The moon moves in phases, which have been said to sync up with menstruating people – both phases last approximately 29 days. When attuned to the needs of self, menstruation will either sync with the Full Moon (red moon cycle) or the New Moon (white moon cycle). Legend has it that those who are in sync with the white moon cycle are “most fertile” or simply ready to become a parent, while the red moon cycle provides an opportunity or signals your alignment with your passionate, open-minded, and sexual self.
So you can imagine how each might contrast when it comes to the sex you might have at that time, especially because the moon represents not only the mother but the emotional self. I would argue that the New Moon provides an opportunity for a more intimate, traditional loving-making type of sex while the Full Moon provides an opportunity to explore. It is said to be the time when women are the horniest, which makes sense if you’re aligned with a red cycle since the New Moon is also when you’re typically ovulating.
That doesn’t mean that we can’t spice things up a little during the New Moon though. In case you haven't figured it out by now, we thought this might be a good opportunity to give you some sexy, new sex positions for you and your partner to try during the next New Moon and every one that follows.
Here are 5 positions to help you harness that New Moon energy, and have other things realigned.
Let's not be quick to dismiss this position as we all too often do (though the girls that get it, get it). Not only does missionary provide intimacy, but it comes highly recommended for those who are indeed ready to have children. The gravitational pull of the position makes it easier for the sperm to get where it needs to be.
2. Legs on Shoulders
Similar to the missionary position, this position increases the odds of pregnancy at an already fertile time (so to speak). However, it’s even better because your legs being raised and the overall slanted position of your body not only further gives the little swimmers an advantage, but it also places you at an angle. It provides a similar impact to having a pillow underneath your back.
Though this position can be a pain in the ass trying to get into, it’s well worth it once you’re there. It provides slower backshots, forcing your partner to pace themselves and allowing them to trace kisses on your neck and shoulder area.
4. The Laptop
This position combines a sitting position with the legs on the shoulders position, asking you to take things a little higher. You may have already imagined it but just in case – paint this picture. Your partner sits in a chair (most any kind will do) and you will sit in front facing them. You can even start with a little reverse cowgirl while here but to kick things up a notch, you’ll want to reposition your legs to straddle their neck (there should be a bend in your knees).
It does call for some flexibility but there is some wiggle room so you aren’t in such cramped quarters. This also allows for anal play – an added benefit if that’s your yum.
While I personally despise any standing sex position that’s not me bent over (because yes I’m a bit lazy), I do want to focus on face-to-face standing. After all, there is something about a partner who can carry their own weight and yours too! In order to get in this position, it may be easiest to be near a wall when your partner goes to pick you up. Once you’re up there, you won’t want to “stand” tall and erect, instead straddle your partner's waist, allowing them to penetrate you with kisses amongst other things.
6. Lotus Blossom
The lotus blossom is another sitting sex position! But even better than the other, is that it doesn’t require much flexibility. For this position, both partners will need to sit, one will immediately go into a criss-cross-applesauce movement. The other partner will sit on top of the primary partner, straddle, and then wrap their legs around them. Once everything is settled and you are comfortable (you may have to explore this a little), the bottom partner will insert a toy, digits, or their penis.
The face-to-face positioning of (most of) these…positions allows for you to make eye contact and physical contact with your partner. You can pull them in closer for kisses or just generally embrace them. As I mentioned before, there’s a real traditional sense of intimacy to them because as you will know intimacy comes in many forms.
For an added touch of intimacy, try these positions while bathing under the New Moon – if and only if you have the access to privacy underneath the moonlight.
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When it comes to your zodiac sign and sex, there are different experiences that a sign is going to prefer. The best sex position for your zodiac sign comes down to your experience of intimacy and how you express your love language. There are many different ways in which a sign expresses itself in bed. An earth sign, for example, is going to prefer a sensual, grounded experience that heightens all their senses. A fire sign may prefer something more spontaneous and fiery.
Your zodiac sign, Venus sign, Mars sign, and the different elements of them, are all ways to dive deeper into understanding your sexual and romantic nature.
Aries: The Eagle
The best sex position for the fiery passion of Aries is the eagle sex position. With you being a free spirit, this energy comes out in bed and you want the sparks flying. This position is a position where you and a partner let it all out there and focus on the connection and pleasure at hand. Aries tends to be more dominant in bed and this dynamic plays out in which positions you are drawn to with a partner. The eagle is a sex position that is fun and quirky just like you, Aries.
