These Steamy Positions Will Reinvigorate Your Sex Life
Like anything in life, sex drives have their ups and downs. And even someone with the most active sex life can encounter a slump where, let's be real, you just don't feel like it. Even me.
I don't know if it's how hectic my life has felt, how much busier my mind has felt, or if it's just the natural rhythm of me getting older – but I have not really been as lustful or as randy as I've been in the past several years. I'm not biting my lip from a solicited dick pic, and I'm damn sure not eager to bust it open for a real one.
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I'm at a place where I'm perfectly content with a quickie with my vibrator and leaving the energy session of a half-hour romp to the left on "Read". Or, at least, I was at that place. Admittedly, along with my slump and lower sex drive, I had become a lot more complacent in how I showed up in the bedroom. Little did I know that that had a lot to do with my newfound feelings about my sex life. As with anything in life, in order to strengthen it and ensure its health, I have to work at it. Recently, I've experimented with some moves that helped remind me how much better sex is when you're present, open, and spice things up a bit. Tried and true is beautiful, but so is new and improved.
Click through the gallery below for 5 hot like fire sex positions that will reiginite your sex life:
The Amazon
Credit: Bad Girls Bible
The Amazon gives the woman all the power. The standard version features the man on his back with his legs raised in the air, knees bent back towards his chest. The woman then mounts him, crouching over him from above in a kneeling or squatting position (Planted Amazon). It takes a bit of flexibility, but the intensity felt in this position is worth the effort. And the power you feel in this one of a kind Woman On Top position is undeniably exhilarating.
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Originally published June 22, 2018
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Why We'll Probably Never Hear Lupita Nyong'o Share Her Relationship With The World
Lupita Nyong'o is sharing a transparent look into her life after a recent breakup.
In a cover story for NET-A-PORTER, the A Quiet Place: Day One star shed light on the significant heartbreak she experienced following the end of her relationship with ex-boyfriend and TV host, Selema Masekela.
As a public figure, Nyong'o, 39, sought to divulge the news of the breakup in hopes of presenting a more authentic perspective on the pain that follows a separation.
"I was living in a lot of pain and heartbreak," she told the publication. "I looked at the environment of my social media and thought I don’t want to be a part of this illusion that everything is always coming up roses. Surely there is a lesson for me to learn in this, and I just want to be real about it."
The Black Panther star went on to explain that her choice to be transparent with her fans about her breakup came from the certainty she felt after ending the relationship. “In my mind, when I shared my relationship status with the world, it was because I felt sure about it,” she said.
While she didn’t know how the news would land with her fans, she found relief in knowing she wasn’t alone in her experience.
“I knew how it could be interpreted; I knew it would have a life of its own,” she reflects. “But then I started to see the comments and people were being so loving and supportive. The ones that moved me the most were other people sharing their pain and their heartbreak.”
Nyong'o and Masekela went Instagram official in December 2022, publicly announcing their relationship in a couple's video. In October 2023, Nyong'o took to her personal Instagram account to share the news of her breakup in her caption, writing, "At this moment, it is necessary for me to share a personal truth and publicly dissociate myself from someone I can no longer trust.”
She continued the vulnerable note, "I find myself in a season of heartbreak because of a love suddenly and devastatingly extinguished by deception. I am tempted to run into the shadows and hide, only to return to the light when I have regained my strength enough for me to say, 'Whatever, my life is better this way.' But I am reminded that the magnitude of the pain I am feeling is equal to the measure of my capacity for love."
These days, Nyong'o tells NET-A-PORTER that she is prioritizing profound self-discovery that extends beyond her career. She notes having a deliberate and unhurried approach to understanding herself.
She also alludes to keeping her relationships private moving forward after noting it was "very, very sage" of her not to talk about her private life professionally in the days before her last relationship. "I'm going back to those days by the way," Nyong'o shares of her reinstated boundaries around her personal life.
Earlier this month, Nyong'o made headlines alongside her new boyfriend actor Joshua Jackson. Nyong'o and Jackson went through public splits from their respective SOs in October 2023, with the latter splitting from his long-time partner Jodie Turner-Smith following her divorce filing from the Dawson's Creek alum.
The pair have been spotted together as early as December 2023, but nothing screamed "couple" quite as loudly as their recent getaway to Mexico for Nyong'o's 41st birthday featuring passionate displays of affection.
"Our purpose in life is to love. And so you have to get back in it," she tells the outlet, seemingly alluding to her budding new romance.
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