with anyone. Now? I'm hella interested in one someone in particular, and I'm counting down the days until our bodies meet. I'm refraining from pleasure for the delayed gratification that I know is coming for me (and cumming for me). And I know, it's going to be so delicious.

Why am I going into detail about any of this? Well xoTribe, let me tell you, the struggle is real.

Everything about sex is intriguing me more than it should. I find myself fantasizing about throwing that ass in a circle for just about anyone whose smile I can get lost in enough. And don't get me started on my late-night (and sometimes midday) vibrator rendezvous. My mind constantly wanders to sex, so much so, texts and talks with bae become X-rated extended foreplay sessions in 60 seconds or less. Plus, my sending nudes game is on lock.

In addition to thinking about the sex I'm not having and quelling a libido that could rival a teenager's inner war of hormones, I decided to think about the sex I want to have. On my quest to constantly try new and varied sex positions, I've done a little research. If you're looking for new ones to add to your must-hit list, look no further:

The Scissor

In case you weren't aware, the scissor sex position can be an amazing option for those of us with vaginas to achieve orgasm. (Don't believe me? Check out this article here.) Word on the street, it's quite the orgasmic experience for all parties involved. As its name suggests, you and your partner will create a "scissors" formation.

The receiving partner will lie on their side, with their other leg on top of that one. They will then raise their leg for the penetrative partner to gain access to the vagina or anus. The penetrative partner will lie down too but in the other direction with their head towards the receiving partner's feet. Their legs will end up inter-crossed between each other's bodies, and all the penetrative partner has to do is thrust.

The Amazon

The Amazon sex position turns the woman on top style up a notch. Recommended for more "fit" couples, this position can prove to be slightly difficult. But if you get it right, the dominance and penetration you feel on top is so worth it.

The penetrative partner will be on their back with their legs pulled toward their chest. The receiving partner will squat on top of the penetrative partner, resting on the back of their partner's legs. The receiving partner can either kneel or stand up, depending on where the penetrative partner is positioned.

The Three-Legged Dog

The Three-Legged Dog is a standing sex position that works well because it allows for shallow penetration and alleviates the penetrative partner from having to hold the receiving partner's full weight. That being said, it's perfect for both anal or vaginal penetration. It's also great if you want to switch up the routine couch- and bed-centric coitus.

In order to get into this position, the receiving partner will stand in front of the penetrative partner and lift their leg at their partner's waist. The penetrative partner will hold that leg with one hand and use the other to increase the receiving partner's stability as they position their penis or their dildo to make shallow thrusts into their vagina or anus.

The Banana Split

I'm not going to lie to you, I enjoy missionary and its many variations most, but there's something about hit-it-from-the-back positions that just, well, hit different. The Banana Split is the newest entry on my must-hit list, and with good reason.

While the receiving partner is on their belly with their head down, the penetrative partner will hold them up by the waist at their hips and and thrust them from behind. The position allows for deeper penetration during the sex act and, helps more easily facilitate butt play. If you're more on the flexible side, you can show off by putting your legs in spread eagle position, hence the tongue-in-cheek name "banana split." For those of us not so with it, bend your knees so that your feet (and toes) point toward the ceiling. Position accomplished.

Sidebar: If you're a G-spot orgasm enthusiast, this variation might also do wonders for your sex life.

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