Taurus: The Chairman
The best position for you, Taurus, is the chairman sex position. Being an earth sign ruled by Venus, you are highly attuned to your sensual nature, and enjoy the pleasures of intimacy. You love the touch, the physical closeness, and the bond that forms within these times. The chairman is a position where you are connected in a way that allows you to feel supported and pleased, something you look for within a partnership. It fulfills your romantic and grounded needs while also hitting all of the right spots.
Gemini: Magic Mountain
The best sex position for a Gemini is the magic mountain sex position. This position gives you a type of connection to your partner that you look for and also allows you to show off your flexible nature. This is a head-on, face-to-face position, and you aren’t one to shy away from being seen or understood deeper. There is a mutual stimulation that keeps your infinitely curious nature well fed here. The magic mountain is a ride that air sign Gemini flows well with.
Cancer: The 69
This one should be a no-brainer. Cancer, the best sex position for you is obvi, the 69 position as most people commonly mistake your beloved symbol as this enticing number. Besides the obvious, Cancers are givers, and this position allows you to do what you do best while also giving yourself something as well. A safe and comfortable environment is what you look for in bed, and when you get to give and enjoy with another as well, you are thriving.
Leo: The Pretzel Dip
Leos are ruled by the Sun and shine light wherever their attention goes, including the bedroom. The best position for a Leo is the pretzel dip. This position is basically what it sounds like. It’s two people intertwining in a way for maximum pleasure. A Leo loves to shine and this includes in the bedroom, and you try to show up and show out here. The pretzel dip is a position that fuels your fire sign passion and intimacy with another. This position allows you room to look your partner in the eyes, or if available, a mirror.
Virgo: The Reverse Cowgirl
Contrary to popular belief, Virgo's more reserved nature is typically thrown out of the window in the bedroom. When Virgo feels safe to be intimate with another, you see a whole new side of a Virgo, which is why the reverse cowgirl is the best position for Virgo. A Virgo is going to pull out their best in bed and this position lets them have fun while also sticking to business like the Virgo they are. Don’t be surprised if there is some hair pulling along with some immediate after-sex clean-up as Virgo doesn’t like a mess.
Libra: The Ballet Dancer
The ballet dancer position is the perfect position for you, Libra. Libra is a romantic soul and prefers to make love. This position allows you a sense of intimacy as well as lets you keep your steady ground with you both standing in this duo. Love for you is about a one-on-one connection, and you want to feel that partnership and balance while making love. Being a Venusian, your energy in the bed is that of romance and receptivity, and you want to make sure there is an equal pleasure.
Scorpio, not that you need any advice in the sex department as your sign happens to be the ruler of the reproductive system, including you know where. Thus, the best sex position for a Scorpio is doggy-style. Hear me out. You are fully in-tune with your sexual nature, desire intimacy, and, behind the stinger, are quite a romantic. However, all your kinks come out during playtime and this is a position that brings different dynamics and pleasure for you. With Scorpio aligned with the 8th house, the house of giving and receiving, this is the perfect position for you.
Sagittarius: The Corkscrew
The best sex position for Sagittarius is the corkscrew. You like to spice things up in the bedroom and aren’t one to do the same thing with a partner all the time. This position heightens the senses and gives you the mystery and pleasure you thrive on. There is a strength, balance, and trust needed to do this position, and Sagittarius is capable. Being a fire sign, sex is all about passion, and you need a position that is going to feel like that for you.
The best position for a Capricorn is the missionary sex position. Capricorns love to uphold traditions and often find themselves sticking to what works rather than finding the need to venture out so much. Not to mention, Capricorns often find themselves in long-term relationships and find pleasure in a certain routine they create with a partner. The missionary position is something a Capricorn always comes back to and what serves their responsible, reliable, and sensual nature. After all, Capricorn is an earth sign and is dedicated to experiencing the pleasures of this earthy life.
Aquarius: The Butterfly
The best position for you, Aquarius, is the butterfly. Aquarius is the perfect balance of connection and independence. You have a lot of drive in life but you also like to relax and aren’t looking for an extreme workout when you are being intimate with another. The butterfly position allows more relaxation and more focus on connection and pleasure, and this serves your easy-going, air sign nature. You want to have fun, switch things up, and do something different, as at the end of the day you are an Aquarius and are never status-quo.
Pisces: The Seashell
With your water sign energy, sex is a transcendent experience for you, Pisces. You uncover deeper parts of yourself while making love, and give your all here. The Seashell sex position is the best position for you as it’s a position that goes to the depths you are looking to go. Being a mutable sign, you also have flexibility with you that allows you to work your strength here. Depending on which side you are on here, this is a position that benefits your receptive and open nature.
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If you're struggling with connecting to your wild side in the bedroom, you are not the only one, sis. A lot of women lack confidence in the bedroom for different reasons. And I'm here to say, it's not your fault. For most of us, this goes back to what we were taught about sex by our mothers, in school, and by society. We are taught what not to do and what not to be. No one ever gave women a how-to about enjoying sex, like sex wasn't meant to be something that women enjoy. We still live in a society where sex is only OK with talking about when it comes to procreation. But when it comes to pleasure and leisure - not so much. Sex is a natural human behavior, but to talk about enjoying sex or exploring your sexuality has always been considered taboo.
However, I have to say we are getting better about openly talking about sex. This is because women are tapping into their feminine side now more than ever. We want to explore our bodies and do all the things that give us pleasure. And this includes exploring who we are in the bedroom. But most times we don't know where to start or what to do. Other times, our partners can be more sexually advanced causing us to feel less confident in our own sex skills. Listen, sex is a whole experience. You don't know what you're willing to do or not do until you try it.
Here are six simple sex positions that take things back to basics while helping you tap into your wild side in the bedroom.
The missionary position is a classic and a favorite for some women. If you love to be dominated by your partner and deepen emotional connection, this position is for you. What's great about this position is that you can let go of your insecurities by allowing your partner complete control of your body. And I have to say it's the eye contact for me. There is nothing sexier than making direct eye contact with your partner during sex. It allows you to connect with your partner. Caught up in this moment, you will build up the courage to want to try other positions with your partner or even take control.
2.Get On Your Knees
Nothing will make you feel sexier and more confident than giving your partner oral sex. Men love head and women love head too. With this position, you are in full control. You are the creative director of how you get to please your partner. You control the pace, and rhythm of all things you can do with your mouth and tongue. Don't shy away sis, show your partner what that mouth do.
3.Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl
Believe it or not, some women are not one hundred percent comfortable riding dick. It can be uncomfortable at first, but "girl on top" is where it's at. This position will help build your confidence by giving your partner a full-frontal view of your body. Remember, men are visual beings. With this position, you have their full attention. You are in control of the rhythm, depth, and speed.
But if you rather not make eye contact with your partner, flip it, and put that thang in reverse with reverse cowgirl. This way, your insecurities don't flood your mind. And you can do your thing while he admires you from behind. Still not convinced? Get your partner a blindfold - taking away one sense will heighten the others.
4.From the Back
"Face down, ass up, that's the way we like to fuck." Was it 2 Live Crew or Meek Mill that is known for this lyric? Anyways, what's good about the doggy-style position is that it's comfortable for both partners. It allows you to submit to your partner as they control the rhythm and power of each thrust with easy access to the box. If you're feeling self-conscious about your body, it hides the front of your body. You can relax and enjoy your partner stroking you from behind or participate with your hands or sex toys. And according to Bustle, doggy-style is America's favorite sex position for both men and women.
This position helps you feel more comfortable with your partner. How? Because you and your partner are pressed against each other. It's intimate, comforting, and allows for connection. With spooning, both partners can control the motion. This works especially well if you are not sure what speed or pressure is preferred by your partner. It's also a great position for women who don't orgasm easily.
Again, staring into your partner's eyes with close physical contact allows you to establish a deep, intimate connection. Here, anything goes. Masturbation or penetration. If you like watching your partner enjoy you, this is the position for you.
We all have insecurities when it comes to sex. But our insecurities shouldn't stop us from tapping into our sexual selves. Women are highly sensual beings. It's in our nature. And it's time we embrace that.
So, go ahead sis. Show off your wild side in the bedroom with one of the sex positions above.
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I've got quite a few male friends. Also, because of what I do for a living, I have many male clients too. While there are a billion-and-one reasons why I'm actually grateful to be able to say this, probably my top favorite one is that I get to hear a lot of men's innermost thoughts — things that sometimes they are hesitant to say because they're not sure how we'll take it and/or things they've never really felt comfortable being very open about and/or — and yes, this happens — things they never get asked their thoughts on and so, they never bring those things up.
Interestingly enough, this is something that falls into the "Door #3" category. Do men talk about sex? Y'all already know the answer to that. Yet when I asked 15 of them (middle names were used; usually are) about what they actually adore about what transpires during the actual act, I found the answers to be "Oh, really?" enough to share with y'all. With their permission, of course. #wink
Chavez. 25. Single.
"This is my kinda topic right here. Damn, I can only mention one thing? Hmm. I think what I like the most about sex is right when I enter into a woman. The sound she makes, the way our breathing shifts and how our bodies flow — damn, that's my s — t right there."
Kiran. 33. In a Relationship.
"This question needs to have a qualifier — if you're in a relationship or not. When I wasn't only having sex with one woman, I liked the newness of learning about someone's body that I had never been with before. That's seductive as hell. Now, I love to find a 'new spot' on my partner. It's like pushing a button that you didn't know led you to someplace you didn't realize you wanted to go."
Glenn. 27. Single.
"Assertive women are what I like. Someone who is like, 'We're gonna do it this way and you're gonna like it'. Women who just kinda lay there are boring. But a woman who likes to switch up positions, doesn't mind doing some tying up and tells me when it's time to go another round…that's the kind of sex that I'm all about."
DeShawn. 39. Married.
"I like it when a woman knows the difference between when I ejaculate and when I cum. My wife is really good at that. When she is able to give me an orgasm, my favorite part is trying to 'one up her' by trying to give her at least three more right after. Going down on her is my favorite way to do that."
Harold. 42. Divorced.
"It might sound wild but the thing I miss most about my ex is our sex life. Let's not get into all of that, though."
"Let me just say that what I liked was her dirty talk — barely above a whisper, nasty as f — k and super confident. People always talk about how visual men are. Yeah, we like to hear s — t too."
Armon. 35. In a Relationship.
"There is nothing like opening your eyes and seeing a beautiful woman on top of you. She's looking you dead in the eyes with a smirk on her face and riding you like she's about to eat you alive. Damn."
Gideon. 28. Single.
"Two things that a woman can't fake are her vagina contracting and her body getting wetter. That's why I don't understand how men can't pick up on ladies that fake it. Anyway, those are my favorite things. When you are in a zone and you can feel that you're turning your lady on, that s — t is absolutely amazin'."
Merlin. 29. Married.
"You ever spoon until you both cum and then fall asleep spooning in the same position afterwards? When you are so connected that you can have an orgasm at the same time and then you don't want it to end, so you let your man stay inside of you and you fall asleep like that? Get someone you can do that with all of the time. Nothin' better."
Michael. 44. Married.
"I like how my wife smells. I don't mean when she has an essential oil on. I mean, just her regular scent. It's crazy because when we're having sex, it's like I want to get as deep into her skin as possible — just take her all in."
Patrick. 23. Single.
"I like the time before intercourse happens. You both know that's where it's headed but you try and build up the anticipation for as long as possible."
"I know I probably seem young, but I've been having sex for a while and learning not to underestimate foreplay is the ultimate sex hack. When two people make each other want each other, that's when the sex is really great."
Orrin. 32. Divorced.
"I like getting my head pulled in. You know you're doing a great job going down on a woman when all she can do is breathe really fast and pull your head in. Hell yeah."
Hayes. 48. Single.
"There is nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, like the taste of a woman. Her mouth tastes one way. Her skin tastes another way. And her walls — there's nothing like it. I can just lick and kiss for hours and be perfectly content. What's crazy is while women might think it's for them, it's actually for me. Tasting a woman is what I love the most."
Kristopher. 32. Single.
"'Round three is what I love about sex. The first one is all about getting the stress out. The second is about building some stamina. Three? That's when it's all about just enjoying your partner. There's no rush. There's no pressure. You're just 'in it'. I like being in it."
Danyel. 40. In a Relationship.
"You know what I really like? Undressing a woman. I like lingerie but I honestly don't care what she has on. It doesn't matter how long I've been with her either. The build-up of seeing different parts of her body as I go at my own pace…it's like unwrapping a Christmas gift, damn near every time."
Everson. 36. Single.
"Whenever a woman trusts you enough to let you literally enter into her being, there is no higher privilege. Might sound like a line to some but it's the truth. Being one with someone whose energy and spirit you vibe with already gives you a climax before one ever happens."
"Will never know how to get enough of that."
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Sex can be very different things for different people, and believe it or not, but it doesn't have to begin or end with penetration in order to be considered sex. Intercourse is often a defining principle for our language around sex, but there are some uncharted waters we should all look to discover, and that is the wonderful world of outercourse. Which then segues us into the much-needed conversation of non-penetrative sex positions.
While having someone be inside of you (or the reverse) can seem like the most physically intimate act one can experience, outercourse in non-penetrative sex can emphasize intimacy on another level. Pleasure can be felt and highlighted on parts of the body that might only receive attention during foreplay. Outercourse serves as a reminder to treat the appetizer like the entree it truly is, and the end result can be transformative to how we see and experience sexual pleasure.
Ready to take your love-making to new levels of intimacy? Below are four non-penetrative sex positions to try tonight.
Missionary is an old-faithful when it comes to tried and true sex positions. Similar to the missionary position, this variation of the intercourse version, the receiving partner will lay on their back and the giving partner will position themselves on top of them. Instead of penetration being involved, the giving partner will grind against the receiving partner so that the focal point is arousal through clitoral stimulation, rubbing, kissing, and touching.
A perfect position for clitoral and nipple stimulation, the Pretzel Dip position involves the receiving partner sitting back with their legs spread. While propped up on their knees, the giving partner will play with the receiving partner's clit. During this action, they can intensify things even further by upping the ante with kissing and nipple play with either the other's free hands or mouth. The giving and receiving partners can take turns and incorporate actions like kissing, oral sex, mutual masturbation, and/or nipple stimulation.
The Chairman sex position involves the receiving partner utilizing the giving partner as a "seat" so to speak as they grind their way to ecstasy. The receiving partner will straddle the partner's legs while faced away, allowing the giving partner to be able to stimulate their clit as they receiving partner grinds against them. They also have freedom to grab breasts, play with nipples, kiss their partner's neck and back, as well as bring in a sex toy or two.
Mutual masturbation is the name of the game when it comes to the Magic Mountain position. In order to do this position, both partners must sit down facing each other with their legs bent. Sit close enough so that if either partner feels like reaching out to touch the other, they can.
Both partners will engage in self-pleasure while watching the other, their facial expressions, the way they bite their lip to hold back a moan, the way they twist their nipples to intensify their pleasure, the way they lick their hand before touching themselves, etc. The end result is an extremely intimate vulnerable act that adds a new layer to the way you view masturbation.
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I like themes. When it comes to sex specifically, I think it's a way to tap into your creative side and surprise your partner with new approaches to copulating. Well, since spring is officially here and summer is on its way, I figured that this would be a great time to share 15 ways where you can bring this time of year into your boudoir in ways that you may have not ever considered before.
Because, after all, the only thing better than sex is the kind that's got plenty of "Whoa. Where did that come from?" energy added to it.
1. Break Out Your Bikini
I know. Typically, when we talk about sex and the art of seduction, it's lingerie that's mentioned. Yet I was surprised that, when I asked some men to describe to me the look that turns them on, a lot of them said that they really enjoy seeing their partner in swimwear. And you know, when I really sit and think about it, I guess that makes sense because the styles of a lot of swimsuits are really sexy. So, in the spirit of spring and summer (which is when we all get into the pool and ocean the most), why not put on your (or his) favorite bathing suit? He probably won't see it coming, it's definitely on-theme and how could he not enjoy taking in the kinds of sights that only happen around this time of the year?
2. DIY Some Lavender Massage Oil
When folks are out on the beach, what's something that they commonly do? Rub sunscreen on their bodies—or each other—right? If you've got on your swimwear, switch it up a bit and swap out sunscreen for massage oil. Massages are beneficial because they relax you, improve blood circulation, increase flexibility, reduce cortisol (stress) levels and can definitely make you feel closer to your partner.
So, whether he's rubbing some oil all over your sex pressure points (check out "Feelin' On These Pressure Points Will Give You The Best Sex Of Your Life") or you're out to give him a tantric massage (check out "Blow Your Man's Mind By Giving Him This Tantalizing Massage"), you definitely can't go wrong by warming up some DIY massage oil first. Hands down, out of all of the essential oils that can help to put you into a mental state of tranquility, lavender would be it. And since it's also a popular summer flower, I'm pretty sure you can see why I went with giving it a massage-scented shout-out. If you want to go this route, a couple of easy recipes for lavender massage oil is located here and here.
3. Buy Some Cooling Sheets
Personally, I'm someone who likes to go to sleep when my bedroom is really cool. I'll turn down my thermostat and, don't put it past me to turn a portable fan on too. Still, I can't tell you how many times I have awakened in the middle of the night to try and figure out why I'm so hot. A few years back, I did some research and discovered that it's usually because our bodies change temperatures throughout the evening.
A way to combat that? Buy some cooling bedsheets. They're specifically designed to allow cool air to surround your body while wicking away moisture that can cause you to feel overheated. On the sex tip, this can really come in handy because most of us get a little hot 'n bothered (in the best way possible, of course) while we're doing-the-do. Anyway, if cooling sheets is something that you'd like to look into, The Sleep Foundation has a list of some of the best ones that are currently on the market. You can check their list out here.
4. Add Some Greenery
One of my favorite things about my bedroom is the tall fake tree that's in one of its corners. It being there just makes the entire space feel more comfortable. There are local arts and craft stores that sell them for a fair price. Shoot, if you put a couple of those in your bedroom and turn the fan on? You could easily find yourself feeling like you're straight up in the middle of a jungle or forest. It's like having outdoor sex without all of the outdoor drama.
5. DIY a Sex Piñata
Most of us know that piñatas are a Mexican-based tradition where a big container is filled with goodies. Usually, they are made out of something like papier-mâché, people are blindfolded and they try and hit it until something falls out. I don't recall ever seeing a piñata at any indoors party which is why I thought it would be cool to mention for this particular article.
Instead of putting candy inside of a piñata, why not put some sex-themed goodies in it instead? Flavored condoms. Small tubes of lube. Adult dice or sex tokens. Dark chocolate (since it is an aphrodisiac). Edible panties. Anything that is sex-focused that can fit into a piñata and won't hurt once it falls out. Go into your backyard, hang the piñata up, have you and your partner blindfold each other, take turns taking a whack at it and have some sort of sex-related "prize" for the one who is able to break it open.
Now tell me that's not creative and festive AF. Places like Party City, Michael's and the Oriental Trading Company typically carry them.
6. Make Your Own Lemonade Lubricant
Speaking of lubricants, the best thing about them is they make things wetter, right? And since we're talking about spring- and summer-themed sex, is there anything more refreshing that a tall glass of homemade lemonade? Why not merge the two things together by making your own lemonade-flavored lubricant? All you need to do is combine one-fourth cup of aloe vera gel with one-fourth cup of flaxseed gel. Then add 3-5 drops of natural lemon flavoring (which is the oil of the lemon not the juice) and BAM—a natural lubricant! While it's more for external use (oral sex) than intercourse, it can still be a real treat. Try it and report back.
7. Adjust the Lights
When it comes to setting up the overall atmosphere of your bedroom, overhead lighting is too harsh and complete darkness can sometimes impede the ambiance of it all. In walks, colored light bulbs. In honor of all things spring and summer, go with green or blue ones. As far as green goes, it represents nature, freshness, prosperity, fertility and harmony (I've always liked that there is a Scripture in the Bible that simply says "our bed is green"—Song of Solomon 1:16). Plus, did you know that green light helps to reduce migraine discomfort in some people? As far as blue goes, it's the color of water—and calm, serenity, inspiration, peace and trust. Y'all, when two naked bodies are moving around in dim green or blue lighting in the middle of the night? There is something about it that visually takes sexual arousal up a couple of notches—and then some.
8. Incorporate Citrus Scents
Smell is one of our five senses (the others are sight, taste, touch and sound). Whether you decide to go with an oil diffuser, a soy candle, a spray for your bedding or even a plug-in, consider using some citrus scents in your bedroom. Orange and lemon scents are signature spring and summer ones. They're also great because they improve your mood, give you more energy and relieve anxiety. Try 'em.
9. Try Some Strawberry-Flavored Deep Throat Numbing Spray
Speaking of oral sex, if something that you want to get better at is performing fellatio, have you ever heard of throat numbing spray? If you happen to have a sensitive gag reflex, spraying this on your throat can make being a "giver" easier. Although the brand GoodHead™ Deep Throat Spray comes in a few different flavors, since strawberries are a fruit that are at their peak around mid-May, why not go with that one? If you want to give it a shot, you can purchase a bottle of the spray (for under $14; the reviews are pretty good too) here.
10. Incorporate Some Wine Ice Cubes
Because red wine increases blood circulation, including to the genital region, it has long had the reputation of being an aphrodisiac. That said, the lead GIF for this? It comes from the movie Do the Right Thing when Mookie and Tina were enjoying some summer foreplay of their own.
Anyway, drastically changing the temperatures on your body from hot to cold can definitely heighten sexual arousal. So, rather than going with some regular ole' ice cubes, pour some red wine into your ice trays. Then, once they're frozen, rub them all over each other. It will feel and taste amazing. It will help to put you into the mood too.
If you're not a wine fan, another approach is to make some fruit cubes. All you're literally doing is putting tiny pieces of fruit and fruit juice or water into the ice trays instead of just water alone. Pineapple is great because it contains the enzyme bromelain which can naturally increase testosterone levels. Cucumbers work because the Vitamin C in them can improve bodily blood flow. Apples are another good idea because the polyphenols and antioxidants in them also increase blood circulation. Plus, fruit cubes taste really good.
11. Put Popsicles (or Frozen Berries) into Your Sex-Themed Cocktails
Back to Mookie. Something that he did to Tina while rubbing ice cubes all over her body was tell her the different things that he found to be sexy about her. If you're not someone who is stellar at dirty talk, a way to ease into it is to follow Mookie's lead. A less self-conscious approach would be to toast your partner (something that I'm naturally big on anyway). How?
Last summer, I wrote an article for the platform that featured summer-themed cocktails that can help to stir things up (check out "8 Summer-Themed Alcoholic Drinks That Can Boost Your Libido"). Put a couple of popsicles or a handful of frozen raspberries or blueberries into your glass. With each lick of the popsicle or each berry that you put into each other's mouths, take turns talking about what turns you on about each other. The words of affirmation combined with the licking visuals and the buzz of the alcohol can turn things into quite a special night.
12. Snack on Some Slices of Watermelon
Here's a food-related point that never gets old. Another fruit that is best eaten during the summertime (July thru August) is watermelon. And whew boy, if there's one fruit that has one of the best reputations around for being an aphrodisiac, this would be it. So much, in fact, that it has earned the nickname "natural Viagra". Watermelon is a sexy fruit because it contains a great amount of the amino acid citrulline. When it's consumed, it has a tendency to dilate blood vessels which is awesome when it comes to men who want to maintain their erection. As a bonus, since watermelon is 92 percent water, it's a natural way to keep you lubricated. And that's always a good thing.
13. Cop Some Waterproof Sex Toys
If you're always down for a good sex toy and you do plan on spending some time in the water this spring and summer seasons, do you have any waterproof sex toys that are currently in your possession? Whether it's a clitoral massager, a finger vibrator or a pocket-sized oral sex stimulator, when your toy can go into water, the sky really is the limit when it comes to your sex options—and locations.
14. Have Sex Outside
If you are a little daring and you're down for having sex outside, think outside of the box a little bit. Wait until dark and have sex in your car (make sure to bring along some of those ice cubes). Stand behind a tree and do it in the standing doggy or—if you're super limber—wheelbarrow position. Drive to a dead-end road and get on the hood of your vehicle. Go to an amusement park, request a private cab on a Ferris wheel and have at it. Go hiking and get off of the path (if you know what I mean). These are just a few suggestions that can help to get your imagination going.
15. Don’t Forget About National Orgasm Day
How much do I support folks having as many orgasms as possible? For now, I'll just share seven articles on the topic that I've written for the site:
- "10 Hacks To Help You Climax More Consistently"
- "10 Things You Didn't Know About The Male And Female Orgasm"
- "How To Have Mind-Blowing Multiple Orgasms. Tonight, Chile."
- "What Is A Super Orgasm & How Can I Have One?"
- "10 Weird & Random Things That Can Prevent An Orgasm"
- "How About Having A 'Mindful Orgasm' Tonight?"
- "U-Spot Orgasm, Fantasy Orgasm & 6 Other Orgasms You Should Try Tonight"
Orgasms are about experiencing an ultimate high with your partner and that is something that most of us never grow tired of. Well, in honor of all things orgasmic-related, did you know that July 31 is officially National Orgasm Day? Yep, there's an entire day, in the summer, that's totally devoted to you getting your freak on, as much as you want to. Back when I found that out, it had me so hype that I wrote about that as well (check out "Whew, Chile. It's National Orgasm Day!"). You've still got some time to get ready for that day like it's your birthday or Christmas or something. Make sure that you did and watch this be one of the HOTTEST spring and summer seasons for you yet!
